Five Steps to Find Your Valentine

February 18th, 2020

Everyone wants someone to spend their lives with especially the “day of love” known as Valentine’s Day. If you’re single, it can be overwhelming to try and find a date. However, using these 5 steps, you’re bound to find your Valentine!

Step 1: Put yourself out there

Obviously, you’re not going to meet someone new if you’re sitting at home with all of the lights turned off. The only way to meet people is to put yourself where people are. Yes, you can sign up for a dating website membership and download a dating app. But if you want to meet more people, you’re better off getting out into the real world. Sign up for a class, learn to play an instrument, join community events, volunteer. Do something that puts you out in the world. After all, what are you going to answer when a potential date asks how you spend a typical day? Instead of crafting a magnificent story, be honest. If the truth is boring, then maybe you need to be more interesting. You won’t find your Valentine if you’re invisible.

Step 2: Be approachable

Now, getting outside into the real world is just the beginning. No one is going to approach you if you seem like you’re outside against your will. In order to be approached, you have to be approachable. What does that mean? It means you look interesting enough to want to talk to. You can accomplish this by dressing well, but not over-the-top. You want to have good hygiene as well. You want to smile, and make eye-contact whenever possible. If this sounds hard, maybe you need to work on your confidence before trying to find your Valentine.

Step 3: Be conversational

Putting yourself outside and smiling at people will only do so much if you can’t hold a decent conversation. Now, initiating a conversation isn’t always easy, but there are tricks you can learn. Develop your conversational skills with random people. This way, you’ll feel more confident in your search to find a Valentine. Of course, part of being conversational is knowing when it’s time to listen. Make sure you’re allowing other people to speak as well. Be a good listener, even if it takes work.

Step 4: Be prepared

When you’re looking to find a Valentine, you want to be prepared for the date. This means you want to have romantic plans made, even if you don’t have someone to share them with. Buy Valentine gifts for that special someone. Don’t put any names on the tags. This way, if you don’t manage to get a date, you can give the gifts to someone else in your life, like a family member or single co-worker. When you’re in the dating pool, it’s best to be ready for anything to happen. You could meet someone when you’re getting coffee before work or even through a friend. Treat every outing like a new opportunity to meet someone. This way, when you do meet someone, you’re prepared.

Step 5: Be confident

It isn’t always easy to exude confidence. If you’ve been single for a while, you may feel discouraged about dating. You may feel like you don’t have anything to offer someone. These thoughts are exactly what prevents you from finding someone. When you’re out and looking to find your Valentine, know your own worth. Before you start looking, boost your self confidence so you truly feel worthy of a romantic connection.

Happy dating!

James Preece – Dating Coach

www.asiansinglesolution.com

New Year – New Love

January 2nd, 2020

It’s almost the time of year that everyone sits down to plan their resolutions. Weight loss or better gym attendance. Finding a new career or finishing a project. The problem with resolutions is that most of us give them up after a few short weeks. If one of your 2020 resolutions is finding love, a few weeks isn’t going to make a difference. To help you find romance, here are a few tips you can start implementing into your life right now:

Step 1: Evaluate what you’re looking for.

Before you start looking for love, it’s important to know exactly what you’re looking for. This doesn’t mean create a partner in your mind with every detail thought out. You’ll never meet the perfect person. Knowing what you’re looking for means knowing what you will and won’t tolerate. Everyone has “deal-breakers”. Look over your own and decide which ones aren’t really that important. Now, you’ll meet a whole new criteria of people. It is also important to know what kind of relationship you want, before you start meeting people. You may find that you need to adjust your personal expectations. That is normal. When you’re creating these expectations, be realistic.

Step 2: Know where to find people

Now that you know who you want to meet, it’s time to figure out where you can meet this person. Do you want someone smart or interested in a vintage lifestyle? Try going to a museum, library or other gallery of information. You can meet someone almost anywhere. You probably have places that you visit regularly. These are your “go-to” places. Your favorite coffee shop. Your favorite bar. Your favorite book store. The fact is, you haven’t met someone in these places yet. Instead of sticking to what you already know, try stepping out. Go somewhere you’ve never been. Ask for recommendations from your friends. You never know what options await you when you’re trying something new.

Step 3: Put yourself in social situations

Knowing where to meet people is only the first step. The second step is actually putting yourself out there. It can be intimidating to go somewhere you’ve never been before. If you asked a friend for a recommended coffee shop, invite them along the first time. You’ll feel more comfortable going alone in the future. You don’t want to bring someone everywhere you go though. If you’re alone, you’re more approachable. If you’re accompanied by someone, people are going to give you privacy. Especially if your friend is someone of the opposite gender. If you’re stuck on ideas of where to go, here is a quick starter list:

Community events
Volunteer work
Classes / courses / workshops
Social events and gatherings (eg: Facebook events, concerts)
Festivals / Music Concerts
Office parties
Museums & other information centres (eg: art gallery, pop-up art installations, guided tours, local tourist attractions)

You always have the option of dating online and even hiring a match-making service. If you’re the type to be nervous in social situations, online dating may be a better option because there is less pressure than meeting someone face to face.

Step 4: Be someone that people want to approach

There are many things that go into being an approachable person. First, think about your appearance. To be approachable, you have to be unoccupied. You shouldn’t look busy, be on your phone or reading. You want to be available for conversation. Look around the room you’re in. Smile and make eye-contact with anyone who smiles at you. Allow conversation to develop naturally. But, don’t be afraid to make the first move! Initiate conversation with anyone you find interesting and see where it goes. Most importantly: Have fun and laugh often.

Step 5: Live your best life

If you focus too much on finding love, you may feel as though you’ve wasted a lot of time. The best thing to do is live your life and look for love on the side. Embrace being single for a bit. Enjoy spending time with yourself. You can even date yourself out on dates. If you feel you’re lacking in any area, take time to work on yourself. You can improve your personality or develop your social skills. You could take a cooking class or learn to play an instrument. You could even make a bucketlist and start crossing things off. Occupy your time with everything you love, while also putting yourself out in the world. You’re more likely to attract someone when you’re living your best life.

Step 6: Be patient

You have to remember that finding love isn’t a quick or easy process. You’ll likely meet people along the way and feel a connection that goes no where. You have to be patient throughout dating. You have to be confident that you will meet someone. Each failed date is a new learning experience.

Good luck!

James Preece

Dating Coach for AsianSingleSolution.com

Is Speed Dating dead?

December 10th, 2019

We’ve been running Singles Events for the last 17 years…with speed dating being a popular feature at almost all of them.

Speed dating is a very simple way for singles to meet each other quickly. The women sit down and men are placed opposite them. Every few minutes, a bell is rung and the men move on to chat to the next female. As the process is fast, it means participants can meet a large number of people in one evening. If they like each other they can connect afterwards to arrange a proper date.

However, times are changing. Online dating and dating apps have become so efficient that singles are able to chat instantly with anyone that they wish to. As such, speed dating parties have become slightly unnecessary. Why go out, when you can do the same thing without even having to leave the sofa?

So many companies no longer run speed dating parties and many of the big players have closed down over the years.

Our events have never just been about speed dating. We focus on bringing you larger parties that have icebreakers and hosts to introduce you. After all, the more people you meet in on evening then the better your chances of making a match. Events are also a great way to meet and catch up with friends. Plus our clients love to put a face to us and meet us first hand.

If you want a chat, advice or have suggestions come along to our events and say hi.

The good news is that we’ll still have optional speed dating at many of our larger events….just for a little extra fun. Our next event is at Valentines in 2020.

Let us know what you think. Are you still keen on attending events in 2020.

See you soon!

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Your Secret Weapon in Love

November 21st, 2019

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Our company has now been going for over 17 years, which is a huge amount of time in the dating industry. We’ve learned so much in that time and know all the secrets about making online dating work. The great news for you is that if you need help then all you have to do is ask. We can review your profile, photos and messages in order to make sure you are making the most of all your opportunities. The best thing is that it’s absolutely free for all paying members.

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We aren’t just about online dating – we also run regular Asian Singles parties too. For these, we have the very best hosts to help introduce you and have more available per event than any other company. We believe it’s important you get to know our staff so they can help you better.

Happy dating!

James Preece

www.asiansinglesolution.com