Posts Tagged ‘hindu dating’



Happy New Year 2023

Tuesday, January 3rd, 2023

We wish all our lovely members a very happy and successful 2023.

With a bit of luck, along with your best photos and sending amazing messages, you could be our next success story.

Messages that Work

Monday, August 8th, 2022

When you are trying to contact people on an online dating site, it can be hard to know what to say to get their interest.

Here are our top tips to boost your chances:

1) Don’t Copy and Paste

If you don’t get a huge amount of replies it can be tempting to stop putting the effort in. It might seem easier to just copy and paste the same message over and over.  After all, someone is bound to reply right?  The problem with this is that these types of messages are very easy to spot….and they annoy people.  So you are very unlikely to get a response and you’ll get even less than before. It’s a Catch 22 situation.  A little effort can go a long way.

2) Personalise the Message

If you want to get someone to write back, you have to make things personal.  Tell them what you liked about their profile and why you’d be a good match. Use a little humour and ask a fun question. For example, if they say they like baking cakes then ask what cake they would make you.  It shows you are paying attention and aren’t afraid to laugh at life. Doesn’t that sound better than just saying “hi” or “how are you?” or “could we have a conversation please?”

3) What not to say

The initial message should be friendly, flirty and just a conversation starter. You don’t want to be asking the other person out or saying you are looking for a committed relationship. That is too heavy, you have not even spoken yet.

The same goes for handing out your number. This appears very impatient and the other person won’t feel comfortable. These approaches rarely work, so always chat on platform first. Only when you are both  comfortable with each other, talk about a phone call or meeting up for a coffee.

4) Don’t talk about yourself

Do not go into detail about yourself in the first message, or try to impress the other person with your big job title or life story. That is what the profile is for. A brief introduction is OK if you want to try that, but anything that comes across as showing off, would probably be ignored.

5) Mix things up

Quite often it’s not your messages that are wrong. Take a good look at your profile instead. Perhaps your photos aren’t appealing enough or your profile isn’t interesting.  Try to stand out from the competition and avoid generic statements.  Sell yourself and make the most of the opportunity to attract potential partners.  The more unique you are then the more views you’ll get.

Why not give these ideas a go and see if it makes a difference?

Happy Dating!

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Five Steps to Find Your Valentine

Tuesday, February 18th, 2020

Everyone wants someone to spend their lives with especially the “day of love” known as Valentine’s Day. If you’re single, it can be overwhelming to try and find a date. However, using these 5 steps, you’re bound to find your Valentine!

Step 1: Put yourself out there

Obviously, you’re not going to meet someone new if you’re sitting at home with all of the lights turned off. The only way to meet people is to put yourself where people are. Yes, you can sign up for a dating website membership and download a dating app. But if you want to meet more people, you’re better off getting out into the real world. Sign up for a class, learn to play an instrument, join community events, volunteer. Do something that puts you out in the world. After all, what are you going to answer when a potential date asks how you spend a typical day? Instead of crafting a magnificent story, be honest. If the truth is boring, then maybe you need to be more interesting. You won’t find your Valentine if you’re invisible.

Step 2: Be approachable

Now, getting outside into the real world is just the beginning. No one is going to approach you if you seem like you’re outside against your will. In order to be approached, you have to be approachable. What does that mean? It means you look interesting enough to want to talk to. You can accomplish this by dressing well, but not over-the-top. You want to have good hygiene as well. You want to smile, and make eye-contact whenever possible. If this sounds hard, maybe you need to work on your confidence before trying to find your Valentine.

Step 3: Be conversational

Putting yourself outside and smiling at people will only do so much if you can’t hold a decent conversation. Now, initiating a conversation isn’t always easy, but there are tricks you can learn. Develop your conversational skills with random people. This way, you’ll feel more confident in your search to find a Valentine. Of course, part of being conversational is knowing when it’s time to listen. Make sure you’re allowing other people to speak as well. Be a good listener, even if it takes work.

Step 4: Be prepared

When you’re looking to find a Valentine, you want to be prepared for the date. This means you want to have romantic plans made, even if you don’t have someone to share them with. Buy Valentine gifts for that special someone. Don’t put any names on the tags. This way, if you don’t manage to get a date, you can give the gifts to someone else in your life, like a family member or single co-worker. When you’re in the dating pool, it’s best to be ready for anything to happen. You could meet someone when you’re getting coffee before work or even through a friend. Treat every outing like a new opportunity to meet someone. This way, when you do meet someone, you’re prepared.

Step 5: Be confident

It isn’t always easy to exude confidence. If you’ve been single for a while, you may feel discouraged about dating. You may feel like you don’t have anything to offer someone. These thoughts are exactly what prevents you from finding someone. When you’re out and looking to find your Valentine, know your own worth. Before you start looking, boost your self confidence so you truly feel worthy of a romantic connection.

Happy dating!

James Preece – Dating Coach

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Your Secret Weapon in Love

Thursday, November 21st, 2019

Did you know that when you sign up for our Asian dating site, you get so much more than just being able to contact people?

You have access to a team of Dating Experts

Our company has now been going for over 17 years, which is a huge amount of time in the dating industry. We’ve learned so much in that time and know all the secrets about making online dating work. The great news for you is that if you need help then all you have to do is ask. We can review your profile, photos and messages in order to make sure you are making the most of all your opportunities. The best thing is that it’s absolutely free for all paying members.

We are the most trusted Asian Dating Site in the UK

Check our our reviews on TrustPilot and you’ll see we have an incredible 4.6 out of 5. In fact, we are the 3rd highest rated Dating Site out of ALL companies! This means you can be sure we are a reputable site who have your best interests at heart.

Best Events in the Business

We aren’t just about online dating – we also run regular Asian Singles parties too. For these, we have the very best hosts to help introduce you and have more available per event than any other company. We believe it’s important you get to know our staff so they can help you better.

Happy dating!

James Preece

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Is Cuffing Season Real?

Tuesday, October 22nd, 2019

You may be confused when you see the word “cuffing”. It sounds like something that “those young kids” are doing. Don’t worry though, it’s nothing complicated or inappropriate! The term cuffing actually refers to finding a partner for the colder months. Basically, it refers to a “temporary relationship” for the winter months.

There are 2 reasons singles are compelled to cuff: Social pressures and genetic desire for warmth.

Cuffing is most common from October to February. These months are filled with couple-focused activities, like Valentine’s Day, Christmas, New Years, and more. It can be lonely for those who don’t have a significant other during such significant holidays. As a result, many singles find themselves with temporary partners. This allows two individuals to be a pair for a season that practically demands love. Cuffed couples can dress up together for Halloween and have a romantic Valentine’s day. Cuffing is for those who just don’t want to be alone through this season. Cuffed couples are likely to split when the weather gets warmer.

Since the months are cold, it is only natural to want additional warmth. This is where genetic desire plays a role. The human body wants to snuggle up with someone else, sharing body warmth. It provides a feeling of comfort and satisfaction in the months that hold cold and bitterness.

The ideal for a cuffed couple is that the relationship will last through the seasons. However, that isn’t always a shared ideal. By definition, this type of relationship is meant to be temporary. It is possible that one or both parties will develop genuine feelings, leading them to want the relationship to continue after the cuffing season. If this is mutual, then it’s a great situation. When one person develops genuine feelings and the other doesn’t, it can be a heartbreak waiting to happen.

It is important to be on the same page as your partner, even if they are temporary. It may be awkward to have a conversation based around the idea of a “temporary relationship”, but it can make a big difference in how the relationship progresses. You may find the person you’re cuffed to is looking for something long-term and you aren’t. It may be the other way around. If you’re both interested in short-term, then you’ll save yourself from getting attached.

If you’re starting a new relationship in the winter months, it can be hard to know if it’s timing or this need to be with someone. Because of this, you want to talk to your partner about this type of relationship. They may be interested in something short-term or something long-term and it will be best to know right away. This is why it is so important to talk to your partner about what they are looking for.

Of course, feelings and opinions can change over time. A cuffed relationship can develop into the real deal without you even noticing. There’s nothing wrong with keeping a relationship that started in the cuffing season. As long as you’re both happy, that is all that matters!

Texts You Can Send Someone Between Dates

Tuesday, October 8th, 2019

After a first date, it’s hard to know when to text someone.

Do you text them right away and tell them you had a good night? Do you ask when you’ll get to see them again? Do you wait three days and hope they text you? It can hard to figure out the process. That is because there is no right or wrong answer. Many people prefer to wait or play hard to get. Others are direct and ask for a second date right away. There are advantages to both. The important thing is that you can keep someone interested enough to want a second date between dates.

 

Again, there are no right or wrong answers to what you should text between dates. But here are 4 sample texts you can send to keep your date interested, without going overboard:

 

“Do you want to hear a secret?”

 

If you’re going to text this, make sure you’re sharing something personal, but not too deep. No one wants to dig through your dirty laundry this early in a relationship. You want this “secret” to be something that sparks interest and conversation. For instance: “My favorite emoji is ______”, “my childhood dog was named ________”, “I’ve seen the _______________ movie more than 20 times”. You can use this text format to share something about yourself in almost any subject. For bonus points: Ask the same question for them to answer (eg: “my favourite emoji is __________. What is yours?).

 

“I’ve never been ____________________.”

 

This can be a great follow-up to your “secret” or work as a message by itself. The activity you suggest should be something you’d like to do on the next date. This gives you the chance to ask for a second date, while being playful. It also shows that you want to share this new experience with them. If you want bonus points, use an activity that was mentioned during the first date. That will show you’re a good listener too!

 

“I was thinking of going to _________________ on __________________ and wondered if you wanted to come with me?”

 

You can use this text format to invite someone to food, drinks or any event. This is an open-ended invitation that gives your date the chance to change the variables. If your date likes the date idea, but not the time, then he/she can ask for a different date. By giving someone variables, you’re allowing them to feel in control and choose something comfortable for them.

“My favourite ___________ is ______________. Do you want to go with me?”

 

With this text format, you can insert your favourite food/sport/museum or anything else you can think of. The details don’t matter. This format is a great way to ask for a date, while also sharing something about yourself. There are no details about the time of the date, which allows you to ask when they are going to be available to see you again.

 

The best advice for texting between dates is to keep it simple and be yourself. If you’re naturally a flirty person, then your texts can come off as a little flirty. You want to avoid sexy messages until you get to know each other, but flirty is fine. You can compliment someone if you think it will be appreciated, but it could come off as needy too. If you’re clever and creative, you will be able to keep someone interested in you. After all, your main goal is to keep the person wanting to see you again.

How Much Should You Reveal About Yourself On A First Date?

Wednesday, September 11th, 2019

Almost everyone feels nervous before a first date. There are too many things to think about. Firstly, you need to pick an outfit that shows you’re well-dressed. You need a scent that is going to match your look. You need good hygiene, which can be hard when you’re sweating nervously through the fabric you’re wearing. Then you have to think about where you’re going. Is the location you picked going to work? Is it too loud or too busy? Is your date going to enjoy the location? Is your date going to enjoy you?

It’s easy to get wrapped up in the “what-if’s” before a date.

If you are like most people, one of the biggest concerns is conversation. For any date, good conversation determines whether or not there will be another date. Many people worry they will run out of things to say. Although there are going to be natural pauses in conversation, maintaining a flow is the ideal. Other people worry that they will say too much, ultimately making themselves look foolish. The first date is your opportunity to share aspects of each other, but you don’t want to reveal too much.

There are definitely conversation boundaries on a first date.

It may go without saying that politics and religion are not first-date conversation topics. Although these subjects don’t seem revealing, they can put your date in an awkward position. Especially if they have different views. Similarly, the subject of children or marriage should be saved for a later date as well. If you already have children, you can find a way to bring them up in conversation. To your date, children may be a deal-breaker. For some, this is because it suggests you are still involved with an ex-partner. Your date doesn’t want to think about your previous relationships in any way.

First-date conversation should be fun, while also being informative. You want to talk about your passions and learn the things your date is passionate about. You want to share your hobbies and find common interests. A great question to ask a first date is: What is your ideal/typical weekend? This can tell you many things about your date, while being something they will enjoy answering. You may also want to ask where they see themselves in 5 years and quietly reflect on your position in that future.

There are two things you want to keep in mind:

  1. This is not a therapy session.
  2. This is not an interview/interrogation.

You don’t want to dump all over your date, whether it’s by complaining or giving too much information. Ideally, you want to reveal your personality and quirks gradually. This gives your date the time to absorb everything. You should do the same. Ask your date questions and listen to the answers. Share pieces with each other. Most importantly: Allow the conversation to flow naturally.

When it comes to revealing anything about yourself, ask: Would I be comfortable if the whole world knew this about me? If the answer is “no”, don’t share it on a first date. If it is something you would share with anyone, then it isn’t too revealing for your date.

Happy Dating!

James – Dating Coach for AsianSingleSolution.com

How To Sell Yourself On Your Dating Profile

Tuesday, August 13th, 2019

There is no room for modesty when it comes to your dating profile. Even if you are a private person, you need to up your game if you want to make it work! There are so many active profiles on dating sites in the UK. It can be hard to stand out, especially when you want to fill out the profile quickly. Many people think by having a dating profile and messaging people, they will get dates. Unfortunately, other people have to find you interesting in some way. Your messages may be well-crafted, but if your profile is dull, your message is going to end up unread.

You have to really sell yourself on your dating profile. How? By highlighting every quality that makes you amazing. Yes, you are amazing. Why? Write down every reason you think you might be amazing. Amazing means dateable. If you’re really good at a particular sport, include that. If you hold the world record for the most hot-dogs eaten, you could mention that too as it’s fun. You want to choose accomplishments that will interest other people. It may feel like you are embellishing your better qualities, but that is fine. Do not try to balance this with your bad qualities. There is no room for negativity on a dating profile. Your dating profile should be a negative free zone. Seriously.

If you’re not sure that your giving an accurate description of your awesomeness, ask a friend or family member to review your profile. If they offer suggestions, use them! No one knows you better than the people who are closest to you. Their insight can drastically improve the accuracy of your profile. This can also give you insight to how potential dates are going to view you.

The best way to list your awesomeness is actually in a list. It’s hard to read a wall of text, so breaking up information into easily digestible lists is ideal. It’s easy to skim and still have information jump out. You should do the same thing with your hobbies & interests as well. Now, when you’re crafting the list of things you love, consider leaving out solitary actions. You want to share hobbies you have with a potential interest. Reading a book isn’t going to sound like a fun date, unless you are both introverts.

Building an online dating profile isn’t a one-time shot. A dating profile should be considered an ongoing project. You need to adjust your profile on a semi-regular basis. Add new information. Remove old information. Experiment with what is working and what isn’t. This applies to everything, including your photo, tagline, bio, and even the messages you send out. If something isn’t working, you need to figure out what it is and how to fix it. The only way to do that is by keeping your profile fresh and exciting.

Consider someone checking your profile for a second time, not recognizing they already passed you over. Now, you have a new picture and new information and something on your profile stands out. They decide to message you and you hit it off. It is possible to catch someone’s attention like this. You wouldn’t shop in a store that never changed their display, would you? It’s the same concept.

Ask yourself: What do you find attractive about other people’s profiles? How can you apply that to your own profile?

Of course, there are some things you should avoid when it comes to building your profile, such as:

Using cliches
Photos that show other people
Photos that don’t show your face
Too many emoticons
Too many generic statements, not enough substance
Sending boring messages

If you were a salesperson, think of attributes that would sell your product to a customer. You are essentially selling yourself to a potential date. You should treat it the same way. Honesty is always the most important thing to include on your profile.

Happy dating!

James Preece

Dating Coach for Asian Single Solution

TV Casting: Are you a Hindu Couple from different castes?

Monday, July 22nd, 2019


I work with a Manchester based TV production company called Workerbee. Workerbee is part of the Endemol Shine Group and make a wide range of high-quality factual programming for both national and international broadcasters such as the BBC, ITV, Channel 4, Discovery and National Geographic. 

We are currently working on a BBC 1 documentary looking at the Hindu community in Britain, specifically experiences around caste. The film is a 10:40pm slot and has been commissioned and greenlit. 

The film will follow Parle Patel, who has a huge online presence and is a well-known figure in the Hindu community, through his work on BBC Asian Network and Planet Parle, as he navigates through his own identity as a British Hindu – meeting others along the way. Parle’s YouTube channel has had over 5 million views globally and he is a frequent panellist at community events.

As part of the film we are looking to speak to Hindu couples who are from two different castes who passionate about their identities and want to share their views, or people who have experienced relationship breakdowns due to caste. We’d like to hear about their experiences and how they were able to navigate through something like this. I wondered if you would be kind enough to put out a post on your social media or if you could mention our project in your newsletter? 

Filming for the programme has already started, so ideally I’m hoping to have an initial chat with people within the next week. Of course there isn’t any obligation to take part in anything, but if anyone would like to find out more or share their experiences with me you can reach me on this email
E-mail : [email protected] or on 0161 503 7837. 

Many thanks for your time. 

Kindest Regards,
Laura

7 Questions You HAVE To Ask On A First Date

Wednesday, June 12th, 2019

First dates are filled with questions. You want to get to know your date and they want to get to know you. You talk about things you enjoy and share stories with each other. It’s a back and forth of information, loaded with potential topics for the future. It can be fun to learn about a new person, especially when the conversation is flowing. The best conversation is the conversation that changes itself. It adapts and always gives you something new to talk about. Great conversation suggests compatibility. Obviously, a date isn’t going well if you’re both looking for ways to change the subject!

There are some questions you have to ask on a first date. These help to determine whether or not there is potential for a future together. Compatibility is always the first consideration, but these questions may help you to make more informed decisions.

  • What type of relationship are you looking for?

We don’t always see eye-to-eye when it comes to relationships. For some, a long-term relationship is the ideal. Marriage, children and a white picket fence. For other people, a short-term relationship is all they can commit to. Others yet are only interested in hook-ups and casual interactions. It’s important to know where your date stands on the scale. It’s also important to know what you are looking for.

  • Do you consider your life to be simple or complicated?

This question can help you to determine the type of person you’re dealing with. If your date considers their life simple, it could mean they don’t seek challenges and they don’t have any drive. It could also mean they know how to appreciate everything they have. They could have a positive outlook. Someone who considers their life complicated may be a bit harder to adjust to. They could have a completely tumultuous lifestyle.

  • Describe a typical day for you.

Listen closely to this answer. You may learn more about your date with this question than all the other questions combined.

  • Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

When you ask a question like this, you are putting your date on the spot. You may find a brief silence as they have to consider the answer. Maybe they already know exactly where they plan to be. If they do have a clear outline for their future, consider where you may fit into their plans. Contemplate this to yourself, don’t ask your date. The first date is too early to know whether or not you can fit into someone’s future.

  • What are you the most proud of?

It may put your date on the spot, but it will help you to gauge what they deem their greatest accomplishments. You will also learn what aspects of their life are most important (recreation, community, business, love, etc).

  • Who are the most important people in your life?

The answer to this question can tell you a lot about a person. If they answer that their family is, it shows they are family-oriented. They are likely ideal for settling down and creating a family of their own. If they single out a member of their family or choose a friend, follow up by asking them to explain why they chose that person.

  • If you were left stranded on an island and could only choose 3 things, what would you choose?

This question is more light-hearted than the other questions. While being fun, it can also help you to learn about your date. If they choose food & water, they are likely practical. If they choose an electronic, they are likely more frivolous. If they choose a book, they are practical with whimsical tendencies.

It isn’t hard to find good questions to ask on a first date. The examples above can be used as reference points or you can come up with your own. The important thing is to find out where your date wants to be in the future and whether or not that goal fits with your own goals.

Just remember that what you talk about, make sure it’s fun.

Happy dating

James Preece

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Why Now Is The Best Time To Be Single

Tuesday, April 23rd, 2019

At the end of every relationship, there is a period of self-reflection. You sit down and talk to yourself about the past, present, and future. Once you’re confident you know what you want in life, you decide to enjoy the highlights of being single for a little while. Then, there comes a time when being single is no longer as exciting as it once was! You want someone to spend time with and share a laugh with. So, you get back into the dating pool and start looking for a new romantic interest.

Rewind

There is no reason you can’t enjoy your own company for a while. There are many benefits to being single and right now is the best time to take action!

Focus On Your Career

One of the benefits to single life is being able to focus on your career. Marketing plays a major role in career development and it’s time consuming. If you’re single, you can devote yourself to developing your career. When you’re in a relationship, you have to find a balance between work and your social life. This means that single people are more likely to succeed professionally.

Less Stress

There are dozens of articles online that express the “science behind being single”. To summarize every article you could read, it’s all because single people have less stress. When you’re single, you can do anything you want to. You don’t have to coordinate your plans or get permission/confirmation. You can be spontaneous because you only have yourself to be responsible for. You can have a lot more fun when you’re not worrying about anyone else.

Alone Time

Along with doing anything you want, you can do it for as long as you want. The only time restrictions fit into your own schedule. Of course, being alone means you can get in touch with yourself in a new way. There are many things we learn about ourselves when we are single, such as what we want for ourselves. Alone time gives you the chance to figure out where someone else may fit into your plans for the future. You can really think about all the details you didn’t consider before. You can gain a whole new perspective on your own life, as well as the world around you.

Our society is always growing, advancing in new and exciting ways. As a result, there are more opportunities for people today than in the past. This includes career and dating opportunities. Right now is the best time to be single because anyone can take advantage of these opportunities.

This is why dating sites, such as Asian Single Solution, are so popular among singles. This type of application provides almost instant access to new people, without the commitment of a traditional relationship. This allows users their momentary indulgence, without becoming a distraction from their future plans.

