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How To Get Out Of A Dating Rut

Tuesday, August 7th, 2018

There is nothing more draining than dates after dates that never seem to go anywhere. Sure, it’s fun to get out of the house and away from work. But it feels tedious when nothing long-term ever comes from it. This is called a dating rut. It means that you’re stuck in emotional quicksand and can’t seem to pull yourself back out. We’ve all been there at least once. Below is a list of tips to help you get out of the dating rut and back into the dating pool.

Take a break from dating

One of the best things you can do to get out of a dating rut is take a break from dating altogether. Go out by yourself. Reconnect with your friends. Join a social club or something. Do something that will act as a distraction, while also providing you the opportunity to socialize with others. You may even end up with a date. At the very least, you’ll likely make a few good friends.

Reevaluate what you’re looking for in a partner

It can be easy to become so engulfed in your attempts to date that you can lose sight of important goals. One of these goals is the reason you’re dating in the first place. Our needs often change and sometimes, we don’t reflect those changes in our search for companionship. This could mean your dating criteria is out-dated. Take some time to reflect and think about what it is you’re looking for. Remember that if you’re starting to feel desperate to find someone, you may be looking for the wrong reasons.

Consider your expectations of a partner

Many of us want to say we’re open to anyone life sends our way. The fact is, we all have a type. This could be physical traits or aspects of their personality. It can even mean artificial assets, like careers and possessions. If you’re in a dating rut, you should think about your expectations in a partner. Write them down. Rate their importance. Get rid of any that wouldn’t make or break the experience. This will help you to broaden your selection in the future.

Just have a good time

Instead of thinking about what you’re looking for or putting unnecessary pressure on you dating experience, just have fun! Go out with people you normally wouldn’t. Ditch all your expectations, including the ones you have for yourself. Learn to enjoy the moment and the company of another person. Even if that person doesn’t have the same goals in mind as you. This can help to open you up to a different type of person or show you something you’re missing in yourself.

Practice self-care

That doesn’t mean take a bubble bath or treat yourself to something. Although, if you want to, go ahead! It’s always a good idea to indulge every once in a while. Largely, self-care means putting yourself first. Instead of thinking about finding someone else, find yourself. Spend more quality time with yourself and get to know who you are. You can have fun by yourself, too!

Day Eight – Twelve Dates of Christmas

Friday, December 8th, 2017

Idea 8 – Kew Gardens

Kew Gardens really goes to town at Christmas.  It’s heavily decorated with baubles, lights and even singing trees.  It’s the perfect date to walk around peacefully and take in the sights.

If you don’t live anywhere near Kew Gardens then don’t worry. There’s bound to be somewhere similar near where you are.  Have a look for stately homes, gardens or even parks. You’ll soon find one that’s appropriate.

If you have your own Christmas Dating Ideas please do add a comment to this blog.  We’d love to share the most original ones.

Happy dating!
Asian Single Solution

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The Meaning Behind Christmas Mistletoe

Tuesday, December 5th, 2017

Christmas comes with many different traditions, each celebrated around the world. While many nationalities carry their own tradition, there are several that have become universal. The first instance of these traditions is all folklore, often relating to the British immigration to North America and the Pagan festivities of the season. While we may not know exactly where each of these traditions came from, we know they are synonymous with the Christmas season. Let’s take a look at some of the most common traditions:

The Tradition Of Mistletoe

The history of the mistletoe actually comes from the Druid people. This plant, although known in the wild as a weed, is said to bring good luck to couples who kiss underneath the bushel. As the tradition goes, each couple takes a berry from the leaves. Once there are no berries left, there is no need to kiss underneath the leaves. As long as there are still berries, there are still wishes for good luck in the future. In current tradition, mistletoe is made of plastic so there aren’t any berries to pick. It’s more of a fun thing for couples to do than actually following the traditions. If you’d like to follow the tradition this year, try and pick yourself a real mistletoe and use it in the doorway of your home.

The First Gingerbread Man

It is said the first Gingerbread Man was created by Queen Elizabeth (the first). The spice trade had started booming in the UK and these spices came over from the Middle East. In an attempt to impress visitors, the Queen baked cookies that were shaped in the likeness of her guests. This sparked the interest of the people and eventually became a tradition for the holiday season. Gingerbread houses are a whole other mystery, with no real description of where they came from, say the fairytale of Hansel and Gretel. Either way, the smell of gingerbread cookies is synonymous with Christmas cheer.

