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Redheads discriminated against

Tuesday, December 22nd, 2009

A newspaper advert for the TV show “Dating in the Dark” has been banned after it suggested that ginger haired people were unattractive.

The advert featured the slogan, “How do you spot a ginger in the dark?”

The show worked by getting singletons to have several dates together in complete darkness so they had no idea what each the other looked like.

marcia_cross_red_hairThis wasn’t the first time the series had used risque slogans.  It had previously used the phrase: “When the lights come on I just hope I haven’t been kissing Shrek.”

The makers of the show, Virgin Media, treid to justify this by saying that the show was just an experiment to find out if people could be influenced by personality rather than by looks alone.

However the Advertising Standards Authority upheld several complaints  that the ad was likely to cause offence and should not be repeated..

“We considered the text was likely to be interpreted … as a statement that reflected a choice between looks and personality … being a suggestion that people with ginger hair were unattractive,” the ASA said.
James Preece

Dating Coach for Asiansinglesolution.com

Why our parties are special

Monday, November 30th, 2009

We have run hundreds of singles events but it’s a very hard thing to do and it’s a unique skill.  However, sometimes people think it’s easy to run a singles events company.. Just get a venue, round up some guests, charge them to come and you’ll be rich in no time. But the reality is it’s just not that simple. We see new singles events companies come and go every single week. Their first party might work because they’ve got all their friends to attend but what happens for the next one?

Most of the large online dating sites have tried events at some point. Match.com used to run Matchlive events and even Dating Direct attempted to run their own events. However, even with their large singles databases they just couldn’t get them to work. In fact, Dating Direct once bought Chemistry who were known for their large mass market events.  But they soon stopped as they keep up the momentum. This is for the simple reason that it’s a very difficult thing to do and they aren’t all that profitable!

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If you don’t get the right venues, ratios, staff and activities then you are just asking for trouble. Then you’ve got things like minimum spends and advertising to consider. That’s why we are so proud to be in our 8th year of operation. We’ve worked extremely hard to make sure that we get the formula right and that’s why they are so popular. We continue to reinvent ourselves and try new things out.  In 2009 we’ve had new events such as Casino parties, Wine Tastings, Theatre and Comedy Trips, Manhunts and 2010 will see even more exciting new developments. They aren’t always perfect but that’s the nature of dating. We can control everything except the people who attend.

That’s where we need your help. It’s only by you telling your friends about us that we can continue to grow and get even better. So please, spread the word and we promise to try even harder!

James Preece

Dating Expert for AsiansingleSolution.com

Great First Date Ideas

Tuesday, November 17th, 2009

Based on an unrepresentative sample size of one, i.e. us, here are our top ideas for your first date.

There are 10 fantastic ideas, ignoring the most obvious “meeting for a drink or dinner”. None are very expensive but all are likely to get your date relaxed and they will reveal more about themselves.

1. If you both enjoy art, visit an art museum or attend an art gallery opening. These provide an opportunity for conversation, and art galleries may offer wine and snacks. Even if you don’t love art, this can be a fun date, with the event mostly serving as a backdrop for conversation.

2. Go for coffee or ice cream. This is a good date when you don’t know someone very well. It’s not expensive, it’s public, and it can be short if you don’t click. You might want a second activity planned in case you do like each other and want to extend the date.

3. Watch the stars. Pick a nice evening, sit out on a blanket in the yard, and watch the stars. An afternoon alternative is to watch the clouds. Throw in a picnic and you have a complete date. Just make sure to watch the forecast carefully and have a backup plan in case of a last-minute weather change.

Share an activity

Share an activity

4. Play board games. You can learn a lot about a person from playing a game together. Do they cheat? Pout or get angry if they lose? Enjoy a fun, healthy competition? Just avoid skill-based games if one person had a distinct advantage, such as if one person plays chess and the other doesn’t.

5. Be creative. Whether you’re making pottery, a scrapbook, a collage, or even colouring with crayons, this can be a fun way to start a relationship. Just don’t pick anything too messy unless you’re prepared with a change of clothes.

6. Be active. If you share a common interest, you can go for a jog, go hiking or bicycling, or head to the gym. It’s good for your body, and the endorphins generated will give you a positive feeling about each other. The downside is that you may not look or smell your best after getting all sweaty.

7. Feed the birds. Buy a bag of bread, find a park bench near ducks or pigeons, and you’ll be set. It can make you feel like a kid again, which is a great experience for a date. Just try to avoid geese, which can be more aggressive.

8. Go to a garden. Whether it’s a public rose garden or a private garden that offer tours, this is a beautiful place to take a stroll and have a nice conversation. Just make sure that neither of you suffer from allergies, which could put a damper on the outing.

9. cook dinner together. Choose a romantic menu, cook together, then enjoy a candlelight dinner. Cooking together lets you talk while you’re preparing the food. Just don’t choose on overly complicated dish unless you are a very skilled cook. You also don’t want your attention to be too focused on the recipe, so something easy like a grilled steak or a simple pasta dish might be a good choice. Also, this is only for a first date option if you already know the person. Don’t invite a stranger to your home or go alone to a stranger’s house.

10. Go nature hunting. Search for seashells on the beach, hunt for wildflowers in the countryside, or just take pictures of your findings. You can enjoy the beauty of nature and a quiet place to talk. Make sure to pack necessary equipment such as water and appropriate shoes.

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Paul Ergatoudis

Director and date coach for AsianSingleSolution.com

Muslim Dating UK

Wednesday, November 11th, 2009

Meeting a British Muslim Partner

The Muslim culture is rife with longstanding and ancient traditions including Muslim Dating etiquette. Meeting a potential mate and marrying them is no exception! For centuries, Muslim singles  were introduced mainly through family connections. Arranged marriages where the bride and groom did not even meet each other until the day of the marriage ceremony, were quite common.

Muslim Dating in the UK

These days, in a Western country like the United Kingdom, times have changed for young Muslim people, but the ancient ideals remain a constant obstacle. How is one to meet and spend time with a special person they might potentially spend the rest of their lives with if their parents disapprove and even the word “dating” is frowned upon?

Muslim Singles in the UK have more options now than ever before, but must still be careful to tread lightly so as not to confuse or upset their older family members. The main fear of these older and more conservative Muslims is that “dating” will not lead to wholesome time spent for their young family member with their future husband or wife, but rather to casual sex and the more disposable relationships that have become more common in the Western hemisphere for young adults. Since extramarital sex is completely off limits for the Muslim faith, Muslims are faced with a quandary if they want to spend some time with someone before taking their marriage vows. Here are some ways to meet a British Muslim partner.

Muslim Symbolism

Muslim Symbolism

Organised Muslim Dating Events

AsianSingleSolution.com organise events for Muslim singles to meet each other through networking and speed dating. The events are aimed at those of South Asian descent, eg Pakistan, India, Bangladesh. These events are currently arranged in London and typically attract 30 to 40 professionals. The events are quite informal, and relaxed and yet there is a high standard of etiquette ensuring guests are respected throughout. They present an excellent way to meet a number of people quickly in a convenient and appropriate setting such as a cafe or restaurant where alcohol is typically not served.

Chaperoned Dating

Another way for Muslims to meet and interact with each other is through chaperoned dating. This allows a couple to spend time together in an approved forum without the temptation of attraction and privacy to make them compromise their values. The man and woman would be able to sit together in a semi-private area of the home or meet in a public place and talk and learn more about each other. Chaperones (preferably not their parents) would be nearby to dissuade them from getting intimate.

Congregational Outreach
More and more Muslim communities are starting to understand the importance of young Muslims getting to know each other before signing on to a lifelong commitment of marriage. Therefore, even churches are getting on board with planning events that have a strong religious connection while also allowing Muslims to interact and mingle with each other. Socials, Koran studies, and community service projects gather young Muslims together in a fun and wholesome environment to reach a common goal, which helps build teamwork for potential mates as well. Although most Muslim women have never even seen the inside of a mosque, that practice is changing slowly but surely and events are being held at the mosque more and more often.

It’s not easy to keep sacred strong religious values in such a modern and changing world. However, these ideas, coupled with the ever growing Muslim acceptance, will hopefully aid young Muslims in finding Mr. and Mrs. Right.

Sikh Dating

Wednesday, November 11th, 2009

Sikhs are diligent in their spirituality and loyalty to God. The compassion Sikhs demonstrate in their worship is directly related to their love lives. Sikh teens are becoming more and more frivolous in terms of dating and romance, but still adhere to the most respected rules of Sikhism if they choose to remain active in their faith. Romantic relationships are not prohibited in the faith of the Sikh, though the meaning of such a relationship is far different from that of many Western religions.

Sikh Dating Events

Dating events in the UK are organised by AsianSingleSolution.com Events are held in London and Birmingham and may be combined with Hindu events for convenience and to ensure greater numbers.  Sikhs are sometimes open to meeting single Hindus. Events will always include opportunities to meet other Sikh professionals, through ice breaking activities, hosting and Sikh speed dating.

Sikh Dating Relationships

Sikh Khanda

Sikh Khanda

Sikhs must maintain a devotion to God that prohibits romance above spirituality. Many couples who date become so completely engrossed in one another that they do not give proper attention to spirituality and worship. The Sikh dating relationship must be one that does not take away from the compassion they hold for their God. Romances are often undertaken in a Sikh culture to create a partnership working to promote spirituality and faith. While younger Sikhs may engage in flirtatious relationships that often lead to commitments for a period of time, no life bond is entered into without serious considerations of its impact on spirituality.

Sikh dating in the United Kingdom has evolved to compensate for all levels of spirituality and a Sikh’s desires in a partner. Websites and dating services bringing Sikhs together have options to accommodate those that are uncomfortable meeting in person on short notice, as well as participants who are eager to jump right in. Gatherings for UK Sikh singles have become extremely popular. This enables Sikh professionals to meet and engage with someone they’ve meet through a convenient and organised channel.

One large aspect of Sikhism that affects dating relations Sikhs is the belief that a Master Plan will be taking place. There is nothing to be gained by exerting all of one’s energy into a dating relationship when the gurus have stated the partner will be established in a larger Master Plan. As the Sikh youth has been raised with this set of beliefs, Sikh youth in the United Kingdom will be focused on dating only other Sikhs or those who will eventually choose the path to Sikhism. Dating someone outside this school of spirituality will only detract from the overall benefit of the belief-system itself.

Sikhs may dabble in dating singles from other religions or sects, but will not marry too far outside their beliefs. It is not uncommon for Sikhs to hide relationships from their parents as youths, since the concept is considered a detraction from their whole as a spiritual being. Males who are revealed to their parents as active in the dating scene face a far less criticism than their female counterparts. Whereas a male may simply be teased or joked with by his parents, a female who is exposed as actively dating will more often be looked down upon as a disappointment and weak of faith. This stigma is largely why Sikh youth in the UK will seek each other out in organized activities. Meeting people of the opposite sex in an environment that promotes civilized courtship is not likely to be frowned upon by elders and parents.

Though Sikhs will, when responsibly courting other Sikhs, put their religion before any feelings of love that may surface, it is not unlikely that a Sikh will enjoy a loveless marriage. Often, two people who have established the same life goals on a plane as relevant as spirituality will be able to bask in each other’s admiration for the beliefs they share.

Hindu Dating Trends in the UK

Wednesday, November 11th, 2009

Historically, Hindu singles met in Hindu society through introductions from their parents or other family members. In most cases, by the time the couple met up, there were already matrimonial negotiations going on between the parents!

Hindu singles who have grown up in the UK, take a more modern approach, and may reject the old ways. They may find the old methods of introductions  embarrassing or too restrictive. Having been exposed to the ways their friends date, many Hindus want to meet different people and “fall in love” the British way. However, at the same time, they may still be interested in meeting people from their own culture.  This can prove challenging as it would be for any minority group in the population.

The Hindu Symbol Aum

The Hindu Symbol Aum

This fact has been the main factor in the rapid growth in popularity of online dating services and organised dating events catering to Hindu Asians and other Asian groups in the UK .

Dating events and online dating allows Hindus to meet other like minded single people who share the same faith.

Hindu Social Events

Big events are a popular way for Hindus to meet. These events are run by www.asiansinglesolution.com and are held in UK Cities such as London and  Birmingham. London events are usually large parties of 100 to 200 people, whereas due to the smaller population, Birmingham events may typically be 50 to 60 people. Guests come for the express purpose of meeting others for dating purposes, although another key objective may be to have a good night out and  make new friends.  These events are arranged on the internet website where guests can book tickets and communicate with other attendees. They generally are organized according to religion, i.e. there might be a “Hindu + Sikh” event, and also age, i.e., for ages 22 to 36.

The event may start with a mixer and social drinking, and then get down to business with speed dating. Other events may have games, or there may be dancing or a formal ball.

Hindu Speed Dating

One of the big trends these days, is Hindu speed dating.  Up to 40 singles or more may meet for a speed dating event in which one takes part in a number of mini-dates of short duration. Usually each date will last between two to six minutes. These short encounters all taking place in the same day allow guests to briefly get to know the other person and see if any sparks fly. No one is committed to any other person on the date, but those who hit if off can pursue things further.

Speed dating provides a fun, and safe way of meeting lots of new people quickly. In this case, everyone will share the same Hindu religion. The group setting helps people overcome shyness that can ruin a normal blind date. Also some screening can take place before hand to make sure everyone is of a similar age and professional or economic status. Many people find this is far superior to approaching someone cold in a dance club or bar. Sometimes events may include an element of speed dating.

Organised dating events from AsianSingleSolution.com cater specifically to single Asian professionals.

Hindu Online Dating

Online dating websites allow users to search for people who match their requirements in terms of interests, job type, income, education, height etc. Users can set these criteria to be very specific or broad. What makes online dating so popular is that users can browse the website and contact other people in their own spare and from the safety, convenience and security of their own homes, or office. By browsing through the profiles of other members on these sites, you get a lot of choices of pictures and personal information from the profiles. Once you have created a short list of candidates, then you can decide on you would like to meet on a more personal basis.

At first, this might consist of only online chat or a brief exchange of emails. The next step is usually to have a brief chat on the phone. If all feels right a date can be set up and who knows where it might go from there!

Why not book some events or sign up now for our Hindu dating service. Register on the left.

Get your kit off!

Monday, October 19th, 2009

I’ve noticed something odd at some of our parties that I wanted to share with you.
Guests often turn up with coats, hats, scarves etc which is quite normal considering the unreliable British weather.
Most will put these in the cloakroom so they can relax and enjoy the evening. We always make sure that a cloakroom is available for this very reason.

However…..sometimes guests prefer to keep their coats on and will keep wrapped up throughout the party.

This really is quite an odd thing to do and I’ve been trying to work out the reasons for this. Of course, everyone is entitled to wear what they want but it really doesn’t do anyone any favours.
By keeping your coat on you are preparing yourself to leave before you’ve even started. When you keep your coat on, everyone else will assume you’ve had enough and are on the way out.
It’s just an unnecessary barrier and people will be reluctant to come and say hi.

To make matters worse, I’ve even had these fully dressed guests complaining to me that that it’s too warm in the venue!

These guests have usually made a big effort to wear something smart and sexy but nobody will ever know. So take off your coats, reveal what’s underneath and make the most of what you have. Don’t hide behind a safety blanket. You’ll get much better results and have a much more fun evening.

James Preece Dating Coach for www.asiansinglesolution.com
Read about Hindu Dating

New Search Options

Monday, October 5th, 2009

We have added three new ways for you to mix up your search results.

Searches have always been ordered by last logged in, which is a logical method. This means the users who are most active will always be at the top. The obvious issue is that with thousands of people logging in regularly, profiles can very quickly slip down the results. Go on holiday for a week, and your profile may be so far down the list that you’d need a spade to find it.

search options

Once results are displayed you can rearrange the results.

  • Last logged in (default)
  • I feel lucky (random)
  • Distance from you
  • Age

You then have the option to sort by Ascending or Descending. Ascending is the default and means, most recently logged in, closest to you, youngest first

Enjoy.

Go to Search Profiles now

The Dating Invoice

Friday, October 2nd, 2009

We were sent this hilarious email that was supposedly send by a disgruntled guy after a date which we thought you might find amusing. Apparently this sort of thing does really happen! If you have a funnier email we’d love to read it!

James
Dating Coach
www.asiansinglesolution.com


Subject: Invoice 6/12/04

Date: Sat, 12 Jun 2009 17:15:59 EDT

Dear Dana:

On June 5, you agreed to accept dinner, paid for in full, by me, based on your stated offer that we would go out again. In that you have ignored all overtures to said follow up meeting, you are hereby considered in breach of contract.

To that end, you are being invoiced for 50% of the cost of the dinner, pursuant to the offer. For the record, the offer presented you with the option of not going out again and paying for half of the dinner, or going out again and not paying at all. You accepted these terms, choosing to go out again, as stated above, but have since failed to deliver your end of the agreement. In that this was merely a promise to meet, and not a promise to marry, the agreement is binding under New York law and does not require a written agreement (i.e. statute of frauds).

Furthermore, this is absolutely not a joke.

Your share is 50% of $74.51 which is a total of $37.25. Payment in full is expected within 30 days.

You may remit to:

Andrew Goldberg

720 Greenwich Street, #4d

NY NY 10012

Dealing with an insecure boyfriend

Thursday, September 24th, 2009

Sometimes you might date someone who feels that you are too good for them. This can be down to insecurity or low self esteem. They’ll be paranoid and possessive which will cause you both problems.

Here are some tips to help reassure him :

1) Surprise him every now and again. Send him a love letter or cook him a suprise meal. This will show subconsciously show him that you are thinking about him even when you aren’t together.

2) Be a good listener. Show him that you value his opinions and what he has to say. People naturally feed connected when they believe they are being understood and listened to.

3) It’s quite normal to feel insecure about things every now again. Reassure him and become his biggest cheerleader. He needs to know that you like him for the whole package
and let him overhear you telling others how wonderful he is.

4) Make yourself available. Always take his calls and make time to be together. If you disappear it can make him think the worst.

5) Give him an item of jewellery (such as a watch) that he can wear. Every time he thinks about you he’ll look at it and have an instant psychical and mental reminder about how much you care about it.

James Preece Dating Expert for Asian Single Solution

We are 7 this week!

Monday, September 14th, 2009

7thbday_mA big thank you to everyone that came to help us celebrate at our two big 7th Birthday parties last Saturday.

Our 30s to mid 40s party took place at Digress City with optional ceroc dancing and our Asian party was at The Cuban Bar.
We’ve had some great feedback about both events so we hope you all have lots of fab dates lined up from it.

7 years is a very long time in the singles events world and we thank you for all
your support over the years.

We are constantly evolving and improving the services that we offer, so if you have any suggestions do let us know!

Our next big party is our Halloween party on Sat 31st October. Halloween is always one of the “Top Three” parties of year, along with Valentines Day and Christmas.

They always attract large numbers and we’ve pushed the boat out this year with a live band, tarot reader and magician. We’ll be decorating the venue and will have some great prizes for the best costumes.

