Archive for November, 2010

Our Dating Guru’s Quick Tips

Monday, November 22nd, 2010

James Preece is the The Dating Guru for the Asian Single Solution.


Read some of my quick tips here:

1) I met someone at a recent Asian Single Solution singles party and we swapped numbers.  How long should I wait to contact them again?

Some people like to wait a few days to give the impression that they are busy.  This is a bad idea as they will probably have met other interesting people.  A good plan it to make sure you say goodbye to them when you leave, which makes sure you are fresh in their minds.  Then send them a text the next morning saying you enjoyed meeting the and call them that evening to arrange a date!

2) How can I give the impression that I’m powerful, self confident and someone they would like to be with?
Sitting in an higher position will subconsciously generate respect.  Therefore, always try and sit in a more elevated seat than them, perhaps on a table or edge or a chair if necessary. That way they will literally have no choice but to look up to you!

3) I’ve joined the dating site and I’m not getting many messages.  How can I get more interest?

This is a very common mistake.   You need to remember that you in competition with everyone else on there.  If you don’t play the game you’ll pass by unnoticed.  You need to be proactive and spend time contacting people you like.  It’s not up to THEM to find you – but for you to get in touch with them first.  The only way you can possibly avoid putting in the work is to have an amazing photo and then log in regularly.  If you can get their attention with the photo then you’ll naturally get more emails.
I’ve helped 100s of people find love and am a dating advisor for many magazines, newspapers and websites.  If you’d like any personal one-to-one help then please do check out out my website below.  Discount for all Asian Single Solution members.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Muslim Site Launches

Tuesday, November 16th, 2010

Today our new site for British Asian Muslim Professionals launched.

This will allow us to focus the marketing on getting more good calibre Muslim singles onto the site. This is better for all of our Muslim members.


If you are Muslim then this will affect your membership so please note the following.

1. All Muslim Profiles have been copied over to the new Muslim site.

2. Existing Muslim profiles on have been deactivated but are still on the system. We will delete those in a few weeks once the migration is complete.

3. When you log into you will receive a message that your profile has been moved and you will be redirected. All messages between you and other Muslim members have also been moved. Memberships and credits have been moved over.

4. If you need to access your account eg for messages, or have any other questions about the service, please contact support. [email protected]

5. We are running introductory offers of 50% off  memberships, so if you are Muslim, get onto the site now and upgrade whilst its cheap.

6. The site is new so we cannot guarantee that it will be free of errors. If you notice any error, please email us to [email protected]

Announcing the Asian Woman Bachelor Dating Night

Monday, November 15th, 2010 and Voodoo Entertainment proudly present The Asian Woman Bachelors Party 2010


Read this blog to find out more.

We wanted to let you know about this amazing party that will be in two halves. The dating event starts at 7pm and the after party from 10pm.

Dating Event

Before the after party, join up to 200 single Asian professionals for the  singles party.
*Girls get the chance to speed date the Bachelors
*Optional speed dating rounds of 30 minutes for all guests
*Ice Breaking activities with prizes of Vodka and fruit shots
*Lots of friendly hosts and model scouts
*Tickets include entry for the after party

The event will be held at the Exclusive Revolution – America Square.

This is the most hotly anticipated jamboree of the season and a great excuse for you to dress up and party, Flaunt your favourite outfits, wear those new shoes and get dressed up to your heart’s content, thus adding your own sophistication and glamour to a night of celebration.  The afterparty will include announcement of the winning Bachelors, live music and other entertainment.

So, What Are You Waiting For? Book Your Tickets Now Before Its Too Late and Be Prepared For An Unforgettable Night!

Click the image to book.

Best Wishes,

James and Paul

What makes a good photo?

Monday, November 8th, 2010

Everyone knows that to get online dating success you need to have a great photo.

But what exactly IS a great photo?

Use a photo that looks like you, but on a really good day.

There’s not point uploading a photo that has you with other people in it.  Firstly, it won’t be clear which one is actually you.  What if the viewer likes the look of one of your friend instead?   Also, some guys thing it’s good to add a photo surrounded by lots of women.   Yes, it can make you look popular but it also makes you look like an idiot who is trying to hard to impress!

A clear, head and shoulder headshot is always best and it’s the only kind of photo that we allow as your main headshot.

I see a ridiculous amount of photos with sunglasses or hats – completely pointless as it makes it look like you have something to hide.

Secondary photos can break from this rule.  In fact, many people will want to see a full body shot so they can see your body type and how you dress.

Never forget the power of a first impression.  If you haven’t already done so, do read our “Dumbest Mistakes Guide” for more information.
Good luck,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

The Rules of Online Chat

Monday, November 1st, 2010

As you know we’ve got a fun “online chat” feature on the site.


But are you using it properly?

Online chatting can be a great way to get to know people quickly.  You can search to see who it logged on at the same time you are and begin a conversation straight away. You’ll be able to talk with users from all over the UK who are looking for a fun conversation.

The thing to remember is that online chat is just for entertainment purposes only!  It’s not a substitute for actually getting to know someone. It’s so much better to talk on the phone or meet face to face.

I’d also like to remind you that you are looking for serious dating, there isn’t much point restricting your searches to “users online ” only.  Many people don’t have the time to chat during the day and you’ll have a much better success rate if you send proper messages instead. The chances that your perfect match will online at exactly the same time you are slim.

So instead, just enjoy the chat feature for what it is – fun – and send out emails to anyone you like too.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru