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The Secret To Making Coffee Dates Work

Tuesday, July 9th, 2019

A “coffee date” is often something our members do before a “real” date. The idea behind a coffee date is that you’re in a neutral location, often somewhere public. You have the chance to really talk, which gives you the opportunity to get to know someone a bit better. Unlike a date, there is no pressure to present yourself a certain way. This leaves room for casual conversation or intense questioning, if that’s the direct you end up in. Neither of you are trying to impress each other, you’re just getting a feel for each other’s personality. A coffee date is used as a screening test to determine compatibility.

If you hit it off, that’s great! The next step is making plans for a more serious date. If you don’t get on then perhaps it’s time to rethink your strategy.

Since there is no pressure on a coffee date, it should be easy enough, right? Unfortunately, that’s not always the case and you can find your date turning into a disaster. One of the most common mistakes on a coffee date is talking about relationships (exes, relationship goals, etc). Although it’s not a “date”, you still have to follow basic dating etiquette. A potential love interest doesn’t want to hear about previous relationships, whether they are good or bad. If you only have negative things to say about a previous partner, you sound bitter. If you only have positive things to say, you sound hung-up. You don’t want to give your date the idea that your heart/head is elsewhere. Instead, avoid the topic of past relationships altogether. It’s best to keep a coffee date light-hearted.

You are encouraged to ask questions and get to know each other. That is the whole point of the pre-date coffee date. The best subjects to talk about are hobbies & interests, things you’re passionate about, music & movies, etc. These are easy questions to answer and they provide enough information about each other. You can really get to know a person through the things they are passionate about.

The secret to making coffee dates work is to view your “date” as new friend instead. This should help to take ALL the pressure off for both of you. By allowing a more casual interaction, coffee dates give you more opportunity to express your authentic self. If you’re prone to making cheesy jokes, go for it. If your favorite outfit includes 3 different patterns, wear it. You’re not trying to impress anyone, which actually makes you more likely to be impressive.

You are just two human beings enjoying conversation over coffee. Doesn’t that sound easy?

The most important thing to remember is to follow the direction of the conversation. There are always going to be awkward silences. You only need to worry when they are frequent and long. If you find you have to manually steer the conversation, that could suggest you don’t share enough common ground. It never hurts to have conversation starters in the back of your mind. This can help get the conversation flowing again. If you’re both having a good time, sharing stories and laughing together, you’ll be seeing each other again soon.

Happy dating!

James Preece

Dating Coach for AsianSingleSolution.com

Day Six – Twelve Dates of Christmas

Wednesday, December 6th, 2017

Idea 6 – Ice Skating

Ice Skating is always a very popular dating idea.  There are rinks popping up all over the place and it’s the chance to try a fun outdoor activity, often with great scenery.

Many people are put off as they find it hard to do or don’t want to look stupid. This isn’t really an issue though as you’ll probably be the same position. If you keep falling over you can grab hold of your date and you’ll have something to laugh about.  If they are a better skater then they will enjoy teaching you to how to skate.  It’s only for an hour so you’ll soon improve anyway.

Do remember to warn your date to wrap up warm and have somewhere to go to after – perhaps with a log fire.

 

If you have your own Christmas Dating Ideas please do add a comment to this blog.  We’d love to share the most original ones.

Happy dating!
Asian Single Solution

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Spring Dating Ideas for Asian Singles

Tuesday, February 28th, 2017

Spring Date Ideas For Asian Singles

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Romance always blossoms the strongest in spring. It’s the pheromones in the air, or something. We shed off the depressions of winter and move into the welcoming warmth of spring. There’s nothing more welcoming as the weather changes than having someone to share the warmth with. Whether you’ve been together, or it’s your first date, these Asian spring dates idea are bound to be a hit.

Walking

There’s no better way to celebrate the arrival of spring than walking around outside. You’ll get a breath of fresh air and see the world coming to life around you. It’s simply beautiful. You can stop and smell the flowers and even take pictures of cute animals out of hibernation. This date is ideal for first-timers, because it gives you nothing to do but talk. This is a great way to get to know each other. Take the chance to ask questions and dive further into each other!

Biking

Imagine the spring air passing through your hair as you ride along the path without a care in the world. This date is harder when it comes to communicating. You don’t want to be yelling over your shoulder the whole time, after all. But you can have fun with this, maybe turn it into a fun competition. See who will get to the end of the path first and share a laugh

Tip To combine both of the date ideas above, trying rollerskating or blading.

Picnic Lunch

A picnic lunch may seem like a cliche date, but there’s a good reason for that it works! You’ll get to enjoy your dates company, while also enjoying the coming of spring. Just pack up a few sandwiches and head to a local park. Of course, if you’re worried about insects (there are many people with allergies), you can try an outdoor restaurant. Either way, you get to enjoy conversation. Afterwards, try going out for an ice cream!

Outdoor Movie Night

This isn’t an easy date to pull off, but it’s certainly rewarding if you can. There are two ways to accomplish this one Find an open air cinema in your neighbourhood, or rent a projector and create your own. It’s not expensive, and most of them hook up to computers, allowing you to watch your favourite Netflix shows while outside in the garden. It’s sure to impress your date, if nothing else. P

Spring Festivals

No matter where you live in the world, you’re bound to have a local festival celebrating the arrival of spring. It’s such an important time of the year. A new beginning. You can really see the world come to life, including the people. Walk around one of these festivals with your date and join in the celebrations. You’ll likely get to try new food and participate in dance rituals. At the end of the day, you’ll be exhausted from laughing so much and so will your date. It’s going to give you something to talk about for many dates to come!