Can you ever get easy Sex?

Monday, August 24th, 2009

In the current time poor society, is there a place for casual dating? With the massive influx and growth of casual dating sites such as www.datinginsecret.com temptation is certainly out there.

Girl undressing

Girl undressing

So where have these sites come from? Online dating has now been around for about 10 years, and is perhaps now, one of the most popular ways to find a date. There is still some stigma around organised dating but that is definitely fading and most single people will have registered on at least one dating site. It was probably inevitable, that as the next step adult dating sites would slip into the mainstream. These are sites for people to meet, who are primarily looking for casual encounters, or no strings fun. They are used by single people looking for a simple encounter without the palaver, or indeed expense of proper dating, and also by married people looking to have an affair or to spice up their relationships.

There is a risk of using these sites of course. What kind of people will you meet? Are they genuine? The real downside is perhaps that these sites create an additional catalyst for relationship breakdown. There isn’t even a pretence that a married person is pretending to be single, these sites just allow people to tell it like it is.

Our research into one of the leading Adult sites, www.datinginsecret.com has revealed that most people on these sites are actually single, and just looking for a bit of fun. As long as you are aware of the risks, and are not going to regret anything, then there is probably no harm in getting online, and you never know where it might lead. Maybe its time to fulfil those fantasies without the ties of a relationship.

How to break up without breaking down

Thursday, August 20th, 2009

Not every relationship is going to work out and it can be really hard when you split up. Here are some top tips to help you cope:

1) Surround yourself with people who care about you. A break up can be like a bereavement so you need to with friends and family through the difficult time. They will make sure you keep eating and stay healthy.

2) You are entitled to be upset for a while. It’s part of the moving on process so allow yourself the chance to be sad. You’ll get bored of being miserable before you know it.

3)Time heals all wounds and gives you a chance to put things into perspective. You’ll eventually meet someone even better even though it doesn’t feel like it at the moment.

4)Don’t do stupid things to make your ex jealous or try to get revenge. This only makes you feel better in the short term and can make things much worse.

5)Don’t beat yourself up and go over and over why it didn’t work out. Just because it didn’t work out doesn’t mean that you did something wrong or were wrong to put your trust in the relationship.

6) Look back on the good times – it’s your experiences that make you the person you are.

7) Put your energy into the things that make you happy. Focus on going to the gym etc. If you stay busy and concentrate on other things this will take your mind off the breakup.

8) Even if you agree to be friends, agree to cut off all contact for at least a month. This will help the healing process.

9) Make a box of all the gifts, letters and photographs you have and give them to someone to keep safe. This stops you moping over them. You don’t need to throw them out.

10) Once you have had time for the intial shock, get yourself back into the dating game and you’ll soon be
enjoying the chance to be single again. Try one of our singles parties. This will boost your confidence and show you that others are interested in you.

James Preece Dating And Relationship Expert for www.asiansinglesolution.com

How NOT to walk into a party!

Tuesday, August 18th, 2009

I noticed a very interesting thing at a recent singles party I was working at. The party was in full swing, but one man arrived late.
He darted into the room, stood by the stairs, with his head hanging low and his eyes fixed on the floor. He had a very pained expression
on his face, that made him look like he was gurning while being attracted by bees. This was not the ideal way of making a good first impression at a party.
At a singles party, many people have an eye on the door, just in case Mr or Miss Right walks in.

I offered him some tips on the night and it turned out he felt awkward about being there. I thought it would be a good idea to share the advice I gave him about the right way to enter a party.

1) Just before you enter, breathe slowly to compose yourself.
2) Now walk slowly and confidently up to the doorway.
3) Imagine the doorway has a rope hanging down, that pulls you up to your full height. No slouching allowed.
4) Stand in the doorway and SMILE and pause for a couple for seconds.
5) Congratulations, you now look like somebody everyone has to talk to!

James Preece Body Language and Dating Expert for Asiansinglesolution.com

Treat them mean and keep them keen?

Wednesday, August 12th, 2009

There’s one dating question I often get asked that I’m going to discuss here.

When you start seeing a potential partner, is it better to pursue them or play hard to get?

Time and again, people are advised to play it cool and make any potential love do all chasing. They’ll wait for them to call or text first, or keep them waiting.

But studies show that this technique doesn’t work.

One particular study involved a female member of a Dating agency. Her brief was that when a guy called her up to ask for a date, she would either say yes right away or pause for 3 seconds. After the call the men were told what had happened and asked for their thoughts. Playing hard to get made absolutely no difference and most men didn’t care about the pause.

Another recent study took a group of men and asked if they would rather date someone keen to have a relationship, or someone who made them do all the chasing. Their conclusions were very interesting and showed that there were arguments for and against both types. The perceptions were that they thought that “easy to obtain” women were fun to be with but could be embarrassing in public. On the other hand, hard to get women were great for the ego but could be cold and unfriendly.

Overwhelming research shows that the best strategy is to give the impression that you are hard to get but are still really keen on your potential partner. That’s a strategy we’d definitely recommend. Don’t agree to every suggested date and make them realise you have a full social calendar. When you make time for them they will appreciate it even more.

James Preece, Dating Guru for Asiansinglesolution.com

Pooja Shah meets James and Paul

Tuesday, August 11th, 2009

The Single Solution were proud to sponsor the recenty party for “Loose Women’s” Jackie Brambles.

During the party James and Paul chatted to actress Pooja Shah (Eastenders, Bend it Like Beckham) who turned out to be a fan of Asian Single Solution!

“I have always thought of myself as a confident and independent woman, enjoying several happy and long-term relationships. During my “single” periods in between, I have never been afraid to give online dating a try and would recommend Asiansinglesolution as professional and well organised for anyone in a similar situation. You do not have to be looking for “the one”, you may just want to meet some attractive and interesting people.”

Pooja Shah with James and Paul

Single Solution loves Loose Women

Wednesday, August 5th, 2009

The Single Solution were very proud to sponsor the send-off for “Loose Women’s” Jackie Brambles at Zebrano Bar last Monday, 3rd August.

After a successful 3 year stint on the popular and award-winning daytime programme Jackie is moving on to new projects. We had an amazing party, with a huge celebrity turnout including Lulu, Zoe Salmon, Pooja Shah and Dr Fox. Roachford sang live and everyone carried on partying until the early ours of the morning.

This was also great exposure for the Single Solution as it increased brand awareness and got our name into many newspapers.

The Love Bus Rides Again

Wednesday, August 5th, 2009

The Asian Single Solution Love Bus made it’s triumphant return to the streets of London on Thursday 23rd July.

Following on from successful trip in February , our new improved “open top” London Love Bus spent the day travelling around the City and the West End, letting everyone know about our amazing singles parties and online dating. To make sure nobody could miss us, we hired a 17 piece brass band to serenade the crowds with Love songs. Everyone had great fun and we gave out 100s of flyers and goody bags.

We’ve had a great response to our promotion which will attract many new members to our site.

Is their ex getting in your way?

Monday, August 3rd, 2009

Sometimes people stay friends with their exes, but this can make it hard for a new couple. Here are some tips if you are worried about how to handle them:

1) Communicate. If their ex is getting in the way then you need to talk things through before problems build up. Find out what went wrong and what caused them to break up. Make sure there are no feelings left or questions unresolved. If you are worried about them getting in the way then it’s up to your partner to reassure you, not the other way around.

2) Give them Space. Let them meet every now and again if they are friends. They are entitled to have their own friends and they must at some point have had lots in common. If they feel like you are pressurizing them, they might panic and become defensive, which will cause tensions and arguments.

3) Don’t display signs of jealousy. Even if you are, then never ever let her know. Instead, be overfriendly with her and show her how happy you are with your partner. Always smile, laugh at his jokes, hold his hand and show her you are completely non-threatened by her.

4) Don’t compete. Keep in mind that you’ve already won as he’s chosen to be romantically involved with you. So don’t feel you have to outdo her or fall into the trap of constantly comparing yourself to her. It’s you that he wants to be with so it’s game over for her.

5) Don’t try and make him jealous or her angry. It can be tempting to flirt with other guys or try and wind her up, but game playing will only backfire on you. There’s no need to create barriers or problems if they don’t exist in the first place.

6) Get to know her – you might just make a new friend. You never know, she might even be more worried about what you are thinking than the other way round. At least if you know her and how she thinks then you have the strong advantage.

7) Make sure you have a wide social circle yourself. That way you have other people to talk to and aren’t dependent on your partner. He’ll know that you have other options and places to go to, which will make him realise life goes on without him.

8) Be cautious. If there are three of you in the relationship and she’s causing problems then take action. Just because he’s happy with you, doesn’t mean she doesn’t want him back. Watch out for warning signals like secret text and phone calls, him wearing clothes she likes or him simply disappearing.

9) Trust him. It can be hard, but it’s only through trust that a relationship can develop. Take his word that they are just friends….at least until something happens that makes you doubt otherwise!

10) Give it time. It might be an annoyance or inconvenience but don’t worry. She will eventually meet someone else and will be off the radar and out of your life. You don’t have to deal with her forever!

James Preece, Relationship and Dating Expert for Asiansinglesolution.com

Are you Proactive or Reactive?

Tuesday, July 21st, 2009

I quite often get emails from members saying they are disappointed that they’ve not had many emails on the site.

The funny thing is, when I investigate I usually notice that these people haven’t sent any messages out themselves! To be successful with online dating, you need to take action and not just sit back and wait for things to happen. This same rule is true in all aspects of life. If you want a job, do you mail out your CV or do you hope that job finders will magically find you? If you wanted to launch a business, would you try and promote it or pray that customers will come to you instead. I hope you get my point.

Even if you have an amazing photo and an outstanding profile, Mr or Miss Right might be getting emails from other people while you hesitate. Rather than try and find you, they will spend their time getting to know others instead.

The people who get what they want in life as those who make a plan and follow through on it. Spend at least 15 minutes each day carefully searching through profiles that you like and send them a quick carefully crafted email. Don’t give up if you don’t have a fast response, just keep learning and writing emails for a couple of weeks. You’ll be delighted when the replies start pouring in!

James Preece Dating Expert for Asiansinglesolution.com

The Perks of Premium Membership

Tuesday, June 23rd, 2009

We like to think of our Premium Membership scheme as a special, VIP club.   By paying us each month for our Online Dating services, our Premium Members also get massive discounts off all events.    This isn’t just for them, but for their friends too.  That means that the savings can work out much more than the actualy cost of membership.  Great value or what?

On top of that, we run events just for our Premium members in mind.  This includes special Wine Tasting, Theatre, Comedy and Casino evenings and they are great opportunities to meet new people in London.

Our latest events have been “money can’t buy” concert tickets to Beyonce and Michael Jackson.  Not only are these sold out concerts, but our guests get to sit in the VIP Single Solution box and have access to the VIP lounge and Entrance too. This means no queuing when you arrive or when you go to the bar.

All this for just the regular price of Online Dating membership!

Our aim is to run more and more new and exciting events so if there is anything you would like to see you do then please contact us.

 

James Preece   Dating Coach for the Asian Single Solution

Why you need to fill in your Online Dating Profile properly

Wednesday, June 10th, 2009

Imagine if you clicked this blog and all you read was “I’ll come back to this later.”     How would you feel? Perhaps disappointed and ever so slightly cheated.

It never ceases to amaze us how often people don’t bother filling in their profile properly.  A lot of people will write things such as “I’ll tell you Later,” “Ask Me for more Info” or “I can’t believe I’m doing this.”     This is such a waste of time!   What sort of message do you thing this gives to other members?   Firstly, it makes you look ignorant and lazy. If you can’t be bothered to take the time to write a few things about yourself then why should anyone else be interested in getting to know you?

Remember that your profile is there as an advert.  If you write interesting things then you’ll give other people the chance to ask you about them. The more interesting and fun you sound then the more chance there is that they will contact you.

Think very carefully about what you DO say. Don’t write things for the sake of it.

As a guideline, write a few well crafted lines about yourself, followed by a couple of lines about the sort of person you are looking for. You don’t have to write an essay –  too much is almost as bad as too little – but just enough to give everyone a snapshot of your personality.

Very important:  Include a “Call to Action” at the end of your profile.   This is a sentence that will encourage people to get in touch.  This can be a direct statement, such as “Contact me now and let’s see if there’s a spark!”  or “What are you waiting for?  Email me !”     Alternatively, it can be a question.  Good examples

So take a few minute out of your busy lives now to write a better profile.   You’ll see the rewards as soon as the emails start flooding in!

James Preece  Dating Guru for Asiansinglesolution.com

We are simply the best

Thursday, June 4th, 2009

It’s often said that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.   Well, it seems that a week doesn’t go by without yet another company trying to copy what we do.

Many companies come and go, trying to emulate our successful formula and running second rate events.  They try and use the venues we work so hard to find, attempt to poach our customers and undercut our prices. We’ve even found some who copy and paste the text from our website, using it as their own!  These companies don’t last very long.

We were the first company to introduce the ice-breaking card game, which other companies adapted into the Lock and Key game.  We also provide more (and better) hosts than anyone else.

Competition isn’t a bad thing as it makes us work harder.   We know that we are the industry leaders and have the most experience, busiest parties and nicest guests.  We offer the best value for money events and are in this for the longer term, rather than trying to make a quick buck and then disappearing.

As we move towards our 8th year of business, we promise to keep on trying out new ideas and events.  Asian Single Solution is the original and the best and we thank you for your support.

James Preece

Dating Expert for the Asian Single Solution.

Bhangra Party

Wednesday, June 3rd, 2009

Thank you to everyone that came to our Hindu & Sikh “Bhangra” Singles party at the Cuban Bar. We had over 150 guests who took part. For this party, we had DJ Precious who really made sure he got everyone dancing once the speed dating had finished.

We’re delighted to say that he’ll be back at some of our upcoming parties so do watch the website!
We’ve also had some great feedback as you’ll see below.

“Thanks for a great DJ – the speed dating part was great fun!”

“One of the best nights I have ever been to!”

“Really enjoyed the DJ and your staff were great!”

We took a few photos that we though you might enjoy.

Peter Andre and Katie Price

Wednesday, May 20th, 2009

The latest Celebrity Dating talk this week has all been about Peter Andre and Katie Price aka Jordan.

They split this week after over three years of marriage, allegedly due to Katie’s partying. Only time will tell if this is for real or just a publicity stunt but the latest news is that Pete has a surprise waiting for him when he returns from Cyprus.

While he’s been away clearing his head , Katie has apparently ordered her staff to put his clothes, gym equipment, jewelry and photographs into storage.

“Katie’s still very hurt after Pete dumped her and wants to get him back. She phoned up and was screaming down the phone at staff to get rid of all his stuff” said a friend, “Peter is in for a bit of a shock. Everything he owns has been taken from the home and put into storage.”

We can’t help but wonder who will get custody of the ITV2 Camera Crew if they really do divorce. Did they get put into storage too?

Is your wedding clock ticking?

Thursday, May 14th, 2009

We were very amused to read about a new bra that’s been promoted in Japan called the “Wedding Bra”

This amazing bra is aimed at single women looking for a husband. There is a large digital countdown timer on the front and small slot just below it. Apparently, the wearer sets the time to show the date they want to get married and it will then tick down the time until it runs out. The only way to stop the alarm going off is to insert an engagement ring into the slot. If you do that it will play “The Wedding March.”

While this is obviously just a PR stunt and not intended to ever be manufactured, we can’t help but think that any man would run a mile if they saw a women wearing this. It also looks like it’s been cobbled together by the team from the Japanese equivalent of “Blue Peter.” We can only hope that she doesn’t intend to travel anywhere by plane.

Jame Preece, Dating Expert for www.singlesolution.com

Welcoming Asian DJ Precious to our parties

Wednesday, April 29th, 2009

We’ve often had requests to get a great DJ in for our Asian parties.  A good DJ means gives the parties a new focus as our guests can dance once the formal activities ( speed dating etc) are finished.  So we went looking for the best Asian DJ out there and we were delighted to find the legendary DJ Precious.

Parmjit Singh Bhamra’s (aka DJ PRECIOUS) has a unique style of hosting, djing and mixing Bhangra and Bollywood along with British beats.
DJ Precious will be spinning his decks at our 9th May party at the Abbey.  He has a huge following, so we expect lots of new guests to come along whenever he is playing. He’s been spreading the word and promoting our parties so we hope he will continue to play at many of our parties for along time to come.

We are looking into the possibility of getting more Asian DJs and entertainment into our events and even holding a special DJ focussed party.   Please let us know if you’d like us to arrange this.

Do come along on the 9th and help make this a big success.

Celebrity Dating: Kylie Minogue

Wednesday, April 8th, 2009

Kylie Minogue’s has apparently moved Spanish boyfriend Andres Velencoso into her Chelsea home.
The 31-year-old model was thought to be considering making London his full-time home in January after stating he didn’t enjoy long-distance relationships.
A friend has told The Mail On Sunday: “Andres and Kylie are going strong and when Andres is over in London he stays with Kylie. He has pretty much moved in.”
Minogue, 40, has apparently been working on a new album which is said to include songs about her relationship with Velencoso.
An insider said “She has penned a number of tracks, one of which is called ‘He’s The One (For Sure)’,”

Celebrity Dating: Noel Fielding

Wednesday, April 8th, 2009

Noel Fielding has laughed off suggestions that he and Pixie Geldof are dating.
The Mighty Boosh star was supposedly spotted kissing the 19-year-old on a night out in London last week.
However, Fielding, 35, insisted that they are “just friends”, adding: “It’s just these things are… like fairytales, aren’t they?
“We’re just friends that’s all, but you can’t be friends in this country without someone booking a church and trying to get you married.”
Fielding joked that he is really in a relationship with his Mighty Boosh co-star Julian Barratt.
“We live like one road away from each other, I have just bought a house where on the roof garden you can see into his window so I am gonna get a telescope to make sure he says he’s doing what he’s doing,” he said.

Celebrity Dating: Lindsay Lohan

Wednesday, April 8th, 2009

Lindsay Lohan has revealed that she is “taking a brief break” from her romance with Samantha Ronson.
Speaking to E! News, the Mean Girls actress confirmed speculation that the couple have decided to part ways amid rumours that Ronson had been caught cheating.
“We are taking a brief break so I can focus on myself,” said 22 year old Lohan.
It was reported earlier that Lohan had written several messages on her Twitter account accusing her partner of being unfaithful. She is also thought to have been denied entry to a Ronson family party on Friday evening.

Some great questions you can ask

Tuesday, March 31st, 2009

We always recommend that you think up lots of great questions that you ask people to keep conversation flowing. There is nothing worse that an awkward silence when you are first getting to know someone. Make sure you don’t ask open ended questions as you’ll only get “yes or no” answers which can kill your conversation stone dead!

To get you started, we’ve come up with some great questions that you can ask. Just remember to really listen to the answers and don’t keep firing off questions. Instead, try and blend them naturally into your chat.

