We have so many lovely members and want you to have fun meeting them.

However, every now and again we find someone not playing by the rules.

This is true on all dating sites and in every aspect of life, but that doesn’t mean we don’t take it seriously.

We really do have to rely on you, our customers, to let us know when someone isn’t behaving on the site.

You are our eyes and ears. While we can monitor messages on our site, it’s out of our hands once you decide to talk on the phone or go on dates.

As you are the ones dating, you are the ones who need to tip us off if you have a bad experience. We don’t tolerate rudeness or offensive behaviour from any of our members and we expect everyone to be respectful and considerate.

If you have a bad experience, please don’t let if put you off. There are 1000s and 1000s of decent people on our website and we’d hate you to miss out on meeting them.

Don’t judge them by the poor behaviour of one individual.

Every day we get wonderful feedbacks which show that our members are not only genuine but meeting partners through our website.

We are NOT a casual dating site, but one that helps bring people together for serious, quality relationships.

So please do let us know if you come across one rotten apple. If they have posted something inappropriate in their profile or aren’t what they seem in real life then we need to know about it. We’ll always suspend ( and ban if necessary) unsuitable people on our sites, especially if we have several complaints.

All you need to do is let us know!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

We like to think that we are the leading British Asian dating service. Here is why.

We have grown over 400% since January 2009, now attracting 30,000 individuals to our website every month, making 90,000 visits.

What that means for you is that there has never been a better time to join AsianSingleSolution.com to find your partner.

In August 2010 our clients viewed 1,331,744 pages, which I think is pretty phenominal. If you have a great profile, with a great photo, we are offering you the best chance of success. We wish to thank you and all of our clients for making the site so successful. Please continue to tell your friends about us as its word of mouth that counts.

If you want more stats, then consider that in August 2010 30,000 individuals used our site. Of those, nearly two thirds used it on 5 separate occasions in August 2010 alone. That means we have serious people looking for serious relationships.

We also continue to have a very even male:female ratio on the database. 51% male and 49% female. Measured as profiles that are visible on the site.

Why are you reading this? Get searching and contact people right now.

Paul and James and the AsianSingleSolution.com team.

Our Appeal has now Closed. Thank you to everyone who took party

Upgrade to 3 months Premium and we will donate 100% to the Pakistan Flood victims appeal.

We have reduced the 3 months Premium, from £30 to £25. We will also give 100% of this payment to the Flood appeal.

Its win win. You get to give to this Emergency appeal, and get your upgrade, and you get a small discount which you can lock into for as long as you keep your membership live. The target is £2000. We will end the appeal at midday Wednesday so act now.

Background information

Over 1,000 people are reported to have died with that number likely to rise as more information becomes available. About 2.5 million people are believed to have been affected by the floods which may worsen as further rain falls and water moves downstream. In the aftermath of the floods there is a serious risk to survivors from potentially deadly diseases which will spread as a result of contaminated surface and drinking water.

The Disaster Emergency Committee has opened the ‘DEC Pakistan Floods Appeal’ and special broadcasts will run from Thursday (05.08.10) on the BBC, ITV, Sky, Channel 4, Channel Five and independent radio stations.

The money raised will help fund the life saving work in Pakistan of the DEC’s Members and their partners.

The money raised will support the efforts in Pakistan of the DEC’s members which are the leading UK aid agencies.

So you’ve been together a while and you want to settle down.  You’d love to get married but how long should wait to propose?

Wedding Ideas magazine recently ran a study to find out exactly how long people leave it to get engaged.

The results were very interesting. They showed that most couples will get engaged within two years of their first date. For the next three years after that  proposals are very rare.  Then they pick up again rapidly between five and ten years.

However, if you have to wait longer than that then chances are you’ll never get engaged.  Only  four per cent of couples will get married who have been together this long.

Interestingly, short “whirlwind” romances – where they had been together for six to eight months resulted in 6.8 of all engagements.

Rachel Morgan, the Editor of the magazine added this : ‘Couples tend to hold on until their incomes are secure before making an announcement”

These results seem to indicate that if you’ve been waiting over ten years then perhaps it’s time to move on if you aren’t happy.  Some men get comfortable with the way things are are don’t see the point in officially getting married.  After all, they’ve already got everything they want!  However, they might not realise you want to get hitched so maybe it’s time to drop some not so subtle hints!

The good news is that if you’ve been together for two years then the odds are you’ll be getting engaged soon!  If you do – and met through us – don’t forget to let us know!

Happy dating,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Here is a “dating question” for our new “blog competition”

Dear Dating Guru,

When Dating, are Silent moments good or bad?

N

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Dear N,

Dating is all about getting to know each other, building a connection, then attraction and beyond.   The majority of this is done through talking to one another – asking and answering questions.

If you are both sat there without saying anything then it can quickly become awkward.   This can stop the date from flowing and you’ll be unlikely to have a second.

For this reason, you have to have a wide range of “conversation starters” under your belt to keep up the momentum.  These don’t have to be too complicated, just discussions about family, holidays, ambitions, beliefs, funny anecdotes etc.   It’s easy to find topics to talk about – just pick up a paper and read the headlines if you get stuck.

However, silence isn’t always a bad thing.   There are times when you will need to sit back and enjoy each other’s company without saying a word.  This is a fantastic opportunity to process the date so far and really think about everything that’s been said.      It’s also a great chance for non-verbal communication.  You can look deep into their eyes or play with your hair in a flirty, fun manner.

The bottom line is :   Make sure you have plenty to talk about but you don’t need to fill in every silence just for the sake of it!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

If you have want to win a pair of tickets to our upcoming “Perfect Fashion Show” then read our blog to find out more.

http://www.asiansinglesolution.com/blog/asian-dating-news/competition-win-perfect-fashion-show-vip-tickets/

We have an amazing competition for you that we are only running for the next few days.

The Asian Single Solution is sponsoring the Perfect Asian Fashion Show on Sat 19th June.

We’ll be hosting a table at the event and have two pairs of PLATINUM VIP tickets worth £250 up for grabs.

The event will take place the Millennium Mayfair Hotel and will include a reception with canapes, a three course meal, fashion show and live entertainment from Navin Kundra and Angrej Ali.

To win your place you need to send us something for our blog.  This can be one of the following:

1) Your best dating tip

2) A short funny date story

3) A dating question for us to answer

Email them directly to :

blog@asiansinglesolution.com

The best blogs will be featured and the top two will win a pair of tickets.

Closing Date: Competition ends midday Friday 11th June, so write now!

For more details and standard tickets at £75 or £65 for Premium members, click here

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Any party or event is an amazing opportunity to meet new people but I know it can often seem a bit scary.

Some people find it really hard to do this so I’m going to give you some great tips to help.

Guests worry they will left on their own or even worse, they will get stuck chatting with the same group of people all night.

This doesn’t have to be the case at all. Keep in mind that people who attend these events are generally open to talking to you.

If they hated the idea of making new contacts they’d just stay at home wouldn’t they? It’s not like going up to a random person in a bar – you already have something common.This can be a mutual friend, hobby or just the very fact you all quite fancied the idea of coming along.

The very first thing you should do, once you’ve made your entrance and got yourself settled, is do a quick scan of the moment.  See who you might be interested in and who is already talking to who.    It will also help to make note of where the bar and toilets are so you make a hasty exit if it become necessary.

When you’ve got a drink, carry it in your left hand which will keep your right hand free for the initial handshake.  There’s nothing worse that offering a freezing hand or having to juggle your drinks.

Then all you have to do is go up to someone and say “Hello, I’m ———.  Is this your first time?”     The ice is quickly broken and you’ll have something to chat about.   Stay away from asking closed questions that only require a one or two word answer and don’t outstay your welcome.

Finally, try and speak to as many people as possible. Even if you aren’t attracted to them it’s always useful to introduce yourself.  You never know how they might be able to help you and it’s better to talk to “anyone” rather than look lost.   You’ll also be able to sneak yourself into any conversations they are having later!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

On 29th April 2010, our website received a major hardware update as we moved the website onto a new server.

This unfortunately required a few hours of down time.  If you tried to use the site during this time, we apologise for any inconvenience.

Hopefully you will see some improvement in the speed of the website. This will also enable us to add new features such as the live chat which will be launched shortly.

Do let us know if you experience any issues with the site, or if you have any other feedback.

Regards

Paul Ergatoudis

Director

We are delighted to announce that Asiansinglesolution.com is now working in association with Asian Woman Magazine.

As part of this new partnership we will be sponsoring the AsianWoman Bachelor Hunt 2010

Asian Woman Magazine boasts a readership of over 100,000 per issue, making it the biggest Asian publication in the world.

The Asian Woman Bachelor of the Year is the annual spectacular of the year.

Selected from their  infamous Top 50 Bachelors and voted by you as well as an industry panel, the lucky Bachelor will be featured in AW Magazine and win some fantastic prizes.

If you’d like to nominate someone ( or even yourself) then click here to register:

http://www.asianwomanmag.com/Bachelors_2010_AsianWoman.php

We recently ran a survey on the Asian Single Solution website which asked the question:

“Do you message people first or wait for them to contact you?”

The results surprised us:

I contact them first -  55%
I wait for them to email me  -  45%

We’ve noticed that there that a few very proactive users on the website who contact a lot of people at once.
These members then think its great that they are getting messages, but don’t realise that these people are probably also in discussions with 20 – 30 others too!
So what usually happens is that they send a few messages back and forth but it never actually goes anywhere.  This can be confusing.

The problem is that because they are getting messages they forget to target the people they want.  They think that all they have to do is sit back and wait for people to contact them rather then doing anything themselves.
Just relying on these very proactive members  is not a good strategy!
Instead, always keep in mind that even the very best profiles with the best photos have to keep working at it. There are so many singles on the database that it’s only the ones who make a real effort that will get the results they deserve.  After all, if you wanted anything else in life – such as a job , a car or a holiday – you would do something to make it happen wouldn’t you?  So why should your love life be any different?

So do make sure you always make the first move and contact as many people you like.

James Preece – The Dating Guru
www.asiansinglesolution.com