Archive for 2013

Season’s Greetings!

Monday, December 23rd, 2013

The team


wishes you a very happy Holidays



We hope you have a lovely break and enjoy the last few days of 2013.


James, Paul, Meera and Kuldeep




Our Asian Christmas Singles party was a Cracker

Monday, December 16th, 2013

We had a sell out crowd for our big Asian party on Saturday.

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Over 200 guests joined us for our last party of 2014.  We had an even ratio and many matches were made during the evening.

We had several rounds of speed dating as well as a fun ice breaking game, helped along by some new hosts.

The highlight of the evening was entertainment form dance group Bollywood Vibes.  They wowed the crowd with their special talent and we hope to have them again in the future.

Our resident DJ Titch rounded off the night by getting everyone dancing.

Thank you to everyone that came to make the night so special.  We hope you enjoyed it.

We’ve already had some great feedback including:

“A nice atmosphere, good vibes and great helpful staff”

“Cool Venue for the number of people”

Our first 2014 events are already up on the website so don’t delay and book now.

See you soon and have a lovely holiday break!

James, Paul, Meera and the team.

November Feedback

Monday, December 9th, 2013

Here are our November Feedbacks


for you to see

Here is a small selection of the emails that we had from our members:

“Nicely designed website, I’ve recently met someone via this which is going well ” JB

“The services provided on this dating website are very good.” JP

“I went to one event and it was pretty fun” RM

“Good service, easy to use site.” CC

“This is the best mobile optimized dating website.” JM

“Good service thank you very much :)” TV

“Had a good experience” PP

“Was generally happy using the site, easy to use, navigate and great way to interact with singles” YP

“Thank for all your help over past 1 year. I have finally met my soul mate on this site and we are very happy together. Thank you” AK

“Great service though so well done and keep up your hard work :)” JC

“Great site” ML


If you have your own please do share it with us: [email protected]


Best Wishes,

James Preece – The Dating Guru


Dating Guru’s Mailbag: Where does he go?

Monday, December 2nd, 2013

Here’s another dating problem

answered by our dating expert

“Dear James,

Please can you help?  I’ve been dating a lovely guy for the last two years.   He’s fun, intelligent, charming and things are generally pretty good between us.  However, sometimes he goes away on work business and a I don’ t hear from him during that time.  He says it’s because he’s so busy and tired from the travelling.  This can upset me but I don’t want to cause problems so I try not make a big deal out of it.  What can I do?   G ”


Hi G,

Thank you for your email.    To be honest he sounds like he’s not that bothered about whether he speaks to you or not.  He can’t be so intelligent and charming if he’s making you feel bad.   How hard would it be to send you a quick text, email or make a five minute phone call to catch up with you?   My guess is that he’s either up to something or he’s just thoughtless.  Either way, you should confront him over it.  Tell him ( with a smile) that you understand he’s busy, but  you are looking for a partner who doesn’t vanish for days on end. If he doesn’t change, then send him packing and find someone who will make time for you.

Good luck!

James Preece

The Dating Guru

Dating Guru’s Mailbag: I hate talking to new people

Monday, November 25th, 2013

Here’s another dating problem

for our Dating Guru

“Dear James,  I hope you can help me.  I’d love to attend one of your singles parties but I’m really really nervous about having to talk to new people.  I know it’s important if I want to make new friends, but I’m so scared of rejection.  What can I do?  Ben”

Hi Ben,

Thank you for your message.  Firstly, let me reassure you.  Almost everyone is nervous about meeting new people and having to go up and say hello.   Perhaps they’ll tell you to go away, be rude to you or ignore you altogether. The good news is that the things you are worried about are extremely unlikely to happen.  The reality is that all the guests are there for the same reason and they’d love you to introduce yourself.

Here are some quick tips which will help you:

1) Test yourself.   If you are shy about going up and talking, just try asking a question.  You could ask if they know where the toilets are or what time it is.  A simple question could start a longer conversation.

2) Use our hosts.   They are there to help make introductions and are the friendliest in the business.

3) Try the speed dating.  You only get to talk to each person for three minutes, so use this time as practice.  You’ll have to say hello and ask a few questions and each time it will get easier and easier.

4) Listen attentively.  The more you listen, then the more the other person will want to speak.  Ask lots of questions and show an interest about what they are talking about.

5) If someone doesn’t want to talk, smile and move on.   Perhaps they are even more nervous than you!    Don’t take it personally.

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Dating Profile Review: Neat

Monday, November 18th, 2013

Here is our latest online


profile review for you

Here’s a look at her current profile.


You have a lovely main head shot photo.   You are smiling happy and look like someone who would be fun to contact.   You also have some nice album shots too.   The museum sign shot probably isn’t needed as it’s not clear what it’s about and you aren’t that visible.  The others are great though!

OK, that might well be true but it’s not especially “interesting.”   Almost everyone writes that they like travelling in their profile so try and think of something more imaginative.  I like the travel buddy request as it’s a good way for someone to start a conversation with you, but I’d move that to the end of your “looking for” section instead.

Why do you have to “guess” that you need to do something?   It’s a weak wishy washy statement and makes you look like you have a hard job making decisions :)

So definitely take that out and make bold, positive statements only.  Having said that, the rest of the text is good.   Men want to know you are fun and low maintenance as it makes their lives easier.  In return, you’ll get more interest.

You just need to expand on your interests.  For example, rather than simply listing them, you could say things like  “I’m passionate about cooking and I love to learn new recipes.  I recently made a fantastic chocolate cake and I may pass on the recipe if our first date goes well!”

This starts off well but I think you really need  a clearer idea of the person you would like to meet.   Otherwise you won’t know when you finally meet them.  It’s good to be open minded, but it would help to list a few things that are important to you.  I’d leave out the bit about being manly and having nice biceps as it may make  decent guys think they have no chance.  You can still have this but making sure you contact guys who appear to have these traits.

In fact, that’s my final tip to you.  You’ve not contacted anyone!   You can’t sit back and wait for the men to wink or contact you.   Instead, you have to send out lots of messages to men you are interested in.  That’s the only way you can make this work and beat the competition :)

I hope this helps,



If you would like to have your profile reviewed and featured, then please email your request to [email protected] We’ll pick the best one each month and get our leading Dating Expert James Preece to offer you his advice on how to make it better in this blog.

Good luck!

James Preece – Dating Coach

Feedback from October

Monday, November 11th, 2013

Here are our October Feedbacks


for you to see

Here is a small selection of the emails that we had from our members:

“Good site and singles events” VP

“Met the love of my life here. Brilliant. Happy days.” TN

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : really good site thanks” SP

“very professional. you provide a great service for people in their search” MK

“Thanks…great dating website.” AP

” Met someone and getting engaged in December. Cheers” JG

“Thank you for all your support over the past few weeks. The site is well maintained and the support from your staff has been excellent” SB

“The website is easy to navigate, the history feature is a good idea.” UK

“It’s a good site and would recommend” KM

“The service was good” RP


If you have your own please do share it with us: [email protected]


Best Wishes,

James Preece – The Dating Guru


Happy Diwali 2013

Sunday, November 3rd, 2013

Happy Diwali 2013 from all at

Happy Diwali


Family and Friends are so important at this time of the year. As we move into the 11th year of SingleSolution services,  this is a time to reflect on the hundreds of happy couples that have met through AsianSingleSolution. Why not have a read through some of our success stories and recent feedback.



September Hindu and Sikh Dating Feedback

Saturday, October 12th, 2013

Here are our September Feedbacks


for you to see

Here is a small selection of the emails that we had from our members:

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single Feed back : I have met a wonderful man” TH

” I have met someone from the site and we are serious” HD

“Very good, like the site a lot” FW

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single Feed back : Great site” SS

“Service is brilliant” AL

“Great stuff” JS

“Good service.. was happy with it” DP

“Excellent site” SH

” I found the site very useful… I have finally found someone amazing on your site thanks….” MP

“Service was good and easy to use.” RR


If you have your own please do share it with us: [email protected]


Best Wishes,

James Preece – The Dating Guru


What is your biggest dating turnoff?

Monday, October 7th, 2013

We’d love to hear what

would put you off dating someone

First dates are all about making good first impressions.  If you don’t try hard enough then it’s very unlikely you’ll make a connection or persuade them to see you again.

Here are our top ten dating turnoffs which are made up of the most common complaints we hear.  We are including these so you can make sure you don’t make the same common mistakes!


1)  Turning up late

2) Rudeness and Bad Manners

3) Looking nothing like their photo in real life

4) Playing with their phone throughout the date

5) Being tight or mean about money

6) Boasting or trying too hard to impress

7) Coming on too strong too quickly

8) Poor dress sense

9) Not asking or answering any questions

10) Drinking too much

Remember, a little respect and courtesy can go a very long way.  You must always remember to be polite and show that you are genuinely happy to be with your date.  It’s not hard to have a good date but it’s even easier to mess them up if you don’t care enough!

These are ours, so what’s yours?   Please do add a comment to the blog to add your own.  We’d love to encourage some friendly debate and hear your own thoughts!

James Preece – The Dating Guru


Chat Resolved

Sunday, September 29th, 2013

Update 30th September.
The issue with chat has been resolved.  If you experience any issues you might get a pop-up telling you that you are offline. Please click the link in the pop-up.

Then please try the following.

1. Turn chat off then on again.

2. Log out then log in again.

3. Clear temporary internet files and cookies.

4. Try another browser.

If the issue persists, please Contact Us and describe the issue stating your browser type.




Update 29th Sept 2013.

Our developers made some changes to the chat function this week. I am sorry to say, that its not currently working, so has been temporarily disabled.

This will be resolved tomorrow (Monday) We apologise for the inconvenience caused.


Asian Single Solution

Dating Profile Review: Cosmopolitan

Monday, September 23rd, 2013

Due to popular request


here is another profile review

Here’s a look at her current profile:



Ok, this is a hard one!   You’ll be pleased to hear that I think you have a pretty good profile.

You look good in your photos and have clearly taken the time to write an interesting profile.  I can see you are getting a lot of interest, so something is clearly working.

You also have a great username!

However, you’ve asked me for help…so here are some suggestions:

1) You have a good selection of photos, but some of them are quite  dark/blurry when you look at your album.

2) You say you enjoy all those activities, but there is no evidence of this in your photos.  Perhaps add one or two of you taking part in them, to give the album more fun and variety.

3) You come across as a bit of a “tough cookie”    That’s not necessarily a bad thing, but you could try softening it a little. At the moment you sound very strong minded and masculine.

4)  Write more about the person you’d like to meet.  It’s quite generic at the moment and could apply to lots of people.   You need to write something that resonates with your Mr Right!

5) No need to write things like “If you would like to read further”  as it’s just extra padding.  It’s always better to focus on selling yourself rather than pointing out obvious things.

Good luck!



If you would like to have your profile reviewed and featured, then please email your request to [email protected] We’ll pick the best one each month and get our leading Dating Expert James Preece to offer you his advice on how to make it better in this blog.

Good luck!

