We want the profiles on AsianSingleSolution to be great quality, helping you make genuine connections. We asked Hey Saturday, the world’s first dating photography agency, to share their top tips on how to make your dating photos stand out, so you can find that special someone.

Must have: Quality

When choosing your dating photos, be sure to prioritise image quality. A good dating photo should be well lit and in focus. Exclude anything that is dark, or where you can’t be seen very clearly, and especially any blurry images. The best dating photos are taken outdoors in natural light as it’s most flattering. Have another look at the photos you’ve chosen for your dating profile and discount anything that doesn’t tick these boxes. You’ll thank us when the messages start rolling in!

Key dating photos

There are three types of dating photo that you should include for a really great dating profile.

Clear Smiling Headshot

For your lead photo, we recommend choosing a well-lit, in-focus photo of your head and shoulders where you can clearly see your face. A natural, genuine smile is a bonus.

Talking Point Photo

Next, the talking point photo. These are photos that tell your story and show something about you and you can include several of these. For example, take a photo in your favourite park, sipping a coffee at your favourite cafe, walking your dog or holding something you love, such as your camera, or your favourite book. And yes – this is something that sparks a conversation with people and tells them whether you have things in common.

Full Body Photo

Lastly, the full body photo. You should include at least one photo where your whole body is visible – this gives people more clues about your style and physique.

Showing your “best assets” may give you an advantage. You only have to look at Instagram and the photos of Kendall Jenner to see what gets the most hits.

Activity or Extreme sport photos

This is further to the talking point photo. Photos of you at the top of a mountain, diving with sharks, windsurfing, bungee jumping or doing any other type of extreme sport or activity show character, depth and interest to your profile.

However, these are best if you can be clearly identified. If you are very small in the photo it’s hard for people to see any kind of detail in your face or body and therefore it might not be you! Sporting images can add great value to your profile but only if you also have a well lit head and shoulders shot of you where you can see your eyes. This will work to show what’s unique about you.

Things to avoid

Group Photos

Group photos are a popular choice as they show that you have a great social life and lots of friends. However there are plenty of downsides to choosing this approach. For example, what if people aren’t sure which one in the photo you are? Or what if they decide they don’t like the look of your friends? Or even worse, what if they decide they prefer the look of one of your friends to you? You have a matter of seconds to grab attention, so be the sole focus of your dating photos and don’t waste time on group shots.

Selfies

Even though we are trying to meet a lifelong partner, many of us still think it’s appropriate to use a photo that we’ve taken ourselves on our phone camera. A selfie sends a message to others that you’re not taking this seriously or investing much time or effort. It also won’t allow you any opportunity to show your personality or what makes you different. You can’t include an interesting backdrop of your favourite park or cafe; you can’t be seen holding something meaningful to you like a book, camera or sketchbook because your hands are too busy taking the photo.

Blurry Images and No Filters

If you want someone to be interested in you, you need to make sure you are clearly visible.  Adding an out of focus or badly cropped image isn’t going to help. Make sure you only add high quality, high resolution images if you want to be successful.

Using filters is false advertising and may just lead to disappointment later. You are all adults so bunny ears and the like just give the impression you are not taking this seriously.

Above all, add the photos you would expect and want to see on other people’s photos.

For help creating a top notch set of dating photos, check us out at Hey Saturday

Have you been single for a long time, despite many dates? Do you often find yourself reflecting on past dates, wondering what happened? Do you feel like you’re going to be single forever? If your answer was yes, you may need to look at how you’re dating. While we would like it to be easy, like it is on TV, dating has a margin for many mistakes. You may not even realize you’re making the biggest dating mistakes. Below, you’ll find six of the biggest dating mistakes. If you’re making any of them, you’ll want to stop now!

Mistake 1: You’re stuck inside a comfort zone.

You are a creature of habit. You like routine. You often visit the same club or bar. You go to the same coffee shop on the same day of the week. You likely use the same dating applications, despite not having luck with them in the past. You probably send the same kind of message every time you try to connect with someone. It may be time to step outside of your comfort zone. Go somewhere you’ve always thought about going but haven’t been to. Try a dating app you’ve never used before. Yes, familiarity is more comfortable. But, you’re more likely to see results from a new method!

Mistake 2: You’re not interesting enough to keep someone’s interest.

This is not meant to be a judgment or comparison, but some people are just boring. Unfortunately, you may be one of these people. A boring person talks a lot, but hardly listens when other people speak. A boring person resorts to boring conversation and small talk about the weather or work. If you don’t want to be boring anymore, improve your conversation skills. You can use “conversation topics” in order to build on your skills. You can develop your skills by talking to random people. You can always improve your conversational skills by getting out and making memories.

Mistake 3: You want to be in control of everything.

No one wants to be controlled, yet many people want to be in control of everything. This controlling tendency tends to cause many dates to become disastrous. Whether you’re hoping for the perfect date or you’re looking for the perfect spouse, your expectations are standing in the way of your happiness. Yes, everyone is allowed to have “deal-breakers”. There are certain traits that may be hard to handle or may bring up trauma for you. Expectations are the deal-breakers that shouldn’t be. They are often unrealistic. Limiting yourself to people who fit a specific criteria is cutting you off from the rest of the world. Be open when you’re dating, read all your mail and reply to everyone as you never know what friendship might develop.

Of course, you want to plan dates out, but not every detail needs to be thought of. If things change, go with the changes and challenge your controlling nature. That doesn’t mean do something you’re not comfortable with, it just means don’t be afraid of changing the plans.

Mistake 4: You are trying too hard.

Most people can tell when someone is trying a bit too hard to be liked. Sometimes, you’ll fabricate your accomplishments or make up interesting things about yourself. This may lead to people liking you, but how are they going to feel when they find out who you really are? Of course, this isn’t the only method of trying too hard. Often, you don’t even realize you’re making this dating mistake. It’s considered trying too hard when you’re using many different apps and websites to find someone. This spreads you and your resources thin, leaving you less time to find the right person. Find 2-3 websites or apps that you find work the best and stick to them. Also, don’t message dozens of people because trying to maintain that many conversations is hard. Send a message, wait for a response. If you don’t hear back, move on to someone else. There are always fish in the sea, as the saying goes. You don’t need to wait around for someone who isn’t giving you their time. Keep this advice in mind when someone brushes you off as well.

Mistake 5: You are comparing yourself to other people.

This mistake may follow you outside the world of dating. We are all guilty of comparing ourselves to others, even if it’s only for a moment. The problem with comparing yourself, or your relationship, to anyone else is that you’re taking away from what is unique about you. No two people are the same. Similarly, no two relationships are going to be identical. A relationship is a living creation you make with someone, so it should be treated as a unique invention. Don’t rob yourself of happiness because yours doesn’t look the same as another person. If you’re not confident that you are a worthy and unique person, maybe you need to focus on yourself for a while. Learn to love yourself, then you can go looking for someone to share that love with.

Mistake 6: You don’t consider your personal safety.

How many times have you told someone where you worked before you really got to know them? Did they show up, make a scene? Have you ever given out your phone number to someone who wouldn’t stop calling at all hours of the day? This is a safety issue. When it comes to dating, online and offline, you may want to resist giving out personal information too early. A lack of precaution when it comes to dating could be a mistake.

Your safety concerns aren’t only physical. Be aware of your emotional safety too. If someone you’re dating is controlling or wants you to do things you’re uncomfortable with, your emotional safety is at risk. You should never be so involved with a partner that you lose sight of your own personal needs. This is why setting boundaries is important in any relationship. Keep conversations on the site until you are both ready to move on.

We’ve been running Singles Events for the last 17 years…with speed dating being a popular feature at almost all of them.

Speed dating is a very simple way for singles to meet each other quickly. The women sit down and men are placed opposite them. Every few minutes, a bell is rung and the men move on to chat to the next female. As the process is fast, it means participants can meet a large number of people in one evening. If they like each other they can connect afterwards to arrange a proper date.

However, times are changing. Online dating and dating apps have become so efficient that singles are able to chat instantly with anyone that they wish to. As such, speed dating parties have become slightly unnecessary. Why go out, when you can do the same thing without even having to leave the sofa?

So many companies no longer run speed dating parties and many of the big players have closed down over the years.

Our events have never just been about speed dating. We focus on bringing you larger parties that have icebreakers and hosts to introduce you. After all, the more people you meet in on evening then the better your chances of making a match. Events are also a great way to meet and catch up with friends. Plus our clients love to put a face to us and meet us first hand.

If you want a chat, advice or have suggestions come along to our events and say hi.

The good news is that we’ll still have optional speed dating at many of our larger events….just for a little extra fun. Our next event is at Valentines in 2020.

Let us know what you think. Are you still keen on attending events in 2020.

See you soon!

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Almost everyone feels nervous before a first date. There are too many things to think about. Firstly, you need to pick an outfit that shows you’re well-dressed. You need a scent that is going to match your look. You need good hygiene, which can be hard when you’re sweating nervously through the fabric you’re wearing. Then you have to think about where you’re going. Is the location you picked going to work? Is it too loud or too busy? Is your date going to enjoy the location? Is your date going to enjoy you?

It’s easy to get wrapped up in the “what-if’s” before a date.

If you are like most people, one of the biggest concerns is conversation. For any date, good conversation determines whether or not there will be another date. Many people worry they will run out of things to say. Although there are going to be natural pauses in conversation, maintaining a flow is the ideal. Other people worry that they will say too much, ultimately making themselves look foolish. The first date is your opportunity to share aspects of each other, but you don’t want to reveal too much.

There are definitely conversation boundaries on a first date.

It may go without saying that politics and religion are not first-date conversation topics. Although these subjects don’t seem revealing, they can put your date in an awkward position. Especially if they have different views. Similarly, the subject of children or marriage should be saved for a later date as well. If you already have children, you can find a way to bring them up in conversation. To your date, children may be a deal-breaker. For some, this is because it suggests you are still involved with an ex-partner. Your date doesn’t want to think about your previous relationships in any way.

First-date conversation should be fun, while also being informative. You want to talk about your passions and learn the things your date is passionate about. You want to share your hobbies and find common interests. A great question to ask a first date is: What is your ideal/typical weekend? This can tell you many things about your date, while being something they will enjoy answering. You may also want to ask where they see themselves in 5 years and quietly reflect on your position in that future.

There are two things you want to keep in mind:

1. This is not a therapy session.
2. This is not an interview/interrogation.

You don’t want to dump all over your date, whether it’s by complaining or giving too much information. Ideally, you want to reveal your personality and quirks gradually. This gives your date the time to absorb everything. You should do the same. Ask your date questions and listen to the answers. Share pieces with each other. Most importantly: Allow the conversation to flow naturally.

When it comes to revealing anything about yourself, ask: Would I be comfortable if the whole world knew this about me? If the answer is “no”, don’t share it on a first date. If it is something you would share with anyone, then it isn’t too revealing for your date.

Happy Dating!

James – Dating Coach for AsianSingleSolution.com

First dates are filled with questions. You want to get to know your date and they want to get to know you. You talk about things you enjoy and share stories with each other. It’s a back and forth of information, loaded with potential topics for the future. It can be fun to learn about a new person, especially when the conversation is flowing. The best conversation is the conversation that changes itself. It adapts and always gives you something new to talk about. Great conversation suggests compatibility. Obviously, a date isn’t going well if you’re both looking for ways to change the subject!

There are some questions you have to ask on a first date. These help to determine whether or not there is potential for a future together. Compatibility is always the first consideration, but these questions may help you to make more informed decisions.

• What type of relationship are you looking for?

We don’t always see eye-to-eye when it comes to relationships. For some, a long-term relationship is the ideal. Marriage, children and a white picket fence. For other people, a short-term relationship is all they can commit to. Others yet are only interested in hook-ups and casual interactions. It’s important to know where your date stands on the scale. It’s also important to know what you are looking for.

• Do you consider your life to be simple or complicated?

This question can help you to determine the type of person you’re dealing with. If your date considers their life simple, it could mean they don’t seek challenges and they don’t have any drive. It could also mean they know how to appreciate everything they have. They could have a positive outlook. Someone who considers their life complicated may be a bit harder to adjust to. They could have a completely tumultuous lifestyle.

• Describe a typical day for you.

Listen closely to this answer. You may learn more about your date with this question than all the other questions combined.

• Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

When you ask a question like this, you are putting your date on the spot. You may find a brief silence as they have to consider the answer. Maybe they already know exactly where they plan to be. If they do have a clear outline for their future, consider where you may fit into their plans. Contemplate this to yourself, don’t ask your date. The first date is too early to know whether or not you can fit into someone’s future.

• What are you the most proud of?

It may put your date on the spot, but it will help you to gauge what they deem their greatest accomplishments. You will also learn what aspects of their life are most important (recreation, community, business, love, etc).

• Who are the most important people in your life?

The answer to this question can tell you a lot about a person. If they answer that their family is, it shows they are family-oriented. They are likely ideal for settling down and creating a family of their own. If they single out a member of their family or choose a friend, follow up by asking them to explain why they chose that person.

• If you were left stranded on an island and could only choose 3 things, what would you choose?

This question is more light-hearted than the other questions. While being fun, it can also help you to learn about your date. If they choose food & water, they are likely practical. If they choose an electronic, they are likely more frivolous. If they choose a book, they are practical with whimsical tendencies.

It isn’t hard to find good questions to ask on a first date. The examples above can be used as reference points or you can come up with your own. The important thing is to find out where your date wants to be in the future and whether or not that goal fits with your own goals.

Just remember that what you talk about, make sure it’s fun.

Happy dating

James Preece

www.asiansinglesolution.com

All over the world, there are people who dread being single on Valentine’s Day. It’s the one day a year that every couple, new and old, take to the streets and flaunt their joy and love. Restaurants fill up with those who are celebrating. Movie theatres are showing romantic comedies and the crowd is filled with couples. Even walking down the street, you’re bound to see people engaging in public affection that may otherwise be considered inappropriate. If you’re single on Valentine’s Day, it seems easier to coop yourself up and avoid the all out love-fest. Although it might seem like a good idea to keep to yourself, this can create deeper feelings of isolation. If you’re already feeling a sense of loneliness, this is the last thing you need. Instead, try these fun ideas to boost your spirits:

Singles Parties

You’re certainly not the only Asian single who is alone on Valentines Day. The good news is that of the people like you, may choose to be pro-active. The end result? Singles Parties. These parties are exactly what they sound like, with men and women alike gathering to engage in conversation. We are running two big Asian singles events ourselves – one in London and one in Birmingham. Of course, it won’t always result in a date, but it’s something to keep your mind from wandering too far. If there aren’t any parties in your area, try hosting one yourself. This works well if you know quite a few single people. The more people you tell about your party, the more people are likely to show up.

Make Plans

If a singles’ party doesn’t sound like your thing, that’s absolutely fine. Not everyone is interested in meeting new people at events, especially if you’re introverted. Instead of trying to meet someone new, opt to connect with someone you already know. You can use Valentine’s Day to bond with anyone, not just a significant other. Try calling a friend or family member to hang out for the evening. If you have a co-worker that is single, invite them out for drinks or just to chill out.

Date Yourself

The greatest love you will ever have is love for yourself. Whether you’re male or female, self-love is crucial to personal development and rich relationships with other people. If you’re single this Valentine’s Day, take the chance to date yourself. Get to know yourself all over again. You may discover a whole new side of yourself! You can also engage in old hobbies & interests that may help you to connect with yourself. Of course, you’re not limited to introspection. Take yourself to dinner, run a bubble bath or go see a movie. If you just want to stay home and play video games, do it! Make it a day that is all about you.

Volunteer

So everyone is busy and you don’t want to sit at home alone. This is a great chance to volunteer your time to a good cause. You can go down to a food bank and help hand out food. You can read to the elderly in a hospice. If you really want to get creative, you can bake treats and hand them out to the local homeless. Not only is this a great way to spend your Valentine’s Day, but you’ll feel a deeper reward in helping others.

Keep Busy

The best advice anyone can give you when you’re single on Valentine’s Day is to keep busy. Even if you’re just ticking things off a to-do list, keeping busy will prevent you from that isolation feeling. The more you can get done, the more accomplished you’ll feel in the following days too. You may be able to completely finish your to-do list or finish those creative projects you have started. You may be able to catch up on work assignments or even just sleep! There are too many options to list, so get creative!

There are people out in the world who avoid commitment when dating.  They aren’t interested in settling down. Maybe they want to travel the world and meet different people. Maybe they are too focused on advancing their career to think about love.

For these people, short term dating is a choice they have made. But there are others who have had the choice made for them by their insecurities. These people are commitment phobes, but they often don’t even know it!

If you’re reading this, there’s a good chance you are one of those people. Consult the list below and see how many of these traits you can identify in your own life:

You are always second-guessing yourself.
You’re indecisive, especially when meeting new people.
You think about the end of every relationship.
You have hidden insecurities and are afraid of being left behind.
You worry about someone accepting you for who you are.
You always end up in the worst relationships.
You avoid sharing personal details about yourself with a new partner.
You avoid talking about your past, even if it was “normal”.
You tend to ghost on other people.
You have a rotation of people you’re communicating with.
You are more comfortable with short relationships.
You tend to nitpick about unimportant things.
You are always looking for a reason to end the relationship.
You tend to self-sabotage.
You always make jokes about how relationships are a waste of time.
You have been called out by friends or family.
You have commitment issues in other aspects of your life.

If any of these traits resonate with you, there is a good chance you are afraid of committing to someone. If you are afraid of commitment, you may be wondering how you can overcome that fear. After all, no one wants to be alone forever or move from relationship to relationship. If you’re ready to accept that you’re afraid of commitment, you’re ready to make the changes too.

The key is to take small steps and make gradual changes. Change isn’t easy for anyone, even if you want to believe you’ll be the exception. If you try to rush the process, you’re going to fail and end up back at square one. Instead, try pacing yourself. If something feels unnatural, don’t do it. You’re also going to want to communicate your fears with your current partner, especially if they are the reason you want to make these changes. Your partner should know what you are going through so that he/she can be supportive of the process. Otherwise, you may feel your efforts are for nothing.

The first thing you need to do is figure out the reason behind your fear of commitment. Are you afraid of being left behind? Are you afraid no one will love you for who you really are? Are you afraid of investing time into something that is going to end? Be honest with yourself about these hesitations. That is the only way you will be able to work through these issues. Often, identifying them helps you to realize they aren’t valid insecurities and allows you to move on with your life.

If you continue struggling, get in touch and our resident Dating Coach might be able to help!

www.asiansinglesolution.com

We’re all likely to see those happy couples. Whether out and about or people we know personally. They are always laughing and seem radiant, no matter how long they’ve been together. If you’re not in a relationship like that, it’s gets you thinking: what makes them so happy? What do those couples know that you don’t? Why can’t you be that happy with your partner? The good news is that you can. You can start today to build a relationship that will always flourish. You just have to learn the secrets behind happy couples.

Listen & Respond

One thing that these couples do is communicate effectively. They feel comfortable expressing their thoughts to one another. They don’t worry about the reception because they are open. Being open with your partner increases your likelihood of staying together. But communication is more than just talking about your problems. It also means that you’re listening to their problems. You’re responded to them in an effective manner. It’s often easy to jump into “defensive” mode when you’re feeling attacked. But you have to remember that expressing their feelings about something is not meant to be a direct attack on you.

Be supportive & understanding of each other

Following an open communication, you have to learn to be supportive and understanding. This means that you’ll have to drop the defensive mechanisms you’ve learned over the years. You should never have to be defensive with a partner. Supporting each other also means giving each other space when it’s needed. Your partner could be having a hard time because of work or other personal issues. You can’t pressure them into talking or even being intimate. They shouldn’t pressure you either. You need to be able to give each other what is needed at the time.

Maintain intimacy & be attentive

Being attentive is a good way to give each other what is needed. This also means being observant enough to know what your partner might be looking for. Doing this is a great way to make your partner feel appreciated and understood. It’s easy to get so wrapped up in your own world that you forget to make time for each other. Please don’t confuse intimacy with sex. Being intimate with your partner doesn’t always mean sex. Although, a healthy sexual relationship is a key element to maintaing a thriving connection. Intimacy can be as simple as holding hands or cuddling on the couch. Sometimes silence and hand-holding is the best way to be attentive to someone’s needs.

Kiss & Make Up

One of the reasons someone feels underappreciated is because small things get taken out of context. This can lead to misunderstandings, which can lead to arguments. The original point gets completely lost in the heat of the moment and nothing gets resolved. It’s important to know which fights are worth having and when it’s time to step down. Knowing this can be the difference between a thriving relationship and a failing one. In order to know whether or not it’s important, you’ll have to follow the steps above in being attentive and communicating effectively. You need to stay focused during any disagreement so that the problem actually gets resolved and doesn’t need to come up again in the future.

Learn to laugh together

Finally, happy couples are the ones who can laugh off unimportant arguments. Learning to laugh with your partner is beneficial is so many ways. Firstly, laughter is a health boost. But it also signals that your love for each other is more important than petty problems. Laughing alone makes you seem inconsiderate and like you don’t care, but laughing together signals a oneness. Every relationship should have that oneness.

That’s not to say you’ll always be on the same page. These couples aren’t happy 24-7. They argue. They disagree. But they know how to communicate and work things through. That’s how happy couples stay happy.

2018 is already racing quickly by, but the good news is our Valentine’s parties are coming up soon.

These parties are the highlight of our dating calendar and always attract lots of new people.  We aim to make them as fun as possible and always provide much more than similar dating events.

Both events will take place on Saturday 10th February 2018, which is just a few days before the big day itself.

The London party will be at our favourites and most popular venue, the Holiday Inn Kensington.  We’ve got live classical music, optional speed dating, chocolate fountain and much more.

For Birmingham, we have a glamorous new venue – Siamais – which has only just opened up.  Discounted “Love Potion” cocktails for the first to arrive.

If you’d like to come then don’t wait any longer as the price will go up and you risk it going to a waiting list.

CLICK HERE to find out more and book now.

Meera

We ran a very popular competition in December to win a £250 Shopping Spree.

We are very pleased to announce the winner was Dhilen Patel  who has now received his £250 Selfridges voucher.

Thank you very much to everyone who entered and watch out for the next competition soon!

Idea Twelve – Visit a Pantomime

Well, we’ve come to the end of our 12 dates of Christmas series.  Oh yes we have!   (Oh no you haven’t)

For this one, we’ve saved the best until last.  Why not book up a pantomime and bring your fuzzy childhood memories flooding back?

There’s nothing more festive than seeing celebrities singing, dancing and telling rubbish jokes.  You’ll both laugh together and your single days will soon be….behind you.

If you have your own Christmas Dating Ideas please do add a comment to this blog.  We’d love to share the most original ones.

Happy dating!
Asian Single Solution

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Idea 6 – Ice Skating

Ice Skating is always a very popular dating idea.  There are rinks popping up all over the place and it’s the chance to try a fun outdoor activity, often with great scenery.

Many people are put off as they find it hard to do or don’t want to look stupid. This isn’t really an issue though as you’ll probably be the same position. If you keep falling over you can grab hold of your date and you’ll have something to laugh about.  If they are a better skater then they will enjoy teaching you to how to skate.  It’s only for an hour so you’ll soon improve anyway.

Do remember to warn your date to wrap up warm and have somewhere to go to after – perhaps with a log fire.

If you have your own Christmas Dating Ideas please do add a comment to this blog.  We’d love to share the most original ones.

Happy dating!
Asian Single Solution

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Idea 5 – Ice Bar

Ice bars are a wonderful place to meet for a first date as they are different to your usual pubs and clubs.  You are only allowed to visit for a limited time and you’ll be given a warm coat to wear once you are inside.  When you visit, you’ll discover the whole bar has been carved out of ice. There might be sculptures or artworks for you to enjoy.

Entry usually includes at least one drink which is served from an ice luge. You’ll enjoy a naturally “ice cold” cocktail while talking to your date.

Afterwards, you can go to a warmer bar nearby or why not go for a hot meal to continue the evening?

If you have your own Christmas Dating Ideas please do add a comment to this blog.  We’d love to share the most original ones.

Happy dating!
Asian Single Solution

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Idea Three – Winter Wonderland

The Asian Single Solution absolutely adore Winter Wonderland.  The biggest one takes place each year in Hyde Park, but there are small versions in other major towns in the UK.

For one month only, Christmas is brought to life in this spectacular event.  There are lots of fairground rides, shows and activities for you to walk around during your date.  It really does make you feel very special in such a unique atmosphere

Do keep in mind that it can be quite expensive and the food/drink is often quite overpriced  Budget for this and then it won’t spoil your fun.  Think of it as a charge for admission to such a magicial display.

If you have your own Christmas Dating Ideas please do add a comment to this blog.  We’d love to share the most original ones.

Happy dating!
Asian Single Solution

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Dating around the holidays can be pretty stressful. Most places are packed with last-minute shoppers. There’s a different kind of pressure in the air regarding romance. If you’re just getting to know someone, you want to avoid all of it. You just want a quiet night to share with someone. At the same time, you want to feel festive too.  Here are a few date ideas that take both of these factors into consideration:

Decorating The House

One of the most fun activities during the Christmas holiday is decorating. Some people even make a sport out of it to try and compete with neighbours in a playful way. Even if you’ve just started dating, decorating the house can be a great activity. It’s inexpensive, as you’ve likely got the decorations handy already. It will also give the two of you the chance to discuss holiday memories. This is great for bonding, plus it adds a festive cheer to your home and your blossoming relationship.

Baking

Of course, you can also opt for decorating a gingerbread house instead of your own home.  If you don’t know each other well enough to take them home, this smaller and edible home is a great date idea too. The two of you can create something together, which gives you an idea of the chemistry between you. Then you get to enjoy the delicious taste of eating your creation after. Plus, you can eat all the leftover decorations you didn’t use while you were putting the house together. Don’t forget to save some decor for the little gingerbread folk who will be living in your newly made dwelling!

Sweater Shopping

If you’re the type who likes to shop, this is the best date idea for you. This involves heading to your local thrift shop and looking for a Christmas sweater. The two of you can playfully compete to see who can find the ugliest sweater. Or you can just opt for matching sweaters if you’re feeling that vibe. Of course, you don’t have to go for ugly sweaters either. You can try and find something more significant to the relationship that you might want to wear over and over. Shopping is always a fun date idea, especially when you first start dating. You get a good idea of what your new partner is into and what they like. This especially helps around the holidays.

Christmas Movies

You can do this one at home or go to your local cinema. Around Christmas, all the holiday movies come out and are usually on offer. You can buy a few of them to bring home and watch. In some places you can still rent DVD’s, so maybe rent them instead of buying. Or you can simply head to Netflix to see what movies might be listed there for the season. In most places, the local cinema takes the holiday as an opportunity to drum up business by playing classic Christmas movies. Whichever route you choose, make sure to grab yourself some popcorn!

Sight-Seeing

A classic holiday date idea is to go sight-seeing in your neighborhood. This often involves looking at all the brightly decorated homes around yours. You can choose either neighborhood or do both if you’re feeling adventurous. Just make sure that you’re dressing warm, as the winds are often cold in the later hours of winter. It might also be a good idea to grab yourselves hot chocolate before heading on your stroll. This gives you something warm to counter the temperature. It also gives you something to do with your hands, in case you might be nervous.

For many people, the question of “why we kiss” seems fairly obvious. It’s all about sharing an intimate moment with someone we care about. It’s offering a deeper connection, demonstrating our vulnerabilities. Or sometimes, it’s about getting a feel for a new lovers’ skills. Kissing is just a great way to express your inner romanticism or a way to make a physical connection with someone else. Well, that does seem like the more the obvious reason to kiss someone, right?

But it’s not scientifically correct. That’s right, there’s a scientific reason for kissing someone!  It involves biological figures.

The fact is the study of kissing is actually called “philematology”. This is derived from the greek word (isn’t everything?) “philos”. The translation of that word means an “earthy love”. It’s a word that describes getting back to the roots. This is a suitable word for the study of kissing as  kissing itself feels like a connection to the root of the recipient. That’s why it often feels the most vulnerable, even though it’s such a simple action.

Philematology describes kissing as a way our bodies communicate chemically. The exchange of saliva is actually a way of determining physical compatibility. Your body will react likewise to the communications you aren’t even conscious of. You know how kissing can leave you absolutely breathless and make you fall head over heels in love with that person? Or it can turn you off completely and you’ll send them running for the exit? That’s the response to the chemical composition of the person you’re kissing. It can work either way depending on how skilled you are at doing it.

Over the years it’s been deemed that human beings used these chemical communications less and less. That our primal instinct to find the perfect partner for mating has been fading. But studies are arguing those assumptions by proving them entirely wrong. Studies are done to determine the likelihood of two people choosing to mate, using chemical compositions.

That might seem a little far fetched, but as a relationship expert I know how true it is. As we’ve evolved as human beings and our “ideals” have changed, you would think our bodies no longer look for this signals. The fact of the matter is that many of our “ideals” are actually just those same chemical responses. Whether it’s through kissing or the scent of another person, it’s in our DNA to find that “perfect someone”. Even if you’re not looking for an ideal mating partner, your body is. That’s just the way we were designed and there’s nothing you can do about it!

Interestingly, philematology determined that kissing can actually burn calories. You use around 25 facial muscles when you’re deeply kissing someone (only about 2 or 3 for a simple kiss). You also use over 100 postural muscles! Therefore, you can burn up to 25 calories every minute you’re in a heated make-out session. So make sure you’re putting those muscles to good use.

It’s all in the name of science, after all.

James Preece – Relationship Expert

www.asiansinglesolution.com

The Asian Single Solution team sure know how to throw a good party.

Our Valentines’ parties are always the talk of the Asian Community and are the very best available.  These events always attract large numbers of single Asian professionals with lots of new faces too.

This year is no exception and there will not one but TWO big parties:

Saturday 11th February 2017  – London -Kensington Close Hotel

Tuesday 14th February 2017 – Birmingham – Frederick’s’ Bar

Both events will have lots of fun activities, including optional speed dating, chocolate fountains, icebreaking and the very best hosts to look after you.  So this is your best chance to get yourself a date!

To book, please visit the events page now HERE

First come first served and the prices go up nearer the time you’ll need to be fast.

Happy dating!

We’d had some great feedback over the last few weeks

Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

” I met some nice people!”  SG

“Very Happy with the service. Found someone” AN

“Good site, met someone lovely off it” RP

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : good website” SP

“ASS worked brilliantly. We got married!!!”  HM

” It was a good experience” GD

“Found a match with the site and looking to get engaged in October with a view for wedding in Easter of next year” HP

If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

If you are finding the dating game difficult, then it’s quite understandable that you might be getting confused.

I know that everyone has different problems and finding dates can take a little while.  This important this is that you don’t ever feel stuck.  You have to be able to keep moving forward so you ultimately end up with what you want.  So we are here to help you on your journey and you don’t have to do it all on your own!

What I’d love you to do it tell me exactly what problem you are having right now.

Perhaps you aren’t sure what to write in your profile or how to get replies.  Or maybe you are getting lots of interest but it fizzles out.  Whatever it might be it usually something that can be resolved quickly.

I’ve been a Dating Coach for ten years now and I’ve helped bring 10000s of couples together. I’m an authority in the dating world and highly respected.

I’ll do my best to answer each and every issue, with my dating expert advice to help you make dramatic improvements.

You can either reach me at [email protected] or you can add an (anonymous if you prefer) comment to this blog.

Don’t put you life on hold any longer – take action now and you might just starting people and getting more dates than ever before!

We are delighted to announce that once again, we will be sponsoring the Bagri Foundation London Indian Film Festival.

Now in it’s 7th year, the festival showcases some of the most prestigious and though provoking movies from the Indian subcontinent. This year, it will be held
from the 14th to the 24th July.

It’s such a great opportunity to be able to support this festival. Many of our members love cinema and it’s a wonderful way to celebrate the best of Indian culture and filmmaking.  If you get the chance then do check out some of the films.

Our lead film will be “Jugni” starring

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About Jugni  (12a)

Travelling through the verdant fields of Punjab, Vibhavari (Vibs) is a gorgeous, young composer from Mumbai. She is in search of Bibi Saroop, the voice that she believes will be the saviour of her new score. She bumps into Bibi’s dashing son Mastana who has a stunning voice. Vibs records Mastana’s renditions of Punjabi folk songs and the duo soon fall for each other. Vibs returns to a soured relationship with her boyfriend in Mumbai. Mastana is left brokenhearted, but his voice is indeed the magical ingredient of the score, which becomes an instant hit. When Vibs calls Mastana to the big city he is full of hope, but they are forced to make tough choices between their careers and their hearts.

Supported by AsianSingleSolution.com

Have you seen our very special event?

Asian dating

We are delighted to teaming up with Bombay Funkadelic to offer you our latest party.

Bombay Funkadelic have been running very successful Bollywood nights for several years now. Each attracts a large crowd in a fun, relaxed event.

We’ll start with our usual dating party between 7.30pm and 10pm which includes our legendary hosts, optional speed dating and icebreaking. Then from 10pm the Bollywood party with DJ Shai Guy will begin.

The best news is that if you book our dating event then you’ll be able to stay on for the after party with no extra cost.  This means you’ll get the chance to meet an extra of new people later in the evening.

We’ve got a brand new venue for this one – Mary Janes. Located near the famous Tower of London and Tower Bridge, this fantastic 350 capacity venue boasts a state of the art sound system and lighting – the perfect place to party.  There are lots of different zones so you can chat to each other.

Limited tickets available by booking here

Messing around

This week I answer a question from a very confused female member.

“Dear James, I was dating someone from the site at the start of the year.  He’s a solicitor and very handsome. Things were going well but I think I came over a bit too keen and scared him away.  We’re just friends now but were still in regular contact.  I really liked him and miss him a lot, so I’ve been hopeful we can resolve things and get back together.  However, I recently asked him if he’d like to go for a drink and he said he’d love to. However, the problem is that he keeps cancelling and letting me down at the minute.  He’s really busy and has so much going on.  He does keep promising he wants to see me but now he’s been quiet for a week.  Is he really interested or not?  T”

Hi T,

Thanks for your message.  I’m sorry things didn’t work out this time around.

One of the problems at the start of a new relationship is that you will both be at different stages.  One will be more “into” the relationship than the other, although things do eventually balance out once you’ve been seeing each other for a while.   If you are a bit too needy, clingy or questioning then it can be all too easy for the other person to get nervous and bail out.  Rather than have a confrontation or discussion about the issue, it’s easier to just end things and move on.

Perhaps he is just busy.  Things do get in the way after all.  But I strongly suspect he’s just trying to let you down gently.  I don’t want to sugar coat it, so I have to say that if he really really wanted to see you then he’d make time for you.  How hard is it to find an hour for a drink?  I think he’s fully aware that you want to get back together but it’s not something he’s ready for…at least not at the moment.  So he’s fobbing you off and avoiding you rather than telling you the truth.

The very best thing you can now is to get on with your life and stop hoping he’ll get in touch.  Carry on dating other men and make sure you have a full diary with lots of exciting activities. If he does contact you then great, but at least you’ll have lots of other options.  I tend to find the more fun and exciting your life is then the more other people will want to be part of it.

So do get back on the site and fingers crossed you meet someone even more wonderful!

James

If you have your own dating dilemma that you’d like help with, send it over to [email protected]   Our resident Dating Coach James Preece will answer the best questions here in the blog.  Don’t worry, they always completely anonymous so nobody will ever know it was you!

Happy dating

James Preece

www.asiansinglesolution.com

We recently had our big Spring Singles party in London.

This event attracted a big crowd and lots of people paired up during the event.

We tried out some new activities at this one, including a games room.  This provided a fun, relaxed icebreaker that allowed our singles to meet each other and chat while playing some quick board games.

Our guests also took part in optional speed dating which is always popular.  To round off the evening our resident DJ Titch took to the decks to make sure everyone was in the party spirit.
Feedback from the event has been really good and we are looking forward to planning our next parties.

Please do tell your friends about us so we can continue to keep bringing you new events and opportunities.
Best Wishes,

James, Paul and Meera

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Our Asian Hindu and Sikh Valentines party took place last Saturday and was a massive success.

With over 300 guests, it was a complete sell out and countless matches were made.

Our resident dancers, Bollywood Vibes went down a storm late in the evening too, while our DJ Titch got the crowd on their feet.

We’ve already had some great feedback about the event, some verbally and some by email:

“I really liked the venue, great choice for a Saturday night, had a wedding reception feel. much better than the other venues. Had a hoot!”

If you missed out, don’t worry as we are planning some other huge events this year.

Happy dating!

James

We were delighted to hear about another Asian Single Solution wedding.

Namvir & Dal met on our site in 2014 and got married in June 2015

Namvir had been looking for her dream man for nine years and had been on our site for four of them.  She’d almost given up looking but decided to give it one more go.  When she reached out to Dal she was delighted that he was also interested in her.

You can read their full story on our Success Story page.

Congratulations to them both!

This goes to show that you must never give up.  Three month memberships are rarely enough to make online dating work and you need to think of a longer term strategy.  As long as you stick at it and are proactive then cupid will eventually find you too.

If you have your own success story please do let us know. It’s the best way that we can show everyone the site really does work.

Happy dating,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Have you booked yet?

We love trying new parties ideas out.  Our members love our useful midweek and Saturday events, but it’s important to sometimes mix things up a little.

New themes attract new faces and open up your meeting possibilities.

So as bit of fun, we are running the first ever Asian Single Solution Love Boat.

We’ve hired a moving party boat which will cruise along the Thames, giving you spectacular views of London.  We’ll be playing popular tunes in the downstairs bar, with a quieter upstairs bar for those who prefer a bit more peace and quiet.

As always, we’ll have our amazing hosts on hand to help you mingle and meet everyone. Oh and we are including a cocktail reception to make the night even more memorable.

We arrive back by 10.30pm so you will have plenty of time to get home.

The party will now  take place on Tuesday 1st September and departs from Westminster Pier.  Please check out the website and book now.

Lots of tickets have already gone and we won’t be able to add extra ones so don’t miss out!

James, Paul and Meera

www.asiansinglesolution.com

We love hearing your positive feedback about the site and the events

Asian Dating

Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

“I have been part of Asian Singles Solution for the past 3 months and have been fortunate to find a match from the site” AP

“Very Happy with the service” VP

“Great site” FD

“I met my fiance on your site and no longer need to be a member.” JC

“I think the site works well and did allow me to meet similar people.” PP

“It is a nice way of meeting people” JN

“Found someone” AS

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single” VP

“great site!” TP

“I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single” US

“Met someone, he’s great :)” BS

If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

There’s no such thing as a bad date as at the very least you’ll have a good story to tell.

Funny Dating Stories

As a Dating Coach I think it’s very import that singles remember this.  Not every date is going to go perfectly, but you should learn a little from each one.  You are very fortunate that you are able to go and meet new people and try new activities and experiences. The secret is to make sure you go into each one with a positive, open minded attitude.

Things won’t always go the way you expect them to but quite often that’s when the most long lasting connections are made.  Nobody is perfect and if you are able to laugh at yourself you’ll be a much better catch!

I stopped going on dates a long time ago, but my job is making sure singles have successful ones.  I did a lot of dating when I was single and I use anecdotes to teach people how to have better dates. So I’ve put together a short story collection based on real dates that I had back in my single days. I’ve done this for your amusement and to show you even experts have odd experiences. In the end I met the “one” which just goes to show you have to keep at it.

You can download it HERE

I’m sure you’ll all have your own bizarre, strange or hilarious story then you love to tell people.
If you do have one, then please email it over to [email protected]

We’ll include the funniest ones (anonymously of course) here in the blog.  As an extra incentive we’ll be offering a lovely prize to the very best ones too

So please, don’t keep them to yourself.  We’d love to hear them and I know our readers and members would too.

Happy dating!

James Preece

The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

We’re delighted to announce our very special “12th Birthday Asian Singles Ball”

This will take  place on Saturday 20th September at the Kensington Close Hotel in London.

We are doing our best to ensure this will be the biggest, best party we’ve ever had so we are pulling out all the stops. We’ve got lots of entertainment for this party including Celebrity Magician Ravi Mayar, Chocolate Fountain, interactive Photo Booth, amazing Covers band and more.

This is as well as the usual optional speed dating and great hosts to introduce you.

If you’ve already got your ticket then we look forward to celebrating with you then. If not, do be quick as over half the tickets went over the last few days!

About Photo Booth
With our stylish sleek photo booth our guests can take amazing pictures of themselves to remember the occasion, with a large box of party props for that extra fun. The booth uses professional DSLR camera’s with professional studio lighting to ensure you get high quality photos everytime. With a LCD touch screen for ease of use.

About Electric Superfruit Band
Professional musicianship and high-class vocals guarantee a fantastic show from Electric Superfruit. With years of experience playing to crowds of all ages, they keep everyone dancing – and singing – all night!