We wish all our lovely members a very happy and successful 2023.
With a bit of luck, along with your best photos and sending amazing messages, you could be our next success story.
When you are trying to contact people on an online dating site, it can be hard to know what to say to get their interest.
Here are our top tips to boost your chances:
If you don’t get a huge amount of replies it can be tempting to stop putting the effort in. It might seem easier to just copy and paste the same message over and over. After all, someone is bound to reply right? The problem with this is that these types of messages are very easy to spot….and they annoy people. So you are very unlikely to get a response and you’ll get even less than before. It’s a Catch 22 situation. A little effort can go a long way.
If you want to get someone to write back, you have to make things personal. Tell them what you liked about their profile and why you’d be a good match. Use a little humour and ask a fun question. For example, if they say they like baking cakes then ask what cake they would make you. It shows you are paying attention and aren’t afraid to laugh at life. Doesn’t that sound better than just saying “hi” or “how are you?” or “could we have a conversation please?”
The initial message should be friendly, flirty and just a conversation starter. You don’t want to be asking the other person out or saying you are looking for a committed relationship. That is too heavy, you have not even spoken yet.
The same goes for handing out your number. This appears very impatient and the other person won’t feel comfortable. These approaches rarely work, so always chat on platform first. Only when you are both comfortable with each other, talk about a phone call or meeting up for a coffee.
Do not go into detail about yourself in the first message, or try to impress the other person with your big job title or life story. That is what the profile is for. A brief introduction is OK if you want to try that, but anything that comes across as showing off, would probably be ignored.
Quite often it’s not your messages that are wrong. Take a good look at your profile instead. Perhaps your photos aren’t appealing enough or your profile isn’t interesting. Try to stand out from the competition and avoid generic statements. Sell yourself and make the most of the opportunity to attract potential partners. The more unique you are then the more views you’ll get.
Why not give these ideas a go and see if it makes a difference?
Happy Dating!
www.asiansinglesolution.com
Have you been single for a long time, despite many dates? Do you often find yourself reflecting on past dates, wondering what happened? Do you feel like you’re going to be single forever? If your answer was yes, you may need to look at how you’re dating. While we would like it to be easy, like it is on TV, dating has a margin for many mistakes. You may not even realize you’re making the biggest dating mistakes. Below, you’ll find six of the biggest dating mistakes. If you’re making any of them, you’ll want to stop now!
You are a creature of habit. You like routine. You often visit the same club or bar. You go to the same coffee shop on the same day of the week. You likely use the same dating applications, despite not having luck with them in the past. You probably send the same kind of message every time you try to connect with someone. It may be time to step outside of your comfort zone. Go somewhere you’ve always thought about going but haven’t been to. Try a dating app you’ve never used before. Yes, familiarity is more comfortable. But, you’re more likely to see results from a new method!
This is not meant to be a judgment or comparison, but some people are just boring. Unfortunately, you may be one of these people. A boring person talks a lot, but hardly listens when other people speak. A boring person resorts to boring conversation and small talk about the weather or work. If you don’t want to be boring anymore, improve your conversation skills. You can use “conversation topics” in order to build on your skills. You can develop your skills by talking to random people. You can always improve your conversational skills by getting out and making memories.
No one wants to be controlled, yet many people want to be in control of everything. This controlling tendency tends to cause many dates to become disastrous. Whether you’re hoping for the perfect date or you’re looking for the perfect spouse, your expectations are standing in the way of your happiness. Yes, everyone is allowed to have “deal-breakers”. There are certain traits that may be hard to handle or may bring up trauma for you. Expectations are the deal-breakers that shouldn’t be. They are often unrealistic. Limiting yourself to people who fit a specific criteria is cutting you off from the rest of the world. Be open when you’re dating, read all your mail and reply to everyone as you never know what friendship might develop.
Of course, you want to plan dates out, but not every detail needs to be thought of. If things change, go with the changes and challenge your controlling nature. That doesn’t mean do something you’re not comfortable with, it just means don’t be afraid of changing the plans.
Most people can tell when someone is trying a bit too hard to be liked. Sometimes, you’ll fabricate your accomplishments or make up interesting things about yourself. This may lead to people liking you, but how are they going to feel when they find out who you really are? Of course, this isn’t the only method of trying too hard. Often, you don’t even realize you’re making this dating mistake. It’s considered trying too hard when you’re using many different apps and websites to find someone. This spreads you and your resources thin, leaving you less time to find the right person. Find 2-3 websites or apps that you find work the best and stick to them. Also, don’t message dozens of people because trying to maintain that many conversations is hard. Send a message, wait for a response. If you don’t hear back, move on to someone else. There are always fish in the sea, as the saying goes. You don’t need to wait around for someone who isn’t giving you their time. Keep this advice in mind when someone brushes you off as well.
This mistake may follow you outside the world of dating. We are all guilty of comparing ourselves to others, even if it’s only for a moment. The problem with comparing yourself, or your relationship, to anyone else is that you’re taking away from what is unique about you. No two people are the same. Similarly, no two relationships are going to be identical. A relationship is a living creation you make with someone, so it should be treated as a unique invention. Don’t rob yourself of happiness because yours doesn’t look the same as another person. If you’re not confident that you are a worthy and unique person, maybe you need to focus on yourself for a while. Learn to love yourself, then you can go looking for someone to share that love with.
How many times have you told someone where you worked before you really got to know them? Did they show up, make a scene? Have you ever given out your phone number to someone who wouldn’t stop calling at all hours of the day? This is a safety issue. When it comes to dating, online and offline, you may want to resist giving out personal information too early. A lack of precaution when it comes to dating could be a mistake.
Your safety concerns aren’t only physical. Be aware of your emotional safety too. If someone you’re dating is controlling or wants you to do things you’re uncomfortable with, your emotional safety is at risk. You should never be so involved with a partner that you lose sight of your own personal needs. This is why setting boundaries is important in any relationship. Keep conversations on the site until you are both ready to move on.
It’s almost the time of year that everyone sits down to plan their resolutions. Weight loss or better gym attendance. Finding a new career or finishing a project. The problem with resolutions is that most of us give them up after a few short weeks. If one of your 2020 resolutions is finding love, a few weeks isn’t going to make a difference. To help you find romance, here are a few tips you can start implementing into your life right now:
Before you start looking for love, it’s important to know exactly what you’re looking for. This doesn’t mean create a partner in your mind with every detail thought out. You’ll never meet the perfect person. Knowing what you’re looking for means knowing what you will and won’t tolerate. Everyone has “deal-breakers”. Look over your own and decide which ones aren’t really that important. Now, you’ll meet a whole new criteria of people. It is also important to know what kind of relationship you want, before you start meeting people. You may find that you need to adjust your personal expectations. That is normal. When you’re creating these expectations, be realistic.
Now that you know who you want to meet, it’s time to figure out where you can meet this person. Do you want someone smart or interested in a vintage lifestyle? Try going to a museum, library or other gallery of information. You can meet someone almost anywhere. You probably have places that you visit regularly. These are your “go-to” places. Your favorite coffee shop. Your favorite bar. Your favorite book store. The fact is, you haven’t met someone in these places yet. Instead of sticking to what you already know, try stepping out. Go somewhere you’ve never been. Ask for recommendations from your friends. You never know what options await you when you’re trying something new.
Knowing where to meet people is only the first step. The second step is actually putting yourself out there. It can be intimidating to go somewhere you’ve never been before. If you asked a friend for a recommended coffee shop, invite them along the first time. You’ll feel more comfortable going alone in the future. You don’t want to bring someone everywhere you go though. If you’re alone, you’re more approachable. If you’re accompanied by someone, people are going to give you privacy. Especially if your friend is someone of the opposite gender. If you’re stuck on ideas of where to go, here is a quick starter list:
Community events
Volunteer work
Classes / courses / workshops
Social events and gatherings (eg: Facebook events, concerts)
Festivals / Music Concerts
Office parties
Museums & other information centres (eg: art gallery, pop-up art installations, guided tours, local tourist attractions)
You always have the option of dating online and even hiring a match-making service. If you’re the type to be nervous in social situations, online dating may be a better option because there is less pressure than meeting someone face to face.
There are many things that go into being an approachable person. First, think about your appearance. To be approachable, you have to be unoccupied. You shouldn’t look busy, be on your phone or reading. You want to be available for conversation. Look around the room you’re in. Smile and make eye-contact with anyone who smiles at you. Allow conversation to develop naturally. But, don’t be afraid to make the first move! Initiate conversation with anyone you find interesting and see where it goes. Most importantly: Have fun and laugh often.
If you focus too much on finding love, you may feel as though you’ve wasted a lot of time. The best thing to do is live your life and look for love on the side. Embrace being single for a bit. Enjoy spending time with yourself. You can even date yourself out on dates. If you feel you’re lacking in any area, take time to work on yourself. You can improve your personality or develop your social skills. You could take a cooking class or learn to play an instrument. You could even make a bucketlist and start crossing things off. Occupy your time with everything you love, while also putting yourself out in the world. You’re more likely to attract someone when you’re living your best life.
You have to remember that finding love isn’t a quick or easy process. You’ll likely meet people along the way and feel a connection that goes no where. You have to be patient throughout dating. You have to be confident that you will meet someone. Each failed date is a new learning experience.
Good luck!
James Preece
Dating Coach for AsianSingleSolution.com
Thank you to everyone who attended out big Birthday Singles Party. This took place at the Gable Bar in Moorgate and was very well attended.
The evening began with some fun ice breaking activities and the venue filled up quickly. We’d made sure that our best hosts were on hand to put guests at ease right from the start. We had our ever popular Celebrity Magician Ravi Mayar in attendance too, to entertain the crowd with his eye popping magical tricks.
Speed dating took place throughout the evening, which is also a fun experience. Small groups got the chance to meet each other and see if they might be compatible. Later in the evening, our resident DJ Titch got the crowd going with his party tunes.
We’ve had some great feedback about the event and many matches were made during the course of evening. Our guests are always happy that we arrange these events as provide fantastic opportunities to meet new people and possible life partners. We also had quite a few compliments about our friendly hosts.
The Gable is always one of our most popular venues as we have exclusive use and there is plenty of room to mingle. So we were very happy to return.
Our next party will be our Valentine’s party and we are expecting a large crowd for this. We hope to welcome old friends and new.
Happy dating!
James
www.asiansinglesolution.com
After a first date, it’s hard to know when to text someone.
Do you text them right away and tell them you had a good night? Do you ask when you’ll get to see them again? Do you wait three days and hope they text you? It can hard to figure out the process. That is because there is no right or wrong answer. Many people prefer to wait or play hard to get. Others are direct and ask for a second date right away. There are advantages to both. The important thing is that you can keep someone interested enough to want a second date between dates.
Again, there are no right or wrong answers to what you should text between dates. But here are 4 sample texts you can send to keep your date interested, without going overboard:
If you’re going to text this, make sure you’re sharing something personal, but not too deep. No one wants to dig through your dirty laundry this early in a relationship. You want this “secret” to be something that sparks interest and conversation. For instance: “My favorite emoji is ______”, “my childhood dog was named ________”, “I’ve seen the _______________ movie more than 20 times”. You can use this text format to share something about yourself in almost any subject. For bonus points: Ask the same question for them to answer (eg: “my favourite emoji is __________. What is yours?).
This can be a great follow-up to your “secret” or work as a message by itself. The activity you suggest should be something you’d like to do on the next date. This gives you the chance to ask for a second date, while being playful. It also shows that you want to share this new experience with them. If you want bonus points, use an activity that was mentioned during the first date. That will show you’re a good listener too!
You can use this text format to invite someone to food, drinks or any event. This is an open-ended invitation that gives your date the chance to change the variables. If your date likes the date idea, but not the time, then he/she can ask for a different date. By giving someone variables, you’re allowing them to feel in control and choose something comfortable for them.
With this text format, you can insert your favourite food/sport/museum or anything else you can think of. The details don’t matter. This format is a great way to ask for a date, while also sharing something about yourself. There are no details about the time of the date, which allows you to ask when they are going to be available to see you again.
The best advice for texting between dates is to keep it simple and be yourself. If you’re naturally a flirty person, then your texts can come off as a little flirty. You want to avoid sexy messages until you get to know each other, but flirty is fine. You can compliment someone if you think it will be appreciated, but it could come off as needy too. If you’re clever and creative, you will be able to keep someone interested in you. After all, your main goal is to keep the person wanting to see you again.
A “coffee date” is often something our members do before a “real” date. The idea behind a coffee date is that you’re in a neutral location, often somewhere public. You have the chance to really talk, which gives you the opportunity to get to know someone a bit better. Unlike a date, there is no pressure to present yourself a certain way. This leaves room for casual conversation or intense questioning, if that’s the direct you end up in. Neither of you are trying to impress each other, you’re just getting a feel for each other’s personality. A coffee date is used as a screening test to determine compatibility.
If you hit it off, that’s great! The next step is making plans for a more serious date. If you don’t get on then perhaps it’s time to rethink your strategy.
Since there is no pressure on a coffee date, it should be easy enough, right? Unfortunately, that’s not always the case and you can find your date turning into a disaster. One of the most common mistakes on a coffee date is talking about relationships (exes, relationship goals, etc). Although it’s not a “date”, you still have to follow basic dating etiquette. A potential love interest doesn’t want to hear about previous relationships, whether they are good or bad. If you only have negative things to say about a previous partner, you sound bitter. If you only have positive things to say, you sound hung-up. You don’t want to give your date the idea that your heart/head is elsewhere. Instead, avoid the topic of past relationships altogether. It’s best to keep a coffee date light-hearted.
You are encouraged to ask questions and get to know each other. That is the whole point of the pre-date coffee date. The best subjects to talk about are hobbies & interests, things you’re passionate about, music & movies, etc. These are easy questions to answer and they provide enough information about each other. You can really get to know a person through the things they are passionate about.
The secret to making coffee dates work is to view your “date” as new friend instead. This should help to take ALL the pressure off for both of you. By allowing a more casual interaction, coffee dates give you more opportunity to express your authentic self. If you’re prone to making cheesy jokes, go for it. If your favorite outfit includes 3 different patterns, wear it. You’re not trying to impress anyone, which actually makes you more likely to be impressive.
You are just two human beings enjoying conversation over coffee. Doesn’t that sound easy?
The most important thing to remember is to follow the direction of the conversation. There are always going to be awkward silences. You only need to worry when they are frequent and long. If you find you have to manually steer the conversation, that could suggest you don’t share enough common ground. It never hurts to have conversation starters in the back of your mind. This can help get the conversation flowing again. If you’re both having a good time, sharing stories and laughing together, you’ll be seeing each other again soon.
Happy dating!
James Preece
Dating Coach for AsianSingleSolution.com
First dates are filled with questions. You want to get to know your date and they want to get to know you. You talk about things you enjoy and share stories with each other. It’s a back and forth of information, loaded with potential topics for the future. It can be fun to learn about a new person, especially when the conversation is flowing. The best conversation is the conversation that changes itself. It adapts and always gives you something new to talk about. Great conversation suggests compatibility. Obviously, a date isn’t going well if you’re both looking for ways to change the subject!
There are some questions you have to ask on a first date. These help to determine whether or not there is potential for a future together. Compatibility is always the first consideration, but these questions may help you to make more informed decisions.
We don’t always see eye-to-eye when it comes to relationships. For some, a long-term relationship is the ideal. Marriage, children and a white picket fence. For other people, a short-term relationship is all they can commit to. Others yet are only interested in hook-ups and casual interactions. It’s important to know where your date stands on the scale. It’s also important to know what you are looking for.
This question can help you to determine the type of person you’re dealing with. If your date considers their life simple, it could mean they don’t seek challenges and they don’t have any drive. It could also mean they know how to appreciate everything they have. They could have a positive outlook. Someone who considers their life complicated may be a bit harder to adjust to. They could have a completely tumultuous lifestyle.
Listen closely to this answer. You may learn more about your date with this question than all the other questions combined.
When you ask a question like this, you are putting your date on the spot. You may find a brief silence as they have to consider the answer. Maybe they already know exactly where they plan to be. If they do have a clear outline for their future, consider where you may fit into their plans. Contemplate this to yourself, don’t ask your date. The first date is too early to know whether or not you can fit into someone’s future.
It may put your date on the spot, but it will help you to gauge what they deem their greatest accomplishments. You will also learn what aspects of their life are most important (recreation, community, business, love, etc).
The answer to this question can tell you a lot about a person. If they answer that their family is, it shows they are family-oriented. They are likely ideal for settling down and creating a family of their own. If they single out a member of their family or choose a friend, follow up by asking them to explain why they chose that person.
This question is more light-hearted than the other questions. While being fun, it can also help you to learn about your date. If they choose food & water, they are likely practical. If they choose an electronic, they are likely more frivolous. If they choose a book, they are practical with whimsical tendencies.
It isn’t hard to find good questions to ask on a first date. The examples above can be used as reference points or you can come up with your own. The important thing is to find out where your date wants to be in the future and whether or not that goal fits with your own goals.
Just remember that what you talk about, make sure it’s fun.
Happy dating
James Preece
www.asiansinglesolution.com
At the end of every relationship, there is a period of self-reflection. You sit down and talk to yourself about the past, present, and future. Once you’re confident you know what you want in life, you decide to enjoy the highlights of being single for a little while. Then, there comes a time when being single is no longer as exciting as it once was! You want someone to spend time with and share a laugh with. So, you get back into the dating pool and start looking for a new romantic interest.
Rewind
There is no reason you can’t enjoy your own company for a while. There are many benefits to being single and right now is the best time to take action!
Focus On Your Career
One of the benefits to single life is being able to focus on your career. Marketing plays a major role in career development and it’s time consuming. If you’re single, you can devote yourself to developing your career. When you’re in a relationship, you have to find a balance between work and your social life. This means that single people are more likely to succeed professionally.
Less Stress
There are dozens of articles online that express the “science behind being single”. To summarize every article you could read, it’s all because single people have less stress. When you’re single, you can do anything you want to. You don’t have to coordinate your plans or get permission/confirmation. You can be spontaneous because you only have yourself to be responsible for. You can have a lot more fun when you’re not worrying about anyone else.
Alone Time
Along with doing anything you want, you can do it for as long as you want. The only time restrictions fit into your own schedule. Of course, being alone means you can get in touch with yourself in a new way. There are many things we learn about ourselves when we are single, such as what we want for ourselves. Alone time gives you the chance to figure out where someone else may fit into your plans for the future. You can really think about all the details you didn’t consider before. You can gain a whole new perspective on your own life, as well as the world around you.
Our society is always growing, advancing in new and exciting ways. As a result, there are more opportunities for people today than in the past. This includes career and dating opportunities. Right now is the best time to be single because anyone can take advantage of these opportunities.
This is why dating sites, such as Asian Single Solution, are so popular among singles. This type of application provides almost instant access to new people, without the commitment of a traditional relationship. This allows users their momentary indulgence, without becoming a distraction from their future plans.
If you are looking for a relationship, the best way to meet new people is by putting yourself where people are. This could mean approaching people in public places or online dating. We offer a fantastic online dating service for British Asians so why not give it a go?
We are delighted to announce that we are running a very special May Masquerade Singles Ball on Saturday May 11th. For this party we will have masked speed dating, a chocolate fountain and 100s of lovely professional Asian Singles. We are planning some more surprises to make sure this is a huge event that will help you meet your match. Our balls have always proved hugely popular and always attract new faces. Tickets are limited and on sale for £30…but we do a few discounted launch price tickets available if you are quick. The event is sponsored by Desiblitz.com who will be running a fun ice-breaking activity during the evening. If you’d like to book you can do so HERE Best Wishes, James Events Manager www.asiansinglesolution.com |
When you’re getting ready for a date, it’s natural to be nervous. Almost everyone feels nervous before a date. It is a universal part of the dating process. The nerves are only amplified if it’s been a while since you’ve been on a date or you have a history of dates that didn’t go quite the way you hoped. The problem with being nervous is that it can quickly develop into over-thinking and may even become a source of stress and panic.
What do you do when that happens? Give yourself a pep talk! It sounds silly, but it’s more common than you would think. Many people give themselves a quick pep talk right before a date. This can help to boost your confidence and refocus your thoughts. If a pep talk from yourself doesn’t sound helpful, try recruiting a friend or family member to boost your confidence.
Be prepared to hear the most dreaded phrase in pep talks: “You just have to try to relax.”
We all know that the secret to being less nervous is to relax. We also know that it’s easier to say than to actually do. If you are having trouble relaxing, here are a few things you can do to calm your nerves before a date:
Deep breathing
Meditation
Listening to music, especially your favorite artist/favorite songs
Distract yourself (eg: video games, word puzzles, chatting on the phone with a friend)
Work out/get physically active
These methods may or may not work for you. For some, distractions are a great way to reduce nerves, instead of hyper-focusing on the upcoming date. If distraction isn’t helping, this is what to say to yourself before a date that will actually be helpful:
You’re just meeting someone.
You are two people, getting together to share conversation and a few laughs. There are no expectations beyond the conversation. If the date doesn’t go well, it won’t be the end of the world. There will always be someone else you can meet. By putting “expectations” on a date, you’re making it more complicated than it needs to be. If you reframe your from “date” to “going out with a new friend”, you may find it easier to relax. You may also choose to focus on what you’re doing, instead of who you’re doing it with.
It’s not a job interview and you won’t lose anything if it doesn’t work out.
You don’t have to worry about perfect presentation. Yes, you only get one chance to make a good impression. But you’re not up for a job interview. You don’t have to put a professional foot forward. Instead, just be yourself. Speak in a way that is natural to you and let the conversation flow. The best method for keeping this mind set is by making low-stress plans together. This means a coffee shop and a walk through the park. Choose simple activities that you’ll both be comfortable with. This way, you’re less likely to suffer from nerves. You can ease into the date and let the conversation progress naturally.
Embrace it.
The best thing you can really do is just accept and embrace your nervousness. There is a good chance the person you’re going to meet feels just as nervous as you. Instead of thinking about how nervous you are, think about how nervous the other person might be. Now, think of the ways you can break the ice by mentioning the elephant in the room. Humour is a great tool to ease stress and make someone feel more relaxed. Keep in mind that your date understands your nerves as they are feeling them too.
James Preece
Dating Coach for AsianSingleSolution.com
All over the world, there are people who dread being single on Valentine’s Day. It’s the one day a year that every couple, new and old, take to the streets and flaunt their joy and love. Restaurants fill up with those who are celebrating. Movie theatres are showing romantic comedies and the crowd is filled with couples. Even walking down the street, you’re bound to see people engaging in public affection that may otherwise be considered inappropriate. If you’re single on Valentine’s Day, it seems easier to coop yourself up and avoid the all out love-fest. Although it might seem like a good idea to keep to yourself, this can create deeper feelings of isolation. If you’re already feeling a sense of loneliness, this is the last thing you need. Instead, try these fun ideas to boost your spirits:
Singles Parties
You’re certainly not the only Asian single who is alone on Valentines Day. The good news is that of the people like you, may choose to be pro-active. The end result? Singles Parties. These parties are exactly what they sound like, with men and women alike gathering to engage in conversation. We are running two big Asian singles events ourselves – one in London and one in Birmingham. Of course, it won’t always result in a date, but it’s something to keep your mind from wandering too far. If there aren’t any parties in your area, try hosting one yourself. This works well if you know quite a few single people. The more people you tell about your party, the more people are likely to show up.
Make Plans
If a singles’ party doesn’t sound like your thing, that’s absolutely fine. Not everyone is interested in meeting new people at events, especially if you’re introverted. Instead of trying to meet someone new, opt to connect with someone you already know. You can use Valentine’s Day to bond with anyone, not just a significant other. Try calling a friend or family member to hang out for the evening. If you have a co-worker that is single, invite them out for drinks or just to chill out.
Date Yourself
The greatest love you will ever have is love for yourself. Whether you’re male or female, self-love is crucial to personal development and rich relationships with other people. If you’re single this Valentine’s Day, take the chance to date yourself. Get to know yourself all over again. You may discover a whole new side of yourself! You can also engage in old hobbies & interests that may help you to connect with yourself. Of course, you’re not limited to introspection. Take yourself to dinner, run a bubble bath or go see a movie. If you just want to stay home and play video games, do it! Make it a day that is all about you.
Volunteer
So everyone is busy and you don’t want to sit at home alone. This is a great chance to volunteer your time to a good cause. You can go down to a food bank and help hand out food. You can read to the elderly in a hospice. If you really want to get creative, you can bake treats and hand them out to the local homeless. Not only is this a great way to spend your Valentine’s Day, but you’ll feel a deeper reward in helping others.
Keep Busy
The best advice anyone can give you when you’re single on Valentine’s Day is to keep busy. Even if you’re just ticking things off a to-do list, keeping busy will prevent you from that isolation feeling. The more you can get done, the more accomplished you’ll feel in the following days too. You may be able to completely finish your to-do list or finish those creative projects you have started. You may be able to catch up on work assignments or even just sleep! There are too many options to list, so get creative!
There is nothing more draining than dates after dates that never seem to go anywhere. Sure, it’s fun to get out of the house and away from work. But it feels tedious when nothing long-term ever comes from it. This is called a dating rut. It means that you’re stuck in emotional quicksand and can’t seem to pull yourself back out. We’ve all been there at least once. Below is a list of tips to help you get out of the dating rut and back into the dating pool.
One of the best things you can do to get out of a dating rut is take a break from dating altogether. Go out by yourself. Reconnect with your friends. Join a social club or something. Do something that will act as a distraction, while also providing you the opportunity to socialize with others. You may even end up with a date. At the very least, you’ll likely make a few good friends.
It can be easy to become so engulfed in your attempts to date that you can lose sight of important goals. One of these goals is the reason you’re dating in the first place. Our needs often change and sometimes, we don’t reflect those changes in our search for companionship. This could mean your dating criteria is out-dated. Take some time to reflect and think about what it is you’re looking for. Remember that if you’re starting to feel desperate to find someone, you may be looking for the wrong reasons.
Many of us want to say we’re open to anyone life sends our way. The fact is, we all have a type. This could be physical traits or aspects of their personality. It can even mean artificial assets, like careers and possessions. If you’re in a dating rut, you should think about your expectations in a partner. Write them down. Rate their importance. Get rid of any that wouldn’t make or break the experience. This will help you to broaden your selection in the future.
Instead of thinking about what you’re looking for or putting unnecessary pressure on you dating experience, just have fun! Go out with people you normally wouldn’t. Ditch all your expectations, including the ones you have for yourself. Learn to enjoy the moment and the company of another person. Even if that person doesn’t have the same goals in mind as you. This can help to open you up to a different type of person or show you something you’re missing in yourself.
That doesn’t mean take a bubble bath or treat yourself to something. Although, if you want to, go ahead! It’s always a good idea to indulge every once in a while. Largely, self-care means putting yourself first. Instead of thinking about finding someone else, find yourself. Spend more quality time with yourself and get to know who you are. You can have fun by yourself, too!
The holidays are a great time to spend with your closest family and reconnect with distant relatives. You get to see all the faces you haven’t been able to see since the last holiday. There are gatherings everywhere. People to meet. Faces to remember. It’s fun, but it can also be chaotic.
If you’re just starting a new relationship, the holidays can be really tricky. After all, there are two families to plan around. You want to visit your family for the holidays. Your new partner probably wants to visit their own family. At the same time, you also want to enjoy the holidays together. It’s hard enough to have the conversation with yourself. How do you talk to your new partner about their plans?
The first thing you need to do is get all the variables out in the open. This is done by asking your partner what his/her plans are for the holidays. It is awkward, but you will have to ask your new partner if he/she wants to spend the holidays with you. If the answer is no, your problems are solved.
Of course, you may be offended by the fact that your partner doesn’t want you to meet his/her family. Keep in mind that your partner could feel that it is too soon to introduce you to his/her family. Your partner may want to introduce you more gradually or to a smaller group first. You’ll need to be patient with your partner and respect this decision.
If your partner does want to spend the holidays with you, then you’ll need to figure out how you can both get what you want. Ask your partner the details: Where would you be going? Who would you be seeing? How long will you be staying? Ask yourself the same questions and share the information with your partner. There are likely going to be conflicts. Try and be patient with each other as you work through those conflicts together. Communication is the key to a smooth holiday plan!
If both of your families are located in the same place, your plans will be significantly easier to arrange. Of course, there will still be the question of where you are eating the traditional holiday meal. You don’t want to eat at both locations, even if they are at different times. If they are different days, you’re set! Alternatively, you can always arrange to meet each others families, then go your separate way for the meal. After you’ve enjoyed the meal and time with your family, you can get back together for the later evening. If that isn’t realistic, you can spend the following day together to make up for lost time.
Along with open communication, you need to be flexible about your plans. Again, the holidays are stressful and you don’t want to add to that stress. Being open about the time you spend together. You will be able to make it work as long as you’re open, flexible, and patient.
When you’ve known someone for a long time, it’s usually easy to buy them a gift for the holidays. You know enough about what they like and don’t like. But if you’ve recently started seeing someone new, you’re likely at a loss for the perfect gift. After all, you don’t know much about each other yet. You’re not sure of their hobbies or interests. You have no idea what they would want for the holidays. You don’t want to ask because it puts them on the spot. You can always opt out of getting your new partner a gift, but you want to make a good impression, right?
This is your guide for buying your new partner the perfect holiday gift:
You can tell a lot about a person from their social media accounts. Look at the type of content they post, especially when it comes to Facebook posts. People often share videos or make comments about products they wish they owned themselves. You can use that to find something your new partner will adore. With Instagram, you can see the type of hobbies your new partner is interested in. You can also see what your new partner already has and hopefully avoid buying a repeat gift. Unfortunately, you won’t be able to use this trick if you haven’t exchanged social media information.
When it comes to a new partner, you don’t want to get crazy with gift-giving. That means you don’t want to buy them a pile of presents and you don’t want to spend a fortune on a single gift. You can usually get away with something simple when it’s your first holiday together. If you do opt for an expensive and dazzling gift, you may scare off your new partner. He/she may believe you are moving too fast with the relationship.
It is never a bad idea to get your partner something with his/her name on it. This is a fun gift idea that works for any occasion. It’s rarely expensive, but always appears thoughtful. Of course, you need choose a gift that falls into your partner’s interests/hobbies. If you choose something random, your partner may think you aren’t serious about the relationship or getting to know them. Opt for something you have seen them use or you believe would be useful.
This gift idea depends on how long you’ve been seeing each other. If you’ve only gone on a few dates, this idea won’t work. If you’ve been seeing each other for a few weeks or even months, this is a great idea. You can choose a gift that symbolises your first date. You can choose a gift that represents something you both have in common. This gift doesn’t have to be store-bought either. A handmade relic of the relationship may be significantly more sentimental to your partner.
Of course, the best way to choose a gift for your new partner is by listening to them. Since the holidays are approaching, they will likely drop a few hints about what they want. If you pay attention to these subtle clues, you’ll be able to get them the perfect gift!
If you haven’t got a partner yet, it’s just a case of sending out some some messages on our dating site and going out on some dates. There’s still time!
www.asiansinglesolution.com
With gleam of Diyas
And the Echo of the Chants
May Happiness and Contentment Fill Your life
Wishing you a very happy and prosperous Diwali!
James,Paul, Meera and the Asian Single Solution Team
We were very pleased to sponsor the Brit Asian TV Music Awards last Saturday, 6th October.
This was our 5th years sponsoring the awards as we think it’s important we support the industry. The event was packed full of celebrities and was a very glamorous ceremony.
It was an amazing night and our lovely host Stephanie presented the award for “Best Bollywood Track” This was won by Dilbar – Dhvani Bhanushali, Ikka Singh, and Neha Kakkar
The other winners of the night were:
Best DJ: DJ Frenzy
Breakthrough Act: G. Sidhu
Best Lyricist: Sidhu Moose Wala – So High
Best Music Video Director: Sunny Dhinsey – Udaarian
Best Male Act: Guru Randhawa
Best Non-Traditional Asian Act: Steel Banglez
Best Female Act: Jasmine Sandlas
Music Producer of the Year: Vee
UK Act of the Year: JK
Album of the Year: CON.FI.DEN.TIAL – Diljit Dosanjh
Music Video of the Year: Udaarian – Satinder Sartaaj
Track of the Year: Lahore – Guru Randhawa
Special Recognition: Raghav
Outstanding Achievement: Panjabi MC
Lifetime Achievement Award: Arif Lohar
Congratulations to everyone who won and well done to the organisers on such a wonderful event. We can’t wait for next year!
Asian Single Solution
There are people out in the world who avoid commitment when dating. They aren’t interested in settling down. Maybe they want to travel the world and meet different people. Maybe they are too focused on advancing their career to think about love.
For these people, short term dating is a choice they have made. But there are others who have had the choice made for them by their insecurities. These people are commitment phobes, but they often don’t even know it!
If you’re reading this, there’s a good chance you are one of those people. Consult the list below and see how many of these traits you can identify in your own life:
You are always second-guessing yourself.
You’re indecisive, especially when meeting new people.
You think about the end of every relationship.
You have hidden insecurities and are afraid of being left behind.
You worry about someone accepting you for who you are.
You always end up in the worst relationships.
You avoid sharing personal details about yourself with a new partner.
You avoid talking about your past, even if it was “normal”.
You tend to ghost on other people.
You have a rotation of people you’re communicating with.
You are more comfortable with short relationships.
You tend to nitpick about unimportant things.
You are always looking for a reason to end the relationship.
You tend to self-sabotage.
You always make jokes about how relationships are a waste of time.
You have been called out by friends or family.
You have commitment issues in other aspects of your life.
If any of these traits resonate with you, there is a good chance you are afraid of committing to someone. If you are afraid of commitment, you may be wondering how you can overcome that fear. After all, no one wants to be alone forever or move from relationship to relationship. If you’re ready to accept that you’re afraid of commitment, you’re ready to make the changes too.
The key is to take small steps and make gradual changes. Change isn’t easy for anyone, even if you want to believe you’ll be the exception. If you try to rush the process, you’re going to fail and end up back at square one. Instead, try pacing yourself. If something feels unnatural, don’t do it. You’re also going to want to communicate your fears with your current partner, especially if they are the reason you want to make these changes. Your partner should know what you are going through so that he/she can be supportive of the process. Otherwise, you may feel your efforts are for nothing.
The first thing you need to do is figure out the reason behind your fear of commitment. Are you afraid of being left behind? Are you afraid no one will love you for who you really are? Are you afraid of investing time into something that is going to end? Be honest with yourself about these hesitations. That is the only way you will be able to work through these issues. Often, identifying them helps you to realize they aren’t valid insecurities and allows you to move on with your life.
If you continue struggling, get in touch and our resident Dating Coach might be able to help!
www.asiansinglesolution.com
We recently ran a competition to win £200 and tickets for the opening night Gala of the London Indian Film Festival plus after party.
Our lucky winners were Nandita C and her friend Monsura M.
The festival was an amazing success and everyone had a wonderful evening.
Thank you to everyone who entered.
James, Paul, Meera and the Team
www.asiansinglesolution.com
As a Dating Coach, it concerns me every time I see someone writing a negative online dating profile.
It’s a terrible thing to do but still surprisingly common, despite our best efforts to teach people they shouldn’t be doing it!
So what exactly is a “negative” profile and what’s so bad about it?
A negative dating profile is one that talks about all the things you don’t want. Typical comments might be things like:
“I can’t believe I’m doing this”
“No timewasters please”
“Only contact me if you have a photo”
“Don’t bother to contact me if you aren’t serious”
“I don’t know what to write here”
“If you aren’t in the UK don’t bother”
Believe it or not, these type of statements appear in an awful lot of profiles. The problem is that they make you sound really miserable, jaded and unlikely to be fun on a date. Nobody likes a negative nancy so you should avoid these at all costs. If people think you are like that then they won’t be drawn to you and won’t want to spend time with you.
It’s much better to focus on positive things and talk about the lovely things you have to offer. It’s not just about what you are looking for, but what the other person wants too. It’s a two way street and you have to remember that. Otherwise it can come across as demanding or downright rude. I’m sure you don’t want anyone to think that of you!
Try and write things like this instead:
“I’m excited to see what might happen on this site”
“I’d love you to contact me if you like what you’ve read”
“If you are also looking for a serious relationship then it would be great to hear from you”
“Helping others and Keeping Fit are two of the things that make me happy”
If you’ve written anything negative in your profile then I strongly suggest you take this out and write something more lighthearted and friendly instead. You’ll have a much better success rate and many more replies to your messages.
Happy Dating!
James Preece
Dating Coach for Asian Single Solution.
You may be at a point in your relationship that feels flat. There’s no more excitement. You’re starting to feel distant. Intimacy has slowed or completely stopped. Internally, you may be panicking. At the same time, you’re hesitant to bring this up with your partner. Naturally, no one wants to have to say “this isn’t working”. It often leads to an argument because it sounds like the prelude to a break-up scene. If that’s not your goal, it’s all in the wording.
If the drift is minimal, it’s easy enough to get things back on track without even mentioning it to your partner. Of course, a healthy relationship means you should always feel comfortable talking to your partner. If you feel like the issue might be serious, you need to sit down and talk about what is going on. It could be something on both ends or something you’ve overlooked. It’s possible your partner isn’t feeling the relationship anymore. It’s more likely they are just going through something personal.
When you’re faced with any of these issues, here are 5 quick ways to strength your relationship:
Set aside alone time
While you might spend a good deal of time together, this is different. This refers to time without distractions or interferences. No TV or cellphones. No reading a book or magazine. Just spending time together. You may think this sounds boring, but use your imagination! You could play a board game together or simply talk. Use the time alone to express your concerns or to get to know your partner. There is always something new to learn, even if you’ve been together 40 years.
Do something different
Instead of sticking to the same routine, try spicing it up. This can be as simple or as complicated as you’d like. You could go to a restaurant instead of staying in for dinner. Go on a date, like you’re meeting for the first time. Go for a walk together in a park you haven’t been to in years. It doesn’t matter. Anything outside of your typical routine is going to be different enough. After all, relationships can feel stagnant simply because the routine has drained you. By switching up what you’re doing, you can bring the essence of youth back. Another great idea in this category is signing up for a class, maybe cooking or crafts. As long as it’s something you’ll both enjoy!
Celebrate each other
Naturally, you celebrate when your partner has accomplished something like a promotion or a raise. As important as it is to recognise big accomplishments, you need to learn to recognise the little ones as well. You can do this by saying thank-you for small house tasks. You can buy random inexpensive gifts or treats to show your partner that you’re thinking about them. You can get creative with dozens of ways to show your appreciation for your partner. This is the same as celebrating them. Remember that every day with your partner is a gift.
Get physical
Too often relationship problems are caused by a lack of physical intimacy. While that shouldn’t the base of any relationship, it is definitely one of the walls of the foundation. A healthy relationship always has a form of physical intimacy. This doesn’t always refer to intercourse. You can get physically intimate by holding hands, kissing, tender embraces and cuddling up on the couch to watch TV. Physical intimacy is really any kind of physical closeness. Every relationship needs that.
Communicate
This is a big issue in most relationships. Communication often stops feeling essential as you get used to the routine. You talk all the time about dinner, work, weather or upcoming events. But you don’t dive into the “how are you, really?” questions. Learning to communicate isn’t as quick as the other options, but it’s equally important. Without communication, any relationship is doomed to failure. This refers to learning to how to have an argument as well. Obviously, there are going to be issues that arise. You don’t need to avoid arguments in a relationship, you need to learn to communicate the real issue to get working on a solution.
Of course, every step you take in a relationship should be met half-way! If you’re not feeling valued as an equal or you feel you’re doing everything, it’s time to have a more serious talk.
James Preece
Dating Coach for AsianSingleSolution.com
Every relationship reaches the point where you have to ask: Is it time to introduce them to your inner circle? After all, you’re not going to date someone without ever introducing them to friends and family. At the same time, you don’t want to introduce every single potential partner to your friends. You could overwhelm your friends or even build resentment. If you’re moving too fast with your relationships, you could end up facing that problem. If you feel that’s the case, take a step back from dating and take a look at why you might be rushing your relationships.
Here are a few tips to help you introduce your partner to your friends:
When you’re making the introductions, less is more. Don’t invite your partner to a party with 25 of your closest friends. Start with brunch and maybe 2 of your friends. This gives your partner the chance to get to know the people in your life, while also giving your friends the chance to get to know your partner. Intimate gatherings are ideal for initial meetings. This way, your partner will be happy to see a familiar face at that 25 guest party. It saves both of you from becoming overwhelmed with the interaction. Plus, if the relationship falls apart soon after, you only introduced this partner to a few friends.
It’s not easy to choose the right timing to make introductions. That’s because there is no right or wrong answer. There isn’t exactly a rule book, either. It’s different for everyone. Your time line might work with this partner, but be too early with the next. You really have to gauge every relationship individually and decide what is best with each partner.
Generally, premature introductions aren’t wise. There are a few cases where an early introduction has had benefits. Such as the partner didn’t like the friends, ultimately deciding the fate of the relationship. Other examples may include the reaction the partner has about the introductions. After all, you can tell a lot about someone by how they act when they meet new people. If you don’t want to take that chance, wait until you feel you know this person well enough to introduce them to other people who are important to you.
Many of our friends form opinions about our partner, whether we’re serious about the relationship or just testing the waters. This can go many ways, including the good, bad, and in between. In the instance of a bad judgement, you might find yourself being peer-pressured into an early end for this relationship. On the other hand, if your friends love your partner, you may feel obligated to stick around even if you’re not feeling the connection. This is another reason timing is important and making small introductions is beneficial.
Ultimately, when you’re introducing your partner to your friends, it’s because you’re confident in the relationship having some sort of success. If you’re not confident about that, it’s too early to make the introductions. Granted, early introductions could save you from investing too much time in a doomed relationship. But do you want to make that call or let the relationship play out on its own?
James Preece – Dating Coach for AsianSingleSolution.com
Our big Spring Fling Singles party takes place on Saturday 28th April.
Here are our top tips to make sure you make the most of the event and come away with lots of dates!
Most of our events have a dress code, so think about this in advance. Get your best shirt ironed or treat yourself to a new dress. That way you’ll be confident when you enter the event and will attract attention for the right reasons.
It’s always a great idea to round up your single friends to come along with you. That way you have an instant support group and you won’t have to worry about being left on your own. Just make sure you choose happy, positive friends who are there to have a good time!
If you haven’t got any single friends to bring then don’t worry – just go up and say hello to some of the guests. It doesn’t matter if you find them attractive or not. When you do this, other people will assume they are interested in you and you’ll look instantly more popular. As well as that, you could make new friends who you can keep talking to during the night.
We pride ourselves on booking more hosts than any other Asian singles party company. These hosts are the friendliest in the business and are there to help you. Don’t be afraid of speaking to one if you need assistance. They can help you talk to the person you’ve been eyeing up all evening, or explain how the night works. Their job is to make sure you have a good time so please make the most of them. They don’t bite!
If you want to be successful, you need to throw yourself into everything. This means taking part in the ice breaking activities, having a go at speed dating and generally making the most of it. It really doesn’t matter how well you do it, but it will help you relax and have fun. All the activities are there for your benefit and can help you start conversations with new people.
I find myself saying this a lot, but as a paying customer you can talk to anyone you wish. If someone else is with them, don’t worry. Just wait a few minutes and step in. The last thing you want to do is go home regretting you blew your chance to say hello. Even if they aren’t keen, you’ve not lost anything. You didn’t know them before the party and you don’t know them after. So there’s no risk involved.
Don’t forget to book your ticket HERE !
See you there,
James
It’s no secret that having confidence is the best way to get ahead in life. Whether you’re talking about landing a promotion at work or finding that special someone. Confidence is the key to unlocking almost any doorway. But how do you fair when you don’t have any confidence? You can always learn how to be more confident. It takes time and consistency. You can take courses online or in person to help build your confidence. Or you can follow the old adage: Fake it until you make it. It’s a lot easier to fake your confidence. This can even help you to build real confidence in yourself. Let’s take a look at 5 ways you can appear more confident:
Many people who are nervous tend to talk a lot more than they should. Many others choose to be absolutely silent. These are two indications that someone lacks confidence in their life. Instead of doing either, learn when it’s appropriate to talk and when it’s best to listen. You don’t need to be the wallflower and you don’t need to babble nervously. When you choose to speak, make your voice heard. Be commanding and bold and always follow through on anything you say.
Another habit that nervous individuals have is excessive fidgeting. You need to learn to sit still. Now when most people think of fidgeting, they think of hand gestures. Fidgeting can also mean gently shaking your leg and even looking around the room excessively. Instead of allowing yourself these mindless actions, consciously make the effort to stop trying to distract yourself. That’s really what fidgeting is: Keeping your mind otherwise occupied because you’re nervous or anxious about the situation you’re in.
When it comes to talking to people you’re nervous around, it’s tempting to look in different directions. However, improving your confidence starts with making solid eye contact. This can be tricky to do initially, so pace yourself. Start by looking just over the shoulder of the person you’re talking to. This can make it appear as though you’re making eye contact. Then make the effort to look directly at the individual and try and maintain eye contact. You’ll find it comes naturally after a while.
Confident individuals always stand tall. This is both physically and mentally. By doing this, they tend to command the attention of the room. To stand tall physically means to stand with your shoulders straight, looking ahead and making direct eye contact. To stand tall mentally means to be proud of yourself and the things you’ve accomplished. If you don’t feel like you’ve accomplished anything, set your goals a little lower. You’re allowed to feel proud of getting out of bed in the morning if that’s all you’ve done. You don’t need to win awards to be validated.
The biggest way to appear confident is by not overdoing it. Whether you’re learning confidence or trying to fake it, you need to be realistic. This means that you can’t overexaggerate how confident you are. You can’t pretend to feel like you’re on top of the world. You need to maintain a balance between who you are and this person you’re trying to become. You don’t want to take on more than you can handle and then have people find out this isn’t who you are. So take baby steps until you feel confident to start taking leaps.
2018 is already racing quickly by, but the good news is our Valentine’s parties are coming up soon.
These parties are the highlight of our dating calendar and always attract lots of new people. We aim to make them as fun as possible and always provide much more than similar dating events.
Both events will take place on Saturday 10th February 2018, which is just a few days before the big day itself.
The London party will be at our favourites and most popular venue, the Holiday Inn Kensington. We’ve got live classical music, optional speed dating, chocolate fountain and much more.
For Birmingham, we have a glamorous new venue – Siamais – which has only just opened up. Discounted “Love Potion” cocktails for the first to arrive.
If you’d like to come then don’t wait any longer as the price will go up and you risk it going to a waiting list.
CLICK HERE to find out more and book now.
Meera
At the start of the new year, everyone likes to make a fresh start. It’s when we decide we’ll start taking action and do something dramatic to achieve one particular goal in life.
For some, this might be to lose weight. For others it could be to find a new job or quit smoking. However, lots of people will also want to meet their perfect partner. I’m guessing that’s why you are reading this blog on our site in the first place. The good news is that you’ve come to the right place as we can definitely provide you with the tools to help you. It’s now just a case of you keeping things going and making a start.
Here are some quick suggestions to help you on your way:
First of all, let all your friends and family know you are looking for a partner. Write it on social media and let the world know what you are up to. Put a note on your fridge about the person you are going to meet. That way you are making a declaration that you are finally doing this. Your support circle will be able to help and keep you motivated. More that anything, you’ll become accountable.
The next thing you must do is get your online dating profile ready. Update it with new content and recent photos. Make sure it’s the best advert for you and that you are going to stand out from the competition. Your profile is there to attract new people to you even when you aren’t logged in, so make it count.
If you want to be successful, you are going to have to leave the house. Do everything possible to get yourself in a position where you’ll meet new people. We run lots of very popular events that will provide you with this opportunity. Book one now and you are going to dramatically boost your chances. Tell your friends but don’t worry if you come on your own as we have wonderful friendly hosts to look after you.
Do go out on dates, even if you aren’t completely sure about them. If there is even a glimmer of interest then spend an hour or so with them over coffee. There’s nothing to lose and the more dates you go on then the better you’ll become. You won’t be nervous anymore.
Nothing worth getting is ever going to be easy. You’ll experience knock-backs along the way but you have to keep up the momentum. You won’t like everyone you meet but all it takes is one person. Don’t give up before you even start as it can take several months to get what you truly desire.
So what are you waiting for? You owe it to yourself to start taking action. Once you do, you’ll be so happy that you got started. You’ll be that little bit closer to a happy, fulfilling relationship.
Happy dating and good luck!
James Preece
Dating Coach for Asiansinglesolution.com
We ran a very popular competition in December to win a £250 Shopping Spree.
We are very pleased to announce the winner was Dhilen Patel who has now received his £250 Selfridges voucher.
Thank you very much to everyone who entered and watch out for the next competition soon!
Idea Eleven – Ski Lodge
Unless you live somewhere cold and hilly, it’s unlikely you’ll be able to visit a real ski lodge. However, much like ice bars and igloos, there are ski lodges opening all over the place.
Decorated to give you that “alpine” feeling, they are a wonderful place to sip wine and get to know each other. They are cosy and you can try seasonal drinks such as eggnog or hot chocolate with a shot of your favourite tipple.
If you have your own Christmas Dating Ideas please do add a comment to this blog. We’d love to share the most original ones.
Happy dating!
Asian Single Solution
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Idea Ten – Afternoon Tea
Everyone loves afternoon tea. It doesn’t matter what time of year it is as it’s a dining experience that makes you feel quite special.
Lots of hotels do their own version during the winter filled with festive treats including mince pies and Yule Logs. Take your date to one, preferably in front of an open fire.
If you have your own Christmas Dating Ideas please do add a comment to this blog. We’d love to share the most original ones.
Happy dating!
Asian Single Solution
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Idea Nine – Outdoor Cinema
Everyone has their favourite Christmas Movie. Maybe it’s Elf, Santa Claus the Movie or Home Alone. Find out what your date likes and take them to see it on the big screen. There are lots of outdoor cinemas scattered over the UK that show the very best films. Don’t worry about the cold as you’ll get blankets and heaters. It really does make for a fun and unusual experience!
If you have your own Christmas Dating Ideas please do add a comment to this blog. We’d love to share the most original ones.
Happy dating!
Asian Single Solution
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Idea Seven- Wine Tasting
Wine Tasting is a great way to have fun getting to know each other while learning something new at the same time. You’ll get the chance to try five or six different varieties, usually along with some nibbles too.
As it’s the Festive Season, do make sure you include a glass of Mulled Wine too! It’s the perfect way to warm up the cold winter nights.
If you have your own Christmas Dating Ideas please do add a comment to this blog. We’d love to share the most original ones.
Happy dating!
Asian Single Solution
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Idea Two – Christmas Markets
If you want an instant talking point, you can find Christmas Markets in many high streets. They are usually copies of European markets, with lots of pretty lights and wares to buy.
No reputable market is complete without it’s own hot dog stand. Bratwursts are a very popular delicacy and they usually have a variety of the sausages available.
Take a stroll around you’ll find homemade goods and lots of art and crafts. This could be candles, paintings, perfumes or Christmas cards. Maybe you can buy each other a small trinket as as souvenir?
If you have your own Christmas Dating Ideas please do add a comment to this blog. We’d love to share the most original ones.
Happy dating!
Asian Single Solution
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As a bit of Festive Fun, we will be giving you 12 fun dating ideas over the next few days. You can use them for inspiration for when you go out on dates with members of the site.
Idea One – London Igloos
You might not have realised, but igloos are popping over all over the place. These are modern little outdoor bubbles that give you the chance to meet someone in a fun,private environment. You can see the stars at night and eat or drink to your hearts content. With some you can try fondue together if you fancy it.
Don’t worry, these igloos are heated and many also come with blankets just in case you get a bit chilly. We think they are the perfect romantic environment to warm up your love life. If nothing more, you’ll have a great night to remember for years to come.
They are extremely popular so if you are interested you will need to book up early. They sell out very quickly each year so if you don’t want to miss out start planning today.
If you have your own Christmas Dating Ideas please do add a comment to this blog. We’d love to share the most original ones.
Happy dating!
Asian Single Solution
Dating around the holidays can be pretty stressful. Most places are packed with last-minute shoppers. There’s a different kind of pressure in the air regarding romance. If you’re just getting to know someone, you want to avoid all of it. You just want a quiet night to share with someone. At the same time, you want to feel festive too. Here are a few date ideas that take both of these factors into consideration:
One of the most fun activities during the Christmas holiday is decorating. Some people even make a sport out of it to try and compete with neighbours in a playful way. Even if you’ve just started dating, decorating the house can be a great activity. It’s inexpensive, as you’ve likely got the decorations handy already. It will also give the two of you the chance to discuss holiday memories. This is great for bonding, plus it adds a festive cheer to your home and your blossoming relationship.
Of course, you can also opt for decorating a gingerbread house instead of your own home. If you don’t know each other well enough to take them home, this smaller and edible home is a great date idea too. The two of you can create something together, which gives you an idea of the chemistry between you. Then you get to enjoy the delicious taste of eating your creation after. Plus, you can eat all the leftover decorations you didn’t use while you were putting the house together. Don’t forget to save some decor for the little gingerbread folk who will be living in your newly made dwelling!
If you’re the type who likes to shop, this is the best date idea for you. This involves heading to your local thrift shop and looking for a Christmas sweater. The two of you can playfully compete to see who can find the ugliest sweater. Or you can just opt for matching sweaters if you’re feeling that vibe. Of course, you don’t have to go for ugly sweaters either. You can try and find something more significant to the relationship that you might want to wear over and over. Shopping is always a fun date idea, especially when you first start dating. You get a good idea of what your new partner is into and what they like. This especially helps around the holidays.
You can do this one at home or go to your local cinema. Around Christmas, all the holiday movies come out and are usually on offer. You can buy a few of them to bring home and watch. In some places you can still rent DVD’s, so maybe rent them instead of buying. Or you can simply head to Netflix to see what movies might be listed there for the season. In most places, the local cinema takes the holiday as an opportunity to drum up business by playing classic Christmas movies. Whichever route you choose, make sure to grab yourself some popcorn!
A classic holiday date idea is to go sight-seeing in your neighborhood. This often involves looking at all the brightly decorated homes around yours. You can choose either neighborhood or do both if you’re feeling adventurous. Just make sure that you’re dressing warm, as the winds are often cold in the later hours of winter. It might also be a good idea to grab yourselves hot chocolate before heading on your stroll. This gives you something warm to counter the temperature. It also gives you something to do with your hands, in case you might be nervous.
Thank you to everyone who came to our amazing 15th Birthday Masquerade Ball.
With over 250 tickets sold, the party was sold out with a wonderful crowd. We had masked speed dating, magician Ravi Mayar, popcorn, candyfloss, live music and much more. Above all, we provided opportunity and many great matches were made during the night.
We’ve had many people tell us it was our best event ever, so we are excited to think of ways we can top it in 2018!
If you have any ideas for events that we don’t currently offer, please add your thoughts to a comment on this page. We’d love to hear what you would like to see.
Here’s to the next 15 years!
James, Paul, Meera, Amrita and the Team.
Online dating is all about the way you present yourself. Since you’re not initially meeting face-to-face, your profile is going to be the first impression anyone has of you. You want to make a good impression. This will have other members of the website contacting you and wanting to know more. You’ll have more dating opportunities with a well-rounded profile. It can be hard to come up with a unique profile that truly stands out from all your competition. The good news is that we’ll show you where to start!
Your username and profile picture are the two most important aspects of your dating profile. These are the first things someone will see when you show up in a search or while they are browsing. Your username should be something clever and inventive. Hotguy2015 isn’t going to stand out. Puns are a good way to make usernames stand out. If there’s a clever way you can use your name to create a word, try that! You’d be surprised how many people are more interested in clicking a clever username. Now your profile picture should flattering, but not misleading. You don’t want to use any photo magic in a profile picture. You can choose flattering angles (most people do) and wear the clothes you look best in. You can pose or take a more candid style photo to show off your personality. You can use flattering images as supporting pictures, but try to look as natural as possible in your profile picture.
The next thing someone is going to look at is your tagline. “I’m looking for Mr/Mrs. Right” is not an informative tagline. You’re pretty limited on what you can say in a tagline so be creative! Find the shortest way to get the most information across. For instance: “My Mr/Mrs. Right loves beagle puppies and watching hockey on Saturday nights.” In this tagline, you’re talking more about who you’re looking for. You’ll appeal to anyone who loves beagle puppies or hockey. Obviously, this is an outline. You’ll want to use things that personally apply to you and your interests. The tagline is a great way to quickly summarise who you are and what you’re looking for.
Your profile information is where you’ll get to dive into details. Now to really make your profile pop, you’ll want to include summarized information. No one enjoys reading large paragraphs of text. Even if they are interested in you, they aren’t looking to read a book. Using point-form is the easiest way to describe yourself in more detail. It’s also useful for describing your ideal mate. Many dating profiles are very basic. They talk about generic interests, like music or movies or sports. They don’t talk about personality. You want to stand out, so you want to describe who you are, not just what you’re into.
The most important thing to remember about building any dating profile is to be yourself. You can accentuate your good qualities and leave out some of the bad, but don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. If you’re looking for a real connection, you have to be a real person.
We love getting feedback and get success stories virtually every day
Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:
“I met someone on my first few days on the website- he was on of the first profiles i viewed and liked. I am now still with him 5 months down the line and very happy. Great website.” KB
” I found someone isn a similar position to me and I am very grateful for this site!” GM
“I met someone and was happy with the website!” IR
” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single” JM
“Very Happy with the service. Met someone” NB
“I found the love of my life here on ASS and we are now married and in the process of applying for her spousal visa.” MG
If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]
Happy dating!
James, Paul and Meera
LOOKING FOR LOVE?
CPL Productions is accepting applications from single people seeking a committed relationship as part of television programme, Married at First Sight.
Married at First Sight is a returning documentary series for Channel 4 in which brave men and women, who are genuinely looking for love, commit to marrying a stranger.
Using science and psychology, couples are carefully matched by a team of highly respected and experienced experts.
The matching process aims to identify couples with high compatibility across a number of areas for a successful long-term relationship.
Those located in or willing to relocate to London have an increased chance of being matched but the casting team are very interested in hearing from applicants anywhere in the UK.
Those taking part should have no children and not have been married before.
People interested in finding out more about the series and application process should simply contact the team at CPL Productions to arrange a friendly and confidential chat.
Please send you name, age, location and phone number to: [email protected]
The team really look forward to hearing from you!
(Applying does not guarantee selection. All information provided will be treated in strict confidence)
We’d had some great feedback recently
Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:
“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Great website! ” HS
“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Good site. Mostly decent people” PS
“Great site and easy to use with lots of people to contact. I personally had great success on this site and would recommend it to others over other similar sites.” MR
“Very Happy with the service” KD
“This website is great and I met someone, but some advice to other people is you have to persevere and keep at it!” MP
If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]
Happy dating!
James, Paul and Meera
For many people, the question of “why we kiss” seems fairly obvious. It’s all about sharing an intimate moment with someone we care about. It’s offering a deeper connection, demonstrating our vulnerabilities. Or sometimes, it’s about getting a feel for a new lovers’ skills. Kissing is just a great way to express your inner romanticism or a way to make a physical connection with someone else. Well, that does seem like the more the obvious reason to kiss someone, right?
But it’s not scientifically correct. That’s right, there’s a scientific reason for kissing someone! It involves biological figures.
The fact is the study of kissing is actually called “philematology”. This is derived from the greek word (isn’t everything?) “philos”. The translation of that word means an “earthy love”. It’s a word that describes getting back to the roots. This is a suitable word for the study of kissing as kissing itself feels like a connection to the root of the recipient. That’s why it often feels the most vulnerable, even though it’s such a simple action.
Philematology describes kissing as a way our bodies communicate chemically. The exchange of saliva is actually a way of determining physical compatibility. Your body will react likewise to the communications you aren’t even conscious of. You know how kissing can leave you absolutely breathless and make you fall head over heels in love with that person? Or it can turn you off completely and you’ll send them running for the exit? That’s the response to the chemical composition of the person you’re kissing. It can work either way depending on how skilled you are at doing it.
Over the years it’s been deemed that human beings used these chemical communications less and less. That our primal instinct to find the perfect partner for mating has been fading. But studies are arguing those assumptions by proving them entirely wrong. Studies are done to determine the likelihood of two people choosing to mate, using chemical compositions.
That might seem a little far fetched, but as a relationship expert I know how true it is. As we’ve evolved as human beings and our “ideals” have changed, you would think our bodies no longer look for this signals. The fact of the matter is that many of our “ideals” are actually just those same chemical responses. Whether it’s through kissing or the scent of another person, it’s in our DNA to find that “perfect someone”. Even if you’re not looking for an ideal mating partner, your body is. That’s just the way we were designed and there’s nothing you can do about it!
Interestingly, philematology determined that kissing can actually burn calories. You use around 25 facial muscles when you’re deeply kissing someone (only about 2 or 3 for a simple kiss). You also use over 100 postural muscles! Therefore, you can burn up to 25 calories every minute you’re in a heated make-out session. So make sure you’re putting those muscles to good use.
It’s all in the name of science, after all.
James Preece – Relationship Expert
www.asiansinglesolution.com
The Asian Single Solution is a very proud sponsor of the London Indian Film Festival.
This year we are sponsoring the film “BadMan” and we attended the premiere last Saturday at Wembley Stadium, along with some very lucky Asian Single Solution members.
The event began with an introduction by the star of the film himself – Gulshan Grover – and was followed by an Q and A with him and the ever popular Sunny and Shay. After this we organised a very special drinks reception in a secret nearby venue, to allow our guests to meet and discuss the film.
This was a very exciting event and a great time was had by everyone who attended. The Festival is on for another few days and there are lots of more shows that might interest you.
Do check out our events page to find out what wonderful singles events we have coming up next too.
We’d had some great feedback recently:
“Met someone through the site and things are going well!” AP
“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : It’s perfect” AK
“I met my now Fiance on your site, we are getting married on 27th August this year (thank you for introducing us!)” PP
“I have found the one.” RF
” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single!” KS
“I have found someone through this website!” AP
“I met someone at one of your events” DM
“Very Happy with the service. Found some one already” BP
Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:
If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]
Happy dating!
James, Paul and Meera
We’d had some great feedback recently:
Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:
“My experience was good. I met Mr Right soon after subscribing onto the site. it’s well laid out and the support provided by yourselves is very prompt.” JG
” Standout website compared to the other Asian Dating Sites” MD
“This site worked for me because I kept on trying and found that someone special” JP
“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : its worked thank you x” SK
” I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single. Thank you!” PS
” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : She’s lovely. “ES
“Brilliant service” DP
“I met the perfect match thanks to you!!” AP
“I met someone. Great website” AG
If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]
Happy dating!
James, Paul and Meera
Spring Date Ideas For Asian Singles
Romance always blossoms the strongest in spring. It’s the pheromones in the air, or something. We shed off the depressions of winter and move into the welcoming warmth of spring. There’s nothing more welcoming as the weather changes than having someone to share the warmth with. Whether you’ve been together, or it’s your first date, these Asian spring dates idea are bound to be a hit.
There’s no better way to celebrate the arrival of spring than walking around outside. You’ll get a breath of fresh air and see the world coming to life around you. It’s simply beautiful. You can stop and smell the flowers and even take pictures of cute animals out of hibernation. This date is ideal for first-timers, because it gives you nothing to do but talk. This is a great way to get to know each other. Take the chance to ask questions and dive further into each other!
Imagine the spring air passing through your hair as you ride along the path without a care in the world. This date is harder when it comes to communicating. You don’t want to be yelling over your shoulder the whole time, after all. But you can have fun with this, maybe turn it into a fun competition. See who will get to the end of the path first and share a laugh
Tip To combine both of the date ideas above, trying rollerskating or blading.
A picnic lunch may seem like a cliche date, but there’s a good reason for that it works! You’ll get to enjoy your dates company, while also enjoying the coming of spring. Just pack up a few sandwiches and head to a local park. Of course, if you’re worried about insects (there are many people with allergies), you can try an outdoor restaurant. Either way, you get to enjoy conversation. Afterwards, try going out for an ice cream!
This isn’t an easy date to pull off, but it’s certainly rewarding if you can. There are two ways to accomplish this one Find an open air cinema in your neighbourhood, or rent a projector and create your own. It’s not expensive, and most of them hook up to computers, allowing you to watch your favourite Netflix shows while outside in the garden. It’s sure to impress your date, if nothing else. P
No matter where you live in the world, you’re bound to have a local festival celebrating the arrival of spring. It’s such an important time of the year. A new beginning. You can really see the world come to life, including the people. Walk around one of these festivals with your date and join in the celebrations. You’ll likely get to try new food and participate in dance rituals. At the end of the day, you’ll be exhausted from laughing so much and so will your date. It’s going to give you something to talk about for many dates to come!
If you are an Asian single who doesn’t yet have a date – don’t worry – you can get one today on out site!
www.asiansinglesolution.com
The Asian Single Solution team sure know how to throw a good party.
Our Valentines’ parties are always the talk of the Asian Community and are the very best available. These events always attract large numbers of single Asian professionals with lots of new faces too.
This year is no exception and there will not one but TWO big parties:
Saturday 11th February 2017 – London -Kensington Close Hotel
Tuesday 14th February 2017 – Birmingham – Frederick’s’ Bar
Both events will have lots of fun activities, including optional speed dating, chocolate fountains, icebreaking and the very best hosts to look after you. So this is your best chance to get yourself a date!
To book, please visit the events page now HERE
First come first served and the prices go up nearer the time you’ll need to be fast.
Happy dating!
We’d had some great feedback recently:
Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:
” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single. We are now married just trying to find my brother in law someone :)” JS
” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Thank You” WS
“Very Happy with the service. Have met someone from this site” SH
“It worked!” SS
“Thank you your services Rita and I meet on your site 4 years ago and we got married last June
Thank you again” PR
“I met someone via your website. Thank you” DS
“I met someone. Excellent site thank you” SK
If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]
Happy dating!
James, Paul and Meera
So 2017 is here already. Where does the time go?
Like many people, chances are that you’ve made some new year resolutions. For some, this could be to lose weight, get a new job or take up a new hobby. But for many Asian Singles, you’ve probably also decided that the time has finally come to meet a new partner.
As a Dating Coach, I work with many professional Asian singles to help them find the partner of their dreams. It’s much easier than you probably think, as long as you have a plan in action.
Here are my top tips for making sure 2017 is your best year ever:
What exactly are you looking for and who do you want to meet? If you want a long term relationship then you have to be clear about exactly what you want. Write down your intentions and have a long think about who it might be with. If you don’t know then it’s a good chance to reflect and consider what and who you are aiming for. That way you’ll know when you finally get there. Be clear and be realistic for faster results.
The start of a new year is always going to bring lots of new faces to online dating sites like ours. So you have to make sure your profile is up to standard if you want to give yourself the best chances of success. Add some great photos, upgrade and proactively contact the other singles you might be interested in. Reach out and wish them happy new year or ask them if they have any exciting plans coming up.
One of the best ways to meet other single Asian professionals is to go to some Asian dating events. We run lots throughout the year and they provide great opportunities to mingle and get to know new people. They are all fun, relaxed parties with the very best hosts in the business to look after you. We’ve already booked in some events including our upcoming Valentine’s parties
Psychologists say that you shouldn’t keep your goals to yourself if you want to succeed. Let all your friends and family know that you are intending to meet someone wonderful this year. If you do that you’ll have a wide support circle and they’ll be able to help you on your journey. They can pick you up when you are feeling low and give you a little kick if you need one. Feel free to blog about your adventures and promote them on social media too. You never know who is watching.
You aren’t realistically going to meet someone immediately. Yes it would be lovely to bump into the love of your life tomorrow in the supermarket or fall head over heels for the next person you go on a date with. The reality is that dating can take time. The more effort you put in now then the better prepared you’ll be. Give yourself at least 6 months and do everything in your power to make things work.
Happy dating!
James Preece
Dating Coach for Asiansinglesolution.com
The Asiansinglesolution.com team
would like to wish you a very happy Holiday Season.
We hope you have a lovely break and enjoy the last few days of 2016.
The office will be closed over Christmas but we’ll still be providing support and answering emails.
James, Paul, Meera and the Team
www.asiansinglesolution.com
Our big Masquerade Ball took place on Saturday 26th November.
The event was a huge success and we’ve had lots of great feedback about it.
The party started with our classical duo playing romantic music while the guests entered. The icebreaker game went down well with prizes of sweets from our Candy Cart. Our Magician wowed the crowed and we had our casino gaming tables available to help everyone interact.
The highlight of the event was our masked speed dating which most people took part in. To finish the evening our resident DJ helped our guests get in the dancing mood.
Here are a few of the photos from the event.
We have put the rest up on our Facebook page but these will be taken down again shortly. So if you’d like a look you’ll need ot be quick!
Watch our of new of our first big events for 2017 coming shortly.
Meera
www.asiansinglesolution.com
We’d had some great feedback over the last few weeks
Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:
“I met my husband on your site 4years ago…we have been married almost 2 years now” RP
“Overall good site and recommended to friends” AS
“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Excellent site thank you” SP
“I am finding this a much better site than the others. People are more receptive for sure” VJ
“Really good site” AM
“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Great – thanks” SJ
“I met my husband on your site” LS
“Very Happy with the service. I’m engaged” PS
“I may have found my man….lets see…” SJ
If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]
Happy dating!
James, Paul and Meera
We are delighted to be holding our first ever Masquerade Ball.
This will take place on Saturday 26th November at the Kensington Close Hotel.
Upon arrival, you’ll be met by our hosts and given a mask to where if you don’t wish to bring your own. We’ll have a professional photographer on hand who will capture the glitz and glamour of the evening.
We’ll then enjoy free Casino tables, optional Speed Dating and more while enjoying entertainment from our special Classical Duo, before chatting and dancing the night away with a DJ at the very special Kensington Close Hotel.
This promises to be one of the most spectacular events the Asian Single Solution has ever organised, and we’d love for as many of our members, friends and supporters to join us.
Book now HERE
Today I’m bringing back my very popular Dating Advice as I’ve had a question from a member:
“Hi James, I wonder if you can answer this problem for me as it’s really confusing me. I’m getting frustrated because I only seem to get contacted by men who are nothing like I’m looking for. They are either too old, too far away or generally not suitable. How can I stop this and get the good ones to get in touch? M”
Hey M,
Thanks for your message. I completely understand what you mean. However, it’s not working simply because your strategy is wrong. These men won’t always know if you are a good match or not until you’ve spoken, so they are just taking their chances. You can’t really blame them, although they should really pay more attention and consider if you might really be compatible or not.
The thing is, it doesn’t really matter who contacts you. Instead, it’s all about you being proactive and reaching out to the men that you are interested in instead. That way you are in control and not sat around waiting for the “online dating lottery” to get your numbers up.
It’s a bit like applying for a job. If you wanted to get the position of your dreams, you’d write a great CV and make sure it went out to the right companies. You wouldn’t just see which random companies decide to contact you and hope for the best.
I’d suggest you email at least five men a day. It may sound a lot but once you start to get replies back then you can cut down. Be open minded and you never know what might happen.
Finally, it would be best to make sure you fill your online dating profile in as much as possible. Don’t be negative and talk about what you don’t want in a partner, but focus on the things that yuo really do. That way someone reading it can make a better decision about whether they really should contact you or not.
Do you have own dating dilemma or relationship issue that you’d like some help with? I’m a leading Dating Coach and I work with the Asian Single Solution to make sure their members are successful in love. Email me at [email protected] and I’ll answer some of the best ones here in this blog..anonymously of course!
Happy dating,
James Preece
The Dating Guru
Thank you to everyone who came to our big 14th Birthday Party!
Our event was a complete sell out and from all accounts lots of fun and matches were made. We pulled out all the stops for the event and had a magician, chocolate fountain, DJ and for the first time ever – casino tables.
We don’t run our events for profit but as a showcase for the website, so we usually spend all the money made on making them the best we can. So if you liked anything in particular please do add a comment and let us know. That way we know to include it next time.
Thanks again for celebrating with us and we are looking forward to planning the next exciting events. Next year will be the big 15 so we’ll be coming up with something even more special for you to enjoy.
Happy dating,
James, Paul, Meera and the team
www.asiansinglesolution.com
We’d had some great feedback over the last few weeks
Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:
” I met some nice people!” SG
“Very Happy with the service. Found someone” AN
“Good site, met someone lovely off it” RP
“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : good website” SP
“ASS worked brilliantly. We got married!!!” HM
” It was a good experience” GD
“Found a match with the site and looking to get engaged in October with a view for wedding in Easter of next year” HP
If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]
Happy dating!
James, Paul and Meera
Here is the latest question for our Dating Coach
Hindu Girl
“Hi James, I want to build up my confidence and increase the amount of women that I talk to. So I’ve been out in the shops trying to say hello to women I’m attracted to.
At the moment I either ask for directions or pay them a compliment…but I’m just not seeing enough that I really like. Are these big enough challenges or should I being trying something else? I know you are a dating coach so I hope you can help! M”
Hi M,
Thanks for the message. I’ll see how I can help.
First of all, well done for taking the first steps and actually going out into the real world approaching women. Most men are far to scared of rejection to do this, so you already have the advantage on your competition.
Your challenges are a great start but there are a few things you could do to improve.
Firstly, you shouldn’t just be approaching the hot girls but ALL women in the right age category. The more you flirt and talk to women in general then the better you’ll get and the more natural you’ll find it. If you do it right you’ll make them feel good about themselves and set them on the way to having a better day.
However shouldn’t be complimenting them on their looks/clothes all the time either. That’s just creepy. When they give you directions, tell them they are obviously well travelled or intelligent. The ladies will appreciate that much more than anything superficial.
Questions in general are better than directions as you have more chance of continuing the conversation. You want to ask something interesting that will get them to open up.
So these sort of questions can work well:
“Excuse me, I’m buying a shirt for my brother. Which of these do you like the best? ”
“What sort of vegetable goes well with chicken curry?” ( In a supermarket)
I’m not sure if I need to tell you but make sure you always dress well when you are out and about. A suit works well. You want to look like the sort of person they would love to date. Then make them smile and you’ll have much more success.
Hope that helps and good luck!
Best Wishes,
James
The Dating Guru
If you have your own dating question or dilemma, please send it over to [email protected] James will answer the best ones here in the blog.
We’d had some great feedback over the last few weeks
Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:
” I messaged someone on your site in mid Feb & after talking on the phone we met & on the 3rd meeting we really connected. We have now moved in together & will see how things go” AS
” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : I found someone on this website!” BB
“It gave me more confidence and realised how easy it is” NC
“Good site, nice idea” JS
“Thanks for your help! Got married last year.” KS
“Good website, reliable mobile site. Best site for dating Asian girls. I’ve enjoyed using the site over last 5+ years” KP
“I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single!” RJ
If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]
Happy dating!
James, Paul and Meera
My name is Claire and I am a producer at a Television Production company called Electric Ray, we are currently making a new BBC1 show called Second Chance Salon, following people who are about to experience a huge turning point in their life. For example it could be someone getting married after overcoming a health issue, a person preparing for a crucial job interview or a single dad going on a first date – anything that is of huge significance to them personally.
To tell you a bit about it – We want to help people feel confident and ready to take on a life changing moment by inviting them into our purpose-built salon. Here they will meet people going through similar experiences and receive a full, free makeover. Our aim is for each person to leave the salon feeling like the best version of themselves. We want to show how a positive transformation in someone’s outward appearance can have an incredible impact on their emotional wellbeing. As each person undergoes a physical transformation before our eyes – via conversations with the stylists – we’ll learn more about their life story and why they are in need of a helping hand. We’ll then follow each person out of the salon and into the real world as they take on their date with destiny – a heart-warming and emotional payoff at the end of the show.
This isn’t a ‘makeover show’ in the familiar sense but a documentary series in the style of First Dates and 24 Hours in A&E. The salon environment and makeover process gives us an engaging way of telling powerful human stories.
To find out a bit more, all you have to do is email [email protected] or call them
on 0207 061 8614 . They can answer any questions ahead of our starting filming in late July/early August.
Have you seen our very special event?
Asian dating
We are delighted to teaming up with Bombay Funkadelic to offer you our latest party.
Bombay Funkadelic have been running very successful Bollywood nights for several years now. Each attracts a large crowd in a fun, relaxed event.
We’ll start with our usual dating party between 7.30pm and 10pm which includes our legendary hosts, optional speed dating and icebreaking. Then from 10pm the Bollywood party with DJ Shai Guy will begin.
The best news is that if you book our dating event then you’ll be able to stay on for the after party with no extra cost. This means you’ll get the chance to meet an extra of new people later in the evening.
We’ve got a brand new venue for this one – Mary Janes. Located near the famous Tower of London and Tower Bridge, this fantastic 350 capacity venue boasts a state of the art sound system and lighting – the perfect place to party. There are lots of different zones so you can chat to each other.
Limited tickets available by booking here
We’d had some great feedback over the last few weeks
Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:
“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
I’m married now” GS
“Hi ,I’ve been wanting to contact in regards to tell you that you have another success story as me and my husband meet on your site in September 2013 and have recently got married on 14th February 2016. We wanted to share our story and good news with you.”
“Very Happy with the service
Feedback : hi – I have met the love of my life”
“It’s a great user-friendly website” RR
“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Good site” BB
“It worked. it actually worked :-)” AJ
“Customer service is good” NN
“I met someone on this site and seeing how things go.” RS
If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]
Happy dating!
James, Paul and Meera
Dating Rule Two
Love doesn’t just happen on dating sites. Cupid’s arrow can hit you any time, any place and anywhere.
You walk by thousands of people every single day and interact with new ones all the time. Perhaps it’s in the supermarket, on the train, at the gym or even at work. You see them look at you and you have the opportunity to start a conversation. It’s now or never – you have to make a great impression and you have to do make it now.
But sadly, so many people blow this chance before it’s even begun! Why? Because they just weren’t ready. They didn’t bother shaving that day or they chose to wear a baggy jumper rather than that summery dress they were thinking about. They failed before they even left the house. To make matters worse, they knew they didn’t look their best so they didn’t feel confident enough to go up and say hello anyway.
The truth is that you have to be ready for love at all times. Pick your best outfit that you feel most attractive and confident in. That way, you’ll naturally feel more attractive and confident in your own life.
Oh and please remember to smile too and give lots of eye contact. That’s the biggest indication other people will that that you are a happy, open minded person who would appreciate someone saying hello to them. If you smile then they will know you are up for a conversation and want to get to know you.
Happy dating!
James
I do hope this short article has helped you see what you need to do to make a huge difference. Watch out for the next dating rule coming next week!
If you would like to work with me as your dating coach then you can contact me through my personal website HERE
Hi there! I’ve been helping singles find love for the last decade and today I’m going to tell you all about my first Golden Rule:
This might sound obvious but I never cease to be amazed how many people forget to even consider this. If you don’t know who are you looking for then you’re never going to know when you find them.
Let’s suppose you want to get a new job. Would you apply for every single vacancy no matter what is was for and attend every interview you were offered? Of course you wouldn’t. That would just be a colossal waste of time and you’d never find a position that you were happy with.
Dating is exactly the same. Before you begin, you have to work out what is important to you. Who exactly is it that you are looking for and what do you want from them. If you want to find a husband or wife you need to be clear about your goal right from the start.
So have a good think now about what the person you’d like end up with might be like. Consider their qualities, lifestyle and personality. Is there anything especially important such as religion, smoking habits or location? If so, keep these in mind along the way.
I’m not suggesting that you should ever stop being open minded about what might happen. I’m just saying that you should always have something in mind to aim for.
After all, what you think you want and what you really need can often be completely different things. The fun comes with the adventure ahead and trying new possibilities and meeting new people
Happy dating!
I do hope this short article has helped you see what you need to do to make a huge difference. Watch out for the next dating rule coming next week!
If you would like to work with me as your dating coach then you can contact me through my personal website HERE
Messing around
This week I answer a question from a very confused female member.
“Dear James, I was dating someone from the site at the start of the year. He’s a solicitor and very handsome. Things were going well but I think I came over a bit too keen and scared him away. We’re just friends now but were still in regular contact. I really liked him and miss him a lot, so I’ve been hopeful we can resolve things and get back together. However, I recently asked him if he’d like to go for a drink and he said he’d love to. However, the problem is that he keeps cancelling and letting me down at the minute. He’s really busy and has so much going on. He does keep promising he wants to see me but now he’s been quiet for a week. Is he really interested or not? T”
Hi T,
Thanks for your message. I’m sorry things didn’t work out this time around.
One of the problems at the start of a new relationship is that you will both be at different stages. One will be more “into” the relationship than the other, although things do eventually balance out once you’ve been seeing each other for a while. If you are a bit too needy, clingy or questioning then it can be all too easy for the other person to get nervous and bail out. Rather than have a confrontation or discussion about the issue, it’s easier to just end things and move on.
Perhaps he is just busy. Things do get in the way after all. But I strongly suspect he’s just trying to let you down gently. I don’t want to sugar coat it, so I have to say that if he really really wanted to see you then he’d make time for you. How hard is it to find an hour for a drink? I think he’s fully aware that you want to get back together but it’s not something he’s ready for…at least not at the moment. So he’s fobbing you off and avoiding you rather than telling you the truth.
The very best thing you can now is to get on with your life and stop hoping he’ll get in touch. Carry on dating other men and make sure you have a full diary with lots of exciting activities. If he does contact you then great, but at least you’ll have lots of other options. I tend to find the more fun and exciting your life is then the more other people will want to be part of it.
So do get back on the site and fingers crossed you meet someone even more wonderful!
James
If you have your own dating dilemma that you’d like help with, send it over to [email protected] Our resident Dating Coach James Preece will answer the best questions here in the blog. Don’t worry, they always completely anonymous so nobody will ever know it was you!
Happy dating
James Preece
www.asiansinglesolution.com
We recently had our big Spring Singles party in London.
This event attracted a big crowd and lots of people paired up during the event.
We tried out some new activities at this one, including a games room. This provided a fun, relaxed icebreaker that allowed our singles to meet each other and chat while playing some quick board games.
Our guests also took part in optional speed dating which is always popular. To round off the evening our resident DJ Titch took to the decks to make sure everyone was in the party spirit.
Feedback from the event has been really good and we are looking forward to planning our next parties.
Please do tell your friends about us so we can continue to keep bringing you new events and opportunities.
Best Wishes,
James, Paul and Meera
www.asiansinglesolution.com
We’d had some great feedback over the last few weeks
Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:
“Very Happy with the service. Feed back : I have met someone.” PP
“I’ve finally found my soul mate on this web site. It took a while to find her, but it was worth the membership fees I paid. The people who run this web site do a good job for asian singles.” MJ
“Thanks to your site ive now met someone ;-)” DD
“Easy to use website” AN
“Thank you for the help. I met someone at Saturdays event” JS
“I really liked the venue, great choice for a saturday night, had a wedding reception feel. much better than the other venues. Had a hoot!” AM
“Much better than other Asian Dating Sites” PN
“Great way to meet other people. Easy to use.” CM
“I have met someone from the site” BY
“Awesome site helps everyone” RH
If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]
Happy dating!
James, Paul and Meera
We’d had some great feedback over the last few weeks
Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:
“I just would like to say a massive thank you!!! without this site i wouldnt have found the love of my life!!! Thank you!” AP
“Very Happy with the service Feed back : Found someone” KM
“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : She found me, we’ve got a long way to go, but I don’t need your services any more.
Thank you!” GP
“The nights were very well organised” NB
“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Excellent. thank you” JM
“Was a good experience and thank you for your help.” BK
” I attended the singles event last night at The Abbey. I have to say it was one of the best events. Katie the host was brilliant and helpful. The age group was perfect and nice to see everyone participating. James and Vik great night. Let me know when the next event is. Even though I didn’t meet anyone. It was still a great event to attend and meet new people.” JP
If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]
Happy dating!
James, Paul and Meera
Thank you to everyone that entered our “2015 Quiz of the Year”
We have lots of entries and the winners have now been selected and notified.
The star prize winner of £100 was Sharon Jatti
The correct answers were:
Here’s to 2016!
Best Wishes,
Meera
www.asiansinglesolution.com
We’d had some great feedback recently
Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:
“I have found my partner at one of your events and no longer need the service. Muchos gracias!” DB
“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Very good site!!” TG
“Good platform to meet people” KV
“I think You’re doing a fantastic job, well done!” RP
“I can say you all work really hard and offer a very good service. Wishing you all the very best.” BB
“He seems a great match, I thought I would never meet anyone online but this guy took me by storm and we are dating…………………………….
Thank you Asian Single Solution! SG
“I have met someone via this service and so far so good!” MK
“Very Happy with the service. Feedback : Found my partner” HJ
If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]
Happy dating!
James, Paul and Meera
We have some very exciting news this week.
Best niche dating site
We are delighted to be able to tell you that AsianSingleSolution.com has been voted as a finalist for Best Niche Dating Site at the UK Dating Awards.
The awards celebrate the very best of the UK Dating industry it’s a real honour to be selected for this.
There are great contenders in this category so please keep your fingers crossed! The event takes place next week at the exclusive Honourable Artillery Company in London.
Our very own James Preece is also a finalist for Dating Expert of the Year which is also fantastic news.
Wish us luck!
The Asian Single Solution Team
Big thanks to everyone who came to our Halloween Spooktacular
This took place on Saturday 31st October – Halloween itself – at the revamped Slug and Lettuce.
Over 160 guests attended with some in costume. You can see some of the best outfits in our photo so thanks to those who made an effort.
We’ve already had lots of great feedback and many people appreciated our efforts to do something special. Lots of matches were made, and many couples were dancing once we hit the wtiching hour.
We’ll be planning something event bigger and more spooktacular for next year.
Best Wishes,
The Asian Single Solution Team
Attention all boys and ghouls! Our big Halloween event is just over a week away
These parties are always one of our most fun and popular and they give us the chance to use our favourite puns!
We decorate the venue and make sure we have lots of activities to get you mingling.
This year our event actually falls on the 31st October, so it’s your chance to come along and celebrate with us. We expect lots of new faces to round up your single friends and you never know who you might meet.
As always, we have the usual activities such as optional speed dating, icebreaking and the best hosts in the business to introduce you. We’ve also got a guest appearance from our resident DJ Titch to play the spookiest dance fillers.
Fancy dress is completely optional, but we have prizes for the best costumes!
Do book now. We can guarantee it will be a Scream.
The Asian Single Solution team.
We’ve put together some golden rules that we ask all our members to follow and respect if you are using the site.
They are important because if everyone follows them then you will all have a much better experience and success rate on the site.
Please do follow these rules. If you don’t then your profile may be suspended.
Happy dating!
The Asian Single Solution Team
www.asiansinglesolution.com
We’d had some great feedback over the last month
Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:
“Very Happy with the service. I have met someone” SS
“We met on Asian single solution and have recommended it to all our friends” TP
” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single” RV
“Very Happy with the service
Feed back : Engaged” KP
“Thank-you for organizing a great event last Saturday” JM
“Staff are Friendly welcoming people. Polite and helpful” KV
“Great way of finding someone special. Holding great events..” SG
“Thanks the party was great!” SP
“The website was very good as I managed to find someone on there” MP
If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]
Happy dating!
James, Paul and Meera
We’d had some great feedback over the last few months.
Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:
” I managed to meet somebody at your event and it looks really promising!” SP
“Finally met someone amazing!” KK
“Felt very open, easy to talk to people, good venue. Good location, Plenty of room to mingle” VP
“Found a new partner” PS
“Great site. May return again in the future.” AS
“Excellent site” PL
“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : thank you” MS
“I enjoyed using the website it was very easy to use” SP
“I found someone, thank you for your help” AC
” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Thank you for your help.” HS
“I married the person I met on the site.” NK
If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]
Happy dating!
James, Paul and Meera
We read a very interesting feature this week that got us thinking.
Donald Trump Dating
Apparently, Donald Trump once had his heart set on making Princess Diana his very own trophy wife. This was not long after her divorce to Prince Charles and Trump was absolutely besotted with her.
In order to woo her, he bombarded her with flowers. Orchids, roses, the more extravagant the better. Unfortunately for him, she was massively creeped out by this rather blatant show of affection. From his point of view, he always thought he would have had a chance with her:
“I never had the opportunity to court Lady Diana Spencer. I met her on a number of occasions,” he said. “I couldn’t help but notice how she moved people. She lit up the room with her charm, her presence. She was a genuine princess—a dream lady.”
We can only speculate what their chances of a couple might be due to her very untimely death. But if they had got together they would certainly attracted huge amounts of media publicity.
As a dating expert though, I really don’t think that sending lots of flowers is a great tactic. If they aren’t interested in your then it’s not far off harassment and even if they are it can be overwhelming. After the first few deliveries the novelty wears off very quickly.
Smaller gestures are much more powerful. If you send a bunch of flowers on a birthday or special occasion then it can be very flattering. I know some people do this after a first date but that’s premature and you’ll look too keen. Even if you had a wonderful time, it’s better to hold back a little of your interest and takes things slower.
We would love to hear your thoughts on this. Would they have made an interesting power couple?
Happy dating!
Asian Single Solution
Have you booked yet?
We love trying new parties ideas out. Our members love our useful midweek and Saturday events, but it’s important to sometimes mix things up a little.
New themes attract new faces and open up your meeting possibilities.
So as bit of fun, we are running the first ever Asian Single Solution Love Boat.
We’ve hired a moving party boat which will cruise along the Thames, giving you spectacular views of London. We’ll be playing popular tunes in the downstairs bar, with a quieter upstairs bar for those who prefer a bit more peace and quiet.
As always, we’ll have our amazing hosts on hand to help you mingle and meet everyone. Oh and we are including a cocktail reception to make the night even more memorable.
We arrive back by 10.30pm so you will have plenty of time to get home.
The party will now take place on Tuesday 1st September and departs from Westminster Pier. Please check out the website and book now.
Lots of tickets have already gone and we won’t be able to add extra ones so don’t miss out!
James, Paul and Meera
www.asiansinglesolution.com
We love hearing your positive feedback about the site and the events
Asian Dating
Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:
“I have been part of Asian Singles Solution for the past 3 months and have been fortunate to find a match from the site” AP
“Very Happy with the service” VP
“Great site” FD
“I met my fiance on your site and no longer need to be a member.” JC
“I think the site works well and did allow me to meet similar people.” PP
“It is a nice way of meeting people” JN
“Found someone” AS
“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single” VP
“great site!” TP
“I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single” US
“Met someone, he’s great :)” BS
If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]
Happy dating!
James, Paul and Meera
We love hearing your positive feedback about the site and the events
Asian Dating
Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:
“I have been part of Asian Singles Solution for the past 3 months and have been fortunate to find a match from the site” AP
“Very Happy with the service” VP
“Great site” FD
“I met my fiance on your site and no longer need to be a member.” JC
“I think the site works well and did allow me to meet similar people.” PP
“It is a nice way of meeting people” JN
“Found someone” AS
“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single” VP
“great site!” TP
If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]
Happy dating!
James, Paul and Meera
When you go to the gym you have your favourite tracks on your Ipod.
Asian Music
These are the songs that get your heart racing, your blood pumping and make you work just that little bit harder. For many, this is “Eye of the Tiger” or “The Final Countdown” – show stoppers in their own right.
However, when it comes to dating it turns out that lots of people have a favourite tune which they like to play before they head out the door for a date. They tell us that is can make them feel much more upbeat and powerful, which puts them in a positive state of mind. If they are feeling better and happier about themselves then it’s only natural they will have a more successful dating experience.
We’ve heard that Beyonce’s “Single Ladies” is a popular one before many women head out to a singles night. For men, it’s “Power of Love”…the Huey Lewis and the News version. Personally, we are big fans of Queen’s “Don’t Stop Me Now” to really amp up our moods!
Songs that have the same beats per minute as your heartbeat ( 120 -140 BPM) are your best choices if you want to maximise the effect. Scientists have shown that this the pace most likely to make your feel positive and energised, so who are we to argue?
So if you want to have better dates, why not download some of your favourites songs and try playing them before you head out the door? It might make a real difference and you won’t know until you try it. Must make sure you don’t choose a song that has a bad memory association, or you could be doing more damage than good.
If you have a favourite, please mention it as a comment at the end of this blog. We’d love to hear what everyone else plays!
Happy dating
Single Solution
www.singlesolution.com
There’s no such thing as a bad date as at the very least you’ll have a good story to tell.
Funny Dating Stories
As a Dating Coach I think it’s very import that singles remember this. Not every date is going to go perfectly, but you should learn a little from each one. You are very fortunate that you are able to go and meet new people and try new activities and experiences. The secret is to make sure you go into each one with a positive, open minded attitude.
Things won’t always go the way you expect them to but quite often that’s when the most long lasting connections are made. Nobody is perfect and if you are able to laugh at yourself you’ll be a much better catch!
I stopped going on dates a long time ago, but my job is making sure singles have successful ones. I did a lot of dating when I was single and I use anecdotes to teach people how to have better dates. So I’ve put together a short story collection based on real dates that I had back in my single days. I’ve done this for your amusement and to show you even experts have odd experiences. In the end I met the “one” which just goes to show you have to keep at it.
You can download it HERE
I’m sure you’ll all have your own bizarre, strange or hilarious story then you love to tell people.
If you do have one, then please email it over to [email protected]
We’ll include the funniest ones (anonymously of course) here in the blog. As an extra incentive we’ll be offering a lovely prize to the very best ones too
So please, don’t keep them to yourself. We’d love to hear them and I know our readers and members would too.
Happy dating!
James Preece
The Dating Guru
www.asiansinglesolution.com
This week we bring you another dating dilemma solved by our resident dating expert.
“Dear James. Please can you help? I met a girl on the site and I thought things were going really well. In fact, we recently moved in together. I was looking forward to the future but she just told me she wants a relationship break. I’m stunned and have had to move out to give her space. What can I do to win her back? AJ”
Hi AJ,
Many thanks for your message. I’m sorry to hear things haven’t gone quite to plan. You didn’t tell me the exact reasons why you were unhappy, but this is something you’ll need to discuss with her.
The most common reasons this happens is if you are spending TOO MUCH time together. If you do, every little thing will get on your nerves and you’ll start to irritate each other. Little things like not doing the washing up or leaving clothes on the floor can start arguments. Or there could of course be some other bigger issue that needs dealing with.
Relationship breaks CAN work as they give you the chance to see what life would be like without each other. If you were close then she’ll soon realise things are much better if you are around.
What you need to do is give her the space she wants, but make it clear you love her and are not giving up. Set a time to meet up and discuss things soon. If she needs a little longer that’s fine but you don’t want to have to wait forever. Tell her this and ensure you both stick to the same timetable.
Above all, listen to what she says and see if you can salvage things. If not, you may both be happier on your own.
If you agree to get back together – and I hope you do – then you must make sure you communicate as much as possible. It’s only by making each other feel happy and special that you grow your relationship. This means plenty of time doing things outside your normal routine as well as giving each other space to see friends and family.
Hope that helps,
James
If you have your own dating problem or issue, drop us email to info@asiansinglesolution with the subject line ” Dating Help.” We’ll get our dating expert to answer the best ones here in the blog.
Happy dating!
James Preece
www.asiansinglesolution.com
Here is our latest online
profile review for you
Here’s a look at his current profile.
Nickname:
LuckyStar would be a wonderful nickname, but LuckStar doesn’t mean anything. Unless there’s a reason for it I’d suggest you change it. After all, people call you Lucky not Luck!
Photos:
You have a nice photo as your main image. I think women will respond well as you look friendly, smart and approachable. You look fun and presentable in your album shots too so all good choices.
Interesting Fact:
Your Fact is OK but the “you’ll have to find out” comment isn’t enough. When people write it’s usually because they can’t think of anything more imaginative.
There’s nothing particularly wrong with you profile text, but there’s still room for improvement. You’ve written a list of things about yourself but it’s better to demonstrate exactly what you mean.
For example – you say you are spontaneous so give an example about at time you were spontaneous. You could say, I am often spontaneous and once jumped on the first plane that was leaving the airport. When you do this it’s much more interesting than reading a long list.
You’ve put the line in about winking for interest, but you’d get a much better success rate if you just emailed them in the first place. Winking can perhaps give the impression you can’t be bothered to write a proper message. It’s the people who take the time to send a short personalised message that get the results.
Again, this is fine but it’s very generic. Who doesn’t want to meet someone with a similar outlook and enjoys life? Can you try and paint a picture that would make someone think “Yes that’s me he’s looking for” ?
I hope this helps,
James
If you would like to have your profile reviewed and featured, then please email your request to [email protected] We’ll pick the best one each month and get our leading Dating Expert James Preece to offer you his advice on how to make it better in this blog.
Good luck!
James Preece – Dating Coach
Are you fed up being single? It’s a new year so there are new opportunities.
As we head into the the new year it’s time once again to start making our resolutions.
For some this is to lose weight, stop smoking or to finally meet a partner. If this is you then you have definitely
come to right place!
Here are our top five tips for you to give your love life a kickstart.
1) Book an Asian Dating Event. This is your biggest opportunity to get yourself out there and start meeting potential matches in the real world. We’ve already got several listed for you to book on the website. This includes the biggest of them all – the Asian Valentine’s Ball.
2) Try Online Dating. The start of the year is the busiest time for most dating sites and ours is no exception. There will be more new faces than at any other time of year and they are just waiting for your to reach out and say hello.
3) Remember it’s not just you. Most singles can feel a bit lonely at the start of a new year, but that’s absolutely normal. There are millions making exactly the same resolution as you.
4) Take Responsibility. It’s your choice whether you are single or not. Don’t blame anyone or anything else. Yes, that includes the weather, your income and how incredibly busy you are.
5) Take action! The only way to achieve what you want is to make sure you do something about it. Make sure you have a clear defined plan about what you want and how you are going to do it. If you don’t you’ll find yourself in the same situation at the beginning of next year too.
If you need any help or advice then please remember we are always here. Drop us a message at [email protected] and we’ll be happy to do what you can.
Happy dating and good luck!
James Preece
www.asiansinglesolution.com
We were delighted to hear about another Success Story this week
and that two more of our members are now engaged
Sanjay and Renuka met earlier this year and are getting married in 2015. If you’d like to read the wonderful story of how they found each other then please do read the SUCCESS STORY page which you can find at the top of the screen one logged in.
We’d like to say congratulations to them both.
If you have your own success story then PLEASE do share with us. It helps let everyone know our site is a powerful tool for helping couples meet. We’ll even send you an Amazon voucher if you include a photo too. Email us at [email protected]
Happy dating!
The Asian Single Solution team.
Thank you to all our lovely guests who attended our 12th Birthday Ball
Last Saturday we held our big Birthday Ball at the Kensington Close Hotel. We completely sold out with over 300 tickets sold and we are delighted to say that the event ran very smoothly.
Here are a few photos from the night. We’ll put lots more up on on Facebook page soon so do tag yourselves please.
We’ve had some great feedback about the event too:
“Photo booth and fountain were good ice breakers. Thanks for great evening!”
“Just wanted to say thank you for organising yesterday, I think you did a great job and I haad a lot of fun, and so did many other people”
Due to the popularity of this party we will look to hold a similar one early next year. When you see it announced, we strongly advise you to book early as tickets went in record time for this one!
Thank you for all your support over the last year 12 years. He hope to make the next 12 event bigger and better.
James, Paul, Meera and the Asian Single Solution Team
We’re delighted to announce our very special “12th Birthday Asian Singles Ball”
This will take place on Saturday 20th September at the Kensington Close Hotel in London.
We are doing our best to ensure this will be the biggest, best party we’ve ever had so we are pulling out all the stops. We’ve got lots of entertainment for this party including Celebrity Magician Ravi Mayar, Chocolate Fountain, interactive Photo Booth, amazing Covers band and more.
This is as well as the usual optional speed dating and great hosts to introduce you.
If you’ve already got your ticket then we look forward to celebrating with you then. If not, do be quick as over half the tickets went over the last few days!
About Photo Booth
With our stylish sleek photo booth our guests can take amazing pictures of themselves to remember the occasion, with a large box of party props for that extra fun. The booth uses professional DSLR camera’s with professional studio lighting to ensure you get high quality photos everytime. With a LCD touch screen for ease of use.
About Electric Superfruit Band
Professional musicianship and high-class vocals guarantee a fantastic show from Electric Superfruit. With years of experience playing to crowds of all ages, they keep everyone dancing – and singing – all night!
Here is our latest dating problem answered
by our Dating Expert
"Dear James, I really like a girl in my local supermarket. She's studying at university but works there part time. I often catch her looking at me and her friends keep telling me she likes me. How can I ask her out without making a fool of myself? M"
Hi M,
Thank you for your message!
The good news is that I think she definitely likes you. All the signs are
there, so there's absolutely no harm in trying.
I'm wondering why you queue in a different one that she is in though? Your
first test should be to make sure you queue in her one next time, even if it is
clearly the longest one. That way you'll be able to really read her reactions.
Don't forget that a lot of people will make small talk with her - that's just
part of her job. So you need to do something a bit more. Perhaps joke that
hers is always the slowest queue or tell her you want to cook something but
aren't sure what. Could she give you a recipe? Do this a few times over a
period of a few days/weeks to build up the trust. If you go in to quickly she
might be too nervous. Be friendly, smiling and interesting.
Your job is to make her smile, make her want to see you and brighten her day
just by the very fact you've spoken.
Obviously you won't be able to have a long conversation with her as people will
be waiting. So....you could tell her that really enjoy talking to her and wish
it could be longer. You'd love to get to know her better. What steps could you
take to make that happen?
Hopefully she will offer her phone number at this point. If not, just ask her
for it and tell her you promise not to send her photos of barcodes all day long!
Don't give her your number as you lose control - so make sure you get hers. You
can then text her later that day/evening to ask when she finishes her shift and
suggest you grab a coffee.
I really hope it works out for you, so let me know what happens. If it doesn't
go well, don't worry as at least you tried!
Best Wishes,
James
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