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How To Tell If You’re A Commitment Phobe

Thursday, August 23rd, 2018

There are people out in the world who avoid commitment when dating.  They aren’t interested in settling down. Maybe they want to travel the world and meet different people. Maybe they are too focused on advancing their career to think about love.

For these people, short term dating is a choice they have made. But there are others who have had the choice made for them by their insecurities. These people are commitment phobes, but they often don’t even know it!

If you’re reading this, there’s a good chance you are one of those people. Consult the list below and see how many of these traits you can identify in your own life:

You are always second-guessing yourself.
You’re indecisive, especially when meeting new people.
You think about the end of every relationship.
You have hidden insecurities and are afraid of being left behind.
You worry about someone accepting you for who you are.
You always end up in the worst relationships.
You avoid sharing personal details about yourself with a new partner.
You avoid talking about your past, even if it was “normal”.
You tend to ghost on other people.
You have a rotation of people you’re communicating with.
You are more comfortable with short relationships.
You tend to nitpick about unimportant things.
You are always looking for a reason to end the relationship.
You tend to self-sabotage.
You always make jokes about how relationships are a waste of time.
You have been called out by friends or family.
You have commitment issues in other aspects of your life.

If any of these traits resonate with you, there is a good chance you are afraid of committing to someone. If you are afraid of commitment, you may be wondering how you can overcome that fear. After all, no one wants to be alone forever or move from relationship to relationship. If you’re ready to accept that you’re afraid of commitment, you’re ready to make the changes too.

The key is to take small steps and make gradual changes. Change isn’t easy for anyone, even if you want to believe you’ll be the exception. If you try to rush the process, you’re going to fail and end up back at square one. Instead, try pacing yourself. If something feels unnatural, don’t do it. You’re also going to want to communicate your fears with your current partner, especially if they are the reason you want to make these changes. Your partner should know what you are going through so that he/she can be supportive of the process. Otherwise, you may feel your efforts are for nothing.

The first thing you need to do is figure out the reason behind your fear of commitment. Are you afraid of being left behind? Are you afraid no one will love you for who you really are? Are you afraid of investing time into something that is going to end? Be honest with yourself about these hesitations. That is the only way you will be able to work through these issues. Often, identifying them helps you to realize they aren’t valid insecurities and allows you to move on with your life.

If you continue struggling, get in touch and our resident Dating Coach might be able to help!

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Recent Feedback and Success Stories

Monday, September 11th, 2017

 

We love getting feedback and get success stories virtually every day

 

 

Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

“I met someone on my first few days on the website- he was on of the first profiles i viewed and liked. I am now still with him 5 months down the line and very happy. Great website.” KB

” I found someone isn a similar position to me and I am very grateful for this site!” GM

“I met someone and was happy with the website!” IR

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single” JM

“Very Happy with the service. Met someone” NB

“I found the love of my life here on ASS and we are now married and in the process of applying for her spousal visa.” MG

If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

 

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

Recent Feedback and Success Stories

Monday, April 10th, 2017

We’d had some great feedback recently:

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Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

 

“My experience was good. I met Mr Right soon after subscribing onto the site. it’s well laid out and the support provided by yourselves is very prompt.” JG

” Standout website compared to the other Asian Dating Sites” MD

“This site worked for me because I kept on trying and found that someone special” JP

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : its worked thank you x” SK

” I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single. Thank you!” PS

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : She’s lovely. “ES

“Brilliant service” DP

“I met the perfect match thanks to you!!” AP

“I met someone. Great website” AG

If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

 

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

Happy Holidays!

Thursday, December 22nd, 2016

The Asiansinglesolution.com team

 

would like to wish you a very happy Holiday Season.

 

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We hope you have a lovely break and enjoy the last few days of 2016.

The office will be closed over Christmas but we’ll still be providing support and answering emails.

 

James, Paul, Meera and the Team

www.asiansinglesolution.com

 

 

 

Our Masquerade Ball

Wednesday, November 30th, 2016

Our big Masquerade Ball took place on Saturday 26th November.

The event was a huge success and we’ve had lots of great feedback about it.

The party started with our classical duo playing romantic music while the guests entered. The icebreaker game went down well with prizes of sweets from our Candy Cart.  Our Magician wowed the crowed and we had our casino gaming tables available to help everyone interact.

The highlight of the event was our masked speed dating which most people took part in.  To finish the evening our resident DJ helped our guests get in the dancing mood.

Here are a few of the photos from the event.

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We have put the rest up on our Facebook page but these will be taken down again shortly. So if you’d like a look you’ll need ot be quick!

Watch our of new of our first big events for 2017 coming shortly.

 

Meera

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Dating Guru’s Mailbox: How can I talk to more people?

Wednesday, July 20th, 2016

Here is the latest question for our Dating Coach

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“Hi James, I want to build up my confidence and increase the amount of women that I talk to.  So I’ve been out in the shops trying to say hello to women I’m attracted to.

At the moment I either ask for directions or pay them a compliment…but I’m just not seeing enough that I really like.  Are these big enough challenges or should I being trying something else?   I know you are a dating coach so I hope you can help!  M”

Hi M,

Thanks for the message.  I’ll see how I can help.

First of all, well done for taking the first steps and actually going out into the real world approaching women. Most men are far to scared of rejection to do this, so you already have the advantage on your competition.

Your challenges are a great start but there are a few things you could do to improve.

Firstly, you shouldn’t just be approaching the hot girls but ALL women in the right age category. The more you flirt and talk to women in general then the better you’ll get and the more natural you’ll find it. If you do it right you’ll make them feel good about themselves and set them on the way to having a better day.

However shouldn’t be complimenting them on their looks/clothes all the time either. That’s just creepy. When they give you directions, tell them they are obviously well travelled or intelligent. The ladies will appreciate that much more than anything superficial.

 

Questions in general are better than directions as you have more chance of continuing the conversation. You want to ask something interesting that will get them to open up.

So these sort of questions can work well:

“Excuse me, I’m buying a shirt for my brother.  Which of these do you like the best? ”

“What sort of vegetable goes well with chicken curry?”  ( In a supermarket)

I’m not sure if I need to tell you but make sure you always dress well when you are out and about. A suit works well.  You want to look like the sort of person they would love to date.  Then make them smile and you’ll have much more success.

Hope that helps and good luck!

Best Wishes,

James

The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

 

 

If you have your own dating question or dilemma, please send it over to [email protected]      James will answer the best ones here in the blog.

Latest Feedback and Successes

Tuesday, June 28th, 2016

We’d had some great feedback over the last few weeks

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Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

” I messaged someone on your site in mid Feb & after talking on the phone we met & on the 3rd meeting we really connected. We have now moved in together & will see how things go” AS

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : I found someone on this website!” BB

“It gave me more confidence and realised how easy it is” NC

“Good site, nice idea” JS

“Thanks for your help! Got married last year.” KS

“Good website, reliable mobile site. Best site for dating Asian girls. I’ve enjoyed using the site over last 5+ years” KP

“I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single!” RJ

If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

 

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

Cupid’s Arrow Hit our Valentine’s Party

Wednesday, February 17th, 2016

Our Asian Hindu and Sikh Valentines party took place last Saturday and was a massive success.

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With over 300 guests, it was a complete sell out and countless matches were made.

Our resident dancers, Bollywood Vibes went down a storm late in the evening too, while our DJ Titch got the crowd on their feet.

We’ve already had some great feedback about the event, some verbally and some by email:

“I really liked the venue, great choice for a Saturday night, had a wedding reception feel. much better than the other venues. Had a hoot!”

If you missed out, don’t worry as we are planning some other huge events this year.

 

Happy dating!

James

Our Golden Rules for using the Site

Wednesday, October 14th, 2015

We’ve put together some golden rules that we ask all our members to follow and respect if you are using the site.

They are important because if everyone follows them then you will all have a much better experience and success rate on the site.

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Please do follow these rules.  If you don’t then your profile may be suspended.

Happy dating!

The Asian Single Solution Team

www.asiansinglesolution.com

What is your favourite pre-date song?

Tuesday, June 16th, 2015

When you go to the gym you have your favourite tracks on your Ipod.

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These are the songs that get your heart racing, your blood pumping and make you work just that little bit harder.  For many, this is “Eye of the Tiger” or “The Final Countdown” – show stoppers in their own right.

However, when it comes to dating it turns out that lots of people have a favourite tune which they like to play before they head out the door for a date.  They tell us that is can make them feel much more upbeat and powerful, which puts them in a positive state of mind.  If they are feeling better and happier about themselves then it’s only natural they will have a more successful dating experience.

We’ve heard that Beyonce’s “Single Ladies” is a popular one before many women head out to a singles night.  For men, it’s  “Power of Love”…the Huey Lewis and the News version. Personally, we are big fans of Queen’s “Don’t Stop Me Now” to really amp up our moods!

Songs that have the same beats per minute as your heartbeat  ( 120 -140 BPM) are your best choices if you want to maximise the effect.  Scientists have shown that this the pace most likely to make your feel positive and energised, so who are we to argue?

So if you want to have better dates, why not download some of your favourites songs and try playing them before you head out the door?   It might make a real difference and you won’t know until you try it.  Must make sure you don’t choose a song that has a bad memory association, or you could be doing more damage than good.

If you have a favourite, please mention it as a comment at the end of this blog.  We’d love to hear what everyone else plays!
Happy dating

Single Solution

www.singlesolution.com

New Feedback and Success for our Asian Dating Site

Tuesday, May 26th, 2015

We love hearing your positive feedback about the site and the events

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Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

“Good site & very heplful & encouraging staff, thanks” VP

“I have met someone and hoping this person is the one so thank you for your help !” KR

“Good site keep up the good work” VS

“Very good website and service offered.” JC

“Enjoyed my time on this website. I am grateful for this website and will recommend to other single friends” CB

“The dating site was a good experience.” KG

“It was a good starting point for my search” AB

“Currently seeing someone I met on Asian Single Solution” MR

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Good site” TD

“I have met someone!” AS

“Good site with a range of people to view.” RP

“Very Happy with the service
Feed back : I have met somebody and not longer need to use the website!” SR

 

If you have your own feedback or success that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

 

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

Dating Guru Profile Review: LUCKSTAR89

Monday, April 20th, 2015

Here is our latest online

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profile review for you

Here’s a look at his current profile.

Nickname:
LuckyStar would be a wonderful nickname, but LuckStar doesn’t mean anything. Unless there’s a reason for it I’d suggest you change it. After all, people call you Lucky not Luck!

Photos:

You have a nice photo as your main image. I think women will respond well as you look friendly, smart and approachable.   You look fun and presentable in your album shots too so all good choices.

Interesting Fact:

Your Fact is OK but the “you’ll have to find out” comment isn’t enough. When people write it’s usually because they can’t think of anything more imaginative.

 

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There’s nothing particularly wrong with you profile text, but there’s still room for improvement.  You’ve written a list of things about yourself but it’s better to demonstrate exactly what you mean.

For example – you say you are spontaneous so give an example about at time you were spontaneous.  You could say,  I am often spontaneous and once jumped on the first plane that was leaving the airport.  When you do this it’s much more interesting than reading a long list.

You’ve put the line in about winking for interest, but you’d get a much better success rate if you just emailed them in the first place. Winking can perhaps give the impression you can’t be bothered to write a proper message. It’s the people who take the time to send a short personalised message that get the results.

 

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Again, this is fine but it’s very generic.  Who doesn’t want to meet someone with a similar outlook and enjoys life?   Can you try and paint a picture that would make someone think “Yes that’s me he’s looking for” ?

I hope this helps,

James

If you would like to have your profile reviewed and featured, then please email your request to [email protected] We’ll pick the best one each month and get our leading Dating Expert James Preece to offer you his advice on how to make it better in this blog.

Good luck!

James Preece – Dating Coach

Asian Dating: How to make sure you find love in 2015

Monday, January 12th, 2015

Are you fed up being single?  It’s a new year so there are new opportunities.

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As we head into the the new year it’s time once again to start making our resolutions.

For some this is to lose weight, stop smoking or to finally meet a partner.  If this is you then you have definitely

come to right place!

Here are our top five tips for you to give your love life a kickstart.

 

1) Book an Asian Dating Event.   This is your biggest opportunity to get yourself out there and start meeting potential matches in the real world. We’ve already got several listed for you to book on the website. This includes the biggest of them all – the Asian Valentine’s Ball.

2) Try Online Dating.   The start of the year is the busiest time for most dating sites and ours is no exception.  There will be more new faces than at any other time of year and they are just waiting for your to reach out and say hello.

3) Remember it’s not just you.  Most singles can feel a bit lonely at the start of a new year, but that’s absolutely normal. There are millions making exactly the same resolution as you.

4) Take Responsibility.  It’s your choice whether you are single or not.  Don’t blame anyone or anything else.  Yes, that includes the weather, your income and how incredibly busy you are.

5) Take action!   The only way to achieve what you want is to make sure you do something about it.  Make sure you have a clear defined plan about what you want and how you are going to do it. If you don’t you’ll find yourself in the same situation at the beginning of next year too.

If you need any help or advice then please remember we are always here.  Drop us a message at [email protected]  and we’ll be happy to do what you can.

Happy dating and good luck!

James Preece

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Birthday Ball was huge success

Tuesday, September 30th, 2014

Thank you to all our lovely guests who attended our 12th Birthday Ball
Last Saturday we held our big Birthday Ball at the Kensington Close Hotel.  We completely sold out with over 300 tickets sold and we are delighted to say that the event ran very smoothly.

Here are a few photos from the night.  We’ll put lots more up on on Facebook page soon so do tag yourselves please.

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We’ve had some great feedback about the event too:

“Photo booth and fountain were good ice breakers. Thanks for great evening!”

“Just wanted to say thank you for organising yesterday, I think you did a great job and  I haad a lot of fun, and so did many other people”

Due to the popularity of this party we will look to hold a similar one early next year.  When you see it announced, we strongly advise you to book early as tickets went in record time for this one!

 

Thank you for all your support over the last year 12 years.  He hope to make the next 12 event bigger and better.

James, Paul, Meera and the Asian Single Solution Team

Our Latest Feedback and Success Stories

Monday, August 18th, 2014

We had another great month on our Asian dating site

 

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Here are a few of the latest emails we’ve had from our Asian members:

Great site. Doing a grand job. I have met someone off the site but if it doesn’t work out I’ll be back.” SK

The website is very easy to use and I actually like its simplicity” AD

I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Brilliant” KT

“Good website, met someone and kept in touch. Meera is very helpful!” PM

It was a good site and useful” JK

Excellent service” NJ

Good website to meet people!”

I wanted to say thank you for your website. I have met the man of my dreams and cant thank you enough as I almost gave up hope.

Your site is well thought through and not like the other ones. Thank again for giving me my life back” AK

Services are good, as are the events.” SK

“Nice site. easily accessible” AS

“Found the love of my life.” HK

“Enjoyed events and good website” SS

Very good site, keep up the good work” AS

Good site, will recommend to friends” BF

I enjoyed the event last night and agree it was relaxed and made up of a group of friendly individuals. I left early, but I am sure that it ended as well as it commenced. I left with a smile on my face as I had so many great conversations throughout the evening – thank you for organising it.
I am new to this sort of thing (2nd event) but I cannot find a single fault in either of the events that I have attended. looking forward to the next one.” JS

If you have your own feedback or succes that you’d like to share with us, please drop us an email to [email protected]

 

Happy dating!

James, Paul and Meera

Dating Guru’s Mailbag: Shall I tell him I love him?

Monday, June 30th, 2014

Here is the latest question answered by our Dating Guru

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“Dear James, I’ve been with my boyfriend for six months now and we are so happy together.  We met on your dating site and he’s everything I’m looking for. I think he wants us to start looking for a place together soon.  However, neither of us has told the other than we love them.  I love him so much but I don’t want to embarrass myself if he doesn’t feel the same!  What should I do?   S.T”

Hi S.T

Many thanks for your message.  It’s fantastic news that you’ve met someone through us and that you are happy together.  I’d say that the fact he’s talking about moving in together is a very positive sign that he sees a future with you.

I know that you don’t want to say you love him in case he gets scared or pretends he’s not heard you.  The problem is that he more than likely feels exactly the same.  The longer you leave it then the worse it will get.

Slip it into conversation when you are saying goodbye to him, as it’s the most natural thing in the world.  “Love you” sounds much softer than “I Love you” so try and say that instead if you think it might shock him.

If you really want to be as gentle as possible, just write it at the end of a text message.  Something simple like “I had such a wonderful evening with you.  I love you :) xxx”           With any luck he’ll text something similar back.   If he doesn’t, don’t panic as he might want to say it face to face.

Whatever you do, don’t ask him if he loves you and force him into saying something he isn’t ready to say yet.   He’ll end up resenting you and you’ll take away his chance to impress/surprise you.

I’d advise you not to move in together until you are sure you both love each other. Otherwise you may have a very bumpy ride together!

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

 

Announcing a new type of Singles Event

Monday, June 16th, 2014

Here’s something new for you!

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We know how much you love our Asian Singles Parties and Speed Dating Events. The parties are going from strength to strength, but as we get bigger and better we want to try new things.

We’ve had requests for us to try out new ice breaking activities that will get people mingling. We’ve also been asked to run some smaller, pure Hindu or Pure Sikh events.

So we put our heads together to create a new concept of event that will make sure you get more targeted dating opportunities as well as have a fantastic night.  These new events don’t have any speed dating or pressure.

