I’ve seen a recent increase in “sunglasses” photos

So here’s why you should avoid this big mistake.

Sunglasses photos are a bad idea at the best of times, which is why we have a “no sunglasses” policy on main photos.  Despite this ( and despite a clear illustration when uploading) , lots of people still ignore this. I find this all very odd, especially as we are now in Winter!

So what’s so bad about it?. Well, sunglasses hide your eyes and part of your face. The eyes are very important when it comes to both trust and attraction.  To hide the eyes is therefore potentially misleading.
Other users are entitled to see what you really look like otherwise, it could just lead to disappointment later for both parties. I am sure you would be disappointed to turn up on a date and the other person did not resemble the photo.

A dating site is partly about trying to get attention but this must not be achieved by using props or accessories. In order for everyone to have a fair chance, and to ensure that our website is regarded as high quality, all the main photos must be reasonably consistent so that what differentiates the photos is peoples real true features, not props. Hence the main photo must be a head-shot and no sunglasses.

The bottom line is this: Please do not choose an image with sunglasses as your main profile image or will get suspended.

You can have sunglasses in other shots in your album.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Congratulations to our latest couple

The perfect way to end 2011

We love hearing all your success stories, so please do let us know if you make a match!

Here is what V had to say about www.asiansinglesolution.com :

“I really appreciate the service you have provided, it opened up an avenue for me to meet her which I wouldn’t have otherwise had! I simply couldn’t ask for a better person to have joined my life. ”

Could you be next?

If you’ve got your own success story please let us know and we’ll send you a bottle of champagne to celebrate! Email us at info@asiansinglesolution.com

Happy dating,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

The start of a new year is the best time for dating.

So make sure make the most of it!

It’s the start of a new year…again.   The time when we all reflect on our lives and make a resolution to sort them out once and for all.  For some of us, this means working on our love lives and finally doing something to start meeting new people.

If this is you, you are certainly in the right place.  January is the busiest time of year for the Asian Single Solution as we have many new members who are also looking for the same thing.

As we have lots of new readers to the blog, here are some quick tips:

1) Make sure you have a great profile and a brilliant photo.   Otherwise nobody will know where to find you!

2) Do take a paying membership.  There’s no point having a basic account as it’s like having a lovely car and not putting any petrol in it.  It won’t get you anywhere.

3) Be proactive.  Don’t wait for others to find you, but take the initiative to contact the people you like the look of.  That way YOU do the choosing and are in control.

4) Sign up for some events.  Our amazing parties are legendary and really are the best way to meet new dates and new friends very quickly. Don’t worry if you’re a bit nervous as we have the best hosts in the business to look after you.

5) Don’t give up.  It might take a few dates to meet Mr or Miss Right or it might take 80.  If you stop at 79 you’ll never know how close you were.

Happy dating,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Whatever you’ve got planned this holiday season, we hope you have fun.

Happy Christmas Season from the Asian Single Solution!

Thank you for all your support over the last year.  It’s thanks to you that we’ve grown even bigger and better and we’ll continue to do so in 2012.

In fact, our January events are already on sale so do book them.  Remember that the start of a new year is always the busiest time for dating, as people make resolutions to meet someone.

So take it easy and enjoy the break.   Make sure you wrap up warm as the snow will probably be here soon

Best Wishes,

James and Paul

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Our Success stories continue to roll in.

Here is just some of the November Feedback.

“Good. I enjoyed the events although I eventually met someone through your website. Thanks” CM

“Great, found the girl of my dreams!” VC

“Really enjoyed the site, really happy with the guy that I met .” SM

“Parties organised are a good way of meeting a range of people, without the necessary pressure of speed dating if not required on the night…..” GL

“Great website! I shall be back” KM

“I met the guy on the 7th of may in London at one of your events for the first time and the last time. Thank you so much” DB

“Excellent…I’ve met many good friends through this site.” RK

“Couldn’t fault it. Was good.” RB

“Thanks for the service you have provided! The website was a very good tool to meet new people.Keep up the good work!” DP

“”Think the site is great”  GB

“I think this service is great for those that have found someone ! Keep it up !” PC

“Great events, thank you.” KP

“I would like to take this opportunity to thank you for this service which helped me find someone” SP

“Very good site” MK

“Well organised. Keep up the good work” AK

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single Feed back : Very good” BL

“Very well organised event” SM

“I met through an alternative route but have to say your site is superb” NS

“Good service and have already recomended many friends who are now on this site and will continue to recomend “  MM

“Fresh modern service for like minded individuals” SR

“I thought the events were good fun, nice people. Thank you for your help” SV

“Nice venue; well run; friendly people. Staff excellent” MB

“I thought the event went well. It was a good venue and in a good central location, the staff were helpful and overall I was pleased.” IQ

“Good service from site staff” SK

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Remember, we want to hear your success stories too.  It really does help inspire our other members to keep going.  If you have your own, please email it to info@asiansinglesolution.com

Thanks!
James and Paul

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Congratulations to Amit and Shilpa.

They met from our site and are now a couple.

We love hearing all your success stories, so please do let us know if you make a match!