Gift Giving

For those who have read through the Christian Bible, presents were given to the baby Jesus by three wise men. This is the first notable instance of gift giving on record. For those unfamiliar with the story, this happened on what we now call Christmas Eve. These gifts were presented, each representing something different to the future of the blessed baby Jesus. Today, we practice this tradition by purchasing gifts for the people in our lives and placing them under the tree. This action comes from the Pagan rituals of blessing for the upcoming years.

The Christmas Tree

The tradition of a Christmas tree has a rich history. There are many different associations with the first Christmas tree. Most notably is the Riga tree, which may have been the first instance of celebrating around a tree. It is a common practice in Pagan festivals during the winter months and has been for many years. Today, Christmas trees are put up inside of homes and decorated to show off to guests and visiting family members. This is often more of a bonding tradition than actually praising or celebrating the season.

Your New Year Dating Resolutions

Thursday, January 5th, 2017

So 2017 is here already.  Where does the time go?

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Like many people, chances are that you’ve made some new year resolutions. For some, this could be to lose weight, get a new job or take up a new hobby.  But for many Asian Singles, you’ve probably also decided that the time has finally come to meet a new partner.

As a Dating Coach, I work with many professional Asian singles to help them find the partner of their dreams.  It’s much easier than you probably think, as long as you have a plan in action.

Here are my top tips for making sure 2017 is your best year ever:

Set Your Goals

What exactly are you looking for and who do you want to meet?  If you want a long term relationship then you have to be clear about exactly what you want.  Write down your intentions and have a long think about who it might be with.  If you don’t know then it’s a good chance to reflect and consider what and who you are aiming for.  That way you’ll know when you finally get there. Be clear and be realistic for faster results.

Get Online NOW

The start of a new year is always going to bring lots of new faces to online dating sites like ours.  So you have to make sure your profile is up to standard if you want to give yourself the best chances of success.  Add some great photos, upgrade and proactively contact the other singles you might be interested in.  Reach out and wish them happy new year or ask them if they have any exciting plans coming up.

Attend some Events

One of the best ways to meet other single Asian professionals is to go to some Asian dating events.  We run lots throughout the year and they provide great opportunities to mingle and get to know new people.  They are all fun, relaxed parties with the very best hosts in the business to look after you. We’ve already booked in some events including our upcoming Valentine’s parties

Tell Your Friends

Psychologists say that you shouldn’t keep your goals to yourself if you want to succeed.  Let all your friends and family know that you are intending to meet someone wonderful this year.  If you do that you’ll have a wide support circle and they’ll be able to help you on your journey.  They can pick you up when you are feeling low and give you a little kick if you need one.  Feel free to blog about your adventures and promote them on social media too.  You never know who is watching.

Stick at It

You aren’t realistically going to meet someone immediately.  Yes it would be lovely to bump into the love of your life tomorrow in the supermarket or fall head over heels for the next person you go on a date with.  The reality is that dating can take time. The more effort you put in now then the better prepared you’ll be.  Give yourself at least 6 months and do everything in your power to make things work.

Happy dating!

 

James Preece

Dating Coach for Asiansinglesolution.com

Dating Guru’s Mailbox: How can I talk to more people?

Wednesday, July 20th, 2016

Here is the latest question for our Dating Coach

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“Hi James, I want to build up my confidence and increase the amount of women that I talk to.  So I’ve been out in the shops trying to say hello to women I’m attracted to.

At the moment I either ask for directions or pay them a compliment…but I’m just not seeing enough that I really like.  Are these big enough challenges or should I being trying something else?   I know you are a dating coach so I hope you can help!  M”

Hi M,

Thanks for the message.  I’ll see how I can help.

First of all, well done for taking the first steps and actually going out into the real world approaching women. Most men are far to scared of rejection to do this, so you already have the advantage on your competition.

Your challenges are a great start but there are a few things you could do to improve.

Firstly, you shouldn’t just be approaching the hot girls but ALL women in the right age category. The more you flirt and talk to women in general then the better you’ll get and the more natural you’ll find it. If you do it right you’ll make them feel good about themselves and set them on the way to having a better day.

However shouldn’t be complimenting them on their looks/clothes all the time either. That’s just creepy. When they give you directions, tell them they are obviously well travelled or intelligent. The ladies will appreciate that much more than anything superficial.

 

Questions in general are better than directions as you have more chance of continuing the conversation. You want to ask something interesting that will get them to open up.

So these sort of questions can work well:

“Excuse me, I’m buying a shirt for my brother.  Which of these do you like the best? ”

“What sort of vegetable goes well with chicken curry?”  ( In a supermarket)

I’m not sure if I need to tell you but make sure you always dress well when you are out and about. A suit works well.  You want to look like the sort of person they would love to date.  Then make them smile and you’ll have much more success.

Hope that helps and good luck!