If you are looking for a relationship, the best way to meet new people is by putting yourself where people are. This could mean approaching people in public places or online dating. We offer a fantastic online dating service for British Asians so why not give it a go?

What To Say To Yourself Before A Date

Monday, March 11th, 2019

When you’re getting ready for a date, it’s natural to be nervous. Almost everyone feels nervous before a date. It is a universal part of the dating process. The nerves are only amplified if it’s been a while since you’ve been on a date or you have a history of dates that didn’t go quite the way you hoped. The problem with being nervous is that it can quickly develop into over-thinking and may even become a source of stress and panic.

What do you do when that happens? Give yourself a pep talk! It sounds silly, but it’s more common than you would think. Many people give themselves a quick pep talk right before a date. This can help to boost your confidence and refocus your thoughts. If a pep talk from yourself doesn’t sound helpful, try recruiting a friend or family member to boost your confidence.

Be prepared to hear the most dreaded phrase in pep talks: “You just have to try to relax.”

We all know that the secret to being less nervous is to relax. We also know that it’s easier to say than to actually do. If you are having trouble relaxing, here are a few things you can do to calm your nerves before a date:

Deep breathing
Meditation
Listening to music, especially your favorite artist/favorite songs
Distract yourself (eg: video games, word puzzles, chatting on the phone with a friend)
Work out/get physically active

These methods may or may not work for you. For some, distractions are a great way to reduce nerves, instead of hyper-focusing on the upcoming date. If distraction isn’t helping, this is what to say to yourself before a date that will actually be helpful:

You’re just meeting someone.

You are two people, getting together to share conversation and a few laughs. There are no expectations beyond the conversation. If the date doesn’t go well, it won’t be the end of the world. There will always be someone else you can meet. By putting “expectations” on a date, you’re making it more complicated than it needs to be. If you reframe your from “date” to “going out with a new friend”, you may find it easier to relax. You may also choose to focus on what you’re doing, instead of who you’re doing it with.

It’s not a job interview and you won’t lose anything if it doesn’t work out.

You don’t have to worry about perfect presentation. Yes, you only get one chance to make a good impression. But you’re not up for a job interview. You don’t have to put a professional foot forward. Instead, just be yourself. Speak in a way that is natural to you and let the conversation flow. The best method for keeping this mind set is by making low-stress plans together. This means a coffee shop and a walk through the park. Choose simple activities that you’ll both be comfortable with. This way, you’re less likely to suffer from nerves. You can ease into the date and let the conversation progress naturally.

Embrace it.

The best thing you can really do is just accept and embrace your nervousness. There is a good chance the person you’re going to meet feels just as nervous as you. Instead of thinking about how nervous you are, think about how nervous the other person might be. Now, think of the ways you can break the ice by mentioning the elephant in the room. Humour is a great tool to ease stress and make someone feel more relaxed. Keep in mind that your date understands your nerves as they are feeling them too.

James Preece

Dating Coach for AsianSingleSolution.com

What To Do When You’re Single On Valentine’s Day

Monday, February 4th, 2019

All over the world, there are people who dread being single on Valentine’s Day. It’s the one day a year that every couple, new and old, take to the streets and flaunt their joy and love. Restaurants fill up with those who are celebrating. Movie theatres are showing romantic comedies and the crowd is filled with couples. Even walking down the street, you’re bound to see people engaging in public affection that may otherwise be considered inappropriate. If you’re single on Valentine’s Day, it seems easier to coop yourself up and avoid the all out love-fest. Although it might seem like a good idea to keep to yourself, this can create deeper feelings of isolation. If you’re already feeling a sense of loneliness, this is the last thing you need. Instead, try these fun ideas to boost your spirits:

Singles Parties

You’re certainly not the only Asian single who is alone on Valentines Day. The good news is that of the people like you, may choose to be pro-active. The end result? Singles Parties. These parties are exactly what they sound like, with men and women alike gathering to engage in conversation. We are running two big Asian singles events ourselves – one in London and one in Birmingham. Of course, it won’t always result in a date, but it’s something to keep your mind from wandering too far. If there aren’t any parties in your area, try hosting one yourself. This works well if you know quite a few single people. The more people you tell about your party, the more people are likely to show up.

Make Plans

If a singles’ party doesn’t sound like your thing, that’s absolutely fine. Not everyone is interested in meeting new people at events, especially if you’re introverted. Instead of trying to meet someone new, opt to connect with someone you already know. You can use Valentine’s Day to bond with anyone, not just a significant other. Try calling a friend or family member to hang out for the evening. If you have a co-worker that is single, invite them out for drinks or just to chill out.

Date Yourself

The greatest love you will ever have is love for yourself. Whether you’re male or female, self-love is crucial to personal development and rich relationships with other people. If you’re single this Valentine’s Day, take the chance to date yourself. Get to know yourself all over again. You may discover a whole new side of yourself! You can also engage in old hobbies & interests that may help you to connect with yourself. Of course, you’re not limited to introspection. Take yourself to dinner, run a bubble bath or go see a movie. If you just want to stay home and play video games, do it! Make it a day that is all about you.

Volunteer

So everyone is busy and you don’t want to sit at home alone. This is a great chance to volunteer your time to a good cause. You can go down to a food bank and help hand out food. You can read to the elderly in a hospice. If you really want to get creative, you can bake treats and hand them out to the local homeless. Not only is this a great way to spend your Valentine’s Day, but you’ll feel a deeper reward in helping others.

Keep Busy

The best advice anyone can give you when you’re single on Valentine’s Day is to keep busy. Even if you’re just ticking things off a to-do list, keeping busy will prevent you from that isolation feeling. The more you can get done, the more accomplished you’ll feel in the following days too. You may be able to completely finish your to-do list or finish those creative projects you have started. You may be able to catch up on work assignments or even just sleep! There are too many options to list, so get creative!

How To Talk To Your New Partner About Where To Spend The Holidays

Thursday, December 13th, 2018

 

The holidays are a great time to spend with your closest family and reconnect with distant relatives. You get to see all the faces you haven’t been able to see since the last holiday. There are gatherings everywhere. People to meet. Faces to remember. It’s fun, but it can also be chaotic.

 

If you’re just starting a new relationship, the holidays can be really tricky. After all, there are two families to plan around. You want to visit your family for the holidays. Your new partner probably wants to visit their own family. At the same time, you also want to enjoy the holidays together. It’s hard enough to have the conversation with yourself. How do you talk to your new partner about their plans?

 

The first thing you need to do is get all the variables out in the open. This is done by asking your partner what his/her plans are for the holidays. It is awkward, but you will have to ask your new partner if he/she wants to spend the holidays with you. If the answer is no, your problems are solved.

 

Of course, you may be offended by the fact that your partner doesn’t want you to meet his/her family. Keep in mind that your partner could feel that it is too soon to introduce you to his/her family. Your partner may want to introduce you more gradually or to a smaller group first. You’ll need to be patient with your partner and respect this decision.

 

If your partner does want to spend the holidays with you, then you’ll need to figure out how you can both get what you want. Ask your partner the details: Where would you be going? Who would you be seeing? How long will you be staying? Ask yourself the same questions and share the information with your partner. There are likely going to be conflicts. Try and be patient with each other as you work through those conflicts together. Communication is the key to a smooth holiday plan!

 

If both of your families are located in the same place, your plans will be significantly easier to arrange. Of course, there will still be the question of where you are eating the traditional holiday meal. You don’t want to eat at both locations, even if they are at different times. If they are different days, you’re set! Alternatively, you can always arrange to meet each others families, then go your separate way for the meal. After you’ve enjoyed the meal and time with your family, you can get back together for the later evening. If that isn’t realistic, you can spend the following day together to make up for lost time.

 

Along with open communication, you need to be flexible about your plans. Again, the holidays are stressful and you don’t want to add to that stress. Being open about the time you spend together. You will be able to make it work as long as you’re open, flexible, and patient.

Best Presents To Buy A New Partner This Holiday Season

Thursday, December 6th, 2018

When you’ve known someone for a long time, it’s usually easy to buy them a gift for the holidays. You know enough about what they like and don’t like. But if you’ve recently started seeing someone new, you’re likely at a loss for the perfect gift. After all, you don’t know much about each other yet. You’re not sure of their hobbies or interests. You have no idea what they would want for the holidays. You don’t want to ask because it puts them on the spot. You can always opt out of getting your new partner a gift, but you want to make a good impression, right?

This is your guide for buying your new partner the perfect holiday gift:

Let their social media guide you

You can tell a lot about a person from their social media accounts. Look at the type of content they post, especially when it comes to Facebook posts. People often share videos or make comments about products they wish they owned themselves. You can use that to find something your new partner will adore. With Instagram, you can see the type of hobbies your new partner is interested in. You can also see what your new partner already has and hopefully avoid buying a repeat gift. Unfortunately, you won’t be able to use this trick if you haven’t exchanged social media information.

Choose something simple

When it comes to a new partner, you don’t want to get crazy with gift-giving. That means you don’t want to buy them a pile of presents and you don’t want to spend a fortune on a single gift. You can usually get away with something simple when it’s your first holiday together. If you do opt for an expensive and dazzling gift, you may scare off your new partner. He/she may believe you are moving too fast with the relationship.

Personalised is always a prize

It is never a bad idea to get your partner something with his/her name on it. This is a fun gift idea that works for any occasion. It’s rarely expensive, but always appears thoughtful. Of course, you need choose a gift that falls into your partner’s interests/hobbies. If you choose something random, your partner may think you aren’t serious about the relationship or getting to know them. Opt for something you have seen them use or you believe would be useful.

Choose a gift that represents your relationship

This gift idea depends on how long you’ve been seeing each other. If you’ve only gone on a few dates, this idea won’t work. If you’ve been seeing each other for a few weeks or even months, this is a great idea. You can choose a gift that symbolises your first date. You can choose a gift that represents something you both have in common. This gift doesn’t have to be store-bought either. A handmade relic of the relationship may be significantly more sentimental to your partner.

Of course, the best way to choose a gift for your new partner is by listening to them. Since the holidays are approaching, they will likely drop a few hints about what they want. If you pay attention to these subtle clues, you’ll be able to get them the perfect gift!

If you haven’t got a partner yet, it’s just a case of sending out some some messages on our dating site and going out on some dates.  There’s still time!

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Happy Diwali

Wednesday, November 7th, 2018

With gleam of Diyas
And the Echo of the Chants
May Happiness and Contentment Fill Your life
Wishing you a very happy and prosperous Diwali!

James,Paul, Meera and the Asian Single Solution Team

Brit Asian TV Music Awards Winners

Thursday, October 11th, 2018

We were very pleased to sponsor the Brit Asian TV Music Awards last Saturday, 6th October.

This was our 5th years sponsoring the awards as we think it’s important we support the industry.  The event was packed full of celebrities and was a very glamorous ceremony.

It was an amazing night and our lovely host Stephanie presented the award for “Best Bollywood Track”  This was won by Dilbar – Dhvani Bhanushali, Ikka Singh, and Neha Kakkar  

The other winners of the night were:

Best DJ: DJ Frenzy
Breakthrough Act: G. Sidhu
Best Lyricist: Sidhu Moose Wala – So High
Best Music Video Director: Sunny Dhinsey – Udaarian
Best Male Act: Guru Randhawa
Best Non-Traditional Asian Act: Steel Banglez
Best Female Act: Jasmine Sandlas
Music Producer of the Year: Vee
UK Act of the Year: JK
Album of the Year: CON.FI.DEN.TIAL – Diljit Dosanjh
Music Video of the Year: Udaarian – Satinder Sartaaj
Track of the Year: Lahore – Guru Randhawa
Special Recognition: Raghav
Outstanding Achievement: Panjabi MC
Lifetime Achievement Award: Arif Lohar

Congratulations to everyone who won and well done to the organisers on such a wonderful event.  We can’t wait for next year!

Asian Single Solution

How To Tell If You’re A Commitment Phobe

Thursday, August 23rd, 2018

There are people out in the world who avoid commitment when dating.  They aren’t interested in settling down. Maybe they want to travel the world and meet different people. Maybe they are too focused on advancing their career to think about love.

For these people, short term dating is a choice they have made. But there are others who have had the choice made for them by their insecurities. These people are commitment phobes, but they often don’t even know it!

If you’re reading this, there’s a good chance you are one of those people. Consult the list below and see how many of these traits you can identify in your own life:

You are always second-guessing yourself.
You’re indecisive, especially when meeting new people.
You think about the end of every relationship.
You have hidden insecurities and are afraid of being left behind.
You worry about someone accepting you for who you are.
You always end up in the worst relationships.
You avoid sharing personal details about yourself with a new partner.
You avoid talking about your past, even if it was “normal”.
You tend to ghost on other people.
You have a rotation of people you’re communicating with.
You are more comfortable with short relationships.
You tend to nitpick about unimportant things.
You are always looking for a reason to end the relationship.
You tend to self-sabotage.
You always make jokes about how relationships are a waste of time.
You have been called out by friends or family.
You have commitment issues in other aspects of your life.

If any of these traits resonate with you, there is a good chance you are afraid of committing to someone. If you are afraid of commitment, you may be wondering how you can overcome that fear. After all, no one wants to be alone forever or move from relationship to relationship. If you’re ready to accept that you’re afraid of commitment, you’re ready to make the changes too.

The key is to take small steps and make gradual changes. Change isn’t easy for anyone, even if you want to believe you’ll be the exception. If you try to rush the process, you’re going to fail and end up back at square one. Instead, try pacing yourself. If something feels unnatural, don’t do it. You’re also going to want to communicate your fears with your current partner, especially if they are the reason you want to make these changes. Your partner should know what you are going through so that he/she can be supportive of the process. Otherwise, you may feel your efforts are for nothing.

The first thing you need to do is figure out the reason behind your fear of commitment. Are you afraid of being left behind? Are you afraid no one will love you for who you really are? Are you afraid of investing time into something that is going to end? Be honest with yourself about these hesitations. That is the only way you will be able to work through these issues. Often, identifying them helps you to realize they aren’t valid insecurities and allows you to move on with your life.

If you continue struggling, get in touch and our resident Dating Coach might be able to help!

www.asiansinglesolution.com

The worst things to write on your Asian Dating Profile

Wednesday, May 30th, 2018

As a Dating Coach, it concerns me every time I see someone writing a negative online dating profile.

 

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It’s a terrible thing to do but still surprisingly common, despite our best efforts to teach people they shouldn’t be doing it!

So what exactly is a “negative” profile and what’s so bad about it?

A negative dating profile is one that talks about all the things you don’t want.  Typical comments might be things like:

“I can’t believe I’m doing this”

“No timewasters please”

“Only contact me if you have a photo”

“Don’t bother to contact me if you aren’t serious”

“I don’t know what to write here”

“If you aren’t in the UK don’t bother”

Believe it or not, these type of statements appear in an awful lot of profiles.  The problem is that they make you sound really miserable, jaded and unlikely to be fun on a date. Nobody likes a negative nancy so you should avoid these at all costs.  If people think you are like that then they won’t be drawn to you and won’t want to spend time with you.

It’s much better to focus on positive things and talk about the lovely things you have to offer.  It’s not just about what you are looking for, but what the other person wants too. It’s a two way street and you have to remember that.  Otherwise it can come across as demanding or downright rude.  I’m sure you don’t want anyone to think that of you!

Try and write things like this instead:

“I’m excited to see what might happen on this site”

“I’d love you to contact me if you like what you’ve read”

“If you are also looking for a serious relationship then it would be great to hear from you”

“Helping others and Keeping Fit are two of the things that make me happy”

If you’ve written anything negative in your profile then I strongly suggest you take this out and write something more lighthearted and friendly instead.  You’ll have a much better success rate and many more replies to your messages.

Happy Dating!

James Preece

Dating Coach for Asian Single Solution.

5 Quick Ways To Strengthen Your Relationship

Thursday, April 26th, 2018

You may be at a point in your relationship that feels flat. There’s no more excitement. You’re starting to feel distant. Intimacy has slowed or completely stopped. Internally, you may be panicking. At the same time, you’re hesitant to bring this up with your partner. Naturally, no one wants to have to say “this isn’t working”. It often leads to an argument because it sounds like the prelude to a break-up scene. If that’s not your goal, it’s all in the wording.

 

If the drift is minimal, it’s easy enough to get things back on track without even mentioning it to your partner. Of course, a healthy relationship means you should always feel comfortable talking to your partner. If you feel like the issue might be serious, you need to sit down and talk about what is going on. It could be something on both ends or something you’ve overlooked. It’s possible your partner isn’t feeling the relationship anymore. It’s more likely they are just going through something personal.

 

When you’re faced with any of these issues, here are 5 quick ways to strength your relationship:

 

Set aside alone time

While you might spend a good deal of time together, this is different. This refers to time without distractions or interferences. No TV or cellphones. No reading a book or magazine. Just spending time together. You may think this sounds boring, but use your imagination! You could play a board game together or simply talk. Use the time alone to express your concerns or to get to know your partner. There is always something new to learn, even if you’ve been together 40 years.

 

Do something different

Instead of sticking to the same routine, try spicing it up. This can be as simple or as complicated as you’d like. You could go to a restaurant instead of staying in for dinner. Go on a date, like you’re meeting for the first time. Go for a walk together in a park you haven’t been to in years. It doesn’t matter. Anything outside of your typical routine is going to be different enough. After all, relationships can feel stagnant simply because the routine has drained you. By switching up what you’re doing, you can bring the essence of youth back. Another great idea in this category is signing up for a class, maybe cooking or crafts. As long as it’s something you’ll both enjoy!

 

Celebrate each other

Naturally, you celebrate when your partner has accomplished something like a promotion or a raise. As important as it is to recognise big accomplishments, you need to learn to recognise the little ones as well. You can do this by saying thank-you for small house tasks. You can buy random inexpensive gifts or treats to show your partner that you’re thinking about them. You can get creative with dozens of ways to show your appreciation for your partner. This is the same as celebrating them. Remember that every day with your partner is a gift.

Get physical

Too often relationship problems are caused by a lack of physical intimacy. While that shouldn’t the base of any relationship, it is definitely one of the walls of the foundation. A healthy relationship always has a form of physical intimacy. This doesn’t always refer to intercourse. You can get physically intimate by holding hands, kissing, tender embraces and cuddling up on the couch to watch TV. Physical intimacy is really any kind of physical closeness. Every relationship needs that.

Communicate

This is a big issue in most relationships. Communication often stops feeling essential as you get used to the routine. You talk all the time about dinner, work, weather or upcoming events. But you don’t dive into the “how are you, really?” questions. Learning to communicate isn’t as quick as the other options, but it’s equally important. Without communication, any relationship is doomed to failure. This refers to learning to how to have an argument as well. Obviously, there are going to be issues that arise. You don’t need to avoid arguments in a relationship, you need to learn to communicate the real issue to get working on a solution.

 

Of course, every step you take in a relationship should be met half-way! If you’re not feeling valued as an equal or you feel you’re doing everything, it’s time to have a more serious talk.

 

James Preece

Dating Coach for AsianSingleSolution.com

How to Introduce your partner to your friends

Monday, April 9th, 2018

 

Every relationship reaches the point where you have to ask: Is it time to introduce them to your inner circle? After all, you’re not going to date someone without ever introducing them to friends and family. At the same time, you don’t want to introduce every single potential partner to your friends. You could overwhelm your friends or even build resentment. If you’re moving too fast with your relationships, you could end up facing that problem. If you feel that’s the case, take a step back from dating and take a look at why you might be rushing your relationships.

Here are a few tips to help you introduce your partner to your friends:

Less is more

When you’re making the introductions, less is more. Don’t invite your partner to a party with 25 of your closest friends. Start with brunch and maybe 2 of your friends. This gives your partner the chance to get to know the people in your life, while also giving your friends the chance to get to know your partner. Intimate gatherings are ideal for initial meetings. This way, your partner will be happy to see a familiar face at that 25 guest party. It saves both of you from becoming overwhelmed with the interaction. Plus, if the relationship falls apart soon after, you only introduced this partner to a few friends.

 

Timing is everything

It’s not easy to choose the right timing to make introductions. That’s because there is no right or wrong answer. There isn’t exactly a rule book, either. It’s different for everyone. Your time line might work with this partner, but be too early with the next. You really have to gauge every relationship individually and decide what is best with each partner.

 

Generally, premature introductions aren’t wise. There are a few cases where an early introduction has had benefits. Such as the partner didn’t like the friends, ultimately deciding the fate of the relationship. Other examples may include the reaction the partner has about the introductions. After all, you can tell a lot about someone by how they act when they meet new people. If you don’t want to take that chance, wait until you feel you know this person well enough to introduce them to other people who are important to you.

 

Be confident

 

Many of our friends form opinions about our partner, whether we’re serious about the relationship or just testing the waters. This can go many ways, including the good, bad, and in between. In the instance of a bad judgement, you might find yourself being peer-pressured into an early end for this relationship. On the other hand, if your friends love your partner, you may feel obligated to stick around even if you’re not feeling the connection. This is another reason timing is important and making small introductions is beneficial.

 

Ultimately, when you’re introducing your partner to your friends, it’s because you’re confident in the relationship having some sort of success. If you’re not confident about that, it’s too early to make the introductions. Granted, early introductions could save you from investing too much time in a doomed relationship. But do you want to make that call or let the relationship play out on its own?

 

James Preece – Dating Coach for AsianSingleSolution.com

Make a Date for our Spring Fling

Thursday, March 15th, 2018

Our big Spring Fling Singles party takes place on Saturday 28th April.