James Preece – Dating Coach

August Success stories

Monday, September 16th, 2013

August was another


great month for us

Here is a small selection of the emails that we had from our members:

I joined 3 days ago and have 4 dates lined up, believe me, I’m very picky – talk about instant results!?!” JB

“Services were good. Lots of events.” AS

“Good service for Asians looking to find someone for their future” DP

“Good site, great job” SP

“Really good concept” NG

“Well run organization. I appreciated being responded to by your staff immediately (meera was great)” BM

“A good site to meet local singles” MB

“I met someone on your web site within two weeks” KN

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Great!” JN

” I met my wife through your website 2 years and have just celebrated our 1st wedding anniversary last month so thank you for helping me find my soul mate.” SG


If you have your own please do share it with us: [email protected]


Best Wishes,

James Preece – The Dating Guru


Single Solution is now part of the Online Dating Association

Wednesday, September 11th, 2013

The Single Solution brand

is part of a new dating initiative.

We have agreed to sign up with other online dating sites as founding members of the Online Dating Association (ODA)

This will be a new body set up to make sure customers are treated fairly and to keep them safe from scammers.

You can find out more information using the link here:

Our July Success Stories

Monday, August 12th, 2013

Here is our most recent

feedback from July

Here is a small selection of the emails that we had from our members:

“The services are good keep up the good work in bringing people together.” PB

“The website was simple and effective in searching for matches have already recommended it to friends” SD

“Very good service…may of met the women of my dreams” RJ

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Professional and user friendly.” AC

“The site has being surprisingly fruitful. The infrastructure in terms of page design, content etc… is perfect but I was slightly concerned that there would be the kind of person I would be looking for on here… but there’s a good mix and it worked out really well. Thanks” SK

“Very reliable and friendly.” DH

“Thanks! Found someone great.” RL

“Very good. Much better response rates than free sites. Would recommend this to anyone.” JK

If you have your own please do share it with us: [email protected]


Best Wishes,

James Preece – The Dating Guru


New Feature: Private Notes

Monday, August 5th, 2013

We have a fantastic new feature

which we hope you will enjoy

Have you ever wished there was an easier way to keep track of all the people you are messaging and dating?  Well now there is.

We’ve launched the new “private notes” feature.

With this, you can write down anything interesting or important that you need to remember about them.  For example, they might have asked you to contact them at a later date or told you something you need to keep in mind.

You can find it when you view someone’s profile, just below the icons:

It’s so easy. Just type want you to want to and press save.

Once you’ve made a note, you’ll notice a “private notes” button appears on each profile you’ve used this feature for.  This can be seen in the search results.

You’ll also be able to run a search based purely on people you’ve made notes about.


Needless to say, as this is private then the other person will have no idea you’ve written anything about them.  It’s just for your eyes only!


Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Yet another success!

Monday, July 29th, 2013

Congratulations to our latest


happy couple!

This is already proving to be the Summer of love as we’ve had yet another success story:

“”I was first attracted to Sheetal’s profile because of her pictures and the detail on her profile. We realised we lived nearby and hit it off straight away. After some exchanges of messages we decided to have a first date! To be honest it’s one we both will never forget as it ended up being in the most busiest pub in Leicestershire on a Friday night (bad choice)! After this we frequently met each other as we live less than 5 mins from one another! It turned out we had over 30 mutual friends on facebook and our families were already friends for over 35 years although we’d never met (so talk about a small world!)As time went on, we both knew exactly where it was going and what we both wanted. As soon as families got involved it was like a match waiting to happen! Today I’m happy to say I’m engaged to the woman I love and I will spend the rest of my life with. I proposed to Sheetal at an intimate picnic in a secluded country park. Our wedding is set for May next year.If it wasn’t for Asian Single Solution, we wouldn’t be here!

If you have your own success story then please do let us know. We love to hear about your matches – so don’t be shy – let us know!
You can email us at [email protected]
Best Wishes,
James and Paul

Dating Guru’s Mailbag: Is he wasting my time?

Monday, July 22nd, 2013

Here is this week’s Dating Dilemma


Answered by our Dating Guru

“Hi James.  I am 20 yrs old and this guy is 25 years old. We met at a mutual friends party which was a night out, I thought he was really attractive but never thought he would have any interest, but he quickly approached me and we spent most of the night talking, and really clicked (well he texted the next day to say that we did) .
For the next couple of weeks there was some texting between us (i live about 2 hrs away where i go to uni) whereas he works in my home town. We tried to meet up when i was down but we were both busy. Then there was more texting, but this time it was not as much as before, i don’t reply as much and hes the same now. But he sometimes flirts and texts me to “hurry up home” and “next time youre down im seeing you”. This week ive come home and i told him about it last week, he hadnt replied so i assumed he wasnt interested, he texted me a few days ago saying he didnt realise im back and if im still around and that he thought id have told him… Its early days, but im just so confused, theres playing hard to get.. and then theres this!  Should i even bother meeting him this weekend if he asks? A”

Hi A,

Many thanks for you question.

I’m sorry that this guy is messing you around.  Perhaps he’s not sure what he really wants or has a girlfriend already.

Guys do this quite a lot as they enjoy the attention and the flirtation. They just aren’t quite ready to settle down as they’ve not grown up yet!  So they string you along with false hope until they get round to making a decision.

The distance and time apart may be a barrier to him.

Having said all that, if he does ask you out this weekend then you might as well give him a chance. If you see him, tell him the truth about how you feeling and that it’s not acceptable.  Say it in a friendly way rather than telling him off, but you need to stand up for yourself or his behaviour will never change.

If things go well then make sure keep up the texting in between seeing each other so it doesn’t fizzle out again.  Make sure you speak on the phone often too as it’s better than texting.

If you don’t hear from him then you should probably just delete his number, write him off as a timewaster and look forward to meeting a better guy next time.

I hope things work out for you one way or another :)

Best Wishes,



If you have your own dating dilemma please email me via  [email protected]

Good luck!

James Preece – the Dating Guru

Another Asiansinglesolution Success

Monday, July 15th, 2013

We have news of another great match


Congratulations to them both!

Here is yet another success story that reached us this week.  Here is there story:

“I met Sanj on this site, he sent me a mess in December and we spoke on the phone a few times and then eventually went on a date in feb. We didn’t instantly hit it off but we knew that there was something there and decided to meet again. We had a great 2nd date and it all started off from there really and have not looked back since.I have had many dates via your website but never really had a great deal of chemistry with most men but once you know I guess you know just like they all say and really beleive that now. I thought my happy ever after would never happen as I have tried to meet the man of my dreams for a while and eventually gave up hope and gave up in the end I guess.But just so glad that he sent me that message and gave each other a chance.
If you have your own success story then please do let us know.  We love to hear about your matches – so don’t be shy – let us know!
You can email us at [email protected]
Best Wishes,
James and Paul

June Feedback

Monday, July 8th, 2013

Please read all about our


feedback from June

Here is a small selection of the emails that we had from our members:

“Good service with regular events” TP

“It’s good to have these opportunities as some people do not have time to meet singles.” SR

“I think its good site and one of the best dating sites, easy to use and get the hang around” TS

“Really good service” MS

“Thank you so much this site was amazing! I met the man of my dreams and now am officially taken!”  SA

“great way to meet people” PM

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single Feed back : I liked this site and it worked for me.” NS

“Happy happy with your service” SB

“I have now found the man that I want to marry and spend the rest of my life with – he is a very lucky man indeed! Good luck to the rest of the single ladies out there I hope they can be as happy as I am xx” MT”

“Have met a lot of good people on the site.” NM

“Great site easy to navigate around” VP

“Very good and nice events.” Vm



If you have your own please do share it with us: [email protected]


Best Wishes,

James Preece – The Dating Guru


Dating Profile Review: SS1984

Monday, July 1st, 2013

Here is another


profile review for you

Here’s a look at his current profile:



Thank you for your request.  Your profile is very friendly and you definitely come across as a nice guy.   However, there are some improvements you could make.

Here are a few suggestions that may help:

1) Do you have any more photos?  Just one isn’t really enough.  Perhaps try a full body shot or one of you wearing something smarter.  I think you look a little embarassed in your current photo…as if you didn’t really want it taken.

2) The main profile text is fine but it’s quite generic.  What is special about you?

3)Ask a question or end with an invitation.  It will help women looking at it find a reason to get in touch with you.

4) You only seem to have actually contacted three people?  Online Dating is competitive so you must contact anyone that you like the look of, with a reply paid credit. That way they can read and respond.  The messages you have sent are too long so cut them down and get to the point!

5) What exactly is your job? I’d expect that most people would be a little confused by it?

6)  Finally, most of your interests are very “masculine”   You want to list some that women can have in common with you.  It’s fine to talk about what you like but think of some things that a partner can identify with.  At the moment, Formula 1, Snooker and DIY are unlikely to be good matches.


I hope this helps,



If you would like to have your profile reviewed and featured, then please email your request to [email protected] We’ll pick the best one each month and get our leading Dating Expert James Preece to offer you his advice on how to make it better in this blog.

Good luck!

James Preece – Dating Coach

Dating Guru’s Mailbag – I can’t work him out!

Monday, June 24th, 2013

Here is another dating problem

for our Dating Expert


Hi James,

I’m very confused so please can you help? It all began when we were introduced via facebook through my brother. I messaged him first and he texted back with lots of smileys and with very bubbly enthusiasm. He seemed more than excited to meet up. However when we did meet he couldn’t even look or speak to me. He’d only reply briefly to a question I’d ask every now and then. Then later on as the days went by and we met up more frequently he became more relaxed and was able to look at me and initiate brief convo. Later he’d always go to his room and he’d stay there like he always usually does, away from the rest of us in his own little world.

(a brief note: his 3 siblings have told me how he was always the shy quiet child playing alone when they were kids. They said he had a shell and it needed time to break down. And he’s only ever had 1 girlfriend his entire life, that too was because the girl begged him, they say)

So then he left back to his home town and I tried to occasionally keep in touch through fb. He’d be nice with smiley faces and a few sentences, but whenever I felt he was comfortable enough with me and I tried asking simple things to get to know him as a person like hobbies and things, he wouldn’t reply and he’d just ignore my messages. I thought to myself, ‘I’m always the one initiating and no matter what I do, he won’t open up. I give up. He’s not interested’. Then just a week ago I saw him online on fb and I said hi. He was happy to hear from me (as always when he talks) and asked me many questions about my uni. He made the effort to keep the conversation going and then left again..

Basically, I don’t know what’s going on. A big part of me tells me he’s not interested. but if that’s the case, why does he even bother having a conversation anyway?  PLEASE tell me what on earth is going on inside his head???”


It does certainly sound like he is giving you very conflicting messages, so it’s no wonder you are confused.

There are two possibilities here:

1) He is indeed very shy and likes you.  The fact he couldn’t look you in eye and is asking all these questions now indicates this. Usually these types of people are shy because they have been hurt in the past so will act strangely to protect themselves. If he’s worth it then you should work towards breaking down his barriers.

2) He’s not interested but doesn’t know how to let you know.  Sometimes men string women along just to avoid hurting their feelings OR as an ego boost they don’t want to lose.

Either way, he’s not being fair to you and he needs to stop playing games with your emotions.

You’ve not said anything why you like him.  What do you have in common?  Are you genuinely interested in dating him or has he become such a challenge that you want to work out the mystery?

The only way you are ever going to really know what is going on is to gently confront him about his behavior. Do this face to face rather than by Facebook. Tell him you like him and would love to know what where you stand.  Don’t be too demanding or he won’t be honest.

If he doesn’t offer any kind of answer to you then it’s time to just delete him from your friends list and move on. Spend your time getting to know someone else who is ready to make time for you and deserves you.

I hope everything works out well for you.

James Preece

The Dating Guru

Our May Feedback

Monday, June 17th, 2013

May was a brilliant month

with lots of great feedback

Here is a small selection of the emails that we had from our members:

“Fantastic job on updating the website” TM

” It is a good service and the website re-fresh is good.” JP

“The events were great way forward” MC

“Excellent site!  Found the love of my life. Thank you so much.” SA

“Hi, I met someone on your dating site, and I am happy with the service” MC

“I would like to thank you and you guys running a very good site.” KP

“I think your services are great ESP your events. You’re site is a great way to meet people. It’s a great service for single professional people.” MP

“Very useful website with good criteria making it easier to search” JD

“Asian single solution events have been great”  JF

“I think this a good starting step for single Asians”  AP



If you have your own please do share it with us: [email protected]


Best Wishes,

James Preece – The Dating Guru


Dating Guru’s Mailbag – Are the stars against us?

Monday, June 10th, 2013

Here’s another dating dilemma

for our Dating Guru

“I have been going out with someone for the past three years now and the last five months have been the worst as in he has been very distant as he is having some family and financial issues. Also he claims he is bad luck according to the astrology, he is Sikh and I’m Hindu. I have been understanding til now but i don’t believe in astrology so I’m just trying to make him feel as ease by saying we can take part in some prayers or something to make it better.

The worst thing is that due to our different religions, i knew my parents wouldn’t accept it but with a lot of persuasion from me my parents agreed to meet him. That’s when things went downhill from there.
i really don’t know what to do. I’m meeting him on Thursday and I don’t know if i should still fight or just let him go after fighting with my parents for more then 18 months.
I’m 28 and he is 30 and i am ready to get married and settle down. i thought he was too as he used to tell me to talk to my parents several times.
Please advise me.  B”
Dear B,
Thank you for your message.  You must be going through a very confusing time.
I’m sorry to say this, but there are a lot of alarm bells ringing here.  He’s being distant and blaming strange things such as Astrology.  To most people, Astrology is just a bit of fun, not something that should ever be taken seriously.  Perhaps he’s just getting cold feet and is stressed, so give him a bit of space for a few weeks and don’t put any pressure on him.
Once this two week break is over, then meet and tell him everything that’s on your mind. Tell him it’s his last chance and find out what’s really holding him back.
If this doesn’t make a difference, I think the best thing to do would be to free yourself from this relationship. Then and only then can you find someone who is prepared to give you the time and focus you deserve. Sometimes it’s best to just stop fighting if the person isn’t helping you.   Even if he promises to change and make an effort I’m not convinced it will last.


Good luck!

James Preece

The Dating Guru


Dating Guru’s Mailbag: Scared of commitment?

Monday, June 3rd, 2013

Here is this week’s Dating Problem

Answered by our Dating Guru

“Dear James, I’ve been seeing a guy for a couple of month’s now and things have been going great. However, whenever I try to make plans for the future or talk about us being a “couple” he always changes the subject.  What can I do to stop him being so scared of commitment?  R”

Hi R,

Thank you for your email.  He definitely sounds like a commitment phobe. By this I mean that he is someone who finds it extremely difficult to settle in to a relationship.  There can be a wide number of reasons for this and it might not be that big of a problem.  Perhaps he’s been badly hurt in the past or he’s worried about other issues in his future.   Here are my top tips to try and resolve this:

1) Talk it through.  Find out exactly what his concerns and worries are. Perhaps his parents were in an unhappy relationship or he fears you are much too good for this.  Talking should always be the first course of action and it can be the fastest way to resolve things.

2) Reassure Him. Let them know you aren’t planning on taking over the rest of his life – just that you really like him and want the world to know.  It takes a little courage to commit to someone so make sure he knows you aren’t going to break his heart or run off with his laptop.

3) Give him time.   The longer the two of you are together then the more likely he’ll see you as a couple.  Two months isn’t that long, so give him a bit longer.

4) Trust your instincts.    If you really don’t think he’s ever going to commit to you then it might be best to move on.


Good luck!

James Preece – the Dating Guru

Dating Profile Review: Ms Smile

Thursday, May 23rd, 2013

Due to popular request

here is another profile review

Here’s a look at her current profile:



This is a much tougher call than normal as you are doing lots of things right!

Firstly, you have a lovely smiling photo and also a great user name.  It’s so important to come across as a friendly, like able person and you sell yourself well in the profile text too.

You have a good mix of hobbies and sound very interesting which is fantastic.

However, there are a few suggestions that may help:

1) Believe it or not, but there are some men who may feel intimidated by you, your lifestyle and your job.   So for this reason you may not get as much contact as you like.  That’s actually good news as you filter out anyone who isn’t a good match right away.

2) Add your religion or parent’s religion even if you aren’t practising.  This is because this is important to a lot of people and they search for this when looking.  By not specifying at all, you won’t come up in their searches.

