There is nothing more draining than dates after dates that never seem to go anywhere. Sure, it’s fun to get out of the house and away from work. But it feels tedious when nothing long-term ever comes from it. This is called a dating rut. It means that you’re stuck in emotional quicksand and can’t seem to pull yourself back out. We’ve all been there at least once. Below is a list of tips to help you get out of the dating rut and back into the dating pool.

Take a break from dating

One of the best things you can do to get out of a dating rut is take a break from dating altogether. Go out by yourself. Reconnect with your friends. Join a social club or something. Do something that will act as a distraction, while also providing you the opportunity to socialize with others. You may even end up with a date. At the very least, you’ll likely make a few good friends.

Reevaluate what you’re looking for in a partner

It can be easy to become so engulfed in your attempts to date that you can lose sight of important goals. One of these goals is the reason you’re dating in the first place. Our needs often change and sometimes, we don’t reflect those changes in our search for companionship. This could mean your dating criteria is out-dated. Take some time to reflect and think about what it is you’re looking for. Remember that if you’re starting to feel desperate to find someone, you may be looking for the wrong reasons.

Consider your expectations of a partner

Many of us want to say we’re open to anyone life sends our way. The fact is, we all have a type. This could be physical traits or aspects of their personality. It can even mean artificial assets, like careers and possessions. If you’re in a dating rut, you should think about your expectations in a partner. Write them down. Rate their importance. Get rid of any that wouldn’t make or break the experience. This will help you to broaden your selection in the future.

Just have a good time

Instead of thinking about what you’re looking for or putting unnecessary pressure on you dating experience, just have fun! Go out with people you normally wouldn’t. Ditch all your expectations, including the ones you have for yourself. Learn to enjoy the moment and the company of another person. Even if that person doesn’t have the same goals in mind as you. This can help to open you up to a different type of person or show you something you’re missing in yourself.

Practice self-care

That doesn’t mean take a bubble bath or treat yourself to something. Although, if you want to, go ahead! It’s always a good idea to indulge every once in a while. Largely, self-care means putting yourself first. Instead of thinking about finding someone else, find yourself. Spend more quality time with yourself and get to know who you are. You can have fun by yourself, too!

Our big Spring Fling Singles party takes place on Saturday 28th April.

Here are our top tips to make sure you make the most of the event and come away with lots of dates!

Dress to Impress

Most of our events have a dress code, so think about this in advance.  Get your best shirt ironed or treat yourself to a new dress. That way you’ll be confident when you enter the event and will attract attention for the right reasons.

Bring Your Friends

It’s always a great idea to round up your single friends to come along with you.  That way you have an instant support group and you won’t have to worry about being left on your own. Just make sure you choose happy, positive friends who are there to have a good time!

If you haven’t got any single friends to bring then don’t worry – just go up and say hello to some of the guests.  It doesn’t matter if you find them attractive or not. When you do this, other people will assume they are interested in you and you’ll look instantly more popular. As well as that, you could make new friends who you can keep talking to during the night.

Use the Hosts

We pride ourselves on booking more hosts than any other Asian singles party company. These hosts are the friendliest in the business and are there to help you.  Don’t be afraid of speaking to one if you need assistance.  They can help you talk to the person you’ve been eyeing up all evening, or explain how the night works. Their job is to make sure you have a good time so please make the most of them. They don’t bite!

Try Everything

If you want to be successful, you need to throw yourself into everything. This means taking part in the ice breaking activities, having a go at speed dating and generally making the most of it.  It really doesn’t matter how well you do it, but it will help you relax and have fun.  All the activities are there for your benefit and can help you start conversations with new people.

Talk to the People you Like

I find myself saying this a lot, but as a paying customer you can talk to anyone you wish.  If someone else is with them, don’t worry.  Just wait a few minutes and step in. The last thing you want to do is go home regretting you blew your chance to say hello.  Even if they aren’t keen, you’ve not lost anything.  You didn’t know them before the party and you don’t know them after.  So there’s no risk involved.

Don’t forget to book your ticket HERE !

See you there,

James

The Asian Single Solution team sure know how to throw a good party.

Our Valentines’ parties are always the talk of the Asian Community and are the very best available.  These events always attract large numbers of single Asian professionals with lots of new faces too.

This year is no exception and there will not one but TWO big parties:

Saturday 11th February 2017  – London -Kensington Close Hotel

Tuesday 14th February 2017 – Birmingham – Frederick’s’ Bar

Both events will have lots of fun activities, including optional speed dating, chocolate fountains, icebreaking and the very best hosts to look after you.  So this is your best chance to get yourself a date!

To book, please visit the events page now HERE

First come first served and the prices go up nearer the time you’ll need to be fast.

Happy dating!

Attention all boys and ghouls!  Our big Halloween event is just over a week away

These parties are always one of our most fun and popular and they give us the chance to use our favourite puns!

We decorate the venue and make sure we have lots of activities to get you mingling.

This year our event actually falls on the 31st October, so it’s your chance to come along and celebrate with us.  We expect lots of new faces to round up your single friends and you never know who you might meet.

As always, we have the usual activities such as optional speed dating, icebreaking and the best hosts in the business to introduce you.  We’ve also got a guest appearance from our resident DJ Titch to play the spookiest dance fillers.

Fancy dress is completely optional, but we have prizes for the best costumes!

Do book now.  We can guarantee it will be a Scream.

The Asian Single Solution team.