1) Are you a morning or night person?
2)Do you believe in life on other planets?
3)Do you have any bad habits?
4)Do you prefer sweet or salty foods?
5)If you were a fictional character who would you be?
6) Which is your most cherished childhood memory?
7) If you could be any animal, what would you be?
8 ) If you could have any superpower, what would it be?
9) If you could visit anywhere in the world, where would you go?
10) If you had a million dollars, what would you spend it on?
11) What do you think about right before falling asleep?
12)What is one thing that no one knows about you?
13) If you could have three wishes what would they be?
14) What is one thing you like about being an adult?
15) What is one thing you miss about being a kid?
16) What is one thing you would change about yourself?
17) What is your dream job?
18 ) If you were stranded on a desert island, what three items would you most want ?
19) In case you and I were going out and we had a fight. How would you try to patch things up?
20) What is your favorite thing to do on a Saturday night?
21) What is your favorite thing to do on a Sunday afternoon?
22) What is your first thought when you wake up?
23) What personality traits do you look for in a partner?
24) What was your favorite childhood television program?
25) Would you rather be rich or have true love?

James Preece – Dating Expert

Rules for a Great Date

Tuesday, March 31st, 2009

We’ve put together some useful tips on having a great date that we thought you might find useful:

1) Be kind and considerate. Observe good manners and treat your date as you’d wish to be treated yourself.

2) Be generous. For the best outcome, men should always offer to pay but women should not take advantage of this and over the period of several dates then the women should take their turn.

3) Take an interest, make sure you a good listener. People love it when you pay attention to them and they’ll instinctively like you a lot more.

4) Use Body Language to your advantage– be flirty, smile and pay attention to the signals they are giving off too.

5) Be honest about your intentions and don’t play games. Follow up afterwards, even if you aren’t interested.

6) Do something around an activity, so the focus isn’t just on you. Make sure it’s something where you can both still talk and get to know each other.

7) Dress up, take pride in your appearance. Brush your hair, floss your teeth and make sure you smell nice. Remember you want to present the best version of yourself possible so do make the effort.

8 ) Don’t talk about exes or competition for your dates. Focus on making them feel special instead.

9) Have several talking points pre-prepared. This will make you seem interesting and helps fill any awkward silences

10) Pay a compliment to your date, but don’t go overboard.

11) Wear nice underwear. Even if you aren’t intending to have sex, it will make you feel sexier and more confident.

James Preece & Paul Ergatoudis, Dating Experts for the Single Solution

Birmingham Asian Saturday Singles Party

Tuesday, March 17th, 2009

The Asian Single Solution had it’s first ever Birmingham Saturday party on 14th March. We ran this in response to many requests for a party in this Area, following the huge successes of our London parties.

By all accounts the party was great fun and well attended. We’ve heard of a few success stories already so we’re very pleased about that.

We are planning to run these Birmingham parties on a regular basis, so we intend to get bigger and better. In the meantime, we rely on word of mouth to grow, so please do help us spread the word and tell all your friends about us. It’s only with your assistance that we can keep running them.

Do guests come on their own or with friends?

Thursday, March 5th, 2009

Many people do bring their friends along to the events, but plenty of people do come on their own.

Remember that we have hosts at the events who will make sure you are introduced to the other guests and not left on your own. If you are a bit nervous then do ask them for help as they might not be aware of this.

If you do come with friends, try and split up as some people find it hard to approach groups.

How do I get my event ticket?

Wednesday, March 4th, 2009

We don’t issue printed tickets. Instead, when you book up you will get an email confirmation from us. Please print this off if you’ve not been before and bring it with you. You just need to quote your “nickname” on the door when you arrive.

If you have booked for friends please make sure that they know the nicknames you signed them up with. This will usually be there first name and a number, unless you change it.

You can always make sure that you have booked by checking in your account and look under “My Events” on your home page once signed in.

If you booked through another ticket agent rather than www.asiansinglesolution.com you will need to register a quick profile on our site first. Once you’ve done this, email is at [email protected] and we can then add you to the guestlist.

What’s the dress code for the events?

Wednesday, March 4th, 2009

We always ask guests to dress to impress at our events. By this we suggest that you wear a nice shirt or dress and don’t wear blue jeans or trainers.

Our parties are aimed at professionals so we have been trying to be stricter on dress codes. It’s worth noticing that the men who wear suits and the women who dress up are the ones who have the best success! Yes, you might feel more comfortable in jeans but remember you are advertising yourself in a similar way to a job interview. People will be looking at you and making quick judgements based on the way you dress.

Also, it’s not just our dress code that we have to enforce, but also the policies of the particular bars that we use.

If you are in any doubt, we often have our Style Consultant at the events who will be able to give you some tips and advice.

Where have my credits gone?

Wednesday, March 4th, 2009

Please remember that there is a standing charge of 5 credits per month. Its pretty nominal, eg if you purchased 100 credits at £20 it would take nearly 2 years to erode! The charge is really to encourage people to use them up and to stop the free credits lasting forever.

If you’ve only bought 10 credits (our trial) then we expect you will use them up well before the month is up.

The standing charge is stated in many different places on the site, eg on the dating home page, in the accounts section, and in help under “how much does it cost”.

If you have Premium Membership as well as credits then there will be bo standing charge as long as you are a member.

Why can’t I log into my account?

Wednesday, March 4th, 2009

If you have having problems logging in, firstly make sure you are entering the correct password. If you’ve forgotten you can request a new one using the “password reminder” option.

If that still doesn’t work, try these in order:

1. Please click on page refresh before logging in.

2. Try another page to log in from eg

http://www.singlesolution.com/events/
3. Clear temp internet files. You can do this in Internet Explorer by clicking on TOOLS, then INTERNET OPTIONS, then BROWSING HISTORY.

4. Clear your cookies. Do this the same was as step 4.

5. Try another browser, eg you can download Firefox for free and we never have problems with it. go to

www.mozilla.com/firefox/

Why do women seem to pay more than men for their tickets?

Wednesday, March 4th, 2009

It is frustrating that women’s prices often seem higher than the men’s prices. However, please remember to factor in the timing. We always have cheaper female tickets too, but they tend to sell out more quickly.

The average price for male tickets often works out the same or even higher than the women, because most men book nearer the event when the ticket price is higher. On the event dates typically men pay £30 when its sold out for women, so men are not being rewarded.

Please do not analyse the pricing. You have to trust us to do what is necessary to populate the event despite what you think might be fair or otherwise. It’s not just about maximising profits. Most of our real stress is to do with getting an even ratio of men to women.

Are you too knackered for sex?