3) This is the MOST important tip I can give you.  You don’t seem to have actually contacted anyone on the website?   To get success, you can’t sit back and wait for the guys to contact you.  It’s competitive so you must contact anyone that you like the look of, with a reply paid credit.  That way they can read and respond.

It’s not about how many clicks or emails you get, but about you targeting the right men for you.  If you need more help with this then please contact me directly.

4) Move the bit about your job to the “about your job” section.    The same goes for the interesting fact, which we use at the events as an icebreaking tool.  You could move the section about zip-lining here.

4) Finally, do write a bit more about the person you hope to meet.  You need to write something that will resonate with them and make it feel like you are connecting with them directly.  Think about who this could be.  What are their interests, hopes and dreams?

I hope this helps,



If you would like to have your profile reviewed and featured, then please email your request to [email protected] We’ll pick the best one each month and get our leading Dating Expert James Preece to offer you his advice on how to make it better in this blog.

Good luck!

James Preece – Dating Coach

Feedback from April

Sunday, May 12th, 2013

Here is the latest feedback

that we had in April

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single ” KG

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single Feed back : Excellent way of meeting people.” SL

“Many thanks. Great site”  SP

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single Feed back : Life changer” AB

“Very good” DP

“Best dating site I’ve been on, easy to use and good responses”  AN

” I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single. It was very good” PH

“Good site and services offered.” AP

“Thank you, he’s perfect for me. :)” AR

“A very useful site..!!” PK

“I met someone and so far things seem to be going well” KP

“Thank you very much I met my life partner from this website.” BP



If you have your own please do share it with us: [email protected]


Best Wishes,

James Preece – The Dating Guru


Donation to DEC

Thursday, May 9th, 2013

Last month we agreed to give £3 of each ticket sold for our 27th April parties to the Disasters Emergency Committee, to support innocent victims of the current crisis in Syria.

The total was £600. Here is the letter. Thank you to everyone to came to that event supporting this cause.


If you wish to read more or to donate please visit their website


New Site Launches

Monday, April 29th, 2013

Our new look site is now live.

Please let us know if you experience any issues or if you like it and want to share this with us. Please email us to [email protected]

We have added new fields into the profiles for Personality, Interests, Music etc. Please go to Edit Profile and spend a few minutes to check update your details.

All issues that we know of are now resolved. Please let us know if you find anything else.

Scheduled Maintenance 29th April

Sunday, April 28th, 2013

Please be advised that the new look site is finally being unveiled tomorrow, Monday 29th April.

The site will therefore need to be down for a significant part of Monday morning. We hope to get things up and running by about 2 or 3pm.

If you have any issues or find anything not working once the site comes on please  Contact Us

The site will include lots of new features such as

  • New modern look and improved navigation
  • New App-Like mobile site
  • Messaging presented as in-line conversations
  • Easier Search and more effective searching
  • Enlarged images throughout the website
  • New chat features

New video

Our newest venue

Monday, April 22nd, 2013

This Saturday’s party

is at a brand new venue


We’ve got an amazing party lined up this Saturday.  We are very pleased to be holding this in a brand new venue “Pause Bar”

The venue is exclusive and not normally open to the general public so we are very fortunate to be able to use it. Pause offers great cocktails, stunning interiors and a vibrant atmosphere to party and network creating the ultimate nightlife experience.


To celebrate this fantastic new location, we are offering a free drinks reception for the first 30 minutes.   So you’ll need to arrive on time to take full advantage for this!

We’ll have our usual mix of ice breaking, optional speed dating and great hosts to introduce you.  We’ll also have our resident DJ – Titch – to play party music later in the evening.


Please do book up so we can make this party a huge success, meaning we can continue to use Pause for future parties.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Our March Feedback

Wednesday, April 10th, 2013

March was another great month

and here are some feedbacks:

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single Feed back : Thanks ” AK

” I thought the site very very good” TS

“Easy to use and safe site. ” JP

“Services are great ” KP

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single Feed back : Amazeballs! ” JA

“Good service, good amount of events ” TP

“I found the site easy to use and enjoyed the events that i attended” GP

“The event I attended was a good experience and have recommended friends to attend in future” JS

“Hi, I met my girlfriend and future wife on your website” RN

” I went to one of your events and had a great time” SP

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single Feed back : Fab!” JT

” Think it is a great site, no complaints! ” AJ


If you have your own please do share it with us: [email protected]


Best Wishes,

James Preece – The Dating Guru


Top 5 ways you can avoid dating weirdos

Monday, April 8th, 2013

Here’s how to make sure you only

meet lovely people with online dating

Online dating is a fantastic way to meet lots of people quickly.   While most people are going to be lovely, a small section might be harder to deal with.  So here are my five quick tips to make sure you don’t attract any weirdos or oddballs:

1) If someone seems a bit odd then do let us know.  There is a report button on each profile.  If you notify us then we can investigate.

2) Don’t give anyone your full name or email until you’ve met.  Otherwise they might Google or Facebook you.  Perfect for stalkers.

3) Don’t be afraid to cut off all contact and block their profile if you get any warning signs.  They can’t see your profile after that.

4) Don’t go for long dinners on a first date.  Keep it to a one hour drinks or coffee meetings so you can escape if need be.

5) Don’t give them false hope or sleep with them if you don’t want to see them again.  Being strung along can bring out the dark side of anyone!

Good luck!

James Preece

The Dating Guru

Dating Profile Review: Nelly0285

Tuesday, March 26th, 2013

Here is another free Profile Review

from our Dating Guru

Here’s a look at your current profile:


My first thoughts are that while you have a great photo, the second photo looks even better.  Try and change it and see what happens.

