Archive for November, 2013

Dating Guru’s Mailbag: I hate talking to new people

Monday, November 25th, 2013

Here’s another dating problem

for our Dating Guru

“Dear James,  I hope you can help me.  I’d love to attend one of your singles parties but I’m really really nervous about having to talk to new people.  I know it’s important if I want to make new friends, but I’m so scared of rejection.  What can I do?  Ben”

Hi Ben,

Thank you for your message.  Firstly, let me reassure you.  Almost everyone is nervous about meeting new people and having to go up and say hello.   Perhaps they’ll tell you to go away, be rude to you or ignore you altogether. The good news is that the things you are worried about are extremely unlikely to happen.  The reality is that all the guests are there for the same reason and they’d love you to introduce yourself.

Here are some quick tips which will help you:

1) Test yourself.   If you are shy about going up and talking, just try asking a question.  You could ask if they know where the toilets are or what time it is.  A simple question could start a longer conversation.

2) Use our hosts.   They are there to help make introductions and are the friendliest in the business.

3) Try the speed dating.  You only get to talk to each person for three minutes, so use this time as practice.  You’ll have to say hello and ask a few questions and each time it will get easier and easier.

4) Listen attentively.  The more you listen, then the more the other person will want to speak.  Ask lots of questions and show an interest about what they are talking about.

5) If someone doesn’t want to talk, smile and move on.   Perhaps they are even more nervous than you!    Don’t take it personally.

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Dating Profile Review: Neat

Monday, November 18th, 2013

Here is our latest online


profile review for you

Here’s a look at her current profile.


You have a lovely main head shot photo.   You are smiling happy and look like someone who would be fun to contact.   You also have some nice album shots too.   The museum sign shot probably isn’t needed as it’s not clear what it’s about and you aren’t that visible.  The others are great though!

OK, that might well be true but it’s not especially “interesting.”   Almost everyone writes that they like travelling in their profile so try and think of something more imaginative.  I like the travel buddy request as it’s a good way for someone to start a conversation with you, but I’d move that to the end of your “looking for” section instead.

Why do you have to “guess” that you need to do something?   It’s a weak wishy washy statement and makes you look like you have a hard job making decisions :)

So definitely take that out and make bold, positive statements only.  Having said that, the rest of the text is good.   Men want to know you are fun and low maintenance as it makes their lives easier.  In return, you’ll get more interest.

You just need to expand on your interests.  For example, rather than simply listing them, you could say things like  “I’m passionate about cooking and I love to learn new recipes.  I recently made a fantastic chocolate cake and I may pass on the recipe if our first date goes well!”

This starts off well but I think you really need  a clearer idea of the person you would like to meet.   Otherwise you won’t know when you finally meet them.  It’s good to be open minded, but it would help to list a few things that are important to you.  I’d leave out the bit about being manly and having nice biceps as it may make  decent guys think they have no chance.  You can still have this but making sure you contact guys who appear to have these traits.

In fact, that’s my final tip to you.  You’ve not contacted anyone!   You can’t sit back and wait for the men to wink or contact you.   Instead, you have to send out lots of messages to men you are interested in.  That’s the only way you can make this work and beat the competition :)

I hope this helps,



If you would like to have your profile reviewed and featured, then please email your request to [email protected] We’ll pick the best one each month and get our leading Dating Expert James Preece to offer you his advice on how to make it better in this blog.

Good luck!

James Preece – Dating Coach

Feedback from October

Monday, November 11th, 2013

Here are our October Feedbacks


for you to see

Here is a small selection of the emails that we had from our members:

“Good site and singles events” VP

“Met the love of my life here. Brilliant. Happy days.” TN

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : really good site thanks” SP

“very professional. you provide a great service for people in their search” MK

“Thanks…great dating website.” AP

” Met someone and getting engaged in December. Cheers” JG

“Thank you for all your support over the past few weeks. The site is well maintained and the support from your staff has been excellent” SB

“The website is easy to navigate, the history feature is a good idea.” UK

“It’s a good site and would recommend” KM

“The service was good” RP


If you have your own please do share it with us: [email protected]


Best Wishes,

James Preece – The Dating Guru


Happy Diwali 2013

Sunday, November 3rd, 2013

Happy Diwali 2013 from all at

Happy Diwali


Family and Friends are so important at this time of the year. As we move into the 11th year of SingleSolution services,  this is a time to reflect on the hundreds of happy couples that have met through AsianSingleSolution. Why not have a read through some of our success stories and recent feedback.