We did run Casino “learn to play” nights a few years ago which were extremely popular. These new parties are will be even better because:

1) Private use of the VIP room – so much more exclusive

2) Fun (free) gaming tables with professionals to teach you how to play Blackjack, Roulette and more.

3) Select crowd of either Hindu or Sikh singles.

4) Central London location so easy to get to.

5) Unique opportunity to try something new and a little different!

 

The casino elements are completely optional so if you don’t fancy it, don’t worry. You are still free to mingle and talk to any of the other singles that you wish.

If you would like to book then please sign up now as spaces are strictly limited and we expect them to sell out very quickly.  Check out the events section on our site to get your ticket now.

Happy dating!

The Asian Single Solution team

Asian Dating: Why won’t they meet you?

Thursday, May 29th, 2014

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Another Asian Success story! Vikas & Manprit

Monday, May 5th, 2014

It never rains but it pours :)

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We have had yet another lovely email from yet another happy couple who met through our site

You can read it here on our Success Story Page:

https://www.asiansinglesolution.com/static/success_stories.html

We’d like to say congratulations to Vikas & Manprit and thank them very much for sharing their good news.
Could you be next? If you have a story to tell please let us know!

James and Paul

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Leeds and Manchester Asian – After Party

Monday, February 17th, 2014

 

Last week we ran our first ever Valentine’s Leeds and Manchester Asian events

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Many thanks to everyone who braved the awful weather and managed to attend the events.  We had a great turn out for both parties and lots of matches were made. We hope you all have fun and that you have some amazing dates!   The feedback has been good for the parties and we may run more events in these areas later in the year.

If you have any suggestions on ways we can market these to local members please do let us know.  The more people we can find that are interested then the more chance we’ll run events again.

Do take a moment to check out our London and Birmingham upcoming Asian parties.  Although the Valentine’s period is over,  cupid never stops working his magic all year round.  You just have to be ready to give him a little nudge!

 

Happy dating

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Manchester Hindu and Sikh Free Valentines Party

Tuesday, February 11th, 2014

If you are a Manchester based Asian single then you really don’t want to miss this!

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We are taking our best dating hosts up to Manchester and running the ultimate Hindu and Sikh Valentine’s party at Label Bar.  We’ve got ice breaking, mingling and some gorgeous guests already booked up.

But do you want to hear the best news?   This Asian party is completely free.  Yes, you hear that right.  There’s no charge for entry and we’ll even give the first guests to arrive a complimentary drink to welcome them.

There’s no catch at all.  We’re doing this as a special launch party to help grow our database of Manchester Asians.  So if you’d like to come along and join in the fun do book up now.  It would be great if you could tell all your Hindu and Sikh single friends too.  The more people we have then the better the dating party is going ot be!

This is your BEST opportunity to get some dates in your diary before Valentine’s Day this Friday.

CLICK HERE TO BOOK YOUR FREE PLACE

Hopefully we’ll see you then.

Meera

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Leeds Asian Hindu and Sikh Valentine Party is this week

Tuesday, February 11th, 2014

We are very excited here at Asiansinglesolution.com  HQ

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Tomorrow we have our big Leeds Asian Valentine’s Party.  Our best hosts are currently packing their bags and getting ready for a fantastic event.  It’s the perfect chance for you to find a date in time for the big day this Friday.

Our party will take place at Tiger Tiger in Leeds and we’ve got lots of lovely guests booked in already.  If you’d like to meet them for a wonderful night of mingling, ice breaking and fun conversation then don’t forget to book your place now.  We’ve got a bar to ourselves.

Tickets are absolutely 100% free and we’re even throwing in free drinks for the first to arrive.  Don’t wait until Friday and wish you’d come – book now and you may just have the best Valentine’s day ever!

What are you waiting for?  Book right now

CLICK HERE

Meera

www.asiansinglesolution.com

What to talk about on a date

Monday, January 31st, 2011

You’ve got a date lined up and you want to get to know each other.

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So what can you talk about? What shouldn’t you talk about?

Here are my dating tips to help ensure your date goes smoothly and that you have lots to talk about.

1) Don’t interview them.  Yes, you need to ask questions and find out about them but you aren’t on a chat show.  If you start firing off questions then it will make them feel pressured and they’ll back off.  So instead take turns to ask questions and acknowledge their replies rather than asking them something else immediately.

2) Use body language rather than talking.  This can be as simple as smiling, nodding and paying full attention to what they are saying.  If they feel you are enjoying what they are saying they will be more comfortable.   Remember that it doesn’t always matter what you say, rather than the WAY you say it.

