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The worst things to write on your Asian Dating Profile

Wednesday, May 30th, 2018

As a Dating Coach, it concerns me every time I see someone writing a negative online dating profile.

 

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It’s a terrible thing to do but still surprisingly common, despite our best efforts to teach people they shouldn’t be doing it!

So what exactly is a “negative” profile and what’s so bad about it?

A negative dating profile is one that talks about all the things you don’t want.  Typical comments might be things like:

“I can’t believe I’m doing this”

“No timewasters please”

“Only contact me if you have a photo”

“Don’t bother to contact me if you aren’t serious”

“I don’t know what to write here”

“If you aren’t in the UK don’t bother”

Believe it or not, these type of statements appear in an awful lot of profiles.  The problem is that they make you sound really miserable, jaded and unlikely to be fun on a date. Nobody likes a negative nancy so you should avoid these at all costs.  If people think you are like that then they won’t be drawn to you and won’t want to spend time with you.

It’s much better to focus on positive things and talk about the lovely things you have to offer.  It’s not just about what you are looking for, but what the other person wants too. It’s a two way street and you have to remember that.  Otherwise it can come across as demanding or downright rude.  I’m sure you don’t want anyone to think that of you!

Try and write things like this instead:

“I’m excited to see what might happen on this site”

“I’d love you to contact me if you like what you’ve read”

“If you are also looking for a serious relationship then it would be great to hear from you”

“Helping others and Keeping Fit are two of the things that make me happy”

If you’ve written anything negative in your profile then I strongly suggest you take this out and write something more lighthearted and friendly instead.  You’ll have a much better success rate and many more replies to your messages.

Happy Dating!

James Preece

Dating Coach for Asian Single Solution.

The Meaning Behind Christmas Mistletoe

Tuesday, December 5th, 2017

Christmas comes with many different traditions, each celebrated around the world. While many nationalities carry their own tradition, there are several that have become universal. The first instance of these traditions is all folklore, often relating to the British immigration to North America and the Pagan festivities of the season. While we may not know exactly where each of these traditions came from, we know they are synonymous with the Christmas season. Let’s take a look at some of the most common traditions:

The Tradition Of Mistletoe

The history of the mistletoe actually comes from the Druid people. This plant, although known in the wild as a weed, is said to bring good luck to couples who kiss underneath the bushel. As the tradition goes, each couple takes a berry from the leaves. Once there are no berries left, there is no need to kiss underneath the leaves. As long as there are still berries, there are still wishes for good luck in the future. In current tradition, mistletoe is made of plastic so there aren’t any berries to pick. It’s more of a fun thing for couples to do than actually following the traditions. If you’d like to follow the tradition this year, try and pick yourself a real mistletoe and use it in the doorway of your home.

The First Gingerbread Man

It is said the first Gingerbread Man was created by Queen Elizabeth (the first). The spice trade had started booming in the UK and these spices came over from the Middle East. In an attempt to impress visitors, the Queen baked cookies that were shaped in the likeness of her guests. This sparked the interest of the people and eventually became a tradition for the holiday season. Gingerbread houses are a whole other mystery, with no real description of where they came from, say the fairytale of Hansel and Gretel. Either way, the smell of gingerbread cookies is synonymous with Christmas cheer.

Gift Giving

For those who have read through the Christian Bible, presents were given to the baby Jesus by three wise men. This is the first notable instance of gift giving on record. For those unfamiliar with the story, this happened on what we now call Christmas Eve. These gifts were presented, each representing something different to the future of the blessed baby Jesus. Today, we practice this tradition by purchasing gifts for the people in our lives and placing them under the tree. This action comes from the Pagan rituals of blessing for the upcoming years.

The Christmas Tree

The tradition of a Christmas tree has a rich history. There are many different associations with the first Christmas tree. Most notably is the Riga tree, which may have been the first instance of celebrating around a tree. It is a common practice in Pagan festivals during the winter months and has been for many years. Today, Christmas trees are put up inside of homes and decorated to show off to guests and visiting family members. This is often more of a bonding tradition than actually praising or celebrating the season.

How to Make Your Profile Pop

Tuesday, October 10th, 2017

Online dating is all about the way you present yourself. Since you’re not initially meeting face-to-face, your profile is going to be the first impression anyone has of you. You want to make a good impression. This will have other members of the website contacting you and wanting to know more. You’ll have more dating opportunities with a well-rounded profile. It can be hard to come up with a unique profile that truly stands out from all your competition. The good news is that we’ll show you where to start!

Your username and profile picture are the two most important aspects of your dating profile. These are the first things someone will see when you show up in a search or while they are browsing. Your username should be something clever and inventive. Hotguy2015 isn’t going to stand out. Puns are a good way to make usernames stand out. If there’s a clever way you can use your name to create a word, try that! You’d be surprised how many people are more interested in clicking a clever username. Now your profile picture should flattering, but not misleading. You don’t want to use any photo magic in a profile picture. You can choose flattering angles (most people do) and wear the clothes you look best in. You can pose or take a more candid style photo to show off your personality. You can use flattering images as supporting pictures, but try to look as natural as possible in your profile picture.

The next thing someone is going to look at is your tagline. “I’m looking for Mr/Mrs. Right” is not an informative tagline. You’re pretty limited on what you can say in a tagline so be creative! Find the shortest way to get the most information across. For instance: “My Mr/Mrs. Right loves beagle puppies and watching hockey on Saturday nights.” In this tagline, you’re talking more about who you’re looking for. You’ll appeal to anyone who loves beagle puppies or hockey. Obviously, this is an outline. You’ll want to use things that personally apply to you and your interests. The tagline is a great way to quickly summarise who you are and what you’re looking for.

Your profile information is where you’ll get to dive into details. Now to really make your profile pop, you’ll want to include summarized information. No one enjoys reading large paragraphs of text. Even if they are interested in you, they aren’t looking to read a book. Using point-form is the easiest way to describe yourself in more detail. It’s also useful for describing your ideal mate. Many dating profiles are very basic. They talk about generic interests, like music or movies or sports. They don’t talk about personality. You want to stand out, so you want to describe who you are, not just what you’re into.

The most important thing to remember about building any dating profile is to be yourself. You can accentuate your good qualities and leave out some of the bad, but don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. If you’re looking for a real connection, you have to be a real person.

Recent Feedback and Success Stories

Monday, September 11th, 2017

 

We love getting feedback and get success stories virtually every day

 

 

Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

“I met someone on my first few days on the website- he was on of the first profiles i viewed and liked. I am now still with him 5 months down the line and very happy. Great website.” KB

” I found someone isn a similar position to me and I am very grateful for this site!” GM

“I met someone and was happy with the website!” IR

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single” JM

“Very Happy with the service. Met someone” NB

“I found the love of my life here on ASS and we are now married and in the process of applying for her spousal visa.” MG

If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

 

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

Recent Success Stories and Feedback

Thursday, May 25th, 2017

We’d had some great feedback recently:

 

“Met someone through the site and things are going well!” AP

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : It’s perfect” AK

“I met my now Fiance on your site, we are getting married on 27th August this year (thank you for introducing us!)” PP

“I have found the one.” RF

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single!” KS

“I have found someone through this website!” AP
“I met someone at one of your events” DM

“Very Happy with the service. Found some one already” BP

Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

 

 

If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

 

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

Messages that Work

Monday, May 8th, 2017

When you are trying to contact people on an online dating site, it can be hard to know what to say to get their interest.

Here are our top three tips to boost your chances:

1) Don’t Copy and Paste

If you don’t get a huge amount of replies it can be tempting to stop putting the effort in. It might seem easier to just copy and paste the same message over and over.  After all, someone is bound to reply right?  The problem with this is that these types of messages are very easy to spot….and they annoy people.  So you are very unlikely to get a response and you’ll get even less than before. It’s a Catch 22 situation.  A little effort can go a long way.

2) Personalise the Message

If you want to get someone to write back, you have to make things personal.  Use their name (or username) and it will boost your chances of making a connection.  Tell them what you liked about their profile and why you’d be a good match. Use a little humour and ask a fun question. For example, if they say they like baking cakes then ask what cake they would make you.  It shows you are paying attention and aren’t afraid to laugh at life.

3) Mix things up

Quite often it’s not your messages that are wrong. Take a good look at your profile instead. Perhaps your photos aren’t appealing enough or your profile isn’t interesting.  Try to stand out from the competition and avoid generic statements.  Sell yourself and make the most of the opportunity to attract potential partners.  The more unique you are then the more views you’ll get.

Why not give these ideas a go and see if it makes a difference?

Happy Dating!

James

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Success Story Engagement Film

Tuesday, August 9th, 2016
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Amz and Jaz  met on Asian Single Solution.
Please have a look at their engagement film.
If you have your own success story and would like it filmed do let us know!

New Feedback

Tuesday, March 15th, 2016

We’d had some great feedback over the last few weeks

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Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

“Very Happy with the service. Feed back : I have met someone.” PP
“I’ve finally found my soul mate on this web site. It took a while to find her, but it was worth the membership fees I paid. The people who run this web site do a good job for asian singles.” MJ
“Thanks to your site ive now met someone ;-)” DD
“Easy to use website” AN
“Thank you for the help. I met someone at Saturdays event” JS
“I really liked the venue, great choice for a saturday night, had a wedding reception feel. much better than the other venues. Had a hoot!” AM
“Much better than other Asian Dating Sites” PN
“Great way to meet other people. Easy to use.” CM
“I have met someone from the site” BY
“Awesome site helps everyone” RH

If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

 

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

Cupid’s Arrow Hit our Valentine’s Party

Wednesday, February 17th, 2016

Our Asian Hindu and Sikh Valentines party took place last Saturday and was a massive success.

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With over 300 guests, it was a complete sell out and countless matches were made.

Our resident dancers, Bollywood Vibes went down a storm late in the evening too, while our DJ Titch got the crowd on their feet.

We’ve already had some great feedback about the event, some verbally and some by email:

“I really liked the venue, great choice for a Saturday night, had a wedding reception feel. much better than the other venues. Had a hoot!”

If you missed out, don’t worry as we are planning some other huge events this year.

 

Happy dating!

James

Recent Feedback

Monday, December 7th, 2015

We’d had some great feedback recently

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Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

“I have found my partner at one of your events and no longer need the service. Muchos gracias!” DB

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Very good site!!” TG

“Good platform to meet people” KV

“I think You’re doing a fantastic job, well done!” RP

“I can say you all work really hard and offer a very good service. Wishing you all the very best.” BB

“He seems a great match, I thought I would never meet anyone online but this guy took me by storm and we are dating…………………………….

Thank you Asian Single Solution! SG

“I have met someone via this service and so far so good!” MK

“Very Happy with the service. Feedback : Found my partner” HJ

 

If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

 

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

August Feedback and Success Stories

Monday, September 21st, 2015

We’d had some great feedback over the last few months.

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Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

” I managed to meet somebody at your event and it looks really promising!” SP

“Finally met someone amazing!” KK

“Felt very open, easy to talk to people, good venue. Good location, Plenty of room to mingle” VP

“Found a new partner” PS

“Great site. May return again in the future.” AS

“Excellent site” PL

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : thank you” MS

“I enjoyed using the website it was very easy to use” SP

“I found someone, thank you for your help” AC

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Thank you for your help.” HS

“I married the person I met on the site.” NK

 

If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

 

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

What is your favourite pre-date song?

Tuesday, June 16th, 2015

When you go to the gym you have your favourite tracks on your Ipod.

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These are the songs that get your heart racing, your blood pumping and make you work just that little bit harder.  For many, this is “Eye of the Tiger” or “The Final Countdown” – show stoppers in their own right.

However, when it comes to dating it turns out that lots of people have a favourite tune which they like to play before they head out the door for a date.  They tell us that is can make them feel much more upbeat and powerful, which puts them in a positive state of mind.  If they are feeling better and happier about themselves then it’s only natural they will have a more successful dating experience.

We’ve heard that Beyonce’s “Single Ladies” is a popular one before many women head out to a singles night.  For men, it’s  “Power of Love”…the Huey Lewis and the News version. Personally, we are big fans of Queen’s “Don’t Stop Me Now” to really amp up our moods!

Songs that have the same beats per minute as your heartbeat  ( 120 -140 BPM) are your best choices if you want to maximise the effect.  Scientists have shown that this the pace most likely to make your feel positive and energised, so who are we to argue?

So if you want to have better dates, why not download some of your favourites songs and try playing them before you head out the door?   It might make a real difference and you won’t know until you try it.  Must make sure you don’t choose a song that has a bad memory association, or you could be doing more damage than good.

If you have a favourite, please mention it as a comment at the end of this blog.  We’d love to hear what everyone else plays!
Happy dating

Single Solution

www.singlesolution.com

New Feedback and Success for our Asian Dating Site

Tuesday, May 26th, 2015

We love hearing your positive feedback about the site and the events

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Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

“Good site & very heplful & encouraging staff, thanks” VP

“I have met someone and hoping this person is the one so thank you for your help !” KR

“Good site keep up the good work” VS

“Very good website and service offered.” JC

“Enjoyed my time on this website. I am grateful for this website and will recommend to other single friends” CB

“The dating site was a good experience.” KG

“It was a good starting point for my search” AB

“Currently seeing someone I met on Asian Single Solution” MR

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Good site” TD

“I have met someone!” AS

“Good site with a range of people to view.” RP

“Very Happy with the service
Feed back : I have met somebody and not longer need to use the website!” SR

 

If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

 

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

Asian Dating: How to make sure you find love in 2015

Monday, January 12th, 2015

Are you fed up being single?  It’s a new year so there are new opportunities.

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As we head into the the new year it’s time once again to start making our resolutions.

For some this is to lose weight, stop smoking or to finally meet a partner.  If this is you then you have definitely

come to right place!

Here are our top five tips for you to give your love life a kickstart.

 

1) Book an Asian Dating Event.   This is your biggest opportunity to get yourself out there and start meeting potential matches in the real world. We’ve already got several listed for you to book on the website. This includes the biggest of them all – the Asian Valentine’s Ball.

2) Try Online Dating.   The start of the year is the busiest time for most dating sites and ours is no exception.  There will be more new faces than at any other time of year and they are just waiting for your to reach out and say hello.

3) Remember it’s not just you.  Most singles can feel a bit lonely at the start of a new year, but that’s absolutely normal. There are millions making exactly the same resolution as you.

4) Take Responsibility.  It’s your choice whether you are single or not.  Don’t blame anyone or anything else.  Yes, that includes the weather, your income and how incredibly busy you are.

5) Take action!   The only way to achieve what you want is to make sure you do something about it.  Make sure you have a clear defined plan about what you want and how you are going to do it. If you don’t you’ll find yourself in the same situation at the beginning of next year too.

If you need any help or advice then please remember we are always here.  Drop us a message at [email protected]  and we’ll be happy to do what you can.

Happy dating and good luck!

James Preece

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Birthday Ball was huge success

Tuesday, September 30th, 2014

Thank you to all our lovely guests who attended our 12th Birthday Ball
Last Saturday we held our big Birthday Ball at the Kensington Close Hotel.  We completely sold out with over 300 tickets sold and we are delighted to say that the event ran very smoothly.

Here are a few photos from the night.  We’ll put lots more up on on Facebook page soon so do tag yourselves please.

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We’ve had some great feedback about the event too:

“Photo booth and fountain were good ice breakers. Thanks for great evening!”

“Just wanted to say thank you for organising yesterday, I think you did a great job and  I haad a lot of fun, and so did many other people”

Due to the popularity of this party we will look to hold a similar one early next year.  When you see it announced, we strongly advise you to book early as tickets went in record time for this one!

 

Thank you for all your support over the last year 12 years.  He hope to make the next 12 event bigger and better.

James, Paul, Meera and the Asian Single Solution Team

Dating Guru’s Mailbag: Shall I tell him I love him?

Monday, June 30th, 2014

Here is the latest question answered by our Dating Guru

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“Dear James, I’ve been with my boyfriend for six months now and we are so happy together.  We met on your dating site and he’s everything I’m looking for. I think he wants us to start looking for a place together soon.  However, neither of us has told the other than we love them.  I love him so much but I don’t want to embarrass myself if he doesn’t feel the same!  What should I do?   S.T”

Hi S.T

Many thanks for your message.  It’s fantastic news that you’ve met someone through us and that you are happy together.  I’d say that the fact he’s talking about moving in together is a very positive sign that he sees a future with you.

I know that you don’t want to say you love him in case he gets scared or pretends he’s not heard you.  The problem is that he more than likely feels exactly the same.  The longer you leave it then the worse it will get.

Slip it into conversation when you are saying goodbye to him, as it’s the most natural thing in the world.  “Love you” sounds much softer than “I Love you” so try and say that instead if you think it might shock him.

If you really want to be as gentle as possible, just write it at the end of a text message.  Something simple like “I had such a wonderful evening with you.  I love you :) xxx”           With any luck he’ll text something similar back.   If he doesn’t, don’t panic as he might want to say it face to face.

Whatever you do, don’t ask him if he loves you and force him into saying something he isn’t ready to say yet.   He’ll end up resenting you and you’ll take away his chance to impress/surprise you.

I’d advise you not to move in together until you are sure you both love each other. Otherwise you may have a very bumpy ride together!

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

 

Announcing a new type of Singles Event

Monday, June 16th, 2014

Here’s something new for you!

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We know how much you love our Asian Singles Parties and Speed Dating Events. The parties are going from strength to strength, but as we get bigger and better we want to try new things.

We’ve had requests for us to try out new ice breaking activities that will get people mingling. We’ve also been asked to run some smaller, pure Hindu or Pure Sikh events.

So we put our heads together to create a new concept of event that will make sure you get more targeted dating opportunities as well as have a fantastic night.  These new events don’t have any speed dating or pressure.

We did run Casino “learn to play” nights a few years ago which were extremely popular. These new parties are will be even better because:

1) Private use of the VIP room – so much more exclusive

2) Fun (free) gaming tables with professionals to teach you how to play Blackjack, Roulette and more.

3) Select crowd of either Hindu or Sikh singles.

4) Central London location so easy to get to.

5) Unique opportunity to try something new and a little different!

 

The casino elements are completely optional so if you don’t fancy it, don’t worry. You are still free to mingle and talk to any of the other singles that you wish.

If you would like to book then please sign up now as spaces are strictly limited and we expect them to sell out very quickly.  Check out the events section on our site to get your ticket now.

Happy dating!

The Asian Single Solution team

Asian Dating: Why won’t they meet you?

Thursday, May 29th, 2014

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Another Asian Success story! Vikas & Manprit

Monday, May 5th, 2014

It never rains but it pours :)

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We have had yet another lovely email from yet another happy couple who met through our site

You can read it here on our Success Story Page:

https://www.asiansinglesolution.com/static/success_stories.html

We’d like to say congratulations to Vikas & Manprit and thank them very much for sharing their good news.
Could you be next? If you have a story to tell please let us know!

James and Paul

www.asiansinglesolution.com

March Feedback and Successes

Monday, April 7th, 2014

March was another great month for our Asian dating site

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Here is just a small selection of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

“I felt the website was a valuable way to meet like minded people. I will be recommending this site to my friends and colleagues.” DS

“Very easy site to use, and genuine people are available to talk to” AV

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single. Feed back : Excellent” MP

“A nice way of getting to know other singles out there” US

“Thank you for helping me meet someone, very early days…..watch this space!!” SK

“The best site I’ve been on.” EH

“Excellent thank you. I have met someone now.” AK

“Best dating site ever” SM

“Generally a good site and works well” SB

“Good professional service, happy with it.” KC

” I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single
Feed back : This site has been a great help! Great site!” MR

“Flexible, easy to use, great interface” JK

“Good service, easy to use site. Would recommend to others” NP

“Site was good, easy to search for people such as if the are veg, drinkers etc. easy to search for the type of person you are looking for.” AK

If you have your own feedback or succes that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

 

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

Leeds and Manchester Asian – After Party

Monday, February 17th, 2014

 

Last week we ran our first ever Valentine’s Leeds and Manchester Asian events

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Many thanks to everyone who braved the awful weather and managed to attend the events.  We had a great turn out for both parties and lots of matches were made. We hope you all have fun and that you have some amazing dates!   The feedback has been good for the parties and we may run more events in these areas later in the year.

If you have any suggestions on ways we can market these to local members please do let us know.  The more people we can find that are interested then the more chance we’ll run events again.

Do take a moment to check out our London and Birmingham upcoming Asian parties.  Although the Valentine’s period is over,  cupid never stops working his magic all year round.  You just have to be ready to give him a little nudge!

 

Happy dating

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Leeds Asian Hindu and Sikh Valentine Party is this week

Tuesday, February 11th, 2014

We are very excited here at Asiansinglesolution.com  HQ

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Tomorrow we have our big Leeds Asian Valentine’s Party.  Our best hosts are currently packing their bags and getting ready for a fantastic event.  It’s the perfect chance for you to find a date in time for the big day this Friday.

Our party will take place at Tiger Tiger in Leeds and we’ve got lots of lovely guests booked in already.  If you’d like to meet them for a wonderful night of mingling, ice breaking and fun conversation then don’t forget to book your place now.  We’ve got a bar to ourselves.

Tickets are absolutely 100% free and we’re even throwing in free drinks for the first to arrive.  Don’t wait until Friday and wish you’d come – book now and you may just have the best Valentine’s day ever!

What are you waiting for?  Book right now

CLICK HERE

Meera

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Asian Hindu and Sikh Manchester Singles Party

Wednesday, January 29th, 2014

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If you are an Asian Singles professional in the Manchester area, then you don’t want to miss our upcoming Valentine’s party

This party will take place at Label Bar on Thursday 13th February.  We’re travelling up with our best hosts to introduce you to all  the other singles and it’s your perfect opportunity to get a date in time for Valentines.

We’ll have a bar packed full of Hindu and Sikh singles with optional ice breaking activities to get you mingling.

Completely free tickets and a free welcome drink if you arrive on time.

This is a one of a kind, once only party so if you don’t book now there will be no second chance!

Do  book up now.  What do you have to lose?

Book HERE

Meera

www.asiansinglesolution.com