Our very own James Preece is one of the UK’s very best Dating Coaches.  He has put together some of THE most important Dating Tips for you.

Hi there! I’ve been helping singles find love for the last decade and today I’m going to tell you all about my first Golden Rule:

One: Work Out What You Want

This might sound obvious but I never cease to be amazed how many people forget to even consider this.  If you don’t know who are you looking for then you’re never going to know when you find them.

Let’s suppose you want to get a new job. Would you apply for every single vacancy no matter what is was for  and attend every interview you were offered?  Of course you wouldn’t.  That would just be a colossal waste of time and you’d never find a position that you were happy with.

Dating is exactly the same.  Before you begin, you have to work out what is important to you.  Who exactly is it that you are looking for and what do you want from them.  If you want to find a husband or wife you need to be clear about your goal right from the start.

So have a good think now about what the person you’d like end up with might be like.  Consider their qualities, lifestyle and personality. Is there anything especially important such as religion, smoking habits or location?  If so, keep these in mind along the way. 

I’m not suggesting that you should ever stop being open minded about what might happen. I’m just saying that you should always have something in mind to aim for.  

After all, what you think you want and what you really need can often be completely different things.  The fun comes with the adventure ahead and trying new possibilities and meeting new people

Happy dating!

I do hope this short article has helped you see what you need to do to make a huge difference.  Watch out for the next dating rule coming next week!

If you would like to work with me as your dating coach then you can contact me through my personal website HERE

Messing around

This week I answer a question from a very confused female member.

“Dear James, I was dating someone from the site at the start of the year.  He’s a solicitor and very handsome. Things were going well but I think I came over a bit too keen and scared him away.  We’re just friends now but were still in regular contact.  I really liked him and miss him a lot, so I’ve been hopeful we can resolve things and get back together.  However, I recently asked him if he’d like to go for a drink and he said he’d love to. However, the problem is that he keeps cancelling and letting me down at the minute.  He’s really busy and has so much going on.  He does keep promising he wants to see me but now he’s been quiet for a week.  Is he really interested or not?  T”

Hi T,

Thanks for your message.  I’m sorry things didn’t work out this time around.

One of the problems at the start of a new relationship is that you will both be at different stages.  One will be more “into” the relationship than the other, although things do eventually balance out once you’ve been seeing each other for a while.   If you are a bit too needy, clingy or questioning then it can be all too easy for the other person to get nervous and bail out.  Rather than have a confrontation or discussion about the issue, it’s easier to just end things and move on.

Perhaps he is just busy.  Things do get in the way after all.  But I strongly suspect he’s just trying to let you down gently.  I don’t want to sugar coat it, so I have to say that if he really really wanted to see you then he’d make time for you.  How hard is it to find an hour for a drink?  I think he’s fully aware that you want to get back together but it’s not something he’s ready for…at least not at the moment.  So he’s fobbing you off and avoiding you rather than telling you the truth.

The very best thing you can now is to get on with your life and stop hoping he’ll get in touch.  Carry on dating other men and make sure you have a full diary with lots of exciting activities. If he does contact you then great, but at least you’ll have lots of other options.  I tend to find the more fun and exciting your life is then the more other people will want to be part of it.

So do get back on the site and fingers crossed you meet someone even more wonderful!

James

If you have your own dating dilemma that you’d like help with, send it over to [email protected]   Our resident Dating Coach James Preece will answer the best questions here in the blog.  Don’t worry, they always completely anonymous so nobody will ever know it was you!

Happy dating

James Preece

www.asiansinglesolution.com

We recently had our big Spring Singles party in London.

This event attracted a big crowd and lots of people paired up during the event.

We tried out some new activities at this one, including a games room.  This provided a fun, relaxed icebreaker that allowed our singles to meet each other and chat while playing some quick board games.

Our guests also took part in optional speed dating which is always popular.  To round off the evening our resident DJ Titch took to the decks to make sure everyone was in the party spirit.
Feedback from the event has been really good and we are looking forward to planning our next parties.

Please do tell your friends about us so we can continue to keep bringing you new events and opportunities.
Best Wishes,

James, Paul and Meera

www.asiansinglesolution.com