3) Flirt!  If you don’t want to be stuck in the “just friends” zone then this is vital.  Touch them lightly on the arm every now and again and try to be a bit cheeky, teasing them every now and again.

4) Sell yourself.   Make sure you present yourself as best you can but don’t boast or bore.  The key is to convey that you lead an interesting, fun, busy life.

5) Don’t fill every silence.   Sometimes it’s good to pause for a short while.   You don’t need to try and think of something clever to say, just enjoy the moment to reflect.

6) Have conversation topics ready just in case.  If the chat completely dries up then you use these to get things back on track.  Make sure it’s an interest topic you can both discuss, rather than a question they can answer with a yes of a no.   You could ask them if they’ve ever had a supernatural experience, what their earliest childhood memory is or what their dreams are for the future.

7) Don’t be an Agony Aunt/Uncle.   People have a tendency to unload their problems on others and they in turn want to be the one to solve them.  They think that if can help then their date will be eternally grateful and think they are wonderful.  That’s just a negative thing to talk about.   A date isn’t the time for this -always focus on the positive.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

How to become an Alpha Male

Wednesday, August 25th, 2010

In today’s blog I’m going to look at a common dating topic – the mystery of the Alpha Male

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So what exactly is an Alpha Male?

The term is sometimes used to refer to a man who is powerful or in a high social position

In nature, attraction between mates is determined by the survival of the fittest philosophy. The mate that is chosen is the one that is most likely to breed strong, healthy offspring. In many animal societies the alpha male will be the only male in the pack, and it will be his job to impregnate the females in order for the species to survive.

So in dating, the alpha tends to be the one who gets all the women!

However, contrary to popular belief, this isn’t through being rude, arrogant, macho or cocky.  Instead, here are the five best ways you can learn to become and Alpha Male:

1) Be Confident.  This is the number quality that a woman will look for in a man so it’s the key thing all Alpha Men possess. Be relaxed and comfortable in your surroundings. It always help to dress up whenever you go out as it gives the impression you are high status and sure of yourself.

2) Be Masculine.  Show off your muscles, achievements, or skills to get people to think of you as dominant.  Know who you are and never be afraid to express your true personality.  An Alpha man  Doesn’t fear doesnt’ care what other think of him or of being judged.

3) Take the lead.  As an Alpha Male, you need to take control.  In fact, most women expect it as they they want to be looked after.  For example, don’t ask where they would like to go on a date – but surprise them instead.

4) Know what you are worth.  Respect yourself. you value yourself as equal to or above everyone else including any girl you approach. You need women to realise that you have a lot more to offer than other men and they need to be the ones to impress you.

5) Don’t be too serious.  As always, dating is about fun.  You need to demonstrate that you have a good, almost cheeky sense of humour.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Dating Dilemma: Should I Give In?

Tuesday, June 22nd, 2010

Here’s a new dating question for the Dating Guru:

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Dear James,
I have been dating this guy, J, for only a few days. He has an ex girlfriend that still harasses him constantly for his attention and
for sex

I am at a disadvantage because I have asked him to wait before we sleep together and he does not like or respect the idea

I don’t really know what usually goes on in a guy’s mind but him being impulsive and his ex girlfriend constantly sending him sexual beams, I am sure he is about to sleep with her and dump me

I know he misses the sex with her because he’s still attracted to her and she obviously misses him

I don’t know what to do. Please advise!

C
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Dear C,

Thank you for writing to me. I can see why you are confused.

This guy is definitely playing games with you in an effort to get you to sleep with him. How do you know his ex keeps texting him for sex? If he cared about you he’d either block her from contacting him OR would be respectful another not to tell you about his. Instead, he’s using it against you to try and force you to do something you don’t want to to.

The bottom line is that if you don’t feel ready – don’t do it! It’s only been a few days after all. If you have to wait six months until you want to have sex then he needs to understand that.

He sounds like a selfish jerk anyway. If he doesn’t get what he wants from you then he’ll soon go back to his ex. If you DO sleep with him he’ll get bored soon enough and start looking for his next conquest. This isn’t love, it’s lust. He needs to the sex to boost his own ego. Whatever you do, you’ll always be worrying which doesn’t make a happy relationship.

My advice?  Talk to him and try and reach an agreement.  If he still continues to tease and pressure you then dump him. You’ll soon find someone better who deserves to be with you.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru
www.asiansinglesolution.com