More importantly,  you really need to write more about yourself.

Most of the things you write could be said by 99% our members.  Would anyone describe themselves as dishonest or that they can’t stand their friends or family?  It’s just too generic.

Talk about what makes you special and why you are different from everyone else on the site.  What else do you like to do in your spare time?  What are you passionate about?  Is there anywhere you would like to visit?
You’ve also duplicated the section about the type of person you want to meet.  I’d suggest you take that out of the first section and then spend a little more time describing the person you wish to date.

It’s good that you add on an invitation as it gives everyone a reason to contact you.


If you would like to have your profile reviewed and featured, then please email your request to [email protected] We’ll pick the best one each month and get our leading Dating Expert James Preece to offer you his advice on how to make it better.

Good luck!

James Preece – the Dating Guru

Our February Feedback

Monday, March 18th, 2013

February was a great month

and here are some feedbacks:

“Very impressed with what you offer”  JG

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single Feed back : Good website and easy to use.” MA

” The service was great thank you. ” AM

“Great website, thank you. Met someone who is perfect ” HG

“Good service and good events ”  AM

” Brilliant services ” PC

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single. Feed back : very good thanks ” MT

“Good service with a large population and many of them active and decent. ” SK

“A great service, would highly recommend. ” DR

“I have met someone through your site that has the potential to hopefully become serious. So jumping off the site for now to see where it leads! ” JJ

” I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single. Feed back : Very good. I enjoyed it ”  PD

If you have your own please do share it with us: [email protected]


Best Wishes,

James Preece – The Dating Guru


Dating Profile Review – MrValentino

Monday, March 11th, 2013

Here is our first free Profile Review

from our very own Dating Guru

Here’s a look at your current profile:


Ok, I’ll start with some good news for you – your profile is actually pretty good!  You’ve clearly spent time putting it together and making it sound interesting.  You are also proving popular on the site which is great.   However, there are few tips I can suggest that may improve your chances even further:

1) Smiling Photos.  You mention that you do smile but your photos look so very glum and serious.  They are fine for album shots, but you’ll get more interest if you add a few happier shots.

2) Don’t say you look young for your age, but let others make their own mind up.  There’s not a day that goes by without someone telling me they don’t look their age.

3) Everyone says they like staying in or going out, so try and describe this in a littl more details. It stops it being too generic.

4) Explain a little more about your job as not everyone will understand that it is that you do.

5) Get rid of the last line “Arrogant, high maintenance and pretentious women may need not apply! ”      I understand why you put this but it makes you sound very negative and might put a suitable partner off contacting you.  It’s better to try and remain friendly and positive at all times.

Other than that you’ve got a great profile, so stay proactive and contact lots of people and you’ll reap the results.

If you would like to have your profile reviewed and featured, then please email your request to [email protected]      We’ll pick the best one each month and get our leading Dating Expert James Preece to offer you his advice on how to make it better.

Good luck!

James Preece – the Dating Guru

Why did they dump me?

Monday, March 4th, 2013

Being dumped is never easy

Especially if they don’t tell you why

A break up is always a period of disappointment, frustration, annoyance and sadness.  This can be made worse if you weren’t expecting it and they won’t talk to you about it.  There could be many reasons why they ended it – the most common of which I’m going to explain here in this blog.

1) They just aren’t ready to commit or give you want you want. This is one of the most common causes for a break up. If you don’t want to settle down yet then you aren’t giving them any “emotional security.” You are preventing them from getting what they want in their lives and this will result in you getting dumped.

2) They don’t trust you. Perhaps they’ve caught you lying or cheating one two many times. There comes a point when enough simply has to be enough. If the issue is with them then there isn’t much you can do if you aren’t to blame.

3) They thought you were trying to change them. If you are too critical and constantly nagging them to do things then it’s natural for them to assume you think they aren’t good enough for you.

4) The know deep down that you aren’t “the one.”  If the chemistry and passion are no longer there then it’s kinder to end it. Otherwise the end result will be inevitable.

5) You aren’t treating them right. Love is a two way thing and if you make them unhappy then there is no chance of a future. So always be respectful and show them how much you mean to them while you are dating to stop this break up reason happening.



The best way to get over a break up is to start dating again. It won’t be easy, but once you do you’ll begin to realise there ARE other people out there that will result in a much better relationship.

Good luck!

James Preece

The Dating Guru

January Feedback and Successes

Monday, February 25th, 2013

Please have a read of a selection

of our January Feedbacks.


We love to hear your success stories and get emails every day saying how much you are enjoying the site.

Here are just a few of the latest:

“Great service..great way to meet someone! ” NK

“Through your website I have found my Mr Right :)” GK

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single” MR

“Hi I’ve been a member for the last couple of years and managed to attend a couple of your events which were superb for mixing and meeting liked minded people” AP

“The service is good; it allows many opportunities to meet new people ”  JR

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Good Website, easy to use. Many thanks”  BN

“The service is good and I am meeting people throught this, thanks” SK

“Generally think that it is a really good service” NP

” You are providing a great service. Keep it up!” KL

“great services, would recommend to others” AN

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single.  Feed back : cheers, champers on me!!!” DG


“A good up to date website which is used by single people.” VM

“I found the website very productive” KP

“Made some good friends on the site.. thank you.” GB


If you have your own please do share it wish us:   [email protected]


Best Wishes,

James Preece – The Dating Guru


How to get rid of unwanted attention

Monday, February 18th, 2013

Do you ever find yourself

stuck talking to people you’ve rather not?

