Wishing all our lovely members a very happy Diwali.

From the Asian Single Solution team.

We have just put some features live to make your experience better.

Likes and Views are now shown one at a time. You must specify Yes/Maybe or No on each one.

We found that many people were sitting on large numbers of activity without giving an opinion one way or the other. For those with large numbers of historical LIKES it will take a little time but there is no rush. Work through these and give your YES or NO information on each one. This will help create more mutual matches and give clarity about your intentions. If you get it wrong, don’t worry. You can always change your mind from either the Mutual Likes page or from the Dislikes section.

The App will soon be updated to reflect this change. For now, it still shows the number of new likes as the number you have not seen. In the old system, just seeing them would change the status from new. Now , we ask that you grade them Yes/Maybe or No.

New Unmatch Feature

If you wish to disconnect with someone click unmatch. This is a quicker and easier way to delete messages and stop chats with people you are not interested in pursuing.

You then get the option to delete or delete and block. If you delete and block the other person will no longer be able to see the messages, click on your profile or contact you further.

Hope these add to your positive experience.

Any feedback please contact us via the website, or comment below

In October 2002 the first Single Solution event took place with over 100 International professionals. Since then we have run hundreds of events, launched our online dating services, helped countless couples get together and become a leading introduction and matrimonial service for British Asians.

To celebrate we are holding our 20 th Anniversary party on 8 October in Moorgate. At the time of writing, we have already sold 100 tickets. So only a handful are left. We hope to see you there.

When you are trying to contact people on an online dating site, it can be hard to know what to say to get their interest.

Here are our top tips to boost your chances:

1) Don’t Copy and Paste

If you don’t get a huge amount of replies it can be tempting to stop putting the effort in. It might seem easier to just copy and paste the same message over and over.  After all, someone is bound to reply right?  The problem with this is that these types of messages are very easy to spot….and they annoy people.  So you are very unlikely to get a response and you’ll get even less than before. It’s a Catch 22 situation.  A little effort can go a long way.

2) Personalise the Message

If you want to get someone to write back, you have to make things personal.  Tell them what you liked about their profile and why you’d be a good match. Use a little humour and ask a fun question. For example, if they say they like baking cakes then ask what cake they would make you.  It shows you are paying attention and aren’t afraid to laugh at life. Doesn’t that sound better than just saying “hi” or “how are you?” or “could we have a conversation please?”

3) What not to say

The initial message should be friendly, flirty and just a conversation starter. You don’t want to be asking the other person out or saying you are looking for a committed relationship. That is too heavy, you have not even spoken yet.

The same goes for handing out your number. This appears very impatient and the other person won’t feel comfortable. These approaches rarely work, so always chat on platform first. Only when you are both  comfortable with each other, talk about a phone call or meeting up for a coffee.

4) Don’t talk about yourself

Do not go into detail about yourself in the first message, or try to impress the other person with your big job title or life story. That is what the profile is for. A brief introduction is OK if you want to try that, but anything that comes across as showing off, would probably be ignored.

5) Mix things up

Quite often it’s not your messages that are wrong. Take a good look at your profile instead. Perhaps your photos aren’t appealing enough or your profile isn’t interesting.  Try to stand out from the competition and avoid generic statements.  Sell yourself and make the most of the opportunity to attract potential partners.  The more unique you are then the more views you’ll get.

Why not give these ideas a go and see if it makes a difference?

Happy Dating!

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Join us on the afternoon of 24 July. We have joined forces with two other organisers to put together a fun afternoon for you. Event is aimed at Hindu and Sikh professionals.

Almost sold out. So book soon.

The Indian Film Festival is back this June in London Birmingham, Leeds and Manchester. AsianSingleSolution is again proudly supporting this wonderful cultural event that has become a valued annual addition to the Calendar.

LONDON 23 JUNE – 3 JULY

BIRMINGHAM 24 JUNE – 5 JULY

MANCHESTER 25 JUNE – 6 JULY

Check out their list of screenings here – https://londonindianfilmfestival.co.uk/ and birminghamindianfilmfestival.co.uk

You can watch the festival in cinemas or on your own sofa, at home, via our digital site www.LoveLIFFatHome.com

They show many films, from big producers but also from smaller independent studios.

We want the profiles on AsianSingleSolution to be great quality, helping you make genuine connections. We asked Hey Saturday, the world’s first dating photography agency, to share their top tips on how to make your dating photos stand out, so you can find that special someone.

Must have: Quality

When choosing your dating photos, be sure to prioritise image quality. A good dating photo should be well lit and in focus. Exclude anything that is dark, or where you can’t be seen very clearly, and especially any blurry images. The best dating photos are taken outdoors in natural light as it’s most flattering. Have another look at the photos you’ve chosen for your dating profile and discount anything that doesn’t tick these boxes. You’ll thank us when the messages start rolling in!

Key dating photos

There are three types of dating photo that you should include for a really great dating profile.

Clear Smiling Headshot

For your lead photo, we recommend choosing a well-lit, in-focus photo of your head and shoulders where you can clearly see your face. A natural, genuine smile is a bonus.

Talking Point Photo

Next, the talking point photo. These are photos that tell your story and show something about you and you can include several of these. For example, take a photo in your favourite park, sipping a coffee at your favourite cafe, walking your dog or holding something you love, such as your camera, or your favourite book. And yes – this is something that sparks a conversation with people and tells them whether you have things in common.

Full Body Photo

Lastly, the full body photo. You should include at least one photo where your whole body is visible – this gives people more clues about your style and physique.

Showing your “best assets” may give you an advantage. You only have to look at Instagram and the photos of Kendall Jenner to see what gets the most hits.

Activity or Extreme sport photos

This is further to the talking point photo. Photos of you at the top of a mountain, diving with sharks, windsurfing, bungee jumping or doing any other type of extreme sport or activity show character, depth and interest to your profile.

However, these are best if you can be clearly identified. If you are very small in the photo it’s hard for people to see any kind of detail in your face or body and therefore it might not be you! Sporting images can add great value to your profile but only if you also have a well lit head and shoulders shot of you where you can see your eyes. This will work to show what’s unique about you.

Things to avoid

Group Photos

Group photos are a popular choice as they show that you have a great social life and lots of friends. However there are plenty of downsides to choosing this approach. For example, what if people aren’t sure which one in the photo you are? Or what if they decide they don’t like the look of your friends? Or even worse, what if they decide they prefer the look of one of your friends to you? You have a matter of seconds to grab attention, so be the sole focus of your dating photos and don’t waste time on group shots.

Selfies

Even though we are trying to meet a lifelong partner, many of us still think it’s appropriate to use a photo that we’ve taken ourselves on our phone camera. A selfie sends a message to others that you’re not taking this seriously or investing much time or effort. It also won’t allow you any opportunity to show your personality or what makes you different. You can’t include an interesting backdrop of your favourite park or cafe; you can’t be seen holding something meaningful to you like a book, camera or sketchbook because your hands are too busy taking the photo.

Blurry Images and No Filters

If you want someone to be interested in you, you need to make sure you are clearly visible.  Adding an out of focus or badly cropped image isn’t going to help. Make sure you only add high quality, high resolution images if you want to be successful.

Using filters is false advertising and may just lead to disappointment later. You are all adults so bunny ears and the like just give the impression you are not taking this seriously.

Above all, add the photos you would expect and want to see on other people’s photos.

For help creating a top notch set of dating photos, check us out at Hey Saturday

Our next British Indian Party

Pleased to announce that our Valentine’s party is now live on the site.

Join us on Wednesday 16 February. The events starts at 7pm at the fabulous BeAtOne Regent Street, London. Meet up to 80 other singles and maybe that special someone.

You will be welcomed and looked after by our friendly hosts. At the time of writing around half the tickets have already gone, so please book quickly if you wish to attend.

As always our events are aimed at professional people who are also British Indian. This means mainly Hindu and Sikh but all are welcome. Ages will be 30s and 40s. Those under 30 are more than welcome to attend.

A warm-hearted television series is exploring how religion helps people at different life stages.  We’re looking for single Sikhs that are looking for love and based in the UK to take part in the series and we’d love to talk to people with a strong connection to the Sikh faith.  If this is you and you’ve time for a quick chat do send a message to Dean as soon as possible mentioning AsianSingleSolution.