Friday, February 27th, 2009

 

We were fascinated to hear about a recent study that was carried out by GMTV. Apparently 79.2% of us would prefer a good night’s sleep to sex. They also found that seven out of 10 people have trouble sleeping.

In fact, only 12% of the 8,500 people who took part thought they were getting enough sleep.  People are working longer and longer hours in increasingly stressful jobs so they find it hard to switch off at night.

Dr Chris Idzikowski, the Director of the Edinburgh Sleep Centre, said “Disrupted sleep not only impacts on quality of life, but there’s an increased risk of higher blood pressure and its consequences – heart attacks and strokes.

“Many people have jobs that demand a lot of attention and attention is the first mental ability to deteriorate after a poor night’s sleep.Some people think they can manage on less, but really they aren’t performing or feeling as well as they might. The average for adults is around 7.5 hours, so those 40% are right – they understand that they’re not functioning properly.”

If you are having trouble sleeping then ironically sex can help. It can be a natural sleep inducer. Not only will it tire you out and take your mind off things, but sex releases chemicals ( especially in men) that will relax and help you drift off.

Of course, if it’s the other way around and your lack of sex is causing you sleepless nights, you know where to come for help!

The Perfect Online Dating Profile

Monday, February 23rd, 2009

How much thought do you put into your online dating profile?   What do you think you’d have to write about to get the best results?  

 

Studies show that men tend to look for someone they find physically attractive, sporty and understanding while women want someone understanding, funny and in touch with their emotions.

 

The big question, is do you write about you or write about the person you are looking for?    Professor Richard Wiseman of the University of Hertfordshire carried out a study at the Edinburgh International Science Festival to help answer this question.  He asked  40 men and 40 women to write 25-word personal ads – then got another set of volunteers to circle the ones that appealed.

 

The results showed a “golden formula” that you should stick to when writing a profile.   You should spend 70 per cent of the profile describing you and 30 per cent describing what you are looking for. If you spend more than 70% of the profile talking about yourself then you might appear to be egotistical. Likewise, you may give you the impression you are trying to hid something  if you don’t write enough about yourself.     

 

In the studies, the ads that were closest to the 70:30 rule were the ones that had clearly the largest number of replies.

 

Interestingly, Wiseman used a separate panel of volunteers to predict which ads they thought would get the most responses. There was a huge and evident gender difference. The male volunteers were extremely good at predicting which ads would have the most success while the women completely failed.

 

Wiseman concluded that women should perhaps get a man to look over their dating profile to get the best results.

How to motivate yourself

Thursday, February 5th, 2009

 

Pick up a newspaper read the front page and be utterly depressed. The same can be said for watching the news. These are challenging and quite harsh times.
So how can we pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and get a spring in our step?

 

The following should help.

 

1)     Be thankful for what you have

It’s very easy to moan about the day to day chores that we have to do, people who get us down, rude people in London but what about sparing a thought for all the wonderful things we have in our lives. So thank you for wonderful friends, family, girlfriend, boyfriend, food, house, job, health service, peace etc. Each and every morning write a list for everything  you are grateful for. It can be a short list of 10 things taking under 5 minutes or even a page long. It doesn’t matter – the important thing is to actually feel gratitude for what you have. It also makes you realise how lucky you actually are!

 

2)     Exercise and more exercise

One of the best ways to be motivated and put yourself into a positive frame of mind is to exercise at least for at least 30 minutes per day. This releases endorphins, clears the mind and makes you re focus. You can even brain storm whilst on the stepper or running machine. If you are feeling tired or lethargic this is again one of the best ways to change that state of mind.

It is even better if you can go for a run outside, enjoying the peace and tranquillity, the beautiful park, you will feel recharged and wonderful after.

 

3)     Start small

Been putting off that task because you’re spending too long procrastinating? Has it reached that point where it really needs to be done, deadlines due? Just do it in small bits. Imagine that feeling when it is actually complete and you don’t need to worry about it any more. Reward yourself with a mini treat after. Avoid all distractions in the meantime. Divert the phone if need be, get off the internet (one of the worst distractions) and start the job, a little each day goes a long way.

 

4)     Think big

Whilst you may start small have a big vision and keep that in mind. Starting small means you are closer to the end result. This will in turn motivate you and help you reach your final goal.

  

5)     Act enthusiastically

Even if at this point you are not feeling the motivation, just pretend you are. Pretend you are feeling happy and have completed the job in hand. Once you act enthusiastically you will be enthusiastic, this will in turn motivate you.

 

 

6)     Get help or delegate some of the work

A problem shared is a problem halved. Life is so much more fun when you share. If you are having problems getting started talk over some of the issues with your colleagues, they may be able to share some of the burden. He / she may even get you motivated again so you once again find your mojo!

 

7)     Get some advice/ have a mentor

Talk to someone who knows about the job in hand. Ask for the benefit of their experience, get some ideas on how you can proceed. Their advice will be helpful and motivate you. 

 

8 )     Have a daily plan

Do a little bit more each day. There is no point to start motivated and not follow up on any action points tomorrow. Have a daily plan and tick off each point once completed. Write yourself a plan for the next day. Find your energy and enthusiasm grow each day.

 

9)     Have lots to look forward to.

Make arrangements to see friends so you always have things to look forward to. Pamper yourself too. Book yourself a massage, theatre tickets, football or rugby tickets. Do whatever makes you feel great.

 

10) Have visual goals

It is helpful to have visual goals. Whatever that is you are working towards, make it visual. It maybe something material like a car, or a vacation you have been looking forward to for the longest time. Take or cut out a picture of it and post it at a conspicuous place at work or at home where you can see it often. So that when you feel discouraged, this will remind you of your goal and will help you keep your focus.

 

Written by Alexandra Abrahams, Dating Expert

Would you take a love potion?

Tuesday, January 20th, 2009

It was reported in the press this week that scientists are on the verge of producing a genuine love potion. Apparently they close to creating drugs that would simulate the effects of falling in love.  These could be used to alter the brain’s emotion-controlling areas to increase or decrease feelings of attraction.

It’s not the first time that the media has been fascinated by the idea of a “love potion.” Pheramones have long been available but there is little evidence that they really work. However, tests have shown that the hormone oxytocin can boost emotional feelings in animals.  Such hormones could be used to boost fidelity and even help strengthen marriages.

If such a potion were available, would you want to try it?  What would happen if they found out or when the effect wore off?  How would you feel if you discovered someone had given it to you?

Do let us know your thoughts either on here or by emailing us at [email protected]