Dating Guru’s Mailbag: How do I move on?

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“Dear James, I do hope you can help me.  I’ve been single for a few years now as I can’t get over my last partner.  I thought we were so perfect together and when we  split up it just broke my heart.  I still don’t really know why he dumped me.  I’ve had a few dates but nobody else can compare so I’m tired of it all.  What can I do?  R”

Hi R,

Thank you for your email. It sounds to me like you still have a few unresolved issues from your past. It’s not fair that they didn’t give you the real reasons they ended it, but sometimes it’s better that way.  Almost everyone has some sort of bad breakup, so please don’t feel that you are on your own.

The reason that you can’ t move on is because you are using your ex as a reference point. This is completely understandable, as that’s what you are used to.  Your memories and experiences are based around everything you did with them.  So you life seems a little empty now.

I do have some good news for you:  I PROMISE you that one day you will some even better than your ex.  It may not seem like it now, but in time you’ll realise that I’m right.

What you need to do is just get yourself out there and start meeting new people.  Be open to new experiences and give other singles a chance.  OK, they might not be a carbon copy of your ex. But remember that relationship didn’t work out anyway!

Everyone you meet has something new to offer you and make your life new interesting.  Start dating again by trying our online dating site or booking a few of our Asian singles events. Once you have some fun things to look forward to, you will be able to stop thinking about your past and concentrate on your future instead.

Good luck!



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