Best Wishes,

James

The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

 

 

If you have your own dating question or dilemma, please send it over to [email protected]      James will answer the best ones here in the blog.

Our latest feedback

Monday, February 1st, 2016

We’d had some great feedback over the last few weeks

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Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

“I just would like to say a massive thank you!!! without this site i wouldnt have found the love of my life!!! Thank you!” AP

“Very Happy with the service Feed back : Found someone” KM

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : She found me, we’ve got a long way to go, but I don’t need your services any more.

Thank you!” GP

“The nights were very well organised” NB

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Excellent. thank you” JM

“Was a good experience and thank you for your help.” BK

” I attended the singles event last night at The Abbey. I have to say it was one of the best events. Katie the host was brilliant and helpful. The age group was perfect and nice to see everyone participating. James and Vik great night. Let me know when the next event is. Even though I didn’t meet anyone. It was still a great event to attend and meet new people.”  JP

If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

 

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

Halloween Party was a Scream

Monday, November 9th, 2015

Big thanks to everyone who came to our Halloween Spooktacular

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This took place on Saturday 31st October – Halloween itself – at the revamped Slug and Lettuce.

Over 160 guests attended with some in costume.  You can see some of the best outfits in our photo so thanks to those who made an effort.

We’ve already had lots of great feedback and many people appreciated our efforts to do something special.   Lots of matches were made, and many couples were dancing once we hit the wtiching hour.

We’ll be planning something event bigger and more spooktacular for next year.
Best Wishes,

The Asian Single Solution Team

Latest Successes Stories and Feedack

Wednesday, June 24th, 2015

We love hearing your positive feedback about the site and the events

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Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

“I have been part of Asian Singles Solution for the past 3 months and have been fortunate to find a match from the site” AP

“Very Happy with the service” VP

“Great site” FD

“I met my fiance on your site and no longer need to be a member.” JC

“I think the site works well and did allow me to meet similar people.” PP

“It is a nice way of meeting people” JN

“Found someone” AS

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single” VP

“great site!” TP

If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

 

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

Dating Guru’s Mailbag: She wants some space

Monday, May 18th, 2015

This week we bring you another dating dilemma solved by our resident dating expert.

“Dear James.  Please can you help?   I met a girl on the site and I thought things were going really well. In fact, we recently moved in together. I was looking forward to the future but she just told me she wants a relationship break.  I’m stunned and have had to move out to give her space.  What can I do to win her back?  AJ”

Hi AJ,

Many thanks for your message.  I’m sorry to hear things haven’t gone quite to plan.  You didn’t tell me the exact reasons why you were unhappy, but this is something you’ll need to discuss with her.

The most common reasons this happens is if you are spending TOO MUCH time together.  If you do, every little thing will get on your nerves and you’ll start to irritate each other.  Little things like not doing the washing up or leaving clothes on the floor can start arguments. Or there could of course be some other bigger issue that needs dealing with.

Relationship breaks CAN work as they give you the chance to see what life would be like without each other.  If you were close then she’ll soon realise things are much better if you are around.

What you need to do is give her the space she wants, but make it clear you love her and are not giving up.  Set a time to meet up and discuss things soon.  If she needs a little longer that’s fine but you don’t want to have to wait forever.  Tell her this and ensure you both stick to the same timetable.

Above all, listen to what she says and see if you can salvage things.  If not, you may both be happier on your own.

If you agree to get back together – and I hope you do – then you must make sure you communicate as much as possible. It’s only by making each other feel happy and special that you grow your relationship.  This means plenty of time doing things outside your normal routine as well as giving each other space to see friends and family.

Hope that helps,

James

If you have your own dating problem or issue, drop us email to [email protected] with the subject line ” Dating Help.”   We’ll get our dating expert to answer the best ones here in the blog.

Happy dating!

 

James Preece

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Dating Guru Profile Review: LUCKSTAR89

Monday, April 20th, 2015

Here is our latest online

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profile review for you

Here’s a look at his current profile.

Nickname:
LuckyStar would be a wonderful nickname, but LuckStar doesn’t mean anything. Unless there’s a reason for it I’d suggest you change it. After all, people call you Lucky not Luck!

Photos:

You have a nice photo as your main image. I think women will respond well as you look friendly, smart and approachable.   You look fun and presentable in your album shots too so all good choices.

Interesting Fact:

Your Fact is OK but the “you’ll have to find out” comment isn’t enough. When people write it’s usually because they can’t think of anything more imaginative.

 

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There’s nothing particularly wrong with you profile text, but there’s still room for improvement.  You’ve written a list of things about yourself but it’s better to demonstrate exactly what you mean.

For example – you say you are spontaneous so give an example about at time you were spontaneous.  You could say,  I am often spontaneous and once jumped on the first plane that was leaving the airport.  When you do this it’s much more interesting than reading a long list.

You’ve put the line in about winking for interest, but you’d get a much better success rate if you just emailed them in the first place. Winking can perhaps give the impression you can’t be bothered to write a proper message. It’s the people who take the time to send a short personalised message that get the results.

 

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Again, this is fine but it’s very generic.  Who doesn’t want to meet someone with a similar outlook and enjoys life?   Can you try and paint a picture that would make someone think “Yes that’s me he’s looking for” ?

I hope this helps,

James

If you would like to have your profile reviewed and featured, then please email your request to [email protected] We’ll pick the best one each month and get our leading Dating Expert James Preece to offer you his advice on how to make it better in this blog.

Good luck!

James Preece – Dating Coach

Asian Dating: How to make sure you find love in 2015

Monday, January 12th, 2015

Are you fed up being single?  It’s a new year so there are new opportunities.

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As we head into the the new year it’s time once again to start making our resolutions.

For some this is to lose weight, stop smoking or to finally meet a partner.  If this is you then you have definitely

come to right place!

Here are our top five tips for you to give your love life a kickstart.

 

1) Book an Asian Dating Event.   This is your biggest opportunity to get yourself out there and start meeting potential matches in the real world. We’ve already got several listed for you to book on the website. This includes the biggest of them all – the Asian Valentine’s Ball.

2) Try Online Dating.   The start of the year is the busiest time for most dating sites and ours is no exception.  There will be more new faces than at any other time of year and they are just waiting for your to reach out and say hello.

3) Remember it’s not just you.  Most singles can feel a bit lonely at the start of a new year, but that’s absolutely normal. There are millions making exactly the same resolution as you.

4) Take Responsibility.  It’s your choice whether you are single or not.  Don’t blame anyone or anything else.  Yes, that includes the weather, your income and how incredibly busy you are.

5) Take action!   The only way to achieve what you want is to make sure you do something about it.  Make sure you have a clear defined plan about what you want and how you are going to do it. If you don’t you’ll find yourself in the same situation at the beginning of next year too.

If you need any help or advice then please remember we are always here.  Drop us a message at [email protected]  and we’ll be happy to do what you can.

Happy dating and good luck!

James Preece

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Our Latest Feedback and Success Stories

Monday, August 18th, 2014

We had another great month on our Asian dating site

 

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Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

Great site. Doing a grand job. I have met someone off the site but if it doesn’t work out I’ll be back.” SK

The website is very easy to use and I actually like its simplicity” AD

I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Brilliant” KT

“Good website, met someone and kept in touch. Meera is very helpful!” PM

It was a good site and useful” JK

Excellent service” NJ

Good website to meet people!”

I wanted to say thank you for your website. I have met the man of my dreams and cant thank you enough as I almost gave up hope.

Your site is well thought through and not like the other ones. Thank again for giving me my life back” AK

Services are good, as are the events.” SK

“Nice site. easily accessible” AS

“Found the love of my life.” HK

“Enjoyed events and good website” SS

Very good site, keep up the good work” AS

Good site, will recommend to friends” BF

I enjoyed the event last night and agree it was relaxed and made up of a group of friendly individuals. I left early, but I am sure that it ended as well as it commenced. I left with a smile on my face as I had so many great conversations throughout the evening – thank you for organising it.
I am new to this sort of thing (2nd event) but I cannot find a single fault in either of the events that I have attended. looking forward to the next one.” JS

If you have your own feedback or succes that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

 

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

Announcing a new type of Singles Event

Monday, June 16th, 2014

Here’s something new for you!

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We know how much you love our Asian Singles Parties and Speed Dating Events. The parties are going from strength to strength, but as we get bigger and better we want to try new things.

We’ve had requests for us to try out new ice breaking activities that will get people mingling. We’ve also been asked to run some smaller, pure Hindu or Pure Sikh events.

So we put our heads together to create a new concept of event that will make sure you get more targeted dating opportunities as well as have a fantastic night.  These new events don’t have any speed dating or pressure.

We did run Casino “learn to play” nights a few years ago which were extremely popular. These new parties are will be even better because:

1) Private use of the VIP room – so much more exclusive

2) Fun (free) gaming tables with professionals to teach you how to play Blackjack, Roulette and more.

3) Select crowd of either Hindu or Sikh singles.

4) Central London location so easy to get to.

5) Unique opportunity to try something new and a little different!

