Be clear about your intentions

It’s so easy to get stuck in the friends zone

So here’s a quick tip to avoid it!


You find someone that you like and you ask them if they’d like to join you for a  drink/meal/night out one evening.  You are naturally excited about meeting up and wonder where it might lead.  You have a fantastic night and think that you’d quite like to see them again.  But they hit you with the big bombshell – they thought you were meeting as friends!
So why did this happen?

Well, chances are that you didn’t make it obvious enough that you were both going out on an actual date.   The other person didn’t know what was happening either, so in order to protect themselves from rejection they chose to assume it was a friends thing.

1)  Make sure you make it absolutely crystal clear that you are interested in them and that you’d like to go on a date.

2) Flirt and show them that you are interested.   Touch them on the arm every now and again and make sure you have lots and lots of eye contact.

3) Don’t talk about each others problems. That’s what friends do, not possible dating partners.

4) End the date with a kiss.  If you like them and you got on well, then by all means go in for a kiss.  This is a very clear signal that you aren’t just mates or there for a business meeting.

Good luck!


James Preece – The Dating Guru

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