Here is the latest question for our Dating Coach
Hindu Girl
“Hi James, I want to build up my confidence and increase the amount of women that I talk to. So I’ve been out in the shops trying to say hello to women I’m attracted to.
At the moment I either ask for directions or pay them a compliment…but I’m just not seeing enough that I really like. Are these big enough challenges or should I being trying something else? I know you are a dating coach so I hope you can help! M”
Hi M,
Thanks for the message. I’ll see how I can help.
First of all, well done for taking the first steps and actually going out into the real world approaching women. Most men are far to scared of rejection to do this, so you already have the advantage on your competition.
Your challenges are a great start but there are a few things you could do to improve.
Firstly, you shouldn’t just be approaching the hot girls but ALL women in the right age category. The more you flirt and talk to women in general then the better you’ll get and the more natural you’ll find it. If you do it right you’ll make them feel good about themselves and set them on the way to having a better day.
However shouldn’t be complimenting them on their looks/clothes all the time either. That’s just creepy. When they give you directions, tell them they are obviously well travelled or intelligent. The ladies will appreciate that much more than anything superficial.
Questions in general are better than directions as you have more chance of continuing the conversation. You want to ask something interesting that will get them to open up.
So these sort of questions can work well:
“Excuse me, I’m buying a shirt for my brother. Which of these do you like the best? ”
“What sort of vegetable goes well with chicken curry?” ( In a supermarket)
I’m not sure if I need to tell you but make sure you always dress well when you are out and about. A suit works well. You want to look like the sort of person they would love to date. Then make them smile and you’ll have much more success.
Hope that helps and good luck!
Best Wishes,
James
The Dating Guru
www.asiansinglesolution.com
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