If you are an Asian single who doesn’t yet have a date – don’t worry – you can get one today on out site!   

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Our Masquerade Ball

Wednesday, November 30th, 2016

Our big Masquerade Ball took place on Saturday 26th November.

The event was a huge success and we’ve had lots of great feedback about it.

The party started with our classical duo playing romantic music while the guests entered. The icebreaker game went down well with prizes of sweets from our Candy Cart.  Our Magician wowed the crowed and we had our casino gaming tables available to help everyone interact.

The highlight of the event was our masked speed dating which most people took part in.  To finish the evening our resident DJ helped our guests get in the dancing mood.

Here are a few of the photos from the event.

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We have put the rest up on our Facebook page but these will be taken down again shortly. So if you’d like a look you’ll need ot be quick!

Watch our of new of our first big events for 2017 coming shortly.

 

Meera

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Birthday Party Thanks

Tuesday, September 27th, 2016

Thank you to everyone who came to our big 14th Birthday Party!

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Our event was a complete sell out and from all accounts lots of fun and matches were made.  We pulled out all the stops for the event and had a magician, chocolate fountain, DJ and for the first time ever – casino tables.
We don’t run our events for profit but as a showcase for the website, so we usually spend all the money made on making them the best we can.  So if you liked anything in particular please do add a comment and let us know.  That way we know to include it next time.

Thanks again for celebrating with us and we are looking forward to planning the next exciting events.  Next year will be the big 15 so we’ll be coming up with something even more special for you to enjoy.

Happy dating,

James, Paul, Meera and the team

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Latest Feedback and Successes

Tuesday, June 28th, 2016

We’d had some great feedback over the last few weeks

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Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

” I messaged someone on your site in mid Feb & after talking on the phone we met & on the 3rd meeting we really connected. We have now moved in together & will see how things go” AS

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : I found someone on this website!” BB

“It gave me more confidence and realised how easy it is” NC

“Good site, nice idea” JS

“Thanks for your help! Got married last year.” KS

“Good website, reliable mobile site. Best site for dating Asian girls. I’ve enjoyed using the site over last 5+ years” KP

“I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single!” RJ

If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

 

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

Dating Guru’s Golden Rule One

Wednesday, April 27th, 2016

Dating Rule

Our very own James Preece is one of the UK’s very best Dating Coaches.  He has put together some of THE most important Dating Tips for you.

Hi there! I’ve been helping singles find love for the last decade and today I’m going to tell you all about my first Golden Rule:

One: Work Out What You Want

This might sound obvious but I never cease to be amazed how many people forget to even consider this.  If you don’t know who are you looking for then you’re never going to know when you find them.

Let’s suppose you want to get a new job. Would you apply for every single vacancy no matter what is was for  and attend every interview you were offered?  Of course you wouldn’t.  That would just be a colossal waste of time and you’d never find a position that you were happy with.

Dating is exactly the same.  Before you begin, you have to work out what is important to you.  Who exactly is it that you are looking for and what do you want from them.  If you want to find a husband or wife you need to be clear about your goal right from the start.

So have a good think now about what the person you’d like end up with might be like.  Consider their qualities, lifestyle and personality. Is there anything especially important such as religion, smoking habits or location?  If so, keep these in mind along the way. 

I’m not suggesting that you should ever stop being open minded about what might happen. I’m just saying that you should always have something in mind to aim for.  

After all, what you think you want and what you really need can often be completely different things.  The fun comes with the adventure ahead and trying new possibilities and meeting new people

Happy dating!


 

I do hope this short article has helped you see what you need to do to make a huge difference.  Watch out for the next dating rule coming next week!

If you would like to work with me as your dating coach then you can contact me through my personal website HERE

 

Dating Guru’s Mailbag: She wants some space

Monday, May 18th, 2015

This week we bring you another dating dilemma solved by our resident dating expert.

“Dear James.  Please can you help?   I met a girl on the site and I thought things were going really well. In fact, we recently moved in together. I was looking forward to the future but she just told me she wants a relationship break.  I’m stunned and have had to move out to give her space.  What can I do to win her back?  AJ”

Hi AJ,

Many thanks for your message.  I’m sorry to hear things haven’t gone quite to plan.  You didn’t tell me the exact reasons why you were unhappy, but this is something you’ll need to discuss with her.

The most common reasons this happens is if you are spending TOO MUCH time together.  If you do, every little thing will get on your nerves and you’ll start to irritate each other.  Little things like not doing the washing up or leaving clothes on the floor can start arguments. Or there could of course be some other bigger issue that needs dealing with.

Relationship breaks CAN work as they give you the chance to see what life would be like without each other.  If you were close then she’ll soon realise things are much better if you are around.

What you need to do is give her the space she wants, but make it clear you love her and are not giving up.  Set a time to meet up and discuss things soon.  If she needs a little longer that’s fine but you don’t want to have to wait forever.  Tell her this and ensure you both stick to the same timetable.

Above all, listen to what she says and see if you can salvage things.  If not, you may both be happier on your own.

If you agree to get back together – and I hope you do – then you must make sure you communicate as much as possible. It’s only by making each other feel happy and special that you grow your relationship.  This means plenty of time doing things outside your normal routine as well as giving each other space to see friends and family.

Hope that helps,

James

If you have your own dating problem or issue, drop us email to [email protected] with the subject line ” Dating Help.”   We’ll get our dating expert to answer the best ones here in the blog.

Happy dating!

 

James Preece

www.asiansinglesolution.com