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<\/p>\nDo you have a destructive or dysfunctional habit that’s stopping you from getting dating success?<\/p>\n
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We take a look the ways some people can sabotage themselves on a date and how they can fix this.<\/p>\n
First of all,\u00a0 you need to work out what exactly you are doing wrong.\u00a0 Then it can be easy enough to put things right.<\/p>\n
This can usually fall in to one of three things:<\/p>\n
Too Needy,\u00a0 Too Negative or Too Picky<\/p>\n
1)Too Needy<\/span><\/p>\n You are so desperate to get a partner that you accept anyone who shows any interest.\u00a0 You go out on dates purely for the sake of dating and often end up sleeping with anyone who pays you any attention.\u00a0 You get upset and angry when you don’t hear back from the straight away and ruin possible relationships by being too keen or demanding.<\/p>\n Sometimes you think that this person will be able to fix your life or you’ll overlook major issues thinking that you can change them yourself.<\/p>\n The Cure:\u00a0 Take a step back.\u00a0 If you need to, have a break from dating and only ever date someone you think you really will have a great future with.<\/p>\n 2)Too Negative<\/span><\/p>\n You’ve had some bad experiences in the past and don’t want to\u00a0 let yourself get hurt again.\u00a0 Therefore you focus on your past rather than looking to your future.<\/p>\n Your date doesn’t want to hear about how bad your life is or hear about your faults and insecurities.<\/p>\n The Cure:\u00a0\u00a0 Challenge yourself to be positive.\u00a0 Wear something that you feel great in and keep your body language upbeat and friendly. Work out all the things in life that you enjoy and that are going well for you.\u00a0\u00a0 Everyone is different so don’t expect them to treat you the same as your ex.<\/p>\n 3) Too Picky<\/span><\/p>\n Nobody is able to meet your high standards and as such you won’t give anyone a chance.\u00a0 You’ll come across as rude and defensive rather than a possible partner.\u00a0 Perhaps you won’t make the effort on a date as you’ve already decided it’s not going to go anywhere before you’ve even met.<\/p>\n The Cure:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Take the opportunity to find out more about your date.\u00a0\u00a0 What do you have in common?\u00a0 Are you enjoying their company?\u00a0 Above all, work out what really is important to you and let anything else go.\u00a0 You aren’t perfect so why would they be?<\/p>\n Good luck!
\nJames Preece – The Dating Guru<\/p>\n