So you’ve been together a while and you want to settle down.  You’d love to get married but how long should wait to propose?

Wedding Ideas magazine recently ran a study to find out exactly how long people leave it to get engaged.

The results were very interesting. They showed that most couples will get engaged within two years of their first date. For the next three years after that  proposals are very rare.  Then they pick up again rapidly between five and ten years.

However, if you have to wait longer than that then chances are you’ll never get engaged.  Only  four per cent of couples will get married who have been together this long.

Interestingly, short “whirlwind” romances – where they had been together for six to eight months resulted in 6.8 of all engagements.

Rachel Morgan, the Editor of the magazine added this : ‘Couples tend to hold on until their incomes are secure before making an announcement”

These results seem to indicate that if you’ve been waiting over ten years then perhaps it’s time to move on if you aren’t happy.  Some men get comfortable with the way things are are don’t see the point in officially getting married.  After all, they’ve already got everything they want!  However, they might not realise you want to get hitched so maybe it’s time to drop some not so subtle hints!

The good news is that if you’ve been together for two years then the odds are you’ll be getting engaged soon!  If you do – and met through us – don’t forget to let us know!

Happy dating,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Here is a “dating question” for our new “blog competition”

Dear Dating Guru,

When Dating, are Silent moments good or bad?

N

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Dear N,

Dating is all about getting to know each other, building a connection, then attraction and beyond.   The majority of this is done through talking to one another – asking and answering questions.

If you are both sat there without saying anything then it can quickly become awkward.   This can stop the date from flowing and you’ll be unlikely to have a second.

For this reason, you have to have a wide range of “conversation starters” under your belt to keep up the momentum.  These don’t have to be too complicated, just discussions about family, holidays, ambitions, beliefs, funny anecdotes etc.   It’s easy to find topics to talk about – just pick up a paper and read the headlines if you get stuck.

However, silence isn’t always a bad thing.   There are times when you will need to sit back and enjoy each other’s company without saying a word.  This is a fantastic opportunity to process the date so far and really think about everything that’s been said.      It’s also a great chance for non-verbal communication.  You can look deep into their eyes or play with your hair in a flirty, fun manner.

The bottom line is :   Make sure you have plenty to talk about but you don’t need to fill in every silence just for the sake of it!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

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We have an amazing competition for you that we are only running for the next few days.

The Asian Single Solution is sponsoring the Perfect Asian Fashion Show on Sat 19th June.

We’ll be hosting a table at the event and have two pairs of PLATINUM VIP tickets worth £250 up for grabs.

The event will take place the Millennium Mayfair Hotel and will include a reception with canapes, a three course meal, fashion show and live entertainment from Navin Kundra and Angrej Ali.

To win your place you need to send us something for our blog.  This can be one of the following:

1) Your best dating tip

2) A short funny date story

3) A dating question for us to answer

Email them directly to :

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The best blogs will be featured and the top two will win a pair of tickets.

Closing Date: Competition ends midday Friday 11th June, so write now!

For more details and standard tickets at £75 or £65 for Premium members, click here

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Any party or event is an amazing opportunity to meet new people but I know it can often seem a bit scary.

Some people find it really hard to do this so I’m going to give you some great tips to help.

Guests worry they will left on their own or even worse, they will get stuck chatting with the same group of people all night.

This doesn’t have to be the case at all. Keep in mind that people who attend these events are generally open to talking to you.

If they hated the idea of making new contacts they’d just stay at home wouldn’t they? It’s not like going up to a random person in a bar – you already have something common.This can be a mutual friend, hobby or just the very fact you all quite fancied the idea of coming along.

The very first thing you should do, once you’ve made your entrance and got yourself settled, is do a quick scan of the moment.  See who you might be interested in and who is already talking to who.    It will also help to make note of where the bar and toilets are so you make a hasty exit if it become necessary.

When you’ve got a drink, carry it in your left hand which will keep your right hand free for the initial handshake.  There’s nothing worse that offering a freezing hand or having to juggle your drinks.

Then all you have to do is go up to someone and say “Hello, I’m ———.  Is this your first time?”     The ice is quickly broken and you’ll have something to chat about.   Stay away from asking closed questions that only require a one or two word answer and don’t outstay your welcome.

Finally, try and speak to as many people as possible. Even if you aren’t attracted to them it’s always useful to introduce yourself.  You never know how they might be able to help you and it’s better to talk to “anyone” rather than look lost.   You’ll also be able to sneak yourself into any conversations they are having later!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

On 29th April 2010, our website received a major hardware update as we moved the website onto a new server.

This unfortunately required a few hours of down time.  If you tried to use the site during this time, we apologise for any inconvenience.

Hopefully you will see some improvement in the speed of the website. This will also enable us to add new features such as the live chat which will be launched shortly.

Do let us know if you experience any issues with the site, or if you have any other feedback.

Regards

Paul Ergatoudis

Director

We are delighted to announce that Asiansinglesolution.com is now working in association with Asian Woman Magazine.

As part of this new partnership we will be sponsoring the AsianWoman Bachelor Hunt 2010

Asian Woman Magazine boasts a readership of over 100,000 per issue, making it the biggest Asian publication in the world.

The Asian Woman Bachelor of the Year is the annual spectacular of the year.

Selected from their  infamous Top 50 Bachelors and voted by you as well as an industry panel, the lucky Bachelor will be featured in AW Magazine and win some fantastic prizes.

If you’d like to nominate someone ( or even yourself) then click here to register:

http://www.asianwomanmag.com/Bachelors_2010_AsianWoman.php

We recently ran a survey on the Asian Single Solution website which asked the question:

“Do you message people first or wait for them to contact you?”

The results surprised us:

I contact them first -  55%
I wait for them to email me  -  45%

We’ve noticed that there that a few very proactive users on the website who contact a lot of people at once.
These members then think its great that they are getting messages, but don’t realise that these people are probably also in discussions with 20 – 30 others too!
So what usually happens is that they send a few messages back and forth but it never actually goes anywhere.  This can be confusing.

The problem is that because they are getting messages they forget to target the people they want.  They think that all they have to do is sit back and wait for people to contact them rather then doing anything themselves.
Just relying on these very proactive members  is not a good strategy!
Instead, always keep in mind that even the very best profiles with the best photos have to keep working at it. There are so many singles on the database that it’s only the ones who make a real effort that will get the results they deserve.  After all, if you wanted anything else in life – such as a job , a car or a holiday – you would do something to make it happen wouldn’t you?  So why should your love life be any different?

So do make sure you always make the first move and contact as many people you like.

James Preece – The Dating Guru
www.asiansinglesolution.com

Here are some very interesting dating facts you might enjoy.

Did you know:

1) In the Uk, over 15 million people are estimated to be single.

2) Just over half of them are actively looking for a long term relationship.

3) 75% of these people have not had a relationship for over 18 months.

4) The average number of dates each of them will have in one year is just four.

5) Amazingly, 1 in 4 people don’t brush their teeth before going out on a date.

6) Just over 43% of people Google their date before they meet up with them for the first time.

7) The place with the highest percentage of single people in the UK is Lambeth in South London.

8 ) Over 4.9 million people in the UK have visited a dating website in the past year.

9) One in three admits to lying on their online dating profile.

10) One in five married couples aged between 19 and 25 met online.

11) British men are the least confident in Europe.

12) 88% of women don’t mind a bald man.

13) 3% of people who want a serious relationship will send a text immediately after a first date.

14) One in five people end up marrying someone they work with.

15) However, over half of all workplace relationships are over within six months.

16) Men spend up to ten times as much buying drinks and meals for potential partners than women. However women match the cash spent dating, as a result of the amount they invest in preparation before a date.

17) The most popular day of the week for a first date is a Saturday.

18) According to one reports, people spend an average of £38 a year on lucky pants!

19) A whopping 8 Billion Pounds is spent on Dating in Britain every year.

20) A date in London will cost twice the amount of anywhere else in the UK.

James Preece – The Dating Guru
www.singlesolution.com

We all know that a good headline will get your better dating results.  We’ve put together a list of the ten best openers we’ve heard so you can get an idea of what to write yourself.

1) Is this Ebay?  I’m up for auction – highest bidders only!

2) New girl on the block needs a tour guide

3) Can I ask you for directions?

4) Fabulous people deserve to be together, don’t you think?

5) Towns yet to be visited, friends in need yet to be discovered, battles yet to be fought…

6) I knew you wouldn’t be able to resist!

7) 94.5% of all statistics are fabricated

8)  This is really just shopping for guys – two of my favourite things combined!

9) Experimental cook needs food taster

10) Where’s “Clever Opening Lines for Dummies” When You Need It?

Do leave a comment with the best opening line you’ve seen as we are collecting the best ones.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com