Today I’d like to answer another dating issue that I’ve been sent by an Asian Single Solution member:
“Hi James, please can you help? I’m getting lots of dates with some lovely women on your site but something isn’t quite working. My usual plan ( once we’ve been talking for a little while ) is to take them out one evening for a movie followed by dinner. I thought that would be a great way of breaking ice as we’d have something interesting to talk about over the meal. Unfortunately this hasn’t quite gone to plan and some of them have wanted to go right after the film. Even when they do join me at the restaurant the conversation dries up quickly. What am I doing wrong?! P “
Thanks for your message. You sound like a nice guy, but you are making a few big errors. The good news is that they are easy to fix so we’ll soon have you out dating much more successfully
Firstly, dinner and a movie is not a very good first date plan at all. You don’t know each other so you’ll want to spend your time talking and getting to know each other. So you don’t want to to be sitting in a dark room for two hours with hundreds of other strangers. That just doesn’t work at all. It’s all a little awkward and the film choice can really affect their mood afterwards. If it’s a bit serious or makes them think too much they aren’t going to be in the dating mood…especially if it’s late and they are already a bit tired. It’s really hard to be high energy after sitting down for so long in a sleepy environment!
Dinner isn’t a good choice either. Most women really don’t want to have to eat in front of someone they don’t know. It can also take too long and they might feel obliged to stay. Save that for a second or third date, once you’ve already bonded.
Instead, stick to a simple date of going for a few drinks. Choose somewhere with a nice atmosphere that isn’t too busy or noisy. Take the time to really get to know each other and ask lots of questions. Then hopefully you’ll find some common interests and things will progress much more smoothly.
Hope that helps and good luck!
Do you have own dating dilemma or relationship issue that you’d like some help with? I’m a leading Dating Coach and I work with the Asian Single Solution to make sure their members are successful in love. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I’ll answer some of the best ones here in this blog..anonymously of course!
The Dating Guru