Archive for February, 2011

Are YOU hiding something?

Monday, February 28th, 2011

There’s one thing I can’t understand with Online Dating.


In fact, I’ll go so far as to say it’s a pet hate!

Yes, this blog is all about something that really really bugs me :  Photos that have people wearing sunglasses.

I see this time and time again and we at the Asian Single Solution do our best to reject photos like this.   It’s mainly men that do this, but women can sometimes be guilty of it

People do it to look cool and sexy but this just has completely the opposite effect.  Why?   Well it just makes it seem like you have something to hide.  They’ll look at your photo and wonder just why you don’t want your full image to be seen.  Maybe you have a black eye, look like a reject from a Horror film or are too embarassed/shy/married to want to be seen.   None of these are good qualities and you are only doing yourself harm in the long run.

We don’t explain this on the photo upload page but some people think they know best.  But please keep in mind that sunglasses inside is never a good look.

The same applies for anything else that might obscure your face, such as a hat, scarf or even a glass.   Make the most of what you have!

One final note – it’s fine to have obscured photos as a secondary picture if that’s what you really want to do.  Sometimes these can look fine in context.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Recent Technical Issue

Wednesday, February 23rd, 2011

About 7pm last night, 22nd Feb, our service was interrupted due to a major technical issue. The site has now been restored as at 11am on the 21st February so we have lost about a day of data.

We are in the process of manually restoring what we can in terms of memberships and event bookings.

Any messages sent since that time are now lost. Please resend any messages that you sent during this time. If you received a message you can check who it was from in the email notification so you can prompt them to resend if you wish.

We sincerely apologise for any inconvenience caused. This matter was beyond our control.

We have taken all necessary steps to repair the issue to prevent it happening again.

The Way to Woo a Woman

Monday, February 21st, 2011

It’s always a good time to think about seduction.


So in today’s blog I’m going to tell you why you need to be romantic through the entire year!

The key message is that you need to be romantic every day, not just for Valentine’s, Christmas, birthdays etc.

It might seem like a cliche, but you still need to do it!   She’ll be expecting these romantic gestures and needs them to make her feel loved and special.  However, flowers, perfume and chocolates won’t last very long so you need to think bigger.

It’s easy to think up simple, romantic gestures and A great gift is to get a locket engraved with a special message. Place a small photo of the two of you together so you’ll always be close to her heart.  Women love that kind of thing!

You could also try baking some cupcakes and then icing each one with a letter, spelling out a romantic message.     This will take a lot less effort to do than it appears and she’s have something remember.

If you want to woo a lady it doesn’t have to be difficult or expensive, just make her know you’ve been thinking about her.

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Did you get a Valentine’s date?

Monday, February 14th, 2011

We had a fantastic Valentine’s party on Saturday


We know that many people have already got dates lined up, but did you?

If you didn’t get any cards yesterday, don’t feel miserable about it.  Even if you do have a secret admirers,  they’d probably never dare let you know anyway! It’s funny but most people do have at least one person who wishes they were dating them, but they are too scared to ruin a friendship, business relationship or just too shy in general.  So nobody makes the first move and everyone wonders why they are still single.

The secret is simple, get yourself out there and be proactive.  If nobody know you are single and looking then you’ll never meet anyone new. Take the initiave and do your best to make your intentions known.

Next year make sure you it’s you sending out Valentine’s cards to the people you like.  Alternatively, just send a text letting them know you are thinking about them. Nothing over the top, but little things like that will brighten their day and increase your chances,

We’ve always got lots of great singles parties throughout hte year so do book up for some today.   You might just make your own love story.

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Dating Different Types: The Beauty Queen

Monday, February 7th, 2011

When it comes to dating there are many different types of people


Each one needs different tactics and I’ll be writing about them in future blogs.
Today’s blog is all about the “Beauty Queen” and is aimed at men.   We all know this particular type.

She’s the one who looks like she has stepped off the cover a magazine and always has a crowd of men around her desperate for her attention.

But somehow you’ve asked her out and she’s said yes.  So how do you handle her on a date?

Firstly, keep in mind that she’s just a normal person.  Just because she’s beautiful on the outside doesn’t mean she’s secure on the inside.  In fact, many good looking women ( and men) are rarely asked out as a lot of people are too shy or intimated to approach them.  The only ones who do are the arrogant or drink people and she’ll dismiss them as quickly as they can.

The most important thing is not to try too hard to impress her, or it will come across as desperate.

You still need to make an effort as you still want it to be memorable and exciting for her. Keep is simple, yet sophisticated – perhaps cocktails or take her to a restaurant you know she’s been dying to try.

Don’t go on about her looks – she’ll hear that from everyone else. Act like you aren’t that bothered about how she looks but compliment her on her personality, sense of humour or intelligence instead.  She’ll be flattered that someone likes her for being “herself” rather than what she looks like.

Nothing is sexier that confidence, so show her you aren’t intimidated and make sure she knows she has to work hard if she wants to see YOU again!

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru