Archive for July, 2017

Why women should contact men first

Sunday, July 30th, 2017
Many women believe that they should wait for men to message them on dating sites. They might have the old fashioned view that it’s up to men to message them first or are worried about appearing to be forward. So they wait and wait and wonder why they never seem to get messages from men they are interested in.
Men and women approach online dating in different ways, and once you realise this you can use it to your advantage.  Men tend to collect up their “favourites” and then contact many women at once, in one big hit. This is called the Shotgun approach and is very hit and miss. Women, on the other hand, can be more selective and will either wait to see who contacts them or just send one or two messages.
The secret is to be proactive and actively target men you are interested. Don’t sit and wait for them to come to you or someone else will snap them up. Imagine you are applying for a job and your dating profile is your CV.  Would you send out your CV to prospective employees or would you expect them to come and find you first?
Check back on the site every day and contact the new men.  By doing so, you’ll be top listed in the searches as shows the men the most recent women to log into the site.  You’ll then find more men are contacting you anyway.
Men absolutely love it when women message them first.  If you’ve got a great photo, interesting profile and are in the right age group then this is very flattering.  What man wouldn’t be interested?  It’s not overly flirtatious to write to a man – after all you are both on a dating site with the same intentions.
So what should you say?    Imagine you are in a bar or at a party. How would you get their attention? Perhaps you’d look over and smile.  You need to do the same thing in your first email. Write just enough to get them hooked and capture their imagination.   Ask them how their day is going or what they are up to for the weekend.
So why not send some messages now?  You’ll see much better results and might just make someone’s day!
James Preece
Dating Expert

Summer Dating Ideas for Single Asian Professionals.

Wednesday, July 26th, 2017

With the warming weather comes that feeling of romance.

First dates are the most common during the summer months, because there are more options. Plus, everyone feels like getting out of the house and going on an adventure. Big or small. It’s true that there are many things to do in the summer. Alone and with others. In fact, there are many “summer date idea” posts out there. But, you don’t want to do what everyone else is doing, do you? You want something a little more original that is bound to make an impression on your date.


This doesn’t refer to seeing the sights, like monuments, fairs or local anything. This is referring to real sights, like bird-watching. As children, we’ve all played “I Spy”. Well, there’s nothing stopping us from doing it now, too. Especially on a date! It’s a fun way to get to experience everything around you. Take a simple walk and play the modified version of the game. Instead of saying “I spy”, point out random things. Discuss a random tree and the pattern in the bark. This date idea is great for really getting to know the person you’re with.

Bored? Try Games!

You may think it’s boring to play board games on a date, but think about it! You have the chance to talk, while you’re both planning a strategy. You get to see how competitive your date is, while getting to know how they plan and organise their thoughts. Board games provide an intellectual challenge, while being a great way to make and share memories. You could share with each other the “last time I played this” stories. It’s also inexpensive, since many of us have these laying around. Or, you could opt for a board game cafe is there’s one in your area. It’s more crowded though, and indoors. Your own board games could be played outside, to still enjoy the weather.

How About Something Refreshing?

Are you thinking about a restaurant, going out for ice cream/coffee/drinks? Forget about it! It’s overdone. No one wants to be inside with such nice weather. Do you have a back/front yard? A sidewalk? Make use of the outdoor space you do have. If you have none, it’s the perfect time to plan a picnic. Put together something delicious and homemade and treat your date. If you’re not feeling it, try these: Homemade ice pops, homemade lemonade, homemade floats, homemade ice cream. Inexpensive to make and delicious to taste. Plus, homemade edibles are always the best! If you’re taking the homemade route, include your date. The creation is half of the fun!

Head To The Beach

Okay, going to the beach is a pretty typical date idea. You grab ice cream and take a stroll. Maybe you collect seashells. Maybe you bring a guitar and play some music. Or, you and your date could build a sandcastle together. Yes, that sounds a little childish. Come on, summer brings out the younger parts of our hearts. Get a little messy, covered in mud and sand. Build something awesome together, demonstrating team work and your personal creativity. This can actually be a great way to know if you’ll work together in a more serious relationship. How you communicate and what the two of you can create together. After you’re done, go swimming in your clothes to get clean. It sounds messy, but, the best things are!

Of course you can opt for the traditional date ideas: swimming, getting ice cream, eating at a restaurant, a walk through the park and talking about life. But, what’s the fun in doing any of that? Summer is supposed to be fun. A time of the year when we get out of the boring work clothes and stuffed mentality. We feel a freedom with the bright and shining sun. There’s no reason your dating life should be any different! A bit of playfulness and some creativity are bound to get you a better dating experience.