Archive for March, 2014

Dating Guru Mailbag: How to ask how someone I like

Monday, March 31st, 2014
Here is our latest dating problem answered

by our Dating Expert

"Dear James,  I really like a girl in my local supermarket. She's studying at university but works there part time. I often catch her looking at me and her friends keep telling me she likes me. How can I ask her out without making a fool of myself? M"

Hi M,
Thank you for your message!

The good news is that I think she definitely likes you.  All the signs are 
there, so there's absolutely no harm in trying. 

I'm wondering why you queue in a different one that she is in though?   Your 
first test should be to make sure you queue in her one next time, even if it is 
clearly the longest one.  That way you'll be able to really read her reactions. 

Don't forget that a lot of people will make small talk with her - that's just 
part of her job.  So you need to do something a bit more.  Perhaps joke that 
hers is always the slowest queue or tell her you want to cook something but 
aren't sure what.  Could she give you a recipe?  Do this a few times over a 
period of a few days/weeks to build up the trust.  If you go in to quickly she 
might be too nervous.  Be friendly, smiling and interesting.

Your job is to make her smile, make her want to see you and brighten her day 
just by the very fact you've spoken. 

Obviously you won't be able to have a long conversation with her as people will 
be waiting. could tell her that really enjoy talking to her and wish 
it could be longer. You'd love to get to know her better.  What steps could you 
take to make that happen? 

Hopefully she will offer her phone number at this point.  If not, just ask her 
for it and tell her you promise not to send her photos of barcodes all day long!

Don't give her your number as you lose control - so make sure you get hers. You 
can then text her later that day/evening to ask when she finishes her shift and 
suggest you grab a coffee. 

I really hope it works out for you, so let me know what happens.  If it doesn't 
go well, don't worry as at least you tried!

Best Wishes, 


If you'd like help with your own dating problem please email us at [email protected]      The best will be answered anonymously here. 

Should I use funny photos?

Monday, March 24th, 2014

Having a good photo is

vital to online dating success

That’s something almost everyone knows when they are looking for love.   It’s the first thing anyone will see when they search the profiles.  If you don’t look great then you won’t get any interest. It’s really as simple as that.

However, you also need to stand out from the crowd.  So some people like to add crazy, funny photos in an effort to differentiate themselves from everyone else.  My advice on this is simple.  Your goal is to look like a friendly, sociable and trustworthy partner.  Not a clown!  People are extremely quick to judge and will make their mind up about you in seconds.

I’m not saying you should never try out a slightly different shot.  It’s fine as long as you have plenty of normal ones.  This could serve well as an icebreaker, so make sure it’s something worth commenting on.

Here are some other photos that you should avoid.

1) Avoid photos with lots of friends of the same sex.  This just looks strange.  Also, what if someone likes one of your friends more than you?

2) Avoid photos of you with someone of the opposite sex too.   If it’s just one person they will assume it’s an ex partner and naturally compare themselves.  Nobody likes to compete.

3) Anything with you drinking alcohol.  Of course many people like a drink from time to time. But if you have a bottle of wine/beer in your hand for each of your photos you’ll be viewed as a party animal.

4) Be careful of fancy dress.  You might think you look hilarious in a wig or in costume, but if it’s your only shot it can be confusing.   Always think about the reaction of the person looking at your photo album.

5) Don’t use anything that you aren’t in.  Yes, it might be a funny joke or cute kitten but it’s not you!

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Do you know a great venue for our Asian Dating events?

Monday, March 17th, 2014

group of friends at a party

We pride ourselves at over the quality of our venues, guests and singles parties.   So we have to be very careful about choosing locations that are right for the brand.

We’d like to shake things up a bit and try some new venues for our parties.

We’re looking for some London based bars or clubs that would like us to run events.  We bring in busy crowds to otherwise quiet venues.  We will of course keep using our most popular sites, but mix in some new ones too.

So, we were wondering if you might know somewhere that could be suitable?   If you do, please drop us an email at [email protected]

Oh and if you have ideas for any type of different event that we don’t normally offer then let us know as well.  You never know, we might start running them.

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

February Feedback

Monday, March 10th, 2014

February was another great month for our Asian dating site


Here is just a small selection of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

” I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single
Feed back : Professional indeed :)” LJ

“A good site.. met some nice people – and hopefully have met the ONE! :)”  RH

“Good service, especially chat” LP

“I think the site is good. And the fact that you can send messages is good too. I have enjoyed using the site ” SP

“The new website is definitely an improvement on the last” BC

“Best online asian dating website i have come across” NT

“Good service and recommend it to friends” DC

“It’s good, opens other avenues to meet the right person.” NC

“Service is great, probably one of the better sites out there!” HS

If you have your own feedback for success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]


Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

Dating Guru’s Mailbag: Why am I always just a friend?

Monday, March 3rd, 2014

Here’s another dating dilemma


for our Dating Guru

“Dear James,  I hope you can help me.  I’d love to attend one of your singles parties but I’m really really nervous about having to talk to new people.  I know it’s important if I want to make new friends, but I’m so scared of rejection.  What can I do?  Ben”

Hi Ben,

Thank you for your message.  Firstly, let me reassure you.  Almost everyone is nervous about meeting new people and having to go up and say hello.   Perhaps they’ll tell you to go away, be rude to you or ignore you altogether. The good news is that the things you are worried about are extremely unlikely to happen.  The reality is that all the guests are there for the same reason and they’d love you to introduce yourself.

Here are some quick tips which will help you:

1) Test yourself.   If you are shy about going up and talking, just try asking a question.  You could ask if they know where the toilets are or what time it is.  A simple question could start a longer conversation.

2) Use our hosts.   They are there to help make introductions and are the friendliest in the business.

3) Try the speed dating.  You only get to talk to each person for three minutes, so use this time as practice.  You’ll have to say hello and ask a few questions and each time it will get easier and easier.

4) Listen attentively.  The more you listen, then the more the other person will want to speak.  Ask lots of questions and show an interest about what they are talking about.

5) If someone doesn’t want to talk, smile and move on.   Perhaps they are even more nervous than you!    Don’t take it personally.

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru