How to break up without breaking down

Not every relationship is going to work out and it can be really hard when you split up. Here are some top tips to help you cope:

1) Surround yourself with people who care about you. A break up can be like a bereavement so you need to with friends and family through the difficult time. They will make sure you keep eating and stay healthy.

2) You are entitled to be upset for a while. It’s part of the moving on process so allow yourself the chance to be sad. You’ll get bored of being miserable before you know it.

3)Time heals all wounds and gives you a chance to put things into perspective. You’ll eventually meet someone even better even though it doesn’t feel like it at the moment.

4)Don’t do stupid things to make your ex jealous or try to get revenge. This only makes you feel better in the short term and can make things much worse.

5)Don’t beat yourself up and go over and over why it didn’t work out. Just because it didn’t work out doesn’t mean that you did something wrong or were wrong to put your trust in the relationship.

6) Look back on the good times – it’s your experiences that make you the person you are.

7) Put your energy into the things that make you happy. Focus on going to the gym etc. If you stay busy and concentrate on other things this will take your mind off the breakup.

8) Even if you agree to be friends, agree to cut off all contact for at least a month. This will help the healing process.

9) Make a box of all the gifts, letters and photographs you have and give them to someone to keep safe. This stops you moping over them. You don’t need to throw them out.

10) Once you have had time for the intial shock, get yourself back into the dating game and you’ll soon be
enjoying the chance to be single again. Try one of our singles parties. This will boost your confidence and show you that others are interested in you.

James Preece Dating And Relationship Expert for www.asiansinglesolution.com