Here are our top tips to make sure you make the most of the event and come away with lots of dates!

Dress to Impress

Most of our events have a dress code, so think about this in advance.  Get your best shirt ironed or treat yourself to a new dress. That way you’ll be confident when you enter the event and will attract attention for the right reasons.

Bring Your Friends

It’s always a great idea to round up your single friends to come along with you.  That way you have an instant support group and you won’t have to worry about being left on your own. Just make sure you choose happy, positive friends who are there to have a good time!

If you haven’t got any single friends to bring then don’t worry – just go up and say hello to some of the guests.  It doesn’t matter if you find them attractive or not. When you do this, other people will assume they are interested in you and you’ll look instantly more popular. As well as that, you could make new friends who you can keep talking to during the night.

Use the Hosts

We pride ourselves on booking more hosts than any other Asian singles party company. These hosts are the friendliest in the business and are there to help you.  Don’t be afraid of speaking to one if you need assistance.  They can help you talk to the person you’ve been eyeing up all evening, or explain how the night works. Their job is to make sure you have a good time so please make the most of them. They don’t bite!

Try Everything

If you want to be successful, you need to throw yourself into everything. This means taking part in the ice breaking activities, having a go at speed dating and generally making the most of it.  It really doesn’t matter how well you do it, but it will help you relax and have fun.  All the activities are there for your benefit and can help you start conversations with new people.

Talk to the People you Like

I find myself saying this a lot, but as a paying customer you can talk to anyone you wish.  If someone else is with them, don’t worry.  Just wait a few minutes and step in. The last thing you want to do is go home regretting you blew your chance to say hello.  Even if they aren’t keen, you’ve not lost anything.  You didn’t know them before the party and you don’t know them after.  So there’s no risk involved.

 

Don’t forget to book your ticket HERE !

 

See you there,

James

 

5 Ways To Appear More Confident

Tuesday, February 20th, 2018

It’s no secret that having confidence is the best way to get ahead in life. Whether you’re talking about landing a promotion at work or finding that special someone. Confidence is the key to unlocking almost any doorway. But how do you fair when you don’t have any confidence? You can always learn how to be more confident. It takes time and consistency. You can take courses online or in person to help build your confidence. Or you can follow the old adage: Fake it until you make it. It’s a lot easier to fake your confidence. This can even help you to build real confidence in yourself. Let’s take a look at 5 ways you can appear more confident:

1. Learn to balance conversation.

Many people who are nervous tend to talk a lot more than they should. Many others choose to be absolutely silent. These are two indications that someone lacks confidence in their life. Instead of doing either, learn when it’s appropriate to talk and when it’s best to listen. You don’t need to be the wallflower and you don’t need to babble nervously. When you choose to speak, make your voice heard. Be commanding and bold and always follow through on anything you say.

2. Don’t fidget.

Another habit that nervous individuals have is excessive fidgeting. You need to learn to sit still. Now when most people think of fidgeting, they think of hand gestures. Fidgeting can also mean gently shaking your leg and even looking around the room excessively. Instead of allowing yourself these mindless actions, consciously make the effort to stop trying to distract yourself. That’s really what fidgeting is: Keeping your mind otherwise occupied because you’re nervous or anxious about the situation you’re in.

3. Maintain eye contact.

When it comes to talking to people you’re nervous around, it’s tempting to look in different directions. However, improving your confidence starts with making solid eye contact. This can be tricky to do initially, so pace yourself. Start by looking just over the shoulder of the person you’re talking to. This can make it appear as though you’re making eye contact. Then make the effort to look directly at the individual and try and maintain eye contact. You’ll find it comes naturally after a while.

4. Stand tall and be proud.

Confident individuals always stand tall. This is both physically and mentally. By doing this, they tend to command the attention of the room. To stand tall physically means to stand with your shoulders straight, looking ahead and making direct eye contact. To stand tall mentally means to be proud of yourself and the things you’ve accomplished. If you don’t feel like you’ve accomplished anything, set your goals a little lower. You’re allowed to feel proud of getting out of bed in the morning if that’s all you’ve done. You don’t need to win awards to be validated.

5. Pace yourself.

The biggest way to appear confident is by not overdoing it. Whether you’re learning confidence or trying to fake it, you need to be realistic. This means that you can’t overexaggerate how confident you are. You can’t pretend to feel like you’re on top of the world. You need to maintain a balance between who you are and this person you’re trying to become. You don’t want to take on more than you can handle and then have people find out this isn’t who you are. So take baby steps until you feel confident to start taking leaps.

2018 Valentine’s Parties now on sale

Thursday, January 25th, 2018

2018 is already racing quickly by, but the good news is our Valentine’s parties are coming up soon.

These parties are the highlight of our dating calendar and always attract lots of new people.  We aim to make them as fun as possible and always provide much more than similar dating events.

Both events will take place on Saturday 10th February 2018, which is just a few days before the big day itself.

The London party will be at our favourites and most popular venue, the Holiday Inn Kensington.  We’ve got live classical music, optional speed dating, chocolate fountain and much more.

For Birmingham, we have a glamorous new venue – Siamais – which has only just opened up.  Discounted “Love Potion” cocktails for the first to arrive.

If you’d like to come then don’t wait any longer as the price will go up and you risk it going to a waiting list.

CLICK HERE to find out more and book now.

Meera

 

Setting Goals for 2018

Monday, January 8th, 2018

At the start of the new year, everyone likes to make a fresh start.  It’s when we decide we’ll start taking action and do something dramatic to achieve one particular goal in life.

For some, this might be to lose weight. For others it could be to find a new job or quit smoking.  However, lots of people will also want to meet their perfect partner. I’m guessing that’s why you are reading this blog on our site in the first place.  The good news is that you’ve come to the right place as we can definitely provide you with the tools to help you. It’s now just a case of you keeping things going and making a start.

Here are some quick suggestions to help you on your way:

State your Intentions

First of all, let all your friends and family know you are looking for a partner. Write it on social media and let the world know what you are up to. Put a note on your fridge about the person you are going to meet. That way you are making a declaration that you are finally doing this. Your support circle will be able to help and keep you motivated.  More that anything, you’ll become accountable.

Perfect Your Profile

The next thing you must do is get your online dating profile ready. Update it with new content and recent photos. Make sure it’s the best advert for you and that you are going to stand out from the competition.  Your profile is there to attract new people to you even when you aren’t logged in, so make it count.

Book an Event

If you want to be successful, you are going to have to leave the house.  Do everything possible to get yourself in a position where you’ll meet new people. We run lots of very popular events that will provide you with this opportunity. Book one now and you are going to dramatically boost your chances. Tell your friends but don’t worry if you come on your own as we have wonderful friendly hosts to look after you.

Get on some Dates

Do go out on dates, even if you aren’t completely sure about them. If there is even a glimmer of interest then spend an hour or so with them over coffee. There’s nothing to lose and the more dates you go on then the better you’ll become.  You won’t be nervous anymore.

Keep Going

Nothing worth getting is ever going to be easy.  You’ll experience knock-backs along the way but you have to keep up the momentum. You won’t like everyone you meet but all it takes is one person. Don’t give up before you even start as it can take several months to get what you truly desire.

So what are you waiting for?  You owe it to yourself to start taking action.  Once you do, you’ll be so happy that you got started. You’ll be that little bit closer to a happy, fulfilling relationship.

 

Happy dating and good luck!

James Preece

Dating Coach for Asiansinglesolution.com

Day Twelve- Twelve Dates of Christmas

Tuesday, December 12th, 2017

Idea Twelve – Visit a Pantomime

Well, we’ve come to the end of our 12 dates of Christmas series.  Oh yes we have!   (Oh no you haven’t)

For this one, we’ve saved the best until last.  Why not book up a pantomime and bring your fuzzy childhood memories flooding back?

There’s nothing more festive than seeing celebrities singing, dancing and telling rubbish jokes.  You’ll both laugh together and your single days will soon be….behind you.

If you have your own Christmas Dating Ideas please do add a comment to this blog.  We’d love to share the most original ones.

Happy dating!
Asian Single Solution

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Day Nine – Twelve Dates of Christmas

Saturday, December 9th, 2017

Idea Nine – Outdoor Cinema

Everyone has their favourite Christmas Movie.  Maybe it’s Elf, Santa Claus the Movie or Home Alone.  Find out what your date likes and take them to see it on the big screen.  There are lots of outdoor cinemas scattered over the UK that show the very best films. Don’t worry about the cold as you’ll get blankets and heaters.  It really does make for a fun and unusual experience!

If you have your own Christmas Dating Ideas please do add a comment to this blog.  We’d love to share the most original ones.

Happy dating!
Asian Single Solution

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Day Two- Twelve Dates of Christmas

Saturday, December 2nd, 2017

Idea Two – Christmas Markets

If you want an instant talking point, you can find Christmas Markets in many high streets.  They are usually copies of European markets, with lots of pretty lights and wares to buy.

No reputable market is complete without it’s own hot dog stand. Bratwursts are a very popular delicacy and they usually have a variety of the sausages available.

Take a stroll around you’ll find homemade goods and lots of art and crafts.  This could be candles, paintings, perfumes or Christmas cards.  Maybe you can buy each other a small trinket as as souvenir?

 

If you have your own Christmas Dating Ideas please do add a comment to this blog.  We’d love to share the most original ones.

Happy dating!
Asian Single Solution

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Day One – Twelve Dates of Christmas

Friday, December 1st, 2017

 

As a bit of Festive Fun, we will be giving you 12 fun dating ideas over the next few days.  You can use them for inspiration for when you go out on dates with members of the site.

Idea One – London Igloos

You might not have realised, but igloos are popping over all over the place.  These are modern little outdoor bubbles that give you the chance to meet someone in a fun,private environment.  You can see the stars at night and eat or drink to your hearts content.  With some you can try fondue together if you fancy it.

Don’t worry, these igloos are heated and many also come with blankets just in case you get a bit chilly.  We think they are the perfect romantic environment to warm up your love life.  If nothing more, you’ll have a great night to remember for years to come.

They are extremely popular so if you are interested you will need to book up early. They sell out very quickly each year so if you don’t want to miss out start planning today.

 

If you have your own Christmas Dating Ideas please do add a comment to this blog.  We’d love to share the most original ones.

 

Happy dating!
Asian Single Solution

Festive Dating Ideas For The Christmas Holiday

Tuesday, November 28th, 2017

Dating around the holidays can be pretty stressful. Most places are packed with last-minute shoppers. There’s a different kind of pressure in the air regarding romance. If you’re just getting to know someone, you want to avoid all of it. You just want a quiet night to share with someone. At the same time, you want to feel festive too.  Here are a few date ideas that take both of these factors into consideration:

Decorating The House

One of the most fun activities during the Christmas holiday is decorating. Some people even make a sport out of it to try and compete with neighbours in a playful way. Even if you’ve just started dating, decorating the house can be a great activity. It’s inexpensive, as you’ve likely got the decorations handy already. It will also give the two of you the chance to discuss holiday memories. This is great for bonding, plus it adds a festive cheer to your home and your blossoming relationship.

