Archive for April, 2011

How dating has changed over time

Tuesday, April 26th, 2011

Dating has changed so much over the years.

Today’s blog is about the new ways of doing it

Generations ago, Asian singles were introduced by families or by a head of their community.  They’d attend social functions under the guidance of chaperones and would stick to the rules and social conventions of the time.  Nowadays most people have to have travel away from their hometown to work and their family and friends can be miles away. On top of this, people are working longer and longer hours and coming into contact with less people.

However, the invention of the Internet has helped dramatically to help readdress the balance.  Asiansinglesolution has revolutionised  dating for single Asian professionals. It’s easy to log on to a computer from home and sign up to lots of different web sites.  Once they’ve created a quick profile they can potentially date and interact with 1000’s of possible singles from all over the country.

My dating tips and advice for actual face to face dating remains the same as it did before online dating.   You still need to create an amazing first impression,  present the best possible version of you. listen to what your date is saying, flirt and keep building the attraction.

There has never been a better time to hit the dating scene.  The taboo of online dating has long gone and more matches are being made than ever.  As there is so much less pressure than in previous generations, singles can have more fun enjoying the dating process.

So why not log on now and meet another Asian professional right now?

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

How to get more replies

Monday, April 18th, 2011
Have you sent out a lot of messages and not got much response?
Here are the most common things you could be doing wrong.
1. Have you sent your messages reply paid, so they can read and reply, even if they are a basic member?
2. Check your grammar and spelling. Professional people are often turned off by bad spelling, eg u instead of you
3. Be positive.  Talk about what you what you want rather than what you don’t want.
4. Make sure you have a great photo. This is the biggest reason for failure.  No photos means no replies!
5. Have you written an interesting profile?  There has to be something to grab their attention or they’ll skip on to the next person.
6. Never every copy and paste messages.  It’s so obvious and you are simply wasting your own time. Instead, write proper messages to people you really like.
7. Ask a question.  Ask a simple flirty question that they can innocently respond to.  If not, an invitation can work too.
8. Don’t expect to swap numbers straight away – that’s a bit like going up to a girl in a club and saying “Hi, here is my number, call me” . You have to woo and entice them first, on the site where it is safe.
9.  Follow up.  If you’ve not heard back after a few days, don’t worry.   As long as you work on your profile and photo, you can write a more enticing message and try again.
10.  Be Realistic. Don’t just contact the amazing looking people.  They’ll be inundated with emails and most likely won’t have time to reply.   Dating is a numbers game and you need to to contact lots of people each week.  Once you start to work out what’s working and what’s not you will get better results.
Good luck!
James Preece – The Dating Guru

No Time Wasters Please

Monday, April 11th, 2011

I’ve noticed a lot of people write this on their profiles.

So today’s blog will be on this topic.

Before I begin, I’d like to suggest that the phrase “no time wasters please” is not a good thing to write in your profile.  Firstly,  you should never focus on negative things and who you don’t want to meet, but rather the sort of person you do.  As well as this, would it really put off a time waster and what is the true definition of a time waster anyway?

I doubt many people would admit to being a time waster, but they would admit to sometimes being unsure, nervous or concerned about dating someone.  If you’ve emailed for a while then you fall into a comfort zone where you enjoy the attention and the very fact someone is interested in you.  Everyone is looking for different things – marriage, fun dates, friends etc so you need to be clear about this from the outset.  Otherwise it leads to frustration and disappointment.

It’s not fair to string someone along with the false hope that you are interested in a relationship with them.  The longer you delays telling them that you don’t see a future, then the more hope and expectations will be built up.  Don’t continue to email or chat to them unless you make it very clear you just want to be friends.

It might be hard to admit it to them but you are doing the kindest thing for them in the end.  Once you’ve told them there is no romantic inclination then you’ll both be free to meet someone more compatible.

Good luck,

James Preece