Archive for June, 2012 featured in Asian Woman Magazine

Monday, June 25th, 2012

Check out this month’s Asian Woman Magazine


Special tips for the 50th issue.

Asian Single Solution are featured in the latest edition of Asian Woman Magazine. The Dating Guru,  James Preece answers online dating problems and gives some extremely useful tips and advice on how to avoid online dating cliches.

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Dating Guru Mailbag : Does it matter how many winks and emails I get?

Monday, June 18th, 2012

Here’s a letter to the Dating Guru

which you might find useful


“Dear James,  I seem to be proving popular on as I’ve had 100 emails and over 200 winks.  However, I’ve not met anyone perfect yet.  Can you give me any advice to increase my chances?  Thanks, K”

Hi K,

Thank you for your email.  It’s great that you have had so many winks and emails as it shows you are doing something right.  You’ve put some effort in to making sure you’ve got a decent photograph and profile so it’s clearly working.  However, you are making one fatal error – you haven’t initiated any contact yourself!

It really doesn’t matter how many people wink at you, add you to favourites or send you emails if they aren’t great matches.  If you want to be successful then you need to take control. Contact the members that YOU like the look of, not the other way round.   I always say this, but you must be proactive if you want to get good results.   By making contact yourself then you are initiating correspondence with quality people that are a great match for you.

By the way, Winking isn’t a great strategy. It comes across as lazy as it appears you can’t be bothered to to write a proper message.  It doens’t make anyone feel special and you run the risk of turning someone off before you’ve even spoken.  Every now and again it can work, providing you follow up with a message once you can see they’ve viewed your profile.



Good luck!


James Preece – The Dating Guru

Dating Guru Mailbag: Confidence is holding me back

Monday, June 11th, 2012

Here’s another question for the Dating Guru

Is it something you can relate to?

“Dear James,  please can you help?

I’m 22 and I’m starting to feel down that I’m not meeting anyone.  I joined which was great, but I met one man who put me off dating.  I feel closed off as I’m not very confident so I turn down invitations when friends ask me to go out with them.   What can I do? !”

Hi N,

Thank you for your question.

22 is too young to worry too much about having to “find someone” and settle down. If you spend too much time analysing each potential partner and stressing that you aren’t meeting the right people then you’ll make things worse. Instead, you should be focusing on having fun just dating men you think you might get on with.

Here’s my advice for you:

1) Accept every opportunity you get to go out and meet new people.   If your friends ask you to go out then go – you never know who might be there.  Open yourself up to new possibilities rather than being scared of them.

2) Try online dating again.  Don’t let one bad experience ruin it for you.  There are so many decent men, but you need to be proactive about contacting the ones you like rather than waiting for them to find you.   Don’t give up if some don’t write back as everyone likes different types.  Just stay proactive and contact at least 5 new men each day.


3) Attend a few singles parties.  The younger events often sell out faster for men, so you’ll have lots of choice!   If you need help, ask the hosts and they’ll make sure you feel confident and positive.

4) Do let you confidence be an issue.  Most people are shy, especially when it comes to be trying new things.  The more dates you have then the better you’ll get as you’ll become more relaxed.

Remember, dating is an adventure so play the game and see where it takes you.

Good luck!

If you’d like more in depth help then please do take a look at my website:


Twenty Top Turn Offs for Women

Monday, June 4th, 2012

Are you making a big dating mistake?

Here’s what women hate!

If you aren’t having much luck when it comes to holding down a relationship then there could be a good reason for this.  A recent survey featured the most annoying turn offs that men have.  Here are the results which you will hopefully find interesting..  See any that you are guilty of?


TOP 20 Turn Off’s for women

1. Not getting on with her family

2. Using her toothbrush

3. Leaving the toilet dirty

4. Hating her friends

5. Not being good with children

6. Being lazy

7. Having a big bushy beard that you never shave

8. Leaves nail clippings out

9. Driving like a boy racer

10. Being grumpy

11. Being a mummy’s boy

12. Using the toilet with the door open

13. Leaving dirty washing on the floor

14. Unkempt facial hair

15. Criticising her driving

16. Burping or farting

17. Not liking dogs

18. Not helping with washing up

19. Watching too much sport

20. Not helping with the cooking

Of course, nobody is perfect so if a few of these ring thrue then that’s quite acceptable.  However, if you do more than four things wrong from this list then you should do your very best to make more of an effort.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru