Happy Christmas Season from the Asian Single Solution!

Thank you for all your support over the last year.  It’s thanks to you that we’ve grown even bigger and better and we’ll continue to do so in 2012.

In fact, our January events are already on sale so do book them.  Remember that the start of a new year is always the busiest time for dating, as people make resolutions to meet someone.

So take it easy and enjoy the break.   Make sure you wrap up warm as the snow will probably be here soon

Best Wishes,

James and Paul

www.asiansinglesolution.com

But does being taller really get more success?

I often see very tall women wearing high heels at singles parties, then complaining that the men are too short.  So for Asian men, it can be tough to find a match. I really don’t think that someones height should be an issue.  Do a few inches here or there make that much of a difference if you’ve got chemistry?  Of course, if you are a very tall women then you are going to find it more difficult to date if you are seeking someone significantly taller than you.

So why are taller men in such great demand and do the facts back it up?

There’s a thought process that taller men are perceived as more sexually attractive and likely to produce more children. Interestingly enough,  men seem to prefer shorter women.  Those under 5ft 3 are statistically more likely to be married than those of average height or more. So that’s why men and women haven’t evolved to be the same height.

A study this week showed that women who marry men of average height are more likely to have children.  This goes against all previously held beliefs and could perhaps dispel the myth that tall men are more likely to be better breeders.  The suggestion was that this could be that men of average height tend to get married sooner than others.  So the longer you’ve been married then the more chance of having kids.

It’s an interesting study.  What do you think about it all?  We’d like to hear your thoughts, so please do add a comment on this blog.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

We wish you and your family a very happy Diwali & prosperous new year.

May all your wishes in love, wealth, health & happiness be fulfilled.

James and Paul

www.singlesolution.com

With power comes new ways to help you with dating.

The latest of these is a new app for the IPhone that helps you locate other singles in your area using the GPS tracker on your phone .  The idea is that you would have a dating profile (and photo), turn it on and then you could pinpoint any matches within walking distance. So rather than mess around with online dating, you would know who is single instantly and be able to go up and say hello there and then.

Do you think this is something that the Asian Single Solution should introduce?  Would you find it useful?

My own gut feeling is that this would rather take the fun and mystery out of dating.  After all, the fun is with the initial flirtation and the whole “getting to know each other” process before you meet.  That way you can get the build up, the butterflies and the anticipation – which help create the chemistry and attraction.  If you have to resort to an app then you’ll lose the mystery.  All you’ll be left with is random strangers trying to come and chat you up.  This might be good for some people, but if you don’t have the confidence to walk up and say hello in the first place then nothing is going to change that.  If you CAN talk to strangers, then you won’t need an app in the first place.

Here’ s a question I’d like your help with.  If you could have the PERFECT dating app on your phone, what features would you like it to have?  Would it be something to help you get more dates?  Or perhaps to improves the dates you already have?

Please post your thoughts and comments here please.

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Read this to find out more

We love getting success stories and we get them each and every day.  We always post the best ones to our blog, along with our latest feedback.

Recently we’ve heard about lots of marriages through our site, so we are pretty sure there are even more that we’ve not been told about yet.

If you have your own success story, then please do tell us about it so we can share this with our other members. By telling your story you can give other dating members a welcome boost in their search and confirming to everyone that our service really does works!

If you give us a quote and email us over a photograph of the pair of you we’ll send you a bottle of champagne ( or a High Street gift voucher if you prefer)

To qualify, you will need to have been dating at least 2 months.

So get in touch now and share the love.

Happy dating,

James and Paul

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Are you worried you might never meet someone?

Dating can sometimes be difficult and it even become frustrating if you aren’t getting want you want out of it.

My message to you is this:  Don’t throw in the towel yet!

Sometimes it might take 20  or 30 dates before you meet Mr or Miss Right,  or it might be very next person you go out with.   But what if they were number  31 and you gave up at 30?  You’d never know how close you might have come to meeting your dream partner.

Here’a an interesting comparison that I’ve been thinking about recently. Thomas Edison tried a 1000 ways to get a light bulb to work and all of them failed. Some didn’t work. Some just flashed and dies and some only lasted a few minutes. He made notes on every case. Eventually, he got one to work long enough that it would make sense to make it for sale to the public..

He didn’t see this as a thousand failures, but as a way of getting closer to the result he wanted.  His famous quote is:

“We now know a thousand ways not to build a light bulb.”

There’s a definite lesson to be learned here – for every date that doesn’t work out you are one step closer to the one that will!

Once you are in the right frame of mind for dating and take steps to get what you want then it WILL happen.

Just think what would have happened if Edison hadn’t invented the light bulb.  We’d be sitting here in the dark.

So don’t give up just yet. Put some effort into putting an effective plan together, attend some dating events and take full advantage of our online dating site.  The love of your life might just be a click away.

Good luck,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Please take a moment to read our policy.

We have to enforce our dress code policy at all our events due a few members letting the side down.

Well it’s quite simple really.  Just wear something comfortable that is somewhere between smart, that you might wear to work or to a wedding, and casual pub gear.

The idea is to get noticed and so if you lean towards glamorous, that is fine too and  it’s unlikely that you can over dress as long as you feel comfortable.

We do insist that our guests don’t wear trainers, workboots, t-shirts or shorts.

Guide for Men

For men this might mean, cords, smart non-blue jeans or chinos and casual shirt with a collar but no tie. A jacket is a bonus and may help compensate for blue jeans. Shoe choice is important. Brogues, slip ons or off-black colours such as brown would be perfect but black is fine too. Big no-nos would be trainers, collarless t-shirts,  tracksuits. Anything with a slogan on would be considered too casual. Suit and tie is great if you feel comfortable, but the tie is probably not needed. To ensure you look like you made an effort all clothes should of course be clean and pressed.

Guide for Women

For ladies there is a little more flexibility as ladies have the option to wear less to look sexy, whereas for men, this just isn’t an option. For example if you have the figure for it you’ll look great in a cocktail dress and heels. Most people might opt for a more conservative look with Smart slacks or skirt and blouse. Non-blue jeans are fine but blue jeans are not ideal unless you offset with smart shoes and top. No-nos would be trainers, sports wear or baggy tops with slogans.

These rules apply for our singles parties but also are very important when going out on dates too.  Studies have shown that 70% of singles would chose not to see someone again if they dressed badly on a first date.

We hate turning guests away from events, especially once they’ve already booked and turned up at the venue. So make sure you follow the guidelines here.

These are also the conditions of many of our venues too, which might be smart bars, hotels or restaurants.

Happy dating

James and Paul

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Is it better to have one photo or several?

Some people like to add a vast selection of photos to their online dating profiles. They add action shots, photos of them on holiday, with their pets, swimming in lakes etc. This is all very well and good but you should keep one thought in mind every time you add one: Does it add value?

Each photo you upload will be judged carefully by the viewer. If it raises alarm bells for any reason whatsoever then they’ll quickly move on to the profile. However, if it’s an interesting shot it might serve as a fantastic excuse for them to contact you – an instant icebreaker.

My advice would be to stick to two or three images. One clear headshot ( no sunglasses or hats please!) and one full body shot. A third one can be a holiday or photo of you doing something out of the norm. If you only have one photo then viewer will wonder why that is and what you might be hiding.

I’d always advise you to rotate your main photo every two – three months. That way you might get a second chance if someone has overlooked you before. They’ll see a new image and assume it’s a new person, doubling your chances of hearing back from them. Don’t change it too often though, as it gets confusing for everyone.

Of course, if you do only have one photo then you need to make sure it’s THE best photo you have. The absolute biggest error is NO photo at all.

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Guests are arriving well past the start time!

We’d really appreciate it if you could make the extra effort to arrive on time.  Otherwise it can ruin an otherwise fantastic party.

Perhaps you might be nervous about being the only one there. Many of our guests do turn up at the start, so you won’t be left on your own.  Once these people have chatted they are looking for the next people to talk to and if you aren’t there then they can’t use the icebreaking game or other activities.

If we are running speed dating at the event then we can only make it happen if enough people are interested.  It really is first come, first booked in – so if you are late you’ll miss out.

We’ve even heard about groups going off for a meal before attending an event. While it’s a good idea to eat before you come, make sure you have finished so you can arrive at the start time.

The worst situation is where the guests who have arrived on time assume nobody else is coming.  They’ll then leave early, just before other guests turn up.  The new guests then think the party is quiet!  So rememeber that if you arrive on time we’ll end up with a bigger, better party with a much better vibe.

As a guide, most week night parties start at 7pm and our Saturday night events begin at 7.30pm.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

On a typical night we have 2000 users logging on but at different times. Hence there might only be 300 at one time, either using chat or ready to use chat.

Meet up to 500 people online Wednesday 9pm

Sometimes it can be hard to find the people you want online. So, we thought that if we set a time for everyone to go online, then it would be like creating an amazing party. Well, almost! You can chat to up to two people at a time.

So, make sure you are logged in at 9pm Wednesdays.

If you are  a Premium Plus member you can request to chat with anyone. If you are a Premium member you can initiate a chat with other Premium or PremiumPlus members.

If you are basic user CLICK HERE to upgrade now. Or you can sit in the corner and hope someone finds you.

Why is it called Chat-Attack? Well mainly because it rhymes! Think of it as an ‘Attack’ on our servers. We’ve just put in masses of new memory and processing power, so we want to test it to the limit.

What is chat for? – Its important to realise that chat is really for fun online flirty entertainment purposes only. The chances that the love of your life will be online at the same time as you are generally slim. So don’t expect that! If it happens great, let us know.

See you online on Wednesday.

Regards

Paul Ergatoudis

N.B. Chat is still a bonus feature under test, so please don’t shout at us if it breaks!