 

The casino elements are completely optional so if you don’t fancy it, don’t worry. You are still free to mingle and talk to any of the other singles that you wish.

If you would like to book then please sign up now as spaces are strictly limited and we expect them to sell out very quickly.  Check out the events section on our site to get your ticket now.

Happy dating!

The Asian Single Solution team

Asian Dating: Why won’t they meet you?

Thursday, May 29th, 2014

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March Feedback and Successes

Monday, April 7th, 2014

March was another great month for our Asian dating site

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Here is just a small selection of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

“I felt the website was a valuable way to meet like minded people. I will be recommending this site to my friends and colleagues.” DS

“Very easy site to use, and genuine people are available to talk to” AV

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single. Feed back : Excellent” MP

“A nice way of getting to know other singles out there” US

“Thank you for helping me meet someone, very early days…..watch this space!!” SK

“The best site I’ve been on.” EH

“Excellent thank you. I have met someone now.” AK

“Best dating site ever” SM

“Generally a good site and works well” SB

“Good professional service, happy with it.” KC

” I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single
Feed back : This site has been a great help! Great site!” MR

“Flexible, easy to use, great interface” JK

“Good service, easy to use site. Would recommend to others” NP

“Site was good, easy to search for people such as if the are veg, drinkers etc. easy to search for the type of person you are looking for.” AK

If you have your own feedback or succes that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

 

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

Leeds and Manchester Asian – After Party

Monday, February 17th, 2014

 

Last week we ran our first ever Valentine’s Leeds and Manchester Asian events

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Many thanks to everyone who braved the awful weather and managed to attend the events.  We had a great turn out for both parties and lots of matches were made. We hope you all have fun and that you have some amazing dates!   The feedback has been good for the parties and we may run more events in these areas later in the year.

If you have any suggestions on ways we can market these to local members please do let us know.  The more people we can find that are interested then the more chance we’ll run events again.

Do take a moment to check out our London and Birmingham upcoming Asian parties.  Although the Valentine’s period is over,  cupid never stops working his magic all year round.  You just have to be ready to give him a little nudge!

 

Happy dating

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Manchester Hindu and Sikh Free Valentines Party

Tuesday, February 11th, 2014

If you are a Manchester based Asian single then you really don’t want to miss this!

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We are taking our best dating hosts up to Manchester and running the ultimate Hindu and Sikh Valentine’s party at Label Bar.  We’ve got ice breaking, mingling and some gorgeous guests already booked up.

But do you want to hear the best news?   This Asian party is completely free.  Yes, you hear that right.  There’s no charge for entry and we’ll even give the first guests to arrive a complimentary drink to welcome them.

There’s no catch at all.  We’re doing this as a special launch party to help grow our database of Manchester Asians.  So if you’d like to come along and join in the fun do book up now.  It would be great if you could tell all your Hindu and Sikh single friends too.  The more people we have then the better the dating party is going ot be!

This is your BEST opportunity to get some dates in your diary before Valentine’s Day this Friday.

CLICK HERE TO BOOK YOUR FREE PLACE

Hopefully we’ll see you then.

Meera

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Leeds Asian Hindu and Sikh Valentine Party is this week

Tuesday, February 11th, 2014

We are very excited here at Asiansinglesolution.com  HQ

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Tomorrow we have our big Leeds Asian Valentine’s Party.  Our best hosts are currently packing their bags and getting ready for a fantastic event.  It’s the perfect chance for you to find a date in time for the big day this Friday.

Our party will take place at Tiger Tiger in Leeds and we’ve got lots of lovely guests booked in already.  If you’d like to meet them for a wonderful night of mingling, ice breaking and fun conversation then don’t forget to book your place now.  We’ve got a bar to ourselves.

Tickets are absolutely 100% free and we’re even throwing in free drinks for the first to arrive.  Don’t wait until Friday and wish you’d come – book now and you may just have the best Valentine’s day ever!

What are you waiting for?  Book right now

CLICK HERE

Meera

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Asian Hindu and Sikh Manchester Singles Party

Wednesday, January 29th, 2014

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If you are an Asian Singles professional in the Manchester area, then you don’t want to miss our upcoming Valentine’s party

This party will take place at Label Bar on Thursday 13th February.  We’re travelling up with our best hosts to introduce you to all  the other singles and it’s your perfect opportunity to get a date in time for Valentines.

We’ll have a bar packed full of Hindu and Sikh singles with optional ice breaking activities to get you mingling.

Completely free tickets and a free welcome drink if you arrive on time.

This is a one of a kind, once only party so if you don’t book now there will be no second chance!

Do  book up now.  What do you have to lose?

Book HERE

Meera

www.asiansinglesolution.com