When you are trying to contact people on an online dating site, it can be hard to know what to say to get their interest.

Here are our top tips to boost your chances:

1) Don’t Copy and Paste

If you don’t get a huge amount of replies it can be tempting to stop putting the effort in. It might seem easier to just copy and paste the same message over and over.  After all, someone is bound to reply right?  The problem with this is that these types of messages are very easy to spot….and they annoy people.  So you are very unlikely to get a response and you’ll get even less than before. It’s a Catch 22 situation.  A little effort can go a long way.

2) Personalise the Message

If you want to get someone to write back, you have to make things personal.  Tell them what you liked about their profile and why you’d be a good match. Use a little humour and ask a fun question. For example, if they say they like baking cakes then ask what cake they would make you.  It shows you are paying attention and aren’t afraid to laugh at life. Doesn’t that sound better than just saying “hi” or “how are you?” or “could we have a conversation please?”

3) What not to say

The initial message should be friendly, flirty and just a conversation starter. You don’t want to be asking the other person out or saying you are looking for a committed relationship. That is too heavy, you have not even spoken yet.

The same goes for handing out your number. This appears very impatient and the other person won’t feel comfortable. These approaches rarely work, so always chat on platform first. Only when you are both  comfortable with each other, talk about a phone call or meeting up for a coffee.

4) Don’t talk about yourself

Do not go into detail about yourself in the first message, or try to impress the other person with your big job title or life story. That is what the profile is for. A brief introduction is OK if you want to try that, but anything that comes across as showing off, would probably be ignored.

5) Mix things up

Quite often it’s not your messages that are wrong. Take a good look at your profile instead. Perhaps your photos aren’t appealing enough or your profile isn’t interesting.  Try to stand out from the competition and avoid generic statements.  Sell yourself and make the most of the opportunity to attract potential partners.  The more unique you are then the more views you’ll get.

Why not give these ideas a go and see if it makes a difference?

Happy Dating!

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