There are people out there who just can’t take a hint. You talk to them for a little while and once you’ve realised you don’t want to carry on then they just won’t take the hint. So how do you break off the conversation without upsetting them?  Here are my suggestions on how to avoid this:

1) Just get up and go.  It’s as easy as that.  Explain that you would like to get a drink, want to catch up with a friend or simply that you want to speak to a variety of people. Tell them you really enjoyed talking to them and you’ll chat to them again later in the evening.

2) Never accept a drink if you aren’t interested. If you do, you’ll be obliged to stay talking with them for the duration of your drink. It’s better to buy your own drinks and be free to mingle.

3) If you are at a singles event, use a host to help. Tell them if someone won’t leave you alone and we’ll quickly introduce them to a more suitable match.

4) Whatever happens, be polite. You never know who might be watching or who they might be able to connect you with. It’s fine to tell them you aren’t a good match, but do it respectfully and be as friendly as possible.

5) Never dish out personal contact info to anyone you don’t intend to communicate with. It sounds pretty obvious but some people will still send over all their contact info ( or hand out a business card) to anyone and everyone. Don’t give anyone false hope that you will meet up with them again or you mind find they get frustrated and keep trying to get an explanation


Happy dating!

James Preece – the Dating Guru

Online Dating Profile Workshop

Monday, February 11th, 2013

Would you like some help with your

Online Dating Profile?

Would you like to get some feedback on your dating profile?  Wish you had more hits?   Can’t work out why nobody is contacting you?

Then it’s time to get some help.
Each month,  our Dating Guru James Preece will take a look at one profile.   He’ll rewrite it and offer his expert opinion on what would make things better for you.

James has been a Dating Expert for over seven years now,  helping 1000s of singles and giving dating advice to countless magazines, newspapers, radio and TV shows.

If you’d like to be considered for this, then please email him at  [email protected]  with your username in the message so he can take look.   The person who he believes he can help most next month will be featured in this blog.

We’d also like our members to offer their own (contructive) thoughts and insights too.   You’ll be able to do this by commenting on each blog.


If you’d pefer more detailed, one-to-one help or coaching you can reach him at:



December Feedback and Success Stories

Monday, January 28th, 2013

December was a very busy month for us


and we had lots of lovely emails


We love to hear how you are getting on with the website.  Have you had some lovely dates or met Mr or Miss Right?  If so, please let us know and we’ll share it with all our other members.  Unless you say differently, all quotes are anonymous.    Please do get in touch as you could be helping others!

Here are just a few emails we had in December:

“Generally the service has been good and it is a good site. If i am single again I would definitely sign up again.” MB

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single. Feed back : Good website. Thanks for helping me find my soulmate!” PP

“Good website. Varied people on here. ” ND

“Very good to get to know people who are like minded” PJ

“Very good!”   MJ

“Dating site gave me a good confidence boost” KC




James Preece

The Dating Guru

Our 2013 Valentine’s Party is on sale

Monday, January 21st, 2013

The Asian Single Solution Valentine’s Party

The Undercover Band

is always one of our busiest events

This year, our Valentine’s party will take place at the always popular Abbey Bar in Victoria and we have the whole venue to ourselves. So we want this to be the biggest, best singles party that we’ve ever had.

So to help things along ( and due to popular request!) we are delighted to welcome back the Undercover Band.  We’ll also have optional speed dating, icebreaking, hosts to look after you and more.

Tickets are starting are incredibly low £15 to encourage early bookings, but they must go up to £25 very shortly.

Please do tell your single friends about this so you can all come along and celebrate with us

About The Undercover Band

As special entertainment we have a full 5 piece Covers Band to get everyone in the party mood later in the evening. Dancing optional!

UnderCover are an exciting and fresh West London based party band. Comprising of experienced, professional-quality musicians, UnderCover play an eclectic mix of music which ranges from the rocking and rolling sound of the sixties to present-day pop.

We’ve had them at a few parties now and they’ve always been very popular.

See you there!

James and Paul

Another engagement

Monday, January 14th, 2013

We’d like to share our news

of our latest successful couple


“Dear Asiansinglesolution,

Trying to get to know if a person is right for you can be very hard, me and Harprit clicked “just like that” in a space of a week! By the time we actually met, I felt like we knew each other for years our hobbies sense of adventure and what we wanted out of life were the same. After our first date our main impressions were that we couldn’t believe we actually existed! Everything has worked out perfectly for us and set to get engaged soon!

The main things are don’t give up and be yourself don’t change for anyone! Its a hard journey to find that special person but you will pull it off everyone does. We are both unbelievably happy right now and can’t wait to spend our life’s together! “
We’d like to wish Harprit and Sanjeet a wonderful future together.
Could you be next?
James and Paul

New Year – New Start

Monday, January 7th, 2013

Happy New Year!

This is your chance to get what you want.

2013 is hear always and it’s out with the old and in with the new.   It’s the time that we all make new year’s resolutions.  For some it’s to lose weight, get a new job or to meet someone new.

Online dating sites like  are always incredibly busy at the start of every new year.  We have so many new people signing up who would love to meet you.  There’s no better time than right now, so do make sure you have Premium or Premium Plus membership and take full advantage now.  All you need to do is write a great profile, add a nice photo or two and then start contacting the people you like the look of.

If you aren’t sure what to say then perhaps you can just wish them Happy New Year or ask if they had a good holiday.  It’s not so much about what you say, but about making a good first impression and contact.

We’ve got some big singles events planned and they are the perfect chance to meet other single professionals in a relaxed, fun environment.

This really is the peak dating period and it last right up until just after Valentine’s day.   So don’t put it off any further.   Put in a little effort now and you could soon be lining up dates for the upcoming year


Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru