Dating Guru Mailbag: How to ask how someone I like

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"Dear James,  I really like a girl in my local supermarket. She's studying at university but works there part time. I often catch her looking at me and her friends keep telling me she likes me. How can I ask her out without making a fool of myself? M"

Hi M,
Thank you for your message!

The good news is that I think she definitely likes you.  All the signs are 
there, so there's absolutely no harm in trying. 

I'm wondering why you queue in a different one that she is in though?   Your 
first test should be to make sure you queue in her one next time, even if it is 
clearly the longest one.  That way you'll be able to really read her reactions. 

Don't forget that a lot of people will make small talk with her - that's just 
part of her job.  So you need to do something a bit more.  Perhaps joke that 
hers is always the slowest queue or tell her you want to cook something but 
aren't sure what.  Could she give you a recipe?  Do this a few times over a 
period of a few days/weeks to build up the trust.  If you go in to quickly she 
might be too nervous.  Be friendly, smiling and interesting.

Your job is to make her smile, make her want to see you and brighten her day 
just by the very fact you've spoken. 

Obviously you won't be able to have a long conversation with her as people will 
be waiting. So....you could tell her that really enjoy talking to her and wish 
it could be longer. You'd love to get to know her better.  What steps could you 
take to make that happen? 

Hopefully she will offer her phone number at this point.  If not, just ask her 
for it and tell her you promise not to send her photos of barcodes all day long!

Don't give her your number as you lose control - so make sure you get hers. You 
can then text her later that day/evening to ask when she finishes her shift and 
suggest you grab a coffee. 

I really hope it works out for you, so let me know what happens.  If it doesn't 
go well, don't worry as at least you tried!

Best Wishes, 

James

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