Archive for August, 2011

Our Latest Asian Single Solution Wedding

Thursday, August 25th, 2011

We asked for success stories and we got inundated!

We’re delighted to tell you about another wedding.

“Hey I met my wife on this site and we’ve been married 7 weeks now. Please find some photos for your website”

So don’t give up, there really is someone out there for everyone.  Keep on using the site and you could be the next Asian Single Solution success story. But please, make sure you let us know!


James and Paul

The best way to break up with someone

Sunday, August 21st, 2011

How do you end a relationship that’s not working?

Text, Phone Call, Email or in Person?

You won’t fall in love with everyone that you date so sometimes you have to bite the bullet and end it.  It’s the fairest thing to do as you’ll be setting them free to meet someone more compatible.  In today’s modern age there are many ways you can end it using different technologies, but you shouldn’t always take the easiest way out for you.   Remember their feelings and the effect it will have on them.

I’ll be writing about exactly what you should say in a future blog, but today I’m going to tell you the etiquette as to HOW to go about it.

Here’s my quick guide to the correct way that you should end it:

1)  You’ve not dated,  just emailed, texted, phone calls etc.
This is the easiest of all as you’ve not had enough time to really get to know each other.  Therefore it’s perfectly fine to end it however you wish.  This could be a text or a phone call.

2) Just one date.

If you’d definitely decided that you don’t want to see them again then a text or email will do.    While I’d always suggest attempting a second date if there’s the slightest spark, I know the reality is that you won’t like everyone you meet.  So there’s no point meeting them again just to let them down.  The best way is a quick email or text the next day letting them down gently.

3) A short term relationship – 2 – 4 dates

This is where is starts to get complicated.   If things haven’t been intense, then a short email should be fine.  If the dates have been passionate then you really ought to give them a quick phone call.

4) A long term relationship – more than 4 dates

Any more than 4 dates means things are getting serious and you might even have slept together by now.  For this reason you absolutely HAVE to end it in person.  The only exception would be if there is a distance barrier.  Tell them you need to talk and stop any indication that you are interested in them.  By this I mean don’t put kisses on the end of emails or tell them you are missing them – otherwise it will complicate matters when they try to understand everything.

However you end it, it’s important that you DO let them know about it.  This might sound an odd thing to say, but many people think it’s better to just disappear and not reply to phone calls, emails, texts.  Treat the other person with respect and the same way you’d like to be treated.  Read my blog on the “Ghost Date” for more info on this!

Good luck,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

P. s  What are thoughts on how to end a relationship?

Another Wedding plus July Success Stories

Monday, August 15th, 2011

July Success Stories and Feedback

We were delighted to hear about yet another Asian Single Solution wedding.

This was between Rikki and Amrit who met through us last year.

They’ve sent us this very amusing video of their first wedding dance on Youtube if you’d like to search for it.


“Great and think your site is brilliant!” PS

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single Feed back : GREAT SITE” DP

“Good website that clearly had thought about the user and what they would want to see.” AM

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single. Feed back : Great service!” NT

“I think you guys are doing a great job” AJ

“It is one of the better sites I have used. Very user friendly.” RH

“Great! I went to a few of your events and finally met the man of my dreams! Thanks for your excellent service.” DL

“I enjoyed the site. thank you” CK

“My favourite evening and I’ve done about 7 with you. Yes – a resounding success. Well done. I thought the guy leading the team was excellent, only matched by the northern blonde girl who used to lead at Waterloo Brasserie.” MB

“Relaxed atmosphere and accesible staff and nice to have some refreshments.” SF

“Great site” VB

“Very good” RP

“Very good, clear service and website.” VK

“Whilst I was with you, the services were brilliant.” AM

“The site is a good way to meet and communicate.” AP

“Very good, the staff are extremally friendly at the events!” KB

“Very good events.” RB

“Your services were a great help. Thanks” SP

“Hey I met my wife on this site, my username was deleted just after we met. Two years we met, and we’ve been married 7 weeks now” SB

“Service is great fast and efficient as expected” RD

“Excellent service and regular updates.Thank you” SK

“The site is very well set up” MR

“The events have been wonderful especially the saturday night ones and i have met some very nice people from it” AS

“Never thought i’d meet anyone this way just signed up not expecting much and met someone straight away!”  NA

“The services are very well organised and good fun!” KS

“Appreciate all the help this site has given me…thanks” SP

“Very useful to engage with various types of people.” HK

“User friendly. Great Idea!” PM

“The events are great.”  ML






The Power of Positivity

Monday, August 8th, 2011

It’s often hard to stay positive when it comes to dating

So today I’m going to teach you how to boost it.

The power of self-talk is amazing.  If you tell yourself you can do something or tell yourself you can’t, then you are always going to be right.  So the secret is to only tell yourself positive things that will change things for the better.

To help, here are some of my favourite positive phrases.  If you want to feel happier, spend a few minutes each day saying them over and over to yourself.  The more you tell yourself these things then the more likely your brain will make them stick and adjust accordingly:

“The positive thinker sees the invisible, feels the intangible, and achieves the impossible.”

“I choose to be kind to myself.”

“A dream written down with a date becomes a GOAL. A goal broken down into steps becomes a PLAN. A plan backed by ACTION makes your dream come true.”

“It’s better to invest time doing what pleases you, rather than to waste time trying to please everyone else.”

“Every advance in human life begins with an idea in the mind of a single person.”

“I am open to new possibilities.”

“Every great leap forward in life is preceded by a clear decision and a commitment to action.”

“I can figure it out”.

“It is possible, if I am willing to put in the time and effort”

“I make choices and decisions based
on my goals and dreams.”

You could even try to include some similar phrases in to your online dating profile.  They’ll make you come across as a happy, positive person so you’ll automatically get more interest.

Good luck!
James Preece – The Dating Guru

Don’t give up!

Monday, August 1st, 2011

Have you had enough of dating?

Are you worried you might never meet someone?

Dating can sometimes be difficult and it even become frustrating if you aren’t getting want you want out of it.

My message to you is this:  Don’t throw in the towel yet!

Sometimes it might take 20  or 30 dates before you meet Mr or Miss Right,  or it might be very next person you go out with.   But what if they were number  31 and you gave up at 30?  You’d never know how close you might have come to meeting your dream partner.

Here’a an interesting comparison that I’ve been thinking about recently. Thomas Edison tried a 1000 ways to get a light bulb to work and all of them failed. Some didn’t work. Some just flashed and dies and some only lasted a few minutes. He made notes on every case. Eventually, he got one to work long enough that it would make sense to make it for sale to the public..

He didn’t see this as a thousand failures, but as a way of getting closer to the result he wanted.  His famous quote is:

“We now know a thousand ways not to build a light bulb.”

There’s a definite lesson to be learned here – for every date that doesn’t work out you are one step closer to the one that will!

Once you are in the right frame of mind for dating and take steps to get what you want then it WILL happen.

Just think what would have happened if Edison hadn’t invented the light bulb.  We’d be sitting here in the dark.

So don’t give up just yet. Put some effort into putting an effective plan together, attend some dating events and take full advantage of our online dating site.  The love of your life might just be a click away.

Good luck,


James Preece – The Dating Guru