Archive for August, 2017

Five ways to guarantee a Second Date

Thursday, August 31st, 2017

First dates are fun, exciting, and usually pretty awesome.  However, sometimes they are can scary or boring and something you never want to want to repeat.

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So our goal is to make sure you always have an amazing first date.  That’s the easy part.  We then need to make sure that you get the second date!

Here are five ways to guarantee that second date:

1) The first way to guarantee a second date is ask for one.  This seems like the most obvious thing, but many first dates end with no set plan on if you will meet again, and then both parties are waiting for the other to call, text, message and nothing will ever happen. So find out if they’d like to meet again at the end of your first meeting.

2) Play it cool.  Don’t overdo it with the compliments or phrases that share what a great time you are having on the date.  Saying “I’m having a great time”  once is a good thing, it lets the other person know you are having a good time, but you don’t want to overkill it.

3) Remember to ask questions and listen to the answer.  When you and the date are conversing it shows that you have an interest in your date will make them feel involved.

 4) Keep the topics of conversation light.  You don’t want to talk about your medical issues, death or other heavy topics because you want to have fun and learn about the other.  The big stuff can wait until the fifth date or sometime afterwards once you know each a lot better. Leave them wanting to know more about you

5) Plan exciting dates.  Having coffee or cocktail dates is all very well, but if you are doing a lot of dating it can get tiring fast.  So think about how you can spice things up a bit and stand out from your competition.  If you date is the most exciting they’ve had in ages, they will naturally want to repeat it.  This is true whether you are male or female as you could be taking it in turns to plan your dates.

These are five simple ways to guarantee a second date with someone that you had a splendid first date with.  Attraction is a tricky thing, so just be honest with the date and have fun being yourself.

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Recent Success Stories and Feedback

Friday, August 11th, 2017


We’d had some great feedback recently



Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Great website! ” HS

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Good site. Mostly decent people” PS

“Great site and easy to use with lots of people to contact. I personally had great success on this site and would recommend it to others over other similar sites.” MR
“Very Happy with the service” KD

“This website is great and I met someone, but some advice to other people is you have to persevere and keep at it!” MP


If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]


Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

Why we Kiss

Thursday, August 3rd, 2017

For many people, the question of “why we kiss” seems fairly obvious. It’s all about sharing an intimate moment with someone we care about. It’s offering a deeper connection, demonstrating our vulnerabilities. Or sometimes, it’s about getting a feel for a new lovers’ skills. Kissing is just a great way to express your inner romanticism or a way to make a physical connection with someone else. Well, that does seem like the more the obvious reason to kiss someone, right?

But it’s not scientifically correct. That’s right, there’s a scientific reason for kissing someone!  It involves biological figures.

The fact is the study of kissing is actually called “philematology”. This is derived from the greek word (isn’t everything?) “philos”. The translation of that word means an “earthy love”. It’s a word that describes getting back to the roots. This is a suitable word for the study of kissing as  kissing itself feels like a connection to the root of the recipient. That’s why it often feels the most vulnerable, even though it’s such a simple action.

Philematology describes kissing as a way our bodies communicate chemically. The exchange of saliva is actually a way of determining physical compatibility. Your body will react likewise to the communications you aren’t even conscious of. You know how kissing can leave you absolutely breathless and make you fall head over heels in love with that person? Or it can turn you off completely and you’ll send them running for the exit? That’s the response to the chemical composition of the person you’re kissing. It can work either way depending on how skilled you are at doing it.

Over the years it’s been deemed that human beings used these chemical communications less and less. That our primal instinct to find the perfect partner for mating has been fading. But studies are arguing those assumptions by proving them entirely wrong. Studies are done to determine the likelihood of two people choosing to mate, using chemical compositions.

That might seem a little far fetched, but as a relationship expert I know how true it is. As we’ve evolved as human beings and our “ideals” have changed, you would think our bodies no longer look for this signals. The fact of the matter is that many of our “ideals” are actually just those same chemical responses. Whether it’s through kissing or the scent of another person, it’s in our DNA to find that “perfect someone”. Even if you’re not looking for an ideal mating partner, your body is. That’s just the way we were designed and there’s nothing you can do about it!

Interestingly, philematology determined that kissing can actually burn calories. You use around 25 facial muscles when you’re deeply kissing someone (only about 2 or 3 for a simple kiss). You also use over 100 postural muscles! Therefore, you can burn up to 25 calories every minute you’re in a heated make-out session. So make sure you’re putting those muscles to good use.

It’s all in the name of science, after all.

James Preece – Relationship Expert