{"id":1933,"date":"2015-03-03T10:36:42","date_gmt":"2015-03-03T09:36:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.asiansinglesolution.com\/blog\/?p=1933"},"modified":"2015-03-02T11:26:34","modified_gmt":"2015-03-02T10:26:34","slug":"dating-gurus-mailbag-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.asiansinglesolution.com\/blog\/asian-dating-advice\/dating-gurus-mailbag-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Dating Guru’s Mailbag"},"content":{"rendered":"

Here’s another question answered<\/p>\n

\"Asiandating\"<\/a><\/p>\n

by our Dating Expert<\/p>\n

“Hi James, I’m signed up to Asiansinglesolution.com. I’ve sent quite a few of what I thought were nice personalised messages but no-one seems to want to reply!<\/p>\n

Also tried the instant chatting but i know some people don’t like to be taken by surprise, for me i much prefer having an instant chat to see how the ‘banter’ is, but need to be ready for a get out clause!<\/div>\n
Anyway, my question was about the personal messaging, i really thought it was the best way of making contact, instead of winking etc. Do you have any feedback as to how guys respond to that? B”<\/div>\n
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Hi B, thanks for your message.<\/div>\n
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The instant chat is just meant as a bit of fun and isn’t that useful beyond that.\u00a0 Most people are to busy to spend much time chatting on there so messages are much better.<\/div>\n
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To get good results then yes, you absolutely need to be sending out messages rather than winking\u00a0\u00a0 It helps to send a credit with each one to make sure they can read and reply as non paying members can’t do this.\u00a0\u00a0 You need to be as proactive as possible and contact any guys that you like the look of.\u00a0 Otherwise you’ll just be left with the people who contact you.\u00a0 YOU need to do the choosing and as such have to send out lots of personalised messages that get them interested. Don’t worry about making the first move as guys love that.\u00a0 If you don’t then other women will anyway!<\/div>\n
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I’ve also had a look at your profile and messaging.\u00a0 Your profile and photos are great BUT I really don’t think you’ve sent out enough messages!\u00a0\u00a0 Dating is a numbers game so you need to be contacting 10 people a day – not 10 people in total.\u00a0\u00a0 Most of the ones you have sent were read, but it would also help to tell them what you liked about them that made you want to contact them.\u00a0 A little flattery can often work.<\/div>\n

If you have your own dating question or problem that you’d like the Dating Guru to answer then please do send an email to:<\/p>\n

info@asiansinglesolution.com<\/p>\n

The best ones will be answered in this blog.<\/p>\n

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Happy dating!<\/p>\n

James Preece – The Dating Guru<\/p>\n

www.asiansinglesolution.com<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Here’s another question answered by our Dating Expert “Hi James, I’m signed up to Asiansinglesolution.com. I’ve sent quite a few of what I thought were nice personalised messages but no-one seems to want to reply! Also tried the instant chatting but i know some people don’t like to be taken by surprise, for me i […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1933","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-asian-dating-advice"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.asiansinglesolution.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1933","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.asiansinglesolution.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.asiansinglesolution.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.asiansinglesolution.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.asiansinglesolution.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1933"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/www.asiansinglesolution.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1933\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2957,"href":"https:\/\/www.asiansinglesolution.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1933\/revisions\/2957"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.asiansinglesolution.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1933"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.asiansinglesolution.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1933"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.asiansinglesolution.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1933"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}