Baking

Of course, you can also opt for decorating a gingerbread house instead of your own home.  If you don’t know each other well enough to take them home, this smaller and edible home is a great date idea too. The two of you can create something together, which gives you an idea of the chemistry between you. Then you get to enjoy the delicious taste of eating your creation after. Plus, you can eat all the leftover decorations you didn’t use while you were putting the house together. Don’t forget to save some decor for the little gingerbread folk who will be living in your newly made dwelling!

Sweater Shopping

If you’re the type who likes to shop, this is the best date idea for you. This involves heading to your local thrift shop and looking for a Christmas sweater. The two of you can playfully compete to see who can find the ugliest sweater. Or you can just opt for matching sweaters if you’re feeling that vibe. Of course, you don’t have to go for ugly sweaters either. You can try and find something more significant to the relationship that you might want to wear over and over. Shopping is always a fun date idea, especially when you first start dating. You get a good idea of what your new partner is into and what they like. This especially helps around the holidays.

Christmas Movies

You can do this one at home or go to your local cinema. Around Christmas, all the holiday movies come out and are usually on offer. You can buy a few of them to bring home and watch. In some places you can still rent DVD’s, so maybe rent them instead of buying. Or you can simply head to Netflix to see what movies might be listed there for the season. In most places, the local cinema takes the holiday as an opportunity to drum up business by playing classic Christmas movies. Whichever route you choose, make sure to grab yourself some popcorn!

Sight-Seeing

A classic holiday date idea is to go sight-seeing in your neighborhood. This often involves looking at all the brightly decorated homes around yours. You can choose either neighborhood or do both if you’re feeling adventurous. Just make sure that you’re dressing warm, as the winds are often cold in the later hours of winter. It might also be a good idea to grab yourselves hot chocolate before heading on your stroll. This gives you something warm to counter the temperature. It also gives you something to do with your hands, in case you might be nervous.

Masquerade Ball was a Huge Success

Wednesday, November 8th, 2017

Thank you to everyone who came to our amazing 15th Birthday Masquerade Ball.

With over 250 tickets sold, the party was sold out with a wonderful crowd.  We had masked speed dating, magician Ravi Mayar, popcorn, candyfloss, live music and much more. Above all, we provided opportunity and many great matches were made during the night.


We’ve had many people tell us it was our best event ever, so we are excited to think of ways we can top it in 2018!

If you have any ideas for events that we don’t currently offer, please add your thoughts to a comment on this page.  We’d love to hear what you would like to see.

 

Here’s to the next 15 years!

 

James, Paul, Meera, Amrita and the Team.

 

How to Make Your Profile Pop

Tuesday, October 10th, 2017

Online dating is all about the way you present yourself. Since you’re not initially meeting face-to-face, your profile is going to be the first impression anyone has of you. You want to make a good impression. This will have other members of the website contacting you and wanting to know more. You’ll have more dating opportunities with a well-rounded profile. It can be hard to come up with a unique profile that truly stands out from all your competition. The good news is that we’ll show you where to start!

Your username and profile picture are the two most important aspects of your dating profile. These are the first things someone will see when you show up in a search or while they are browsing. Your username should be something clever and inventive. Hotguy2015 isn’t going to stand out. Puns are a good way to make usernames stand out. If there’s a clever way you can use your name to create a word, try that! You’d be surprised how many people are more interested in clicking a clever username. Now your profile picture should flattering, but not misleading. You don’t want to use any photo magic in a profile picture. You can choose flattering angles (most people do) and wear the clothes you look best in. You can pose or take a more candid style photo to show off your personality. You can use flattering images as supporting pictures, but try to look as natural as possible in your profile picture.

The next thing someone is going to look at is your tagline. “I’m looking for Mr/Mrs. Right” is not an informative tagline. You’re pretty limited on what you can say in a tagline so be creative! Find the shortest way to get the most information across. For instance: “My Mr/Mrs. Right loves beagle puppies and watching hockey on Saturday nights.” In this tagline, you’re talking more about who you’re looking for. You’ll appeal to anyone who loves beagle puppies or hockey. Obviously, this is an outline. You’ll want to use things that personally apply to you and your interests. The tagline is a great way to quickly summarise who you are and what you’re looking for.

Your profile information is where you’ll get to dive into details. Now to really make your profile pop, you’ll want to include summarized information. No one enjoys reading large paragraphs of text. Even if they are interested in you, they aren’t looking to read a book. Using point-form is the easiest way to describe yourself in more detail. It’s also useful for describing your ideal mate. Many dating profiles are very basic. They talk about generic interests, like music or movies or sports. They don’t talk about personality. You want to stand out, so you want to describe who you are, not just what you’re into.

The most important thing to remember about building any dating profile is to be yourself. You can accentuate your good qualities and leave out some of the bad, but don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. If you’re looking for a real connection, you have to be a real person.

Why we Kiss

Thursday, August 3rd, 2017

For many people, the question of “why we kiss” seems fairly obvious. It’s all about sharing an intimate moment with someone we care about. It’s offering a deeper connection, demonstrating our vulnerabilities. Or sometimes, it’s about getting a feel for a new lovers’ skills. Kissing is just a great way to express your inner romanticism or a way to make a physical connection with someone else. Well, that does seem like the more the obvious reason to kiss someone, right?

But it’s not scientifically correct. That’s right, there’s a scientific reason for kissing someone!  It involves biological figures.

The fact is the study of kissing is actually called “philematology”. This is derived from the greek word (isn’t everything?) “philos”. The translation of that word means an “earthy love”. It’s a word that describes getting back to the roots. This is a suitable word for the study of kissing as  kissing itself feels like a connection to the root of the recipient. That’s why it often feels the most vulnerable, even though it’s such a simple action.

Philematology describes kissing as a way our bodies communicate chemically. The exchange of saliva is actually a way of determining physical compatibility. Your body will react likewise to the communications you aren’t even conscious of. You know how kissing can leave you absolutely breathless and make you fall head over heels in love with that person? Or it can turn you off completely and you’ll send them running for the exit? That’s the response to the chemical composition of the person you’re kissing. It can work either way depending on how skilled you are at doing it.

Over the years it’s been deemed that human beings used these chemical communications less and less. That our primal instinct to find the perfect partner for mating has been fading. But studies are arguing those assumptions by proving them entirely wrong. Studies are done to determine the likelihood of two people choosing to mate, using chemical compositions.

That might seem a little far fetched, but as a relationship expert I know how true it is. As we’ve evolved as human beings and our “ideals” have changed, you would think our bodies no longer look for this signals. The fact of the matter is that many of our “ideals” are actually just those same chemical responses. Whether it’s through kissing or the scent of another person, it’s in our DNA to find that “perfect someone”. Even if you’re not looking for an ideal mating partner, your body is. That’s just the way we were designed and there’s nothing you can do about it!

Interestingly, philematology determined that kissing can actually burn calories. You use around 25 facial muscles when you’re deeply kissing someone (only about 2 or 3 for a simple kiss). You also use over 100 postural muscles! Therefore, you can burn up to 25 calories every minute you’re in a heated make-out session. So make sure you’re putting those muscles to good use.

It’s all in the name of science, after all.

James Preece – Relationship Expert

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Recent Success Stories and Feedback

Thursday, May 25th, 2017

We’d had some great feedback recently:

 

“Met someone through the site and things are going well!” AP

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : It’s perfect” AK

“I met my now Fiance on your site, we are getting married on 27th August this year (thank you for introducing us!)” PP

“I have found the one.” RF

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single!” KS

“I have found someone through this website!” AP
“I met someone at one of your events” DM

“Very Happy with the service. Found some one already” BP

Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

 

 

If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

 

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

Our Masquerade Ball is open for sales

Tuesday, November 1st, 2016

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We are delighted to be holding our first ever Masquerade Ball.

This will take place on Saturday 26th November at the Kensington Close Hotel.

Upon arrival, you’ll be met by our hosts and given a mask to where if you don’t wish to bring your own. We’ll have a professional photographer on hand who will capture the glitz and glamour of the evening.

We’ll then enjoy free Casino tables, optional Speed Dating and more while enjoying entertainment from our special Classical Duo, before chatting and dancing the night away with a DJ at the very special Kensington Close Hotel.

This promises to be one of the most spectacular events the Asian Single Solution has ever organised, and we’d love for as many of our members, friends and supporters to join us.

Book now HERE

Dating Problem Solved: Why do the Wrong Men contact me?

Tuesday, October 18th, 2016

Today I’m bringing back my very popular Dating Advice as I’ve had a question from a member:

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“Hi James, I wonder if you can answer this problem for me as it’s really confusing me.  I’m getting frustrated because I only seem to get contacted by men who are nothing like I’m looking for. They are either too old, too far away or generally not suitable.  How can I stop this and get the good ones to get in touch?  M”

Hey M,

Thanks for your message.  I completely understand what you mean.  However, it’s not working simply because your strategy is wrong. These men won’t always know if you are a good match or not until you’ve spoken, so they are just taking their chances.  You can’t really blame them, although they should really pay more attention and consider if you might really be compatible or not.

The thing is, it doesn’t really matter who contacts you.  Instead, it’s all about you being proactive and reaching out to the men that you are interested in instead.  That way you are in control and not sat around waiting for the “online dating lottery” to get your numbers up.

It’s a bit like applying for a job. If you wanted to get the position of your dreams, you’d write a great CV and make sure it went out to the right companies.  You wouldn’t just see which random companies decide to contact you and hope for the best.

I’d suggest you email at least five men a day. It may sound a lot but once you start to get replies back then you can cut down. Be open minded and you never know what might happen.

Finally, it would be best to make sure you fill your online dating profile in as much as possible.  Don’t be negative and talk about what you don’t want in a partner, but focus on the things that yuo really do.  That way someone reading it can make a better decision about whether they really should contact you or not.

 

Do you have own dating dilemma or relationship issue that you’d like some help with?  I’m a leading Dating Coach and I work with the Asian Single Solution to make sure their members are successful in love.  Email me at [email protected] and I’ll answer some of the best ones here in this blog..anonymously of course!

 

Happy dating,
James Preece

The Dating Guru

Birthday Party Thanks

Tuesday, September 27th, 2016

Thank you to everyone who came to our big 14th Birthday Party!

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Our event was a complete sell out and from all accounts lots of fun and matches were made.  We pulled out all the stops for the event and had a magician, chocolate fountain, DJ and for the first time ever – casino tables.
We don’t run our events for profit but as a showcase for the website, so we usually spend all the money made on making them the best we can.  So if you liked anything in particular please do add a comment and let us know.  That way we know to include it next time.

Thanks again for celebrating with us and we are looking forward to planning the next exciting events.  Next year will be the big 15 so we’ll be coming up with something even more special for you to enjoy.

Happy dating,

James, Paul, Meera and the team

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Is something frustrating you?

Tuesday, August 16th, 2016

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If you are finding the dating game difficult, then it’s quite understandable that you might be getting confused.

I know that everyone has different problems and finding dates can take a little while.  This important this is that you don’t ever feel stuck.  You have to be able to keep moving forward so you ultimately end up with what you want.  So we are here to help you on your journey and you don’t have to do it all on your own!

What I’d love you to do it tell me exactly what problem you are having right now.

Perhaps you aren’t sure what to write in your profile or how to get replies.  Or maybe you are getting lots of interest but it fizzles out.  Whatever it might be it usually something that can be resolved quickly.

I’ve been a Dating Coach for ten years now and I’ve helped bring 10000s of couples together. I’m an authority in the dating world and highly respected.

I’ll do my best to answer each and every issue, with my dating expert advice to help you make dramatic improvements.

You can either reach me at [email protected] or you can add an (anonymous if you prefer) comment to this blog.

Don’t put you life on hold any longer – take action now and you might just starting people and getting more dates than ever before!

New feedback and successes

Thursday, May 26th, 2016

We’d had some great feedback over the last few weeks

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Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
I’m married now” GS

“Hi ,I’ve been wanting to contact in regards to tell you that you have another success story as me and my husband meet on your site in September 2013 and have recently got married on 14th February 2016. We wanted to share our story and good news with you.”

“Very Happy with the service
Feedback : hi – I have met the love of my life”

“It’s a great user-friendly website” RR

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Good site” BB

“It worked. it actually worked :-)” AJ

“Customer service is good” NN

“I met someone on this site and seeing how things go.” RS

If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

 

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

Dating Guru’s Golden Rule One

Wednesday, April 27th, 2016

Dating Rule

Our very own James Preece is one of the UK’s very best Dating Coaches.  He has put together some of THE most important Dating Tips for you.

Hi there! I’ve been helping singles find love for the last decade and today I’m going to tell you all about my first Golden Rule:

One: Work Out What You Want

This might sound obvious but I never cease to be amazed how many people forget to even consider this.  If you don’t know who are you looking for then you’re never going to know when you find them.

Let’s suppose you want to get a new job. Would you apply for every single vacancy no matter what is was for  and attend every interview you were offered?  Of course you wouldn’t.  That would just be a colossal waste of time and you’d never find a position that you were happy with.

Dating is exactly the same.  Before you begin, you have to work out what is important to you.  Who exactly is it that you are looking for and what do you want from them.  If you want to find a husband or wife you need to be clear about your goal right from the start.

So have a good think now about what the person you’d like end up with might be like.  Consider their qualities, lifestyle and personality. Is there anything especially important such as religion, smoking habits or location?  If so, keep these in mind along the way. 

I’m not suggesting that you should ever stop being open minded about what might happen. I’m just saying that you should always have something in mind to aim for.  

After all, what you think you want and what you really need can often be completely different things.  The fun comes with the adventure ahead and trying new possibilities and meeting new people

Happy dating!


 

I do hope this short article has helped you see what you need to do to make a huge difference.  Watch out for the next dating rule coming next week!

If you would like to work with me as your dating coach then you can contact me through my personal website HERE

 

Dating Guru Advice: Is he just leading me on?

Tuesday, April 19th, 2016

 

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This week I answer a question from a very confused female member.

“Dear James, I was dating someone from the site at the start of the year.  He’s a solicitor and very handsome. Things were going well but I think I came over a bit too keen and scared him away.  We’re just friends now but were still in regular contact.  I really liked him and miss him a lot, so I’ve been hopeful we can resolve things and get back together.  However, I recently asked him if he’d like to go for a drink and he said he’d love to. However, the problem is that he keeps cancelling and letting me down at the minute.  He’s really busy and has so much going on.  He does keep promising he wants to see me but now he’s been quiet for a week.  Is he really interested or not?  T”

Hi T,

Thanks for your message.  I’m sorry things didn’t work out this time around.

One of the problems at the start of a new relationship is that you will both be at different stages.  One will be more “into” the relationship than the other, although things do eventually balance out once you’ve been seeing each other for a while.   If you are a bit too needy, clingy or questioning then it can be all too easy for the other person to get nervous and bail out.  Rather than have a confrontation or discussion about the issue, it’s easier to just end things and move on.

Perhaps he is just busy.  Things do get in the way after all.  But I strongly suspect he’s just trying to let you down gently.  I don’t want to sugar coat it, so I have to say that if he really really wanted to see you then he’d make time for you.  How hard is it to find an hour for a drink?  I think he’s fully aware that you want to get back together but it’s not something he’s ready for…at least not at the moment.  So he’s fobbing you off and avoiding you rather than telling you the truth.

The very best thing you can now is to get on with your life and stop hoping he’ll get in touch.  Carry on dating other men and make sure you have a full diary with lots of exciting activities. If he does contact you then great, but at least you’ll have lots of other options.  I tend to find the more fun and exciting your life is then the more other people will want to be part of it.

So do get back on the site and fingers crossed you meet someone even more wonderful!

James

 

If you have your own dating dilemma that you’d like help with, send it over to [email protected]   Our resident Dating Coach James Preece will answer the best questions here in the blog.  Don’t worry, they always completely anonymous so nobody will ever know it was you!

Happy dating

James Preece

www.asiansinglesolution.com

New Feedback

Tuesday, March 15th, 2016

We’d had some great feedback over the last few weeks

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Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

“Very Happy with the service. Feed back : I have met someone.” PP
“I’ve finally found my soul mate on this web site. It took a while to find her, but it was worth the membership fees I paid. The people who run this web site do a good job for asian singles.” MJ
“Thanks to your site ive now met someone ;-)” DD
“Easy to use website” AN
“Thank you for the help. I met someone at Saturdays event” JS
“I really liked the venue, great choice for a saturday night, had a wedding reception feel. much better than the other venues. Had a hoot!” AM
“Much better than other Asian Dating Sites” PN
“Great way to meet other people. Easy to use.” CM
“I have met someone from the site” BY
“Awesome site helps everyone” RH

If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

 

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

Competition Winners

Wednesday, January 6th, 2016

Thank you to everyone that entered our “2015 Quiz of the Year”

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We have lots of entries and the winners have now been selected and notified.

The star prize winner of £100 was Sharon Jatti

The correct answers were:

1. We were a finalist at the Uk Dating Awards for Best Niche Dating Site
2. Jaz proposed to Amz
3. We supported the London Indian Film Festival
4. We had over 270 at our London Valentine’s Event

Here’s to 2016!
Best Wishes,

Meera

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Our latest Asian Wedding

Wednesday, September 2nd, 2015

We were delighted to hear about another Asian Single Solution wedding.

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Namvir & Dal met on our site in 2014 and got married in June 2015

Namvir had been looking for her dream man for nine years and had been on our site for four of them.  She’d almost given up looking but decided to give it one more go.  When she reached out to Dal she was delighted that he was also interested in her.

You can read their full story on our Success Story page.

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Congratulations to them both!

This goes to show that you must never give up.  Three month memberships are rarely enough to make online dating work and you need to think of a longer term strategy.  As long as you stick at it and are proactive then cupid will eventually find you too.

If you have your own success story please do let us know. It’s the best way that we can show everyone the site really does work.

Happy dating,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Date Change for our Boat Party

Monday, August 10th, 2015

Have you booked yet?

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We love trying new parties ideas out.  Our members love our useful midweek and Saturday events, but it’s important to sometimes mix things up a little.

New themes attract new faces and open up your meeting possibilities.

So as bit of fun, we are running the first ever Asian Single Solution Love Boat.

We’ve hired a moving party boat which will cruise along the Thames, giving you spectacular views of London.  We’ll be playing popular tunes in the downstairs bar, with a quieter upstairs bar for those who prefer a bit more peace and quiet.

As always, we’ll have our amazing hosts on hand to help you mingle and meet everyone. Oh and we are including a cocktail reception to make the night even more memorable.

We arrive back by 10.30pm so you will have plenty of time to get home.

The party will now  take place on Tuesday 1st September and departs from Westminster Pier.  Please check out the website and book now.

Lots of tickets have already gone and we won’t be able to add extra ones so don’t miss out!

James, Paul and Meera

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Recent Feedback and Success Stories

Wednesday, August 5th, 2015

We love hearing your positive feedback about the site and the events

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Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

“I have been part of Asian Singles Solution for the past 3 months and have been fortunate to find a match from the site” AP

“Very Happy with the service” VP

“Great site” FD

“I met my fiance on your site and no longer need to be a member.” JC

“I think the site works well and did allow me to meet similar people.” PP

“It is a nice way of meeting people” JN

“Found someone” AS

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single” VP

“great site!” TP

“I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single” US

“Met someone, he’s great :)” BS

If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

 

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

What is your favourite pre-date song?

Tuesday, June 16th, 2015

When you go to the gym you have your favourite tracks on your Ipod.

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These are the songs that get your heart racing, your blood pumping and make you work just that little bit harder.  For many, this is “Eye of the Tiger” or “The Final Countdown” – show stoppers in their own right.

However, when it comes to dating it turns out that lots of people have a favourite tune which they like to play before they head out the door for a date.  They tell us that is can make them feel much more upbeat and powerful, which puts them in a positive state of mind.  If they are feeling better and happier about themselves then it’s only natural they will have a more successful dating experience.

We’ve heard that Beyonce’s “Single Ladies” is a popular one before many women head out to a singles night.  For men, it’s  “Power of Love”…the Huey Lewis and the News version. Personally, we are big fans of Queen’s “Don’t Stop Me Now” to really amp up our moods!

Songs that have the same beats per minute as your heartbeat  ( 120 -140 BPM) are your best choices if you want to maximise the effect.  Scientists have shown that this the pace most likely to make your feel positive and energised, so who are we to argue?

So if you want to have better dates, why not download some of your favourites songs and try playing them before you head out the door?   It might make a real difference and you won’t know until you try it.  Must make sure you don’t choose a song that has a bad memory association, or you could be doing more damage than good.

If you have a favourite, please mention it as a comment at the end of this blog.  We’d love to hear what everyone else plays!
Happy dating

Single Solution

www.singlesolution.com

Dating Guru Profile Review: LUCKSTAR89

Monday, April 20th, 2015

Here is our latest online

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profile review for you

Here’s a look at his current profile.

Nickname:
LuckyStar would be a wonderful nickname, but LuckStar doesn’t mean anything. Unless there’s a reason for it I’d suggest you change it. After all, people call you Lucky not Luck!

Photos:

You have a nice photo as your main image. I think women will respond well as you look friendly, smart and approachable.   You look fun and presentable in your album shots too so all good choices.

Interesting Fact:

Your Fact is OK but the “you’ll have to find out” comment isn’t enough. When people write it’s usually because they can’t think of anything more imaginative.

 

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There’s nothing particularly wrong with you profile text, but there’s still room for improvement.  You’ve written a list of things about yourself but it’s better to demonstrate exactly what you mean.

For example – you say you are spontaneous so give an example about at time you were spontaneous.  You could say,  I am often spontaneous and once jumped on the first plane that was leaving the airport.  When you do this it’s much more interesting than reading a long list.

You’ve put the line in about winking for interest, but you’d get a much better success rate if you just emailed them in the first place. Winking can perhaps give the impression you can’t be bothered to write a proper message. It’s the people who take the time to send a short personalised message that get the results.

 

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Again, this is fine but it’s very generic.  Who doesn’t want to meet someone with a similar outlook and enjoys life?   Can you try and paint a picture that would make someone think “Yes that’s me he’s looking for” ?

I hope this helps,

James

If you would like to have your profile reviewed and featured, then please email your request to [email protected] We’ll pick the best one each month and get our leading Dating Expert James Preece to offer you his advice on how to make it better in this blog.

Good luck!

James Preece – Dating Coach

Asian Dating: How to make sure you find love in 2015

Monday, January 12th, 2015

Are you fed up being single?  It’s a new year so there are new opportunities.

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As we head into the the new year it’s time once again to start making our resolutions.

For some this is to lose weight, stop smoking or to finally meet a partner.  If this is you then you have definitely

come to right place!

Here are our top five tips for you to give your love life a kickstart.

 

1) Book an Asian Dating Event.   This is your biggest opportunity to get yourself out there and start meeting potential matches in the real world. We’ve already got several listed for you to book on the website. This includes the biggest of them all – the Asian Valentine’s Ball.

2) Try Online Dating.   The start of the year is the busiest time for most dating sites and ours is no exception.  There will be more new faces than at any other time of year and they are just waiting for your to reach out and say hello.

3) Remember it’s not just you.  Most singles can feel a bit lonely at the start of a new year, but that’s absolutely normal. There are millions making exactly the same resolution as you.

4) Take Responsibility.  It’s your choice whether you are single or not.  Don’t blame anyone or anything else.  Yes, that includes the weather, your income and how incredibly busy you are.

5) Take action!   The only way to achieve what you want is to make sure you do something about it.  Make sure you have a clear defined plan about what you want and how you are going to do it. If you don’t you’ll find yourself in the same situation at the beginning of next year too.

If you need any help or advice then please remember we are always here.  Drop us a message at [email protected]  and we’ll be happy to do what you can.

Happy dating and good luck!

James Preece

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Birthday Ball was huge success

Tuesday, September 30th, 2014

Thank you to all our lovely guests who attended our 12th Birthday Ball
Last Saturday we held our big Birthday Ball at the Kensington Close Hotel.  We completely sold out with over 300 tickets sold and we are delighted to say that the event ran very smoothly.

Here are a few photos from the night.  We’ll put lots more up on on Facebook page soon so do tag yourselves please.

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We’ve had some great feedback about the event too:

“Photo booth and fountain were good ice breakers. Thanks for great evening!”

“Just wanted to say thank you for organising yesterday, I think you did a great job and  I haad a lot of fun, and so did many other people”

Due to the popularity of this party we will look to hold a similar one early next year.  When you see it announced, we strongly advise you to book early as tickets went in record time for this one!

 

Thank you for all your support over the last year 12 years.  He hope to make the next 12 event bigger and better.

James, Paul, Meera and the Asian Single Solution Team

Events Music: What would you like?

Monday, August 11th, 2014

The Single Solution brand has been going for almost 12 years now and we do our best to continually innovate and improve.

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We are planning a big celebration party but we need your help to make it as amazing as possible!

We’re lining up lots of special entertainment but we are still deciding about the music aspect.  We usually have a DJ later on in the evening but for the big ones we like to make things more special but having a band.

However, there are so many to choose from that we would love to hear your thoughts before we book anything. For those who don’t really like music and prefer to talk then don’t worry as we will have a quiet room next door too.

So, with that in mind, please can you add your thoughts by commenting on this blog or emailing us at [email protected]

 

1) Would you prefer a DJ or a live band?

2) What sort of music would you like?

3) If it’s a band, would you like a covers band or a specific Tribute Act?

4) Is a dancefloor important to you?

5) Is there anything else you’d like us to do?

 

Thank you very much for your help.  It’s only with our members input that we can continue to grow.

See you at the party!

James

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Dating Guru’s Mailbag: Shall I tell him I love him?

Monday, June 30th, 2014

Here is the latest question answered by our Dating Guru

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“Dear James, I’ve been with my boyfriend for six months now and we are so happy together.  We met on your dating site and he’s everything I’m looking for. I think he wants us to start looking for a place together soon.  However, neither of us has told the other than we love them.  I love him so much but I don’t want to embarrass myself if he doesn’t feel the same!  What should I do?   S.T”

Hi S.T

Many thanks for your message.  It’s fantastic news that you’ve met someone through us and that you are happy together.  I’d say that the fact he’s talking about moving in together is a very positive sign that he sees a future with you.

I know that you don’t want to say you love him in case he gets scared or pretends he’s not heard you.  The problem is that he more than likely feels exactly the same.  The longer you leave it then the worse it will get.

Slip it into conversation when you are saying goodbye to him, as it’s the most natural thing in the world.  “Love you” sounds much softer than “I Love you” so try and say that instead if you think it might shock him.

If you really want to be as gentle as possible, just write it at the end of a text message.  Something simple like “I had such a wonderful evening with you.  I love you :) xxx”           With any luck he’ll text something similar back.   If he doesn’t, don’t panic as he might want to say it face to face.

Whatever you do, don’t ask him if he loves you and force him into saying something he isn’t ready to say yet.   He’ll end up resenting you and you’ll take away his chance to impress/surprise you.

I’d advise you not to move in together until you are sure you both love each other. Otherwise you may have a very bumpy ride together!

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

 

Asian Dating: Why won’t they meet you?

Thursday, May 29th, 2014

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Another Asian Success story! Vikas & Manprit

Monday, May 5th, 2014

It never rains but it pours :)

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We have had yet another lovely email from yet another happy couple who met through our site

You can read it here on our Success Story Page:

https://www.asiansinglesolution.com/static/success_stories.html

We’d like to say congratulations to Vikas & Manprit and thank them very much for sharing their good news.
Could you be next? If you have a story to tell please let us know!

James and Paul

www.asiansinglesolution.com

March Feedback and Successes

Monday, April 7th, 2014

March was another great month for our Asian dating site

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Here is just a small selection of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

“I felt the website was a valuable way to meet like minded people. I will be recommending this site to my friends and colleagues.” DS

“Very easy site to use, and genuine people are available to talk to” AV

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single. Feed back : Excellent” MP

“A nice way of getting to know other singles out there” US

“Thank you for helping me meet someone, very early days…..watch this space!!” SK

“The best site I’ve been on.” EH

“Excellent thank you. I have met someone now.” AK

“Best dating site ever” SM

“Generally a good site and works well” SB

“Good professional service, happy with it.” KC

” I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single
Feed back : This site has been a great help! Great site!” MR

“Flexible, easy to use, great interface” JK

“Good service, easy to use site. Would recommend to others” NP

“Site was good, easy to search for people such as if the are veg, drinkers etc. easy to search for the type of person you are looking for.” AK

If you have your own feedback or succes that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

 

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

Dating Guru Mailbag: How to ask how someone I like

Monday, March 31st, 2014
Here is our latest dating problem answered

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by our Dating Expert

"Dear James,  I really like a girl in my local supermarket. She's studying at university but works there part time. I often catch her looking at me and her friends keep telling me she likes me. How can I ask her out without making a fool of myself? M"

Hi M,
Thank you for your message!

The good news is that I think she definitely likes you.  All the signs are 
there, so there's absolutely no harm in trying. 

I'm wondering why you queue in a different one that she is in though?   Your 
first test should be to make sure you queue in her one next time, even if it is 
clearly the longest one.  That way you'll be able to really read her reactions. 

Don't forget that a lot of people will make small talk with her - that's just 
part of her job.  So you need to do something a bit more.  Perhaps joke that 
hers is always the slowest queue or tell her you want to cook something but 
aren't sure what.  Could she give you a recipe?  Do this a few times over a 
period of a few days/weeks to build up the trust.  If you go in to quickly she 
might be too nervous.  Be friendly, smiling and interesting.

Your job is to make her smile, make her want to see you and brighten her day 
just by the very fact you've spoken. 

Obviously you won't be able to have a long conversation with her as people will 
be waiting. So....you could tell her that really enjoy talking to her and wish 
it could be longer. You'd love to get to know her better.  What steps could you 
take to make that happen? 

Hopefully she will offer her phone number at this point.  If not, just ask her 
for it and tell her you promise not to send her photos of barcodes all day long!

Don't give her your number as you lose control - so make sure you get hers. You 
can then text her later that day/evening to ask when she finishes her shift and 
suggest you grab a coffee. 

I really hope it works out for you, so let me know what happens.  If it doesn't 
go well, don't worry as at least you tried!

Best Wishes, 

James

If you'd like help with your own dating problem please email us at [email protected]      The best will be answered anonymously here. 

Manchester Hindu and Sikh Free Valentines Party

Tuesday, February 11th, 2014

If you are a Manchester based Asian single then you really don’t want to miss this!

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We are taking our best dating hosts up to Manchester and running the ultimate Hindu and Sikh Valentine’s party at Label Bar.  We’ve got ice breaking, mingling and some gorgeous guests already booked up.

But do you want to hear the best news?   This Asian party is completely free.  Yes, you hear that right.  There’s no charge for entry and we’ll even give the first guests to arrive a complimentary drink to welcome them.

There’s no catch at all.  We’re doing this as a special launch party to help grow our database of Manchester Asians.  So if you’d like to come along and join in the fun do book up now.  It would be great if you could tell all your Hindu and Sikh single friends too.  The more people we have then the better the dating party is going ot be!

This is your BEST opportunity to get some dates in your diary before Valentine’s Day this Friday.

CLICK HERE TO BOOK YOUR FREE PLACE

Hopefully we’ll see you then.

Meera

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Leeds Asian Hindu and Sikh Valentine Party is this week

Tuesday, February 11th, 2014

We are very excited here at Asiansinglesolution.com  HQ

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Tomorrow we have our big Leeds Asian Valentine’s Party.  Our best hosts are currently packing their bags and getting ready for a fantastic event.  It’s the perfect chance for you to find a date in time for the big day this Friday.

Our party will take place at Tiger Tiger in Leeds and we’ve got lots of lovely guests booked in already.  If you’d like to meet them for a wonderful night of mingling, ice breaking and fun conversation then don’t forget to book your place now.  We’ve got a bar to ourselves.

Tickets are absolutely 100% free and we’re even throwing in free drinks for the first to arrive.  Don’t wait until Friday and wish you’d come – book now and you may just have the best Valentine’s day ever!

What are you waiting for?  Book right now

CLICK HERE

Meera

www.asiansinglesolution.com