Archive for May, 2011

How to say hello

Monday, May 23rd, 2011

Chat up lines get a bad reputation.

So how else do you start a conversation?

Sometimes the simplest and best chat up line is just to go up to someone and say “hello.”   The golden rule is to make sure that you smile warmly.  Smile are contagious and they won’t be able to stop themselves smiling back.   It will make you seem like a genuine, nice person as long as you don’t overdo it.   If you don’t smile you’ll just look miserable and they’ll be on their guard.

You can say hello to anyone, anywhere and it doesn’t have to be someone that you fancy.  Why not practice talking to people you meet during your day.  This can be the postman, waitress, person next to you at the supermarket etc.    It takes a little bit of effort to get out of your comfort zone but the more you do the easier it will become.

Don’t forget to have something ready to ask once they’ve said hello back or you’ll find yourself lost.  So ask them a question about what brings them their, tell them you liked something they were wearing or ask their opinion on a suitable subject.  Another great question is to just ask how their day or evening is going.

Once you start chatting you’ll soon fall into natural conversation, so keep up your happy persona and pay lots of attention to what the other person is saying to you.  As a guide, you should be talking for 30% of the time and listening for the other 70%.   Make sure you don’t ask too many questions or you’ll look like a stalker.

After a few minutes chatting you will know if you want to see them again. So if you do, tell them you really enjoyed meeting them ask what steps you should take to do it again properly.  If they are interested they’ll then offer you their contact information.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Who are TSS Events?

Saturday, May 21st, 2011

TSS Events stands for The Single Solution Events, and this is how payments appear on your bank statements.

This is stated in all email receipts, and on the payment pages. A few people have asked us to clarify.

This applies to our websites as follows.


Get a date to open up

Monday, May 16th, 2011

Shyness is very common when it comes to dating

I’d like to show you some tricks to help make people relax.

Almost everyone can feel a bit nervous when it comes to dating and shyness is very common. It can be difficult on a date if someone finds it hard to relax and open up. But there’ s a fantastic technique that you put them at ease quickly.

It’s an tactic but once you begin to use it you’ll see if can be really effective.

All you need to do is to get someone to talk about what they feel passionate about.  The very act of talking about it will make them start to feel happier and positive. When you see their eyes comes to life and you know you’ve hit a strong positive emotion, you just need to tap them discretely on the arm. Keep doing it every now and again but not so much they spot what you are doing. Make sure you touch them in exactly the same place each time. This is a technique called “anchoring” as it helps them to keep the memory. Now all you have to do is tap them in the same place later in the evening and they’ll subconsciously feel the same fantastic feeling once more.

Give it a go and see how it works out for you.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Latest Feedback

Sunday, May 15th, 2011

Here’s a up to date selection of our recent feedbacks.


As promised, we’ll be regularly updating this blog page so you can see the fantastic success rates our customers have:

July 2011

Financially my circumstances have changed. I will still attend events as I have enjoyed them.” MO

“Good service”  RS

“Have met another member from this site, appreciate all the help this site has given me…thanks” SP

“Very useful to engage with various types of people.” HK

“User friendly. Great Idea!” GM

“The events are great.” ML

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : It has been worthwhile joining your site.” DD

“It’s a nice idea and good for busy people” AK

June 2011

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : its good – i am impressed with your updates” RS

“I thought the staff were lovely at the event” TS

“Good professional service.” MH

“I always enjoyed your events and met some lovely people” RH

“Very good service” GP

“Have recommended you to people as I think you provide a great way to meet other singletons” KG

“Site well set up, easy searching” KS

“Extremely helpful”  TD

“Really good…(pages load up quick..some other dating websites take long! really long and puts you off searching)…with this one it’s quicker even through mobile. I would defo recommend this site to a friend. Thank you” AK

“Very good, might be back, thanks.” PS

“Friendly organisers” JB

May 2011

“Met a great gal, thanks for giving chance to meet her.” YB

“The Service is good” AJ

“Its a good service and you should continue helping people get together.” RP

“Thanks for your services :)” MK

“Services are great and I have met someone from the site. Thanks for your help.” SN

“Site is good and easy to use” SD

“Very relaxed, friendly people.” MW

“Right mix of organised and ‘free”,  mingling; ice breakers good idea; friendly staff;speed dating good idea” VL