Here is what our latest couple, Shilpa and Amit have to say about www.asiansinglesolution.com :

“Although we were at the same school found to have mutual contacts and even found that our parents knew each other from back in the days we met through Asiansinglesolution.com. After a few messages and emails we decided to meet up and clicked straight away. Since I’ve met Amit we’ve been inseparable. We would like to take this opportunity to thank you and your team for making it possible for the two of us to finally meet. ”

Our site really does work – you just have to take the first steps.

If you’ve got your own success story please let us know and we’ll send you a bottle of champagne to celebrate!  Email us at info@asiansinglesolution.com

Happy dating,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Height is often a very import factor in dating.

But does being taller really get more success?

I often see very tall women wearing high heels at singles parties, then complaining that the men are too short.  So for Asian men, it can be tough to find a match. I really don’t think that someones height should be an issue.  Do a few inches here or there make that much of a difference if you’ve got chemistry?  Of course, if you are a very tall women then you are going to find it more difficult to date if you are seeking someone significantly taller than you.

So why are taller men in such great demand and do the facts back it up?

There’s a thought process that taller men are perceived as more sexually attractive and likely to produce more children. Interestingly enough,  men seem to prefer shorter women.  Those under 5ft 3 are statistically more likely to be married than those of average height or more. So that’s why men and women haven’t evolved to be the same height.

A study this week showed that women who marry men of average height are more likely to have children.  This goes against all previously held beliefs and could perhaps dispel the myth that tall men are more likely to be better breeders.  The suggestion was that this could be that men of average height tend to get married sooner than others.  So the longer you’ve been married then the more chance of having kids.

It’s an interesting study.  What do you think about it all?  We’d like to hear your thoughts, so please do add a comment on this blog.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Here’s another question for the Dating Guru

Is Flirting bad?

“Dear James, I’ve also been brought up to believe that flirting is manipulative and deceiving.  Therefore I make a point of avoiding it. What do you think about it all? ”

Hi,

Many thanks for your question.  I love to try and help as many Asian Single Solution members as possible. I’ve head other people wondering about this same subject.

First of all, flirting is certainly not about trying to manipulate anyone.  It’s about making them feel good and making their day just a little bit better.  It’s not about trying to be someone you aren’t, but rather about relaxing and enjoying life a little more.  Everyone can flirt – just look at any baby or toddler and watch how they get attention.  However, it’s something many of us forget as we grow up.

Flirting is an essential part of dating and without it you’ll really struggle to come across as warm and friendly.  It’s all about being playful and interacting with the other person in a gentle and entertaining way.

If you’d like any help with flirting, then get in touch with me directly and perhaps we can arrange a one to one coaching session.

Alternatively, if you have your own dating related question that you’d like me to answer then please do drop me a line at the email address below.   The best questions will be answered right here in this blog.

Happy dating!

James Preece  – The Dating Guru

james@asiansinglesolution.com

Are you letting your partners ex get in the way?

Stop making this big dating mistake!

We’ve all got a dating past.  So why do so many people allow it cause problems and get in the way of new relationships?

The biggest issue is that it’s easy to feel second best and to compare yourself to their ex.  You might wonder if you are good enough or if they might come back on the scene and spoil things.

Remember that if they still wanted to be together then they would be. But they aren’t and your partner has chosen to be with you.  So you’ve won the prize.  What’s the point in feeling you have to continue to compete?

The only time a conversation about an ex is useful is when you talk about what went wrong.  If you find out the reason they broke up then you can avoid making the same mistakes.  We all do things wrong but the big secret is to learn from them and not repeat the same errors.
Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Here are our latest batch of success stories from late September to October 2011. If you have your own please let us know so we can share it!

“I have met the love of my life on this site and will be soon marrying her.” VC

“It was great! very informative, regular updates and I would recommend it to anyone” MP

“The services are good, honestly well done!” QC

“I met someone on your dating site. Thank you:-)”  VN

“Just want to say a biggg thank you to the site as i have met the most amazing gentleman alive …!”  CP

“It is a really good site. Keep up the good work ” NS

“Excellent website”  TG

“”Brilliant service…will recommend” SH

“Well organised and good varation of age groups” SN

“I cant say much about the site as the first person i met on your site is the person im with ) Thanks” AM

“Good. Easy to use website with some interesting features. Thanks” DP

“Enjoyed the event very much”  SW

“I thought that the staff from Asian Single Solution on the night were extremely friendly, helpful and proactive” PP

“Very easy set up and enjoyed meeting new people” NP

“I just wanted to say thank you to the staff for a great evening.  They were really helpful and the event was extremely well run. I would definately recommend it to my friends” MA

“Thanks for your hospitality I’ll tell my friends about this site inshalla…:)” HO

“My first speed dating /dating event. It was a real party. I totally enjoyed it.” JD

“Was my first event and loved it, would definitely do others” LC

“Brilliant site” NN

“Very good service. Will definitely recommend to friends” JB

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single. Feed back : great site, thanks.” TB

“I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single. Feed back : absolutely fantastic. keep up the good work” MO

“Good service, thank you – met some nice people” SK

“The overall service for this website, has been very helpful.” MV

“Very good site, i have met someone perfect”  BH

“Nice people on the site and friendly. Your welcome staff are also very good at the events”  MM

“Out of all the dating sites I have been a member of this is far the best. thank you for helping me find what I was looking for! I have found the perfect person, and I have recommended this site to many of my singles friends, young and old! thank you once again, all the best” KT