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From all at The Asian Single Solution

We’re always being told what not to wear, what not to eat and what not to do in life.

Just for fun, here’s my fun guide to how NOT to succeed at dating.

1)  Write a long checklist of every single feature you want in a partner – and don’t even consider dating anyone who doesn’t meet at least 99% of these criteria.  Why should you settle?

2)  Don’t bother washing or shaving before you meet up.  You don’t want to look like you’ve made an effort, just in case they don’t like you.

3) Keep your date waiting for at least 30 minutes and don’t apologise or explain it.  They’ll think you must be incredibly busy.

4)  Work out how to use the calculator on your phone.  You’ll be needing that at the end of the date, to work out how much you both have to pay for your share of the bill.

5) Only talk about yourself.  What’s the point in finding out about them when your own life is so interesting.

6) Make sure you eat with your mouth open.   For bonus points, try and be rude to the waiter.

7)  Tell them all about your ex in great detail. Bring photos and call them during your date.

8 ) Text the other person relentlessly after the date,  once per hour every hour – you don’t want them to forget you exist !

9) Staying home alone on a Saturday evening is a much better plan that going out to a singles party.   You might not meet anyone or have fun, but at least you’ll know who might win The X factor.

10) If at first you don’t succeed, don’t try again. Go on, give up now. What’s the point?

Needless to say, these tips are all tongue in cheek and are some of the things you must definitely NOT do.

Don’t blame me if you use them and they go wrong!

Good luck,
James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

In today’s blog I’m going to talk about online dating etiquette.

This will apply to everyone, whether you are sending or receiving messages.

One of the biggest frustrations with online dating is that you can send a message and while it will be read
you won’t hear back from them.  So you might end up waiting and waiting to hear back only the message will never come.

As a Dating Expert I always advise that you treat people in the same way you’d like to be treated – with good manners.  They know you’ve opened and read the message

The trouble is that many people are uncomfortable with rejecting someone they aren’t interested in.  That’s fine, but it’s not really about rejection but a matter of politeness.

To make it easy for you we provide several “pre-written” replies that you can send to save you time.

So if you aren’t interested you can just send one of those instead.  You can say you don’t feel you are right for each other,  don’t have time for dating or you’ll get back in touch when you have more time.  It only takes a few seconds.

Of course, there are the odd people who can’t handle rejection and will reply asking exactly why you aren’t there type of why you don’t
want to get to know them.

My advice is to just block them rather than waste your time debating it.   Once blocked they can’t contact you again and you’ll be free
to correspond with people that you do like the look of.

If you get a message saying the other person doesn’t think you are a match, don’t stress about it.  Instead, be appreciative of the fact they made the effort to let you know where you stand. Everyone likes different things so just move on and contact more people you do like.  You’ll eventually make a good connection if you put some effort it.

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com