“Good service, well marketed and great to see constant improvements to the site!” AK

“Site is wonderful” AS

“Services are good – think the chat thing is a great idea.” SP

“Good website and range of options to interact with like minded people.” HK

“Thanks for the great service while I was on the site.” AP

“The events are very good and just right” MA


April 2011

“Good news … when I thought there was no-one left for me in this big cruel, evil world… I met someone very nice from this site. :o) woohoo!!”  JP

“It is a great site, i will be back” JA

“The site is good and offers a nice service, which is proven by the fact that I’ve found someone very special! :o)” DS

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single Feed back : Its been great. Thanks for the experience.” RK

“This is a good site and I will use it again. Thanks” TN

“Was Great !! Had lots of fun and meet some great ladies.” SS

“I think your services are good and can be of help..!!” RM

“Enjoyed the events … now married ! :)” AB

“I met my beautiful boyfriend on here and fingers crossed will go onto something long term. Thank you asian single solution. Brillant way to find people that you may never meet on a day to day basis. xxx”  RJ

“A really good efficient service” GT

March 2011

“Was on your site and saw a wink from a beautiful girl.  I messages her back and we swapped details. Met her for lunch and wow, simply wow.  We clicked and now been a month, with no regrets and plenty of happiness.  All thanks to the site :)”

Our Latest Match

“On a personal level I didnt think this site would work for me and that I would meet an awesome girl who i intend to marry. thanks for all you’ve done!!!! You’ve renewed my faith in a lot of areas…” PV

Raman and Parma


“Met the most amazing man who i intend to marry! Thank you very much :)” RA

“Have met soneone yay great service :)” ST

“The quality of people on the site is good.” VS

“I think this is a really good website for meeting your partner. It has a range of services that i like.” SG

“Great service, keep it up” SP

“The services were good. The events were well organised.” HM

“its a good sevice, its good that this dating site are always doing events for single people, keep up the good work!!” NC

“I think you do a great job and can’t thank you enough as it’s so hard to meet anyone when your working.” SP

“Really good service” UG

“Great Service. Great Events. Thanks” AP

“Very good site & service” MR

“This is a very good dating website for all the asians. But unfortunately, I couldnt benefit of it much. But never the less, appreciate the service. Thanks” RV

“Brilliant!” GK

“I met my perfect partner and want to thank you for this whole entire service. Its awesome I have finally found a lady that is amazing. So a big THANK YOU!!!!!!!” DD

“Got a great result within a month. Thanks. Very professionally run website. Thanks.” SG

“Good site, lots of active members” SR

“I think you have a great site. Didn’t think i will find someone but i did. Thank you. Hope other find someone special like i did.” KS

“Good service!” AP

“Always enjoy events I attend.” MS

“Excellent service thanks a lot” IA

“The events were good and you met different people” MB

“Have had some lovely dates with fab people …wish them luck!” NC

“Excellent events and service, well done!” AP

“Service is Exceptional” TM

“The site is good and I’ve had fun at the events” CS

February 2011

“Very Satisfied” AL

“He was the first guy I met through your dating site and one year later, we have decided to get married! Who would have thought it was possible!!! Thank you…” SA

“Its a good website with nice professionals” VK

“I have been to 3 events now, all well organised and attended by nice people whom I have enjoyed chatting to” PM

“Have been to most of the events in Birmingham, enjoyed meeting like minded people, have made some friends along the way which has been great!”  SR

“Nice crowd; friendly atmosphere” NB

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single. Feed back : Wonderful service”   TA

“Really good site, well done, events were fun in London” PV

“Good customer service, good value and payment options – id recommend the site and always had prompt replies to my queries” MC

“Really good service. Enjoyed meeting new people.” LS

“Thanks guys, met a really nice guy at your wine tasting event last july. It’s all going really well. Thanks Again”  YA

“Always have an excellent time at these events.” FG

“Fab night was had by most I think, so well done guys ” KB

“The event was very enjoyable and a lot more fun then I expected” CO

“Good female/male ratio and good age range and mix of people”  SW

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single. Feed back : this was the second time on this website, deciding to be more proactive and it  worked !”  AD

“Your services and events are extremely fun and well organised” NS

“Great site! definately a hit recommended already to people and look forward to another 3 months” BC

“Good site, events are well planned too.” AP

“Feed back : the website is great!”  FM

“I think the site it very good compared to other sites.” DR

“I have recently met someone on the site and it looks to have the potential of a serious relationship. Thank you very much indeed!” RP

“Great site, service and events” DC

“Great, keep up the good work.” JS

“I have found this website really easy to use and an amazing way of meeting people. Thanks” SC

“I think its a great website!” SP

“Hi I think your service is good and you are definitely very helpful”  SD

“I enjoyed attending the events – great fun” AC

“Thanks for the wonderful events over the last few years” CA



January 2011

“Really good service. Enjoyed meeting new people.” SM

“I have met the man of my dreams” MD

“Good level of service” HP

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : great site thanks!” SS

“The site is very good and I have met several nice people” YB

“Great website, much better than the other, a lot more of a modern approach and seems more aimed at young british asians which is what I was looking for!” SP

“Great site now found what i was looking for!! thank you” DA

“Staff: Really helpful and friendly. General: Intros from hosts great idea!
Website: Easy to use, one of the easiest to use websites I have subscribed to” RP

“Was a very good event, as always. Met a few nice girls, let’s see where they go.” AV

“I just wanted to say the event was really good and what you and your team do is amazing. I liked the way you helped us mingle with people too” MP

“Great site – keep up the good work!” LD

“Great site!” MH

“Excellent website and people” MO

“I think its a great idea. I enjoyed the event I attended.” AG

“Overall pretty good. Well organised and good venues.” SM

“Very good service offered” KN

“Attended the speed dating events and found them to be well organised and fun, better than some of the things offered by competitors.” SG

“The website proved successfull and I have met someone through you. Thank you” AP

“I found your events were a good tool to bring together attractive and successful asian’s”  JS

December 2010

“I went to 2 events and thought they were really well run, I had a good time and found the experience very friendly and would recommend them them to friends” WP

“The website is really good and useful, thank you so much” SP

“I think you guys are great ! I am happy to be with you” VN

“Very good. never thought I would meet an amazing woman on a dating site.” TB

“Great evening as ever…………venue and mix of genders was about right and food was approved by all!”  BF

Had a great time, it was a good night thanks, and it was very relaxed and there was man for each woman J nice people too and it was nice to meet you you guys” CA

It has been useful to get in touch with people I wouldn’t meet every day” AM

“Very impressed with the service!” HS

“Resourceful site to have for the current generation.” KT

“Excellent service..met someone amazing and hoping he’s ‘the one’ :)” AS

“I thought that the events were good and organised really well. Thank you” AP

“I liked the venue and the relaxed atmosphere at the beginning of the event. It was good to meet and talk to new people. It was the first time I have ever been to anything like this and I was pleasantly surprised.” PM

November 2010

“Have attended 2 events and thought they were very well organised and good venues.”  WP

“Good way of meeting people and nice to have a datingguru for advice.”  DG

“Thanks for a very well organised event which made me feel very safe as the staff were available all night to help.  That was great.” JM

“The service was a really good way of meeting like minded people.” HG

“Very good events and nice website” GS

“Service was great” SM

“Definatley a great service for those older age groups having lost their confidence somewhere along the road of love” JM

“I found your website a great help.” JA

“The event I attended was great! keep up the great work!” JT

“The event had a variety of people to talk to with just the right age range for me.” BP

“Good, easy way of meeting people” SP

“I met a girl at your event on the 26th june and fell in love with her” MC

“Really good website better then the others!”  SS

“I think the services are very good, the times I have been to the events have been most enjoyable and well organised.” HD

“Very useful for starting a network of friends.” BK

“Good fun as ever” FW

“Thank you for hosting a very nice evening on Saturday ” PH

October 2010

“Just to let you know I went to an SS do on Oct 22nd 2008 and I married the girl I met that night on September 18th this year” SK

“It was great to have the canapes and chocolate fountain” NL

“Just want to tell you that I enjoyed very much the last event at the Abbey was good the music excellent good food” CP

“Thank you for a good evening. It’s quite daunting turning up to any event, but it was easy and fun.” JW

“Your event was fabulous for meeting a lot of men in a short space of time”  ML

“Thank you for a great party last night” BF

“Very good balance of men to women; reasonable food; nice atmosphere”  CP

“The site is fantastic. The first guy I met turned out to be the one :-)” EF

“Just wanted to say how good the magician was at last event ,very clever, and very subtle at bringing people together, great entertainment”  PH

Sep 2010

“Professional attitude of the staff and the Gathering makes it a better place to spend your time. Even if you don’t get your date, I assure you will get good Friends. My Personal Recommendation, Go for it.” VL

“I was quite impressed with your events and have reccomended it to my other single friends” AM

“It took a long time and a few dates, but just as I was giving up I met someone on this site… Not sure where it goes or what the outcome will be but I’ve got a GREAT feeling!!” AA

“I met a wonderful young lady on this site – we clicked straight away and now she is expecting our first child” AB

“The atmosphere was good and the speed dating element was cool for me” SJ

“Venue was great and so was the evening” SM

August 2010

“The event was very well organised and the crowd was very friendly – speed dating was very interesting and a lot of fun!! I am definitely looking forward to the next one!!” DS

“Very good site and service! Will recomend it.” SB

“It’s a great website, am happy with the services provided” MM

“The event was good fun and well organised.” LN

“Very professionally run site. It’s a very well presentedand very user friendly” MO

“It’s a good site, great for young professionals!” LW

“Thank you, the event was great, really had a good time.” BC

“The events I went to where superb” KD

“I met Jo at my first and only event in 2007 (oct comedy night in soho) and we are getting married next July”

“We had a connection, passion & love for each other & he has accepted my children unconditionally. Thank you!” AM

July 2010

“I have met the love of my life and we are getting married next year. Thank you very very much for creating this website through which I met HIM. Many Thanks” JG

“I met someone on your dating site. If you want to find the one never stop looking no matter how you are feeling… you never know when you may find the one… I cried once I realised I had the one I needed in my life… XXXX” AM

I think it was extremeley well organised and found the people there were very approachable.” JA

After attending a few Single Solutions functions, I met a wonderful guy this Spring. We are both very happy and would recommend this website to our singleton friends.It brings like minded souls together not only via online dating but at fun events too. Everyone desires someone special in their life and we wouldlike to thank Single Solutions for bringing us together”  VN

“Your services were good and I have now found someone. Thank you!” SM

I enjoyed the event- good ratio of men to women- and managed to get a number and a date fixed up too. Result!” PI

“Loved the events in Brum, met some nice people and even dated one for 9 months” HP

“Thank you all so much for helping me meet my match. We have now been together for three months and its lovely. We both thank you so very much for helping us meet one another” MM

“Friendly staff and good events to complement the site.  It’s good to meet real people” JP

“Very good service. Met some very nice people on this site. Thanks.” HP

“I think this is a great site! Combining online profiles with events is a great idea. Keep it up!!” BS

“Great service! Have met someone on your site and we have decided to be exclusive!” MD

June 2010

“Hi Paul / James and team I think your site is great, helpful and easy to use. I have found my match after so long and thank you all so much for making this happen!” MN

“Honestly speaking, I feel what you guys have done with SS, and achieved with your brand (for what its worth) – is awesome, overall” SM

“Thanks a ton for creating a sit exclusively for Asians as I believe that is a good way to meet like minded Asians.” AM

May 2010

“Great site – recommended to friends” CL

“A fine service to humanity !” AM

“Great venue, relaxed atmosphere, good guests, helpful staff” MV

“The service was brilliant, I got to know alot of nice people who are now mates” MA

I had a really enjoyable time on Sat.  Much more so than anticipated I might add!” RK

“The magician was brilliant and you should give him more work!” AD

“Thank you for all your support, it was really good being with you..” HM

“Very good site and well organised events” BP

“Venue was right size for turn out, good facilities. Great music and good bar service.” NN

“The event was great. The Ice breaker with the cards worked really well and the staff were really friendly and helpful. It exceeded my expectation and was a light relaxed friendly environment. ” HS

“Excellent. one of the best sites on the web” SR

April 2010

“I would just like to let you know that I met my now husband not last October but the one before last at one of your events. We had a wonderful wedding on April 7th. We are eternally grateful to the singlesolution for bringing us  together. Long live the Singlesolution!

“I thoroughly enjoyed Saturday’s party which was the first I’d attended for some time” MW

“Just to let you know I am seeing someone who I met through the website!” HP

“Good Services and has helped me to find someone with my busy lifestyle”  SC

“Pretty good, as I managed to find my man on the site!” SP

“I really enjoyed using this site and found it great to meet some prospective partners. Thanks and keep up the great work.”  IM

“I think your parties are great, probably the best of all the singles parties – I would recommend them to my single friends – wishing you continued success.” SH

March 2010

“You guys rock!” BP

“Great site.. met a few very decent guys on your site whom I am now friends with. would definitely come back if iI was single again. Thank you!” DN

“This is a very good service and I have recommended to many of my single friends” HD

“Well organised and very civilised events” PK

“I went to your valentine event and all the staff, the organisation, let me say, was brilliant. Thank you again, and will keep you posted!” MM

“I think you are on to a good thing with this whole website.  The turnout was marvellous on Sat despite the transport probs..
I liked the magician he was a nice guy.  All in all a good event.”  JV

“I wanted to thank you so much for creating this website. I joined a few years back, attended a couple of events, which were unsuccessful for me. But through the website (which is great) I met my perfect match. I was beginning to think there was no one out there for me but this website proved me wrong. We are due to get married at the end of this year. Thankyou so much. S L and A P”

“Great events with professional and friendly hosts”  RH

FEB 2010

“I loved the speedate event I went to on Valentines..the first one I went to. Staff were great too. I have met someone and going to see how it goes. Thanks again. You guys have been great.” MM

“The Valentine’s event was well organised and good fun. I spoke to lots of interesting people and the speed dating was much less intimidating than I had expected. The first young lady I met was lovely, and we’ve been on a few dates since, so watch this space… To anyone thinking of whether or not to bite the bullet, do it: you never know who you might meet!” NM

“Good range of events and wide variety of people attending.” JG

“Well run, probably the best about” JM

“I met someone elsewhere but  I think your site is fantastic. Keep up the good work!”

How many photos do you have?

Monday, May 9th, 2011

This is a common question I get asked.


Is it better to have one photo or several?

Some people like to add a vast selection of photos to their online dating profiles. They add action shots, photos of them on holiday, with their pets, swimming in lakes etc. This is all very well and good but you should keep one thought in mind every time you add one: Does it add value?

Each photo you upload will be judged carefully by the viewer. If it raises alarm bells for any reason whatsoever then they’ll quickly move on to the profile. However, if it’s an interesting shot it might serve as a fantastic excuse for them to contact you – an instant icebreaker.

My advice would be to stick to two or three images. One clear headshot ( no sunglasses or hats please!) and one full body shot. A third one can be a holiday or photo of you doing something out of the norm. If you only have one photo then viewer will wonder why that is and what you might be hiding.

I’d always advise you to rotate your main photo every two – three months. That way you might get a second chance if someone has overlooked you before. They’ll see a new image and assume it’s a new person, doubling your chances of hearing back from them. Don’t change it too often though, as it gets confusing for everyone.

Of course, if you do only have one photo then you need to make sure it’s THE best photo you have. The absolute biggest error is NO photo at all.

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Arrive on Time

Tuesday, May 3rd, 2011

We’ve noticed something that’s happening a lot at our events.

Guests are arriving well past the start time!

We’d really appreciate it if you could make the extra effort to arrive on time.  Otherwise it can ruin an otherwise fantastic party.

Perhaps you might be nervous about being the only one there. Many of our guests do turn up at the start, so you won’t be left on your own.  Once these people have chatted they are looking for the next people to talk to and if you aren’t there then they can’t use the icebreaking game or other activities.

If we are running speed dating at the event then we can only make it happen if enough people are interested.  It really is first come, first booked in – so if you are late you’ll miss out.

We’ve even heard about groups going off for a meal before attending an event. While it’s a good idea to eat before you come, make sure you have finished so you can arrive at the start time.

The worst situation is where the guests who have arrived on time assume nobody else is coming.  They’ll then leave early, just before other guests turn up.  The new guests then think the party is quiet!  So rememeber that if you arrive on time we’ll end up with a bigger, better party with a much better vibe.

As a guide, most week night parties start at 7pm and our Saturday night events begin at 7.30pm.

